Caught up!

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I finally got caught up reading emails. I feel like I should get a prize.

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I have been so busy lately - it's the end of the school year and prime IEP

" season. " I have gone to a few IEPs for other people. It can be very

discouraging for me personally. I see how screwed kids can be in these

situations

where people who spend almost no time with the child are in charge of

approving services for that child. sometimes things work out and then that

does help

cheer me up. But it is like fighting an uphill battle.

Then I've been busy with my own list of IEPs. All the boys (3) have an MFE

happening plus the IEP. So this has kept me overwhelmed. One MFE/IEP is

done and two still left. One is getting an outside evaluation so it will not

be

finished by the end of the school year. The other - they left hanging until

the last possible moment and now want me to show up and do everything at

once. So I do that on Tuesday.

I felt like I had everything " under control " really until I got word that my

high school ds's sped teacher was being moved. My ds has a long history of

teachers, aides and therapists who can't work with him and give up. He does

so well with the right people that those people don't even feel he has that

many problems. But put him with the wrong people and he is in a room crying

and shredding papers or refusing to go to school at all because he can't

handle it. I had printed a post from long ago that I wrote to this list

screaming

because I got a call from the school that my ds " refused " to leave the

classroom and if we didn't come to move him, they would be using physical force

to

do so. I sometimes forget all the " joy " we've been through.

Finally, he got to high school and they stay with the same " team " for four

years. So he would have the same sped teacher for four years. They were not

providing him any therapies because they couldn't find any therapists who

could work with him. That bugged me. I was thinking after his eval to request

outside therapy and find someone who could do it. But then, poof, the other

day I get an email from the sped teacher saying he's been moved for next

year.

As most people know, the majority of people working with our kids are

female. Female teachers and therapists and counselors. Well, for a change, my

ds

got put with a male sped teacher. And this guy was fresh out of school too -

young and hip. lol. He is sarcastic, casual and laid back, using common

sense reasoning with my ds - and it works like a charm. My ds has tried new

things the past two years and probably gone to school many times when he might

not have - just because this guy was on the other end of the bus ride. He

has gotten my ds to joke around, something he never did before - now he jokes

around all the time and doesn't know when to stop. We actually have the

opposite problem - trying to get him to stop joking around. lol.

Making matters worse, I had no idea this was happening. Our high school has

a zero tolerance policy against communicating with parents so I don't even

know why he's being moved. He doesn't know why either. So I have a meeting

on the last day of school to go over my ds's progress for this year and will

voice my concerns. I've already written a complaint to the director of sped

services requesting an explanantion and no surprise, have not gotten a

response yet. I just can't believe they want to mess with something that is

working

so well. I guess I feel like we've paid a lot through the years and they

owe my kid some peace for his last two years of school. I don't want to have

some new person come in and have to " break them in " and deal with everything

from scratch. I don't want to!!! WAH!!

So I'm bummed. My ds has also started missing school and going in late -

it's already starting to affect him. I just want to shake the person who

thought this was a good idea. But I doubt I can fix this. I will complain but

probably won't get anywhere. I am back to wondering how long he will last

until I have to homeschool him.

Now I'm done complaining. For the moment....

Roxanna ô¿ô

Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive.