Re: Kids and Television - - and other opinions

[Guest guest]

>>>>>>>I'm just curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our

children

about the real world, that there are things that happen out their, the

meaning

of " slang language " , So when they hear it, they will be able to chose

not to

use it because they now know what it means?<<<<<

I don't think there is a correct answer to this one. Its just kinda

one of those choices we have to make and stick with it. My dd has a

friend who is 7 and can not watch PG movies. So when she comes over,

the tv goes off. Im not a mother who will break the rules for other

kids - but I know it happens elsewhere..... and the only way i found

out was the little girl happened to mention it to my daughter. They

were watching Thats so Raven on Disney - and the little girl is not

allowed to watch that!!! so - off it went.

As far as cartoons are concerned - Spongebob has terrible manners and

bad word inferences. Theres even a specific on on these bad words!

Jimmy Neutron - magic powers fairly odd Parents - magic powers,

fantasy stuff. So in an odd twisted way, these cartoon do the same

thing - just at a kid point of view. Of course theres nothing like

rape.... but the babysitter on Fairly odd parents that is just down

right mean to Timmy? does that teach our kids that its ok for them

to be abused by someone of authority?

Hard questions. My children love to watch cops. Here's a funny

story of how our AS kids take it too seriously.

My AS son who's 4 refused to wear his seatbelt. Caused a total

meltdown. So one night my uncle - who is a cop - was in our town

patrolling. I called him and said that we were about to drive by and

if he got the chance - pull us over to tell Deacon to get his belt on.

Well, he did pull us over - and woul dyou believe that my son told my

husband to " go - don't stop - keep going " in a frantic voice. UGH.

So, even though a crime wouldn't scare the bejeebers out of my kids,

maybe its not exactly working the way I wanted.

Hard question. Live and learn I guess!

> >

> > How many of you chose the shows your children watch? Can your AS

> > child memorize a whole show? ask detailed questions about things

> > that happen in the show? (how much do you explain) Do you have

> > concerns with movies rated " PG or PG13 " . or the " family channel " . (do

> > you know how many questions an AS child can ask about the movie " home

> > alone " ? Its a family show... do they feel they can protect

> > themselves like that little boy on the show did? What about cartoons?

> > How many of you think your AS child will try something that they did

> > on a family movie that they just watched, or even the news?

> > are you the type of parents that limits the selections of movies they

> > watch. or: are you the type of parent that lets them watch any 'PG

> > or PG 13' so that they aren't too naive to anything going on. and

> > explain to them that that's TV, you can't do this at all. How

> > would your child know about " life skills " to whats going on in the

> > world if its not explained to them? I found out the younger kids

> > were asking older kids - Why would someone want to kid nap a child.

> > the older kid said for sex. I found this out when my kids asked -

> > " whats sex " ?

> > How much do you let your kids know and what age? I thought if they

> > were old enough to ask, they should be told by the parents or they

> > will ask an older child.

> > what about the music they listen too?

> > and last questions, even if you isolate them from everything at home,

> > and the choice of music. they hear it from other children at

> > school. they have headphones that you can share, so more than one

> > kid can hear them. Where? on the school bus, & recess.

> > then there are those video games. what's your limit?

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this topic really

struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent should do just that, PARENT!

It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from bad, etc. If

we as parents leave it up to the media too teach our children these things we

are not doing our jobs. If we become complacent at our jobs in the workplace

then we get fired, demoted etc. But we do not have this option in the home the

reprocussions we have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police

oficers. Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and beliefs, they

will eventually become complacent as well. I can say this because I was one of

these children, not to say that I had bad parents, but alot of the things that a

child could see in magazine left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where

near as graphic or violent as what is available every evening on the television

or what lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents leave

media to raise our children, no matter how scared we are of the world today, We

all need to take a stand against " media parenting " because it is scary to think

that it took me 25 years to get rid of these images knowing full well that they

wrong and false. Imagine yourself for a moment being your literal thinking AS

child. I shudder to think what goes through their delicate network of thoughts

and processing, not being able to discern what is truly right and wrong.

Instead of waiting for your children to bring up an issue that they discovered

on the television, or computer, We have to be proactive on our own and think

what the real world can offer them and protect and teach them before they are

exposed to it on their own. It doesn't matter how intelligent our children may

be, we are still their parents, We still make the choices for them.... We as

parents have this control.

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All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this TV stuff,

(even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night, instead of watching

TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and we all took turns reading it.

The book was ordered from their school book club. This went well. I think we

will do it again tonight instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their kids

watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the same as PG13?

Doornbos <cdoor@...> wrote:

I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this topic really

struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent should do just that, PARENT!

It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from bad, etc. If we

as parents leave it up to the media too teach our children these things we are

not doing our jobs. If we become complacent at our jobs in the workplace then we

get fired, demoted etc. But we do not have this option in the home the

reprocussions we have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police

oficers. Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and beliefs, they

will eventually become complacent as well. I can say this because I was one of

these children, not to say that I had bad parents, but alot of the things that a

child could see in magazine left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where

near as graphic or violent as what is available every evening on the television

or what lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents leave

media to raise our children, no matter how

scared we are of the world today, We all need to take a stand against " media

parenting " because it is scary to think that it took me 25 years to get rid of

these images knowing full well that they wrong and false. Imagine yourself for a

moment being your literal thinking AS child. I shudder to think what goes

through their delicate network of thoughts and processing, not being able to

discern what is truly right and wrong. Instead of waiting for your children to

bring up an issue that they discovered on the television, or computer, We have

to be proactive on our own and think what the real world can offer them and

protect and teach them before they are exposed to it on their own. It doesn't

matter how intelligent our children may be, we are still their parents, We still

make the choices for them.... We as parents have this control.

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[Guest guest]

Hate to tell ya, but my daughter learned the word lesbian and fag at

school - not on tv. She has learned to have an attitude - from school

- not tv.

So, I limit what she can watch so that she can just go to school and

come home to ask these questions or just learn what it means from her

friends? Come on - we aren't Amish (although life would be MUCH

simpler) and if not here - then where? To be honest with you those

shows like COPS, Greys Anatomy and House have taught my daughter many

things. Some good and others not so good. Of course its fiction, but

she is really into the medical stuff. But I am there watching it with

her to answer any questions she may have. Its a lot better than

learning things at school on the playground.

I agree with you though, I wish the media did not play a part of our

lives so much. However, my Aspie son - that is one of his comforts.

Take it away - which I have tried so many times and all hell breaks

loose.

You can't hide from the things going on in the world. Wish we could,

but we can't. The news serves to not educate, but provoke thoughts

and you form your own opinion on whether you think it right or wrong.

Such as the war. I won't get started on a debate about the war, but

how do you explain this to kids. Let them see it. Let them ask

questions. Let them then form their own opinions. Yes, they are

young, but it only stands to make them confident strong young adults.

If I am wrong, then I will soon see that I have failed. But for now,

I feel that I would rather them see it/hear it at home, than on the

playground as before. Hope I didn't offend - as this is a touchy

subject, but I think we are all doing the best we can along with

following our beliefs - and whether you let your kid watch or not -

parenting is the key. You can't just stick em in front of the tv and

expect to never have a talk about it.

>

>

>

>

>

> I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this

topic really struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent

should do just that, PARENT!

> It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from

bad, etc. If we as parents leave it up to the media too teach our

children these things we are not doing our jobs. If we become

complacent at our jobs in the workplace then we get fired, demoted

etc. But we do not have this option in the home the reprocussions we

have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police oficers.

Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and

beliefs, they will eventually become complacent as well. I can say

this because I was one of these children, not to say that I had bad

parents, but alot of the things that a child could see in magazine

left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where near as graphic or

violent as what is available every evening on the television or what

lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents

leave media to raise our children, no matter how scared we are of the

world today, We all need to take a stand against " media parenting "

because it is scary to think that it took me 25 years to get rid of

these images knowing full well that they wrong and false. Imagine

yourself for a moment being your literal thinking AS child. I shudder

to think what goes through their delicate network of thoughts and

processing, not being able to discern what is truly right and wrong.

Instead of waiting for your children to bring up an issue that they

discovered on the television, or computer, We have to be proactive on

our own and think what the real world can offer them and protect and

teach them before they are exposed to it on their own. It doesn't

matter how intelligent our children may be, we are still their

parents, We still make the choices for them.... We as parents have

this control.

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asked me about the word fag too. I told her it's a word

people use to talk about a boy who wants to marry a boy, only it's a

word that is used when someone wants to mean and nasty. I told her

the appropriate word is " gay. " We talked about discrimination and

love and anything else you can imagine for quite a long time.

I think calmly explaining to your child why we don't call cats pussy

was a great idea.

When she uses an inappropriate word for the first time, I simply

explain to her what it means and why I don't think she should use

that word, and a better choice that she should use. I generally wait

until I hear her say it, or hear someone else say it in her hearing.

I find no need to expose her to trash any earlier than I have to do

so.

Meira

> at the Boys & girls club an older child called a younger child

a " fag " He asked him, whats a " fag " ?, they said when two boys like

each other. Well, to him, (my AS son), He has a very good friend

that's a boy, so, he's a fag too. (because he likes boys too, as a

friend). Explaining something to a child with AS has to be very

concrete. I had to explain the difference of the word " likes " in

that statement.

> Sometimes it does get overwhelming because I want to protect my

kids too, but at the same time, I don't want them that naive

either. They are getting older, and meeting even older kids with

language that they don't hear at home. (asking questions) another

example is, a cartoon (tweety bird) where the little bird says: " I

thought I saw a pussy cat, I did, I did, I did see a pussy cat " .

Well, my son started calling his cat a pussy. Come here pussy,

saying I love my little pussy. UGH!!! I hate that word, was I wrong

to explain why we don't call the cat that????

> So, I thought while watching TV or some music, I can explain 'the

slang language' to him so he will not use it inappropriately. He

calls our cat " CAT " now instead of the other name.

> I'm just curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our

children about the real world, that there are things that happen out

their, the meaning of " slang language " , So when they hear it, they

will be able to chose not to use it because they now know what it

means?

>

[Guest guest]

asked me about the word fag too. I told her it's a word

people use to talk about a boy who wants to marry a boy, only it's a

word that is used when someone wants to mean and nasty. I told her

the appropriate word is " gay. " We talked about discrimination and

love and anything else you can imagine for quite a long time.

I think calmly explaining to your child why we don't call cats pussy

was a great idea.

When she uses an inappropriate word for the first time, I simply

explain to her what it means and why I don't think she should use

that word, and a better choice that she should use. I generally wait

until I hear her say it, or hear someone else say it in her hearing.

I find no need to expose her to trash any earlier than I have to do

so.

Meira

> at the Boys & girls club an older child called a younger child

a " fag " He asked him, whats a " fag " ?, they said when two boys like

each other. Well, to him, (my AS son), He has a very good friend

that's a boy, so, he's a fag too. (because he likes boys too, as a

friend). Explaining something to a child with AS has to be very

concrete. I had to explain the difference of the word " likes " in

that statement.

> Sometimes it does get overwhelming because I want to protect my

kids too, but at the same time, I don't want them that naive

either. They are getting older, and meeting even older kids with

language that they don't hear at home. (asking questions) another

example is, a cartoon (tweety bird) where the little bird says: " I

thought I saw a pussy cat, I did, I did, I did see a pussy cat " .

Well, my son started calling his cat a pussy. Come here pussy,

saying I love my little pussy. UGH!!! I hate that word, was I wrong

to explain why we don't call the cat that????

> So, I thought while watching TV or some music, I can explain 'the

slang language' to him so he will not use it inappropriately. He

calls our cat " CAT " now instead of the other name.

> I'm just curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our

children about the real world, that there are things that happen out

their, the meaning of " slang language " , So when they hear it, they

will be able to chose not to use it because they now know what it

means?

>

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Every night, 20 minutes before bedtime, all three of us snuggle

together on the sofa with a chapterbook, and have " Snuggle and Read

Time. " I've got to tell you, it's my favorite time of the day. It's

the most miraculous peaceful loving calm time of the day. No matter

what else has happened, good or bad, or busy, or crazed, it's our

family's way of ending the day. And I love it.

Meira

>

> All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last night,

instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book and

we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their school

book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and their

kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

same as PG13?

[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Mine too. (learning words at school). What I try to do with the TV thing is talk

about it with hi while we're watching it. Like when we watch Jimmy Neutron I

point out that what's her name is not being very nice. I use the behavior on TV

to point out what behavior is and isn't acceptable.

luvmy2arabians <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote: Hate to tell ya, but

my daughter learned the word lesbian and fag at

school - not on tv. She has learned to have an attitude - from school

- not tv.

So, I limit what she can watch so that she can just go to school and

come home to ask these questions or just learn what it means from her

friends? Come on - we aren't Amish (although life would be MUCH

simpler) and if not here - then where? To be honest with you those

shows like COPS, Greys Anatomy and House have taught my daughter many

things. Some good and others not so good. Of course its fiction, but

she is really into the medical stuff. But I am there watching it with

her to answer any questions she may have. Its a lot better than

learning things at school on the playground.

I agree with you though, I wish the media did not play a part of our

lives so much. However, my Aspie son - that is one of his comforts.

Take it away - which I have tried so many times and all hell breaks

loose.

You can't hide from the things going on in the world. Wish we could,

but we can't. The news serves to not educate, but provoke thoughts

and you form your own opinion on whether you think it right or wrong.

Such as the war. I won't get started on a debate about the war, but

how do you explain this to kids. Let them see it. Let them ask

questions. Let them then form their own opinions. Yes, they are

young, but it only stands to make them confident strong young adults.

If I am wrong, then I will soon see that I have failed. But for now,

I feel that I would rather them see it/hear it at home, than on the

playground as before. Hope I didn't offend - as this is a touchy

subject, but I think we are all doing the best we can along with

following our beliefs - and whether you let your kid watch or not -

parenting is the key. You can't just stick em in front of the tv and

expect to never have a talk about it.

>

>

>

>

>

> I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this

topic really struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent

should do just that, PARENT!

> It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from

bad, etc. If we as parents leave it up to the media too teach our

children these things we are not doing our jobs. If we become

complacent at our jobs in the workplace then we get fired, demoted

etc. But we do not have this option in the home the reprocussions we

have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police oficers.

Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and

beliefs, they will eventually become complacent as well. I can say

this because I was one of these children, not to say that I had bad

parents, but alot of the things that a child could see in magazine

left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where near as graphic or

violent as what is available every evening on the television or what

lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents

leave media to raise our children, no matter how scared we are of the

world today, We all need to take a stand against " media parenting "

because it is scary to think that it took me 25 years to get rid of

these images knowing full well that they wrong and false. Imagine

yourself for a moment being your literal thinking AS child. I shudder

to think what goes through their delicate network of thoughts and

processing, not being able to discern what is truly right and wrong.

Instead of waiting for your children to bring up an issue that they

discovered on the television, or computer, We have to be proactive on

our own and think what the real world can offer them and protect and

teach them before they are exposed to it on their own. It doesn't

matter how intelligent our children may be, we are still their

parents, We still make the choices for them.... We as parents have

this control.

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[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Mine too. (learning words at school). What I try to do with the TV thing is talk

about it with hi while we're watching it. Like when we watch Jimmy Neutron I

point out that what's her name is not being very nice. I use the behavior on TV

to point out what behavior is and isn't acceptable.

luvmy2arabians <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote: Hate to tell ya, but

my daughter learned the word lesbian and fag at

school - not on tv. She has learned to have an attitude - from school

- not tv.

So, I limit what she can watch so that she can just go to school and

come home to ask these questions or just learn what it means from her

friends? Come on - we aren't Amish (although life would be MUCH

simpler) and if not here - then where? To be honest with you those

shows like COPS, Greys Anatomy and House have taught my daughter many

things. Some good and others not so good. Of course its fiction, but

she is really into the medical stuff. But I am there watching it with

her to answer any questions she may have. Its a lot better than

learning things at school on the playground.

I agree with you though, I wish the media did not play a part of our

lives so much. However, my Aspie son - that is one of his comforts.

Take it away - which I have tried so many times and all hell breaks

loose.

You can't hide from the things going on in the world. Wish we could,

but we can't. The news serves to not educate, but provoke thoughts

and you form your own opinion on whether you think it right or wrong.

Such as the war. I won't get started on a debate about the war, but

how do you explain this to kids. Let them see it. Let them ask

questions. Let them then form their own opinions. Yes, they are

young, but it only stands to make them confident strong young adults.

If I am wrong, then I will soon see that I have failed. But for now,

I feel that I would rather them see it/hear it at home, than on the

playground as before. Hope I didn't offend - as this is a touchy

subject, but I think we are all doing the best we can along with

following our beliefs - and whether you let your kid watch or not -

parenting is the key. You can't just stick em in front of the tv and

expect to never have a talk about it.

>

>

>

>

>

> I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this

topic really struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent

should do just that, PARENT!

> It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from

bad, etc. If we as parents leave it up to the media too teach our

children these things we are not doing our jobs. If we become

complacent at our jobs in the workplace then we get fired, demoted

etc. But we do not have this option in the home the reprocussions we

have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police oficers.

Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and

beliefs, they will eventually become complacent as well. I can say

this because I was one of these children, not to say that I had bad

parents, but alot of the things that a child could see in magazine

left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where near as graphic or

violent as what is available every evening on the television or what

lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents

leave media to raise our children, no matter how scared we are of the

world today, We all need to take a stand against " media parenting "

because it is scary to think that it took me 25 years to get rid of

these images knowing full well that they wrong and false. Imagine

yourself for a moment being your literal thinking AS child. I shudder

to think what goes through their delicate network of thoughts and

processing, not being able to discern what is truly right and wrong.

Instead of waiting for your children to bring up an issue that they

discovered on the television, or computer, We have to be proactive on

our own and think what the real world can offer them and protect and

teach them before they are exposed to it on their own. It doesn't

matter how intelligent our children may be, we are still their

parents, We still make the choices for them.... We as parents have

this control.

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[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Okay, What's going on with ? Is it making anyone else go

totally bonkers to see each post 100 times????

Meira

> >

> > All this is a lot to think about. While thinking about all this

> TV stuff, (even though its PG and not R) and cartoons). last

night,

> instead of watching TV, I asked my kids to pick out a story book

and

> we all took turns reading it. The book was ordered from their

school

> book club. This went well. I think we will do it again tonight

> instead of watching TV. Just for awhile.

> > I wanted to know what others thought about the TV shows and

their

> kids watching them. Thank you so much for responding.

> > One last question. What does TV- 14 (rating) mean? is it the

> same as PG13?

>

[Guest guest]

Mine too. (learning words at school). What I try to do with the TV thing is talk

about it with hi while we're watching it. Like when we watch Jimmy Neutron I

point out that what's her name is not being very nice. I use the behavior on TV

to point out what behavior is and isn't acceptable.

luvmy2arabians <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote: Hate to tell ya, but

my daughter learned the word lesbian and fag at

school - not on tv. She has learned to have an attitude - from school

- not tv.

So, I limit what she can watch so that she can just go to school and

come home to ask these questions or just learn what it means from her

friends? Come on - we aren't Amish (although life would be MUCH

simpler) and if not here - then where? To be honest with you those

shows like COPS, Greys Anatomy and House have taught my daughter many

things. Some good and others not so good. Of course its fiction, but

she is really into the medical stuff. But I am there watching it with

her to answer any questions she may have. Its a lot better than

learning things at school on the playground.

I agree with you though, I wish the media did not play a part of our

lives so much. However, my Aspie son - that is one of his comforts.

Take it away - which I have tried so many times and all hell breaks

loose.

You can't hide from the things going on in the world. Wish we could,

but we can't. The news serves to not educate, but provoke thoughts

and you form your own opinion on whether you think it right or wrong.

Such as the war. I won't get started on a debate about the war, but

how do you explain this to kids. Let them see it. Let them ask

questions. Let them then form their own opinions. Yes, they are

young, but it only stands to make them confident strong young adults.

If I am wrong, then I will soon see that I have failed. But for now,

I feel that I would rather them see it/hear it at home, than on the

playground as before. Hope I didn't offend - as this is a touchy

subject, but I think we are all doing the best we can along with

following our beliefs - and whether you let your kid watch or not -

parenting is the key. You can't just stick em in front of the tv and

expect to never have a talk about it.

>

>

>

>

>

> I personally, do not respond to alot of Email, things, but this

topic really struck a nerve with me. My feeling is that a parent

should do just that, PARENT!

> It is our job to teach our children right from wrong, good from

bad, etc. If we as parents leave it up to the media too teach our

children these things we are not doing our jobs. If we become

complacent at our jobs in the workplace then we get fired, demoted

etc. But we do not have this option in the home the reprocussions we

have come in the form of social workers and uniformed police oficers.

Our children do not see our laziness per say, but by not taking an

active role in the teachings that form their own basic values and

beliefs, they will eventually become complacent as well. I can say

this because I was one of these children, not to say that I had bad

parents, but alot of the things that a child could see in magazine

left under the mattress 25 years ago, are no where near as graphic or

violent as what is available every evening on the television or what

lies a few keystrokes away on the computer. We cannot as parents

leave media to raise our children, no matter how scared we are of the

world today, We all need to take a stand against " media parenting "

because it is scary to think that it took me 25 years to get rid of

these images knowing full well that they wrong and false. Imagine

yourself for a moment being your literal thinking AS child. I shudder

to think what goes through their delicate network of thoughts and

processing, not being able to discern what is truly right and wrong.

Instead of waiting for your children to bring up an issue that they

discovered on the television, or computer, We have to be proactive on

our own and think what the real world can offer them and protect and

teach them before they are exposed to it on their own. It doesn't

matter how intelligent our children may be, we are still their

parents, We still make the choices for them.... We as parents have

this control.

>

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