Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 Speaking as a former Scout Leader, I wouldn't take too kindly to having parents staying on site. Unless of course, they were helping to run the camp! By being on site you will run the risk of your son loosing the respect that he has gained from other members of his Patrol or the troop. If you are actually staying with your son, this will disrupt the operation of his Patrol which could be the cause of further resentment and possibly embarressment for your son. Camps are an opportunity to get away from parents and to have a good time (within the rules of discipline of course). You said that your son hasn't been in Scouts for very long and that it is his first camp. As first camps go, he might or might not have much difficulty. I bet though, any difficulty that he does have would be not much different from others who haven't been camping before. The most common problem is homesickness. Visit by all means, at camps I've been involved in, parents were always welcome for a visit. ( ) Boyscout Camp > Hello everyone, > > I have a 13 year old boy with AS and we just joined the boy scouts. > They are going camping for a week in Rhode Island. I am having > anxieties but I thought we go and I stay with my son to see how it > goes. I am afraid...I guess because we are knew and the scoutmaster it > not very helpful. Does anyone have any suggestions. If I do go, I am > hoping I don't destroy my son or make him stress or does anyone think > this would be good for him. I will be staying with him. Would I be > really causing him anxieties if I stayed a day and then leave him > there? Other mothers are leaving but their husbands are with them. My > husband doesn't want to go. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 We finished up with day camp yesterday with ph. There are activities today, but not Scout-oriented enough to make it worth our while. My son would not have lasted 20 minutes without me. He had 3 major meltdowns--one when learning first aid, one when he made it across the monkey bridge (!!!), and one during rafting. Two of those led him to tell me that when someone is going to do something scary and fake, the person actually doing the faking has to tell him it's fake, preferably beforehand. That's big and the fact HE told me! Aside from the usual AS stuff, his anxiety is what really affects him the most. So, he sat out of alot of stuff and watched. BUT he did play Train Wreck with 50 other kids during a rain delay. That is a huge accomplishment for him. He also did a decent-enough front stroke to get into the real pool instead of the wading pool. Really cool. I was like glue to him all week, since I was worried about some pushing issues he's acquired lately. No one else we knew was there, either. But it was kinda nice just having my sole responsibility be him and only him. This is the first time we've been to this particular camp, and there is no way I would have been able to tell anyone else what to do with him in all these situations. In other news, my 12 yo, , is also at Camp right now, with DH, as always. He repelled 30' the other day, half of it with a terrified look on his face. He has been finding his way to his classes without getting lost, and he ate fish. Big stuff going on here. DH reports he's really been hanging out with the boys, although always with his spinning thing in his hand. :-) He went to a presentation by the international Scout at camp, and that Scout had some sort of spinning thing, too. My son asked about it, and the Scout said it helps calm him down when he's stressed. Ah, two peas in a pod. My kids really miss each other. Of course, they are really roughing it down at week-long camp. So much so that sometimes DH can't always get our email right when we send it. LOL ph has been sending information about the progress he's made in Animal Crossing. Very cute. Since ph is crossing over in Feb, both boys will go to camp together next summer. Hopefully (oh please, oh please) ph's anxiety will be much better. I suspect it will be a family trip, though. I better get in shape, because this week was hard enough with all the walking. Jackie ph (10, Asperger's/ADHD) (12, PDD-NOS/ADHD) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 I help as caregiver for my boyfriend who has a 12 year old with Aspbergers disorder. This child has few friends, and could benefit from having a buddy to play with once in a while. The neighbors aren't very nice to him because he is " different " . if you could let me know more about social oppurtunities that are available for my boyfriend's son, please E-mail me. Thanks Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote: We finished up with day camp yesterday with ph. There are activities today, but not Scout-oriented enough to make it worth our while. My son would not have lasted 20 minutes without me. He had 3 major meltdowns--one when learning first aid, one when he made it across the monkey bridge (!!!), and one during rafting. Two of those led him to tell me that when someone is going to do something scary and fake, the person actually doing the faking has to tell him it's fake, preferably beforehand. That's big and the fact HE told me! Aside from the usual AS stuff, his anxiety is what really affects him the most. So, he sat out of alot of stuff and watched. BUT he did play Train Wreck with 50 other kids during a rain delay. That is a huge accomplishment for him. He also did a decent-enough front stroke to get into the real pool instead of the wading pool. Really cool. I was like glue to him all week, since I was worried about some pushing issues he's acquired lately. No one else we knew was there, either. But it was kinda nice just having my sole responsibility be him and only him. This is the first time we've been to this particular camp, and there is no way I would have been able to tell anyone else what to do with him in all these situations. In other news, my 12 yo, , is also at Camp right now, with DH, as always. He repelled 30' the other day, half of it with a terrified look on his face. He has been finding his way to his classes without getting lost, and he ate fish. Big stuff going on here. DH reports he's really been hanging out with the boys, although always with his spinning thing in his hand. :-) He went to a presentation by the international Scout at camp, and that Scout had some sort of spinning thing, too. My son asked about it, and the Scout said it helps calm him down when he's stressed. Ah, two peas in a pod. My kids really miss each other. Of course, they are really roughing it down at week-long camp. So much so that sometimes DH can't always get our email right when we send it. LOL ph has been sending information about the progress he's made in Animal Crossing. Very cute. Since ph is crossing over in Feb, both boys will go to camp together next summer. Hopefully (oh please, oh please) ph's anxiety will be much better. I suspect it will be a family trip, though. I better get in shape, because this week was hard enough with all the walking. Jackie ph (10, Asperger's/ADHD) (12, PDD-NOS/ADHD) --------------------------------- How low will we go? Check out Messenger’s low PC-to-Phone call rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 YEAH!! Sounds like things are falling into place with scouts!! Hopefully as time passes some of the anxiety will lessen, especially when he gets a little more used to the other kids. Plus it's nice that they have found others they can relate to within their respective camps. Our oldest was a Wolf Cub last year and just crossed to Bear a month ago. joined just before the crossing ceremony and was recognized as our Pack's only new Tiger. He got his Tiger book and has already started working towards all of his badges. Since he is the only Tiger, his Pack leader voluntold me as his Den Leader. This should be fun. I've never been in scouts before and the only experience I have is being married to a former Boy Scout and being the mom of 2 scouts!! seems excited that I'm going to be involved, unfortunately he doesn't understand that all of the Den stuff for his book has to wait until September when we get more people. He is taking this so literally--I'm his den leader, he's the only Tiger in the den, so anything we do that could be signed off in his book as a den activity he wants to sign off. We've had to hide the book so he can't find it and finish it by the end of summer. Good luck with scouting this year and remember it's just another wonderful adventure!! : ) 8 anxiety 6 Asperger's/anxiety/epilepsy Hunter 4 Dylan 1 Re: ( ) Boyscout Camp anne We finished up with day camp yesterday with ph. There are activities today, but not Scout-oriented enough to make it worth our while. My son would not have lasted 20 minutes without me. He had 3 major meltdowns--one when learning first aid, one when he made it across the monkey bridge (!!!), and one during rafting. Two of those led him to tell me that when someone is going to do something scary and fake, the person actually doing the faking has to tell him it's fake, preferably beforehand. That's big and the fact HE told me! Aside from the usual AS stuff, his anxiety is what really affects him the most. So, he sat out of alot of stuff and watched. BUT he did play Train Wreck with 50 other kids during a rain delay. That is a huge accomplishment for him. He also did a decent-enough front stroke to get into the real pool instead of the wading pool. Really cool. I was like glue to him all week, since I was worried about some pushing issues he's acquired lately. No one else we knew was there, either. But it was kinda nice just having my sole responsibility be him and only him. This is the first time we've been to this particular camp, and there is no way I would have been able to tell anyone else what to do with him in all these situations. In other news, my 12 yo, , is also at Camp right now, with DH, as always. He repelled 30' the other day, half of it with a terrified look on his face. He has been finding his way to his classes without getting lost, and he ate fish. Big stuff going on here. DH reports he's really been hanging out with the boys, although always with his spinning thing in his hand. :-) He went to a presentation by the international Scout at camp, and that Scout had some sort of spinning thing, too. My son asked about it, and the Scout said it helps calm him down when he's stressed. Ah, two peas in a pod. My kids really miss each other. Of course, they are really roughing it down at week-long camp. So much so that sometimes DH can't always get our email right when we send it. LOL ph has been sending information about the progress he's made in Animal Crossing. Very cute. Since ph is crossing over in Feb, both boys will go to camp together next summer. Hopefully (oh please, oh please) ph's anxiety will be much better. I suspect it will be a family trip, though. I better get in shape, because this week was hard enough with all the walking. Jackie ph (10, Asperger's/ADHD) (12, PDD-NOS/ADHD) No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.394 / Virus Database: 268.10.0/388 - Release Date: 7/13/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 Like I said, we skipped day camp today and found a public pool. Nice one I never knew existed (not in my town.) He practiced and practiced and got the back float down by the end of the day! He couldn't do it at all yesterday. I went in the pool, too, can't remember the last time I did that--at a hotel somewhere, so a year ago? He also went into water where he couldn't stand up--first time, I think. There was a small-ish water slide there, but one that twists. He wanted to go down it, which surprised me. But it's pretty brisk and dumps you pretty hard into the water. I told him if he could take two steps off the side off the pool and seriously JUMP into the water, and recover, I would let him go on the slide. He made it just standing on the side, and semi-sliding/jumping. So no slide today, but I told him we would go back before the end of the summer. Meanwhile, we are going on vacation and every hotel we're staying at has a pool, so he'll get in some more practice. Now I need to clean up the house before the other guys get home tomorrow, lest they think all we've done all week was day camp and watch TV and eat at 's. Jackie On Jul 14, 2006, at 3:36 PM, & wrote: > YEAH!! Sounds like things are falling into place with scouts!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 On Jul 14, 2006, at 10:35 AM, Shackleton cindy wrote: > I help as caregiver for my boyfriend who has a 12 year old with > Aspbergers disorder. This child has few friends, and could benefit > from having a buddy to play with once in a while. The neighbors > aren't very nice to him because he is " different " . if you could > let me know more about social oppurtunities that are available for > my boyfriend's son, What are his interests? The best place I found to start is with his interests. It's hard enough to find friends when you have AS, it's even harder to break into an activity that is uninteresting or confusing. My 11 yo had a social skill class at school this year, and met a few boys. They have been coming over this summer, one more than the other. Okay, so they go into the basement to play video games. But it's something. I try to fit in lunch out, too. It's been a growth experience for my son to be calling and be called. And he wasn't very good on the phone. Before now, no one ever called. Friends were either at school or Scouts. It's probably also a good goal for to start small--one or two people. Probably pretty hard to throw him into a group situation and hope everything works out. My kids never play with anyone in our neighborhood, either. It's nice they're there, but they mostly roller blade or bike around, or do other sports. My kids don't. Later this summer, my 11 yo is going to GenCon, a convention for roll playing games, miniatures, board and electronic games. Think Nerdvana. He looks " normal " in that environment. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2006 Report Share Posted July 14, 2006 Hi, I too have a 13 year old boy with AS as well. The neighborhood kids are not nice at all. There were problems. I would like my son to have a friend to come over every now and then and just be themselves without any judging them. Where do you live? Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote: On Jul 14, 2006, at 10:35 AM, Shackleton cindy wrote: > I help as caregiver for my boyfriend who has a 12 year old with > Aspbergers disorder. This child has few friends, and could benefit > from having a buddy to play with once in a while. The neighbors > aren't very nice to him because he is " different " . if you could > let me know more about social oppurtunities that are available for > my boyfriend's son, What are his interests? The best place I found to start is with his interests. It's hard enough to find friends when you have AS, it's even harder to break into an activity that is uninteresting or confusing. My 11 yo had a social skill class at school this year, and met a few boys. They have been coming over this summer, one more than the other. Okay, so they go into the basement to play video games. But it's something. I try to fit in lunch out, too. It's been a growth experience for my son to be calling and be called. And he wasn't very good on the phone. Before now, no one ever called. Friends were either at school or Scouts. It's probably also a good goal for to start small--one or two people. Probably pretty hard to throw him into a group situation and hope everything works out. My kids never play with anyone in our neighborhood, either. It's nice they're there, but they mostly roller blade or bike around, or do other sports. My kids don't. Later this summer, my 11 yo is going to GenCon, a convention for roll playing games, miniatures, board and electronic games. Think Nerdvana. He looks " normal " in that environment. Jackie --------------------------------- Music Unlimited - Access over 1 million songs.Try it free. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2006 Report Share Posted July 15, 2006 Later this summer, my 11 yo is going to GenCon, a convention for roll playing games, miniatures, board and electronic games. Think Nerdvana. He looks " normal " in that environment. My kids would absolutely LOVE that. Nerdvana- too cute Toni > On Jul 14, 2006, at 10:35 AM, Shackleton cindy wrote: > > > I help as caregiver for my boyfriend who has a 12 year > > old with Aspbergers disorder. This child has few > > friends, and could benefit from having a buddy to play > > with once in a while. The neighbors aren't very nice > > to him because he is " different " . if you could let me > know more about social oppurtunities that are available > > for my boyfriend's son, > > What are his interests? The best place I found to start > is with his interests. It's hard enough to find > friends when you have AS, it's even harder to break into > an activity that is uninteresting or confusing. My 11 > yo had a social skill class at school this year, and met > a few boys. They have been coming > over this summer, one more than the other. Okay, so they > go into the basement to play video games. But it's > something. I try to fit in lunch out, too. > It's been a growth experience for my son to be calling and > be called. And he wasn't very good on the phone. Before > now, no one ever called. Friends were either at school > or Scouts. > > It's probably also a good goal for to start small--one or > two people. Probably pretty hard to throw him into a > group situation and hope everything works out. > > My kids never play with anyone in our neighborhood, > either. It's nice they're there, but they mostly > roller blade or bike around, or do other sports. My > kids don't. > > Later this summer, my 11 yo is going to GenCon, a > convention for roll playing games, miniatures, board and > electronic games. Think Nerdvana. He looks " normal " in > that environment. > > > Jackie > > I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can CHOOSE which it shall be. Groucho Marx _________________________________________ Check your Email accounts at MyEmail.com Login from home, work, school. Anywhere! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2006 Report Share Posted July 15, 2006 My son is on his way to scout camp in 15 minutes LOL he's going for the weekend this time only. I was a leader too.. And I agree. Children and parents need time apart .. However if you wish to become a leader I couldn't recommend it more! Its a great way to become involved. As a leader I always make sure that I don't take care of my son. He knows that I am BUBBLES not mommy when its camp time! And if he has any problems or concerns to go through the chain of command. I whole heartedly recommend becoming a leader! -- Re: ( ) Boyscout Camp anne Speaking as a former Scout Leader, I wouldn't take too kindly to having parents staying on site. Unless of course, they were helping to run the camp! By being on site you will run the risk of your son loosing the respect that he has gained from other members of his Patrol or the troop. If you are actually staying with your son, this will disrupt the operation of his Patrol which could be the cause of further resentment and possibly embarressment for your son. Camps are an opportunity to get away from parents and to have a good time (within the rules of discipline of course). You said that your son hasn't been in Scouts for very long and that it is his first camp. As first camps go, he might or might not have much difficulty. I bet though, any difficulty that he does have would be not much different from others who haven't been camping before. The most common problem is homesickness. Visit by all means, at camps I've been involved in, parents were always welcome for a visit. ( ) Boyscout Camp > Hello everyone, > > I have a 13 year old boy with AS and we just joined the boy scouts. > They are going camping for a week in Rhode Island. I am having > anxieties but I thought we go and I stay with my son to see how it > goes. I am afraid...I guess because we are knew and the scoutmaster it > not very helpful. Does anyone have any suggestions. If I do go, I am > hoping I don't destroy my son or make him stress or does anyone think > this would be good for him. I will be staying with him. Would I be > really causing him anxieties if I stayed a day and then leave him > there? Other mothers are leaving but their husbands are with them. My > husband doesn't want to go. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2006 Report Share Posted August 7, 2006 As I have told you before, my son has Asperghers Syndrome and my not being there totally comprises his connecting to other kids. I did go on the camping trip, and I went with him to the programs. No one else did. No one even volunteer to take him canoeing. Why would he lose the respest of other Patrol Leaders. Would you please explain more in detail. They did not even give my son a job to do either. <cyclist2001nz@...> wrote: Speaking as a former Scout Leader, I wouldn't take too kindly to having parents staying on site. Unless of course, they were helping to run the camp! By being on site you will run the risk of your son loosing the respect that he has gained from other members of his Patrol or the troop. If you are actually staying with your son, this will disrupt the operation of his Patrol which could be the cause of further resentment and possibly embarressment for your son. Camps are an opportunity to get away from parents and to have a good time (within the rules of discipline of course). You said that your son hasn't been in Scouts for very long and that it is his first camp. As first camps go, he might or might not have much difficulty. I bet though, any difficulty that he does have would be not much different from others who haven't been camping before. The most common problem is homesickness. Visit by all means, at camps I've been involved in, parents were always welcome for a visit. ( ) Boyscout Camp > Hello everyone, > > I have a 13 year old boy with AS and we just joined the boy scouts. > They are going camping for a week in Rhode Island. I am having > anxieties but I thought we go and I stay with my son to see how it > goes. I am afraid...I guess because we are knew and the scoutmaster it > not very helpful. Does anyone have any suggestions. If I do go, I am > hoping I don't destroy my son or make him stress or does anyone think > this would be good for him. I will be staying with him. Would I be > really causing him anxieties if I stayed a day and then leave him > there? Other mothers are leaving but their husbands are with them. My > husband doesn't want to go. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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