Re: Re: Kids and Television - - and other opinions

March 28, 2007

Hello ,

This is definitely another way of looking at this issue. I didn't look at TV

as abuse but educational. When my kids ride their bikes up and down this very

long block, I make them take walkie talkies with them. I check on them any time

I want. I tell them not to talk to anyone that they don't know. (but they do).

My son came home with a Hugh piece of chocolate saying a friend gave it to him.

can he eat it? I found out this " friend " was a grown woman. I asked him what

her name is, He didn't know, He decided she is a friend because she lives on the

same block. I still never saw her, and he never saw her again.

So, watching TV, " PG " movies, he can see that there are people that aren't so

nice. They are just too naive to certain things. at the Boys & girls club an

older child called a younger child a " fag " He asked him, whats a " fag " ?, they

said when two boys like each other. Well, to him, (my AS son), He has a very

good friend that's a boy, so, he's a fag too. (because he likes boys too, as a

friend). Explaining something to a child with AS has to be very concrete. I

had to explain the difference of the word " likes " in that statement.

Sometimes it does get overwhelming because I want to protect my kids too, but

at the same time, I don't want them that naive either. They are getting older,

and meeting even older kids with language that they don't hear at home. (asking

questions) another example is, a cartoon (tweety bird) where the little bird

says: " I thought I saw a pussy cat, I did, I did, I did see a pussy cat " .

Well, my son started calling his cat a pussy. Come here pussy, saying I love

my little pussy. UGH!!! I hate that word, was I wrong to explain why we don't

call the cat that????

So, I thought while watching TV or some music, I can explain 'the slang

language' to him so he will not use it inappropriately. He calls our cat " CAT "

now instead of the other name.

I'm just curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our children

about the real world, that there are things that happen out their, the meaning

of " slang language " , So when they hear it, they will be able to chose not to

use it because they now know what it means?

Doornbos <cdoor@...> wrote:

Hi all, I am very careful about what my children watch on t.v. T.v is not

reality and they are learning to de-sensitize themselves to things like violence

and rape and sex by watching shows that hold all of these things as

entertainment. Years ago people would have been shocked to see a woman walking

around in a bikini on t.v and now you don't look twice when they are naked and

being raped. My feelings are that our children AS or not will see enough in

their lifetime without my contributing to it by allowing them to take it all in

as entertainment. Violence is not entertainment it is tragedy. And children with

AS who remember everything they see on t.v and have a hard time separating

fiction and non-fiction, see all these things re-played over and over on a daily

basis. Studies show that seeing pornography and violence is just as damaging as

being abused. I don't want that for my children. I would protect them from

seeing violence in the street, and I wouldn't leave them in

a house with a pedophile, why wouldn't I protect them from the damaging effects

of t.v?

..

>

> How many of you chose the shows your children watch? Can your AS

> child memorize a whole show? ask detailed questions about things

> that happen in the show? (how much do you explain) Do you have

> concerns with movies rated " PG or PG13 " . or the " family channel " . (do

> you know how many questions an AS child can ask about the movie " home

> alone " ? Its a family show... do they feel they can protect

> themselves like that little boy on the show did? What about cartoons?

> How many of you think your AS child will try something that they did

> on a family movie that they just watched, or even the news?

> are you the type of parents that limits the selections of movies they

> watch. or: are you the type of parent that lets them watch any 'PG

> or PG 13' so that they aren't too naive to anything going on. and

> explain to them that that's TV, you can't do this at all. How

> would your child know about " life skills " to whats going on in the

> world if its not explained to them? I found out the younger kids

> were asking older kids - Why would someone want to kid nap a child.

> the older kid said for sex. I found this out when my kids asked -

> " whats sex " ?

> How much do you let your kids know and what age? I thought if they

> were old enough to ask, they should be told by the parents or they

> will ask an older child.

> what about the music they listen too?

> and last questions, even if you isolate them from everything at home,

> and the choice of music. they hear it from other children at

> school. they have headphones that you can share, so more than one

> kid can hear them. Where? on the school bus, & recess.

> then there are those video games. what's your limit?

>

March 28, 2007

thanks for taking the time to read this long post and responding.

luvmy2arabians <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote: >>>>>>>I'm just

curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our

children

about the real world, that there are things that happen out their, the

meaning

of " slang language " , So when they hear it, they will be able to chose

not to

use it because they now know what it means?<<<<<

I don't think there is a correct answer to this one. Its just kinda

one of those choices we have to make and stick with it. My dd has a

friend who is 7 and can not watch PG movies. So when she comes over,

the tv goes off. Im not a mother who will break the rules for other

kids - but I know it happens elsewhere..... and the only way i found

out was the little girl happened to mention it to my daughter. They

were watching Thats so Raven on Disney - and the little girl is not

allowed to watch that!!! so - off it went.

As far as cartoons are concerned - Spongebob has terrible manners and

bad word inferences. Theres even a specific on on these bad words!

Jimmy Neutron - magic powers fairly odd Parents - magic powers,

fantasy stuff. So in an odd twisted way, these cartoon do the same

thing - just at a kid point of view. Of course theres nothing like

rape.... but the babysitter on Fairly odd parents that is just down

right mean to Timmy? does that teach our kids that its ok for them

to be abused by someone of authority?

Hard questions. My children love to watch cops. Here's a funny

story of how our AS kids take it too seriously.

My AS son who's 4 refused to wear his seatbelt. Caused a total

meltdown. So one night my uncle - who is a cop - was in our town

patrolling. I called him and said that we were about to drive by and

if he got the chance - pull us over to tell Deacon to get his belt on.

Well, he did pull us over - and woul dyou believe that my son told my

husband to " go - don't stop - keep going " in a frantic voice. UGH.

So, even though a crime wouldn't scare the bejeebers out of my kids,

maybe its not exactly working the way I wanted.

Hard question. Live and learn I guess!

> >

> > How many of you chose the shows your children watch? Can your AS

> > child memorize a whole show? ask detailed questions about things

> > that happen in the show? (how much do you explain) Do you have

> > concerns with movies rated " PG or PG13 " . or the " family channel " . (do

> > you know how many questions an AS child can ask about the movie " home

> > alone " ? Its a family show... do they feel they can protect

> > themselves like that little boy on the show did? What about cartoons?

> > How many of you think your AS child will try something that they did

> > on a family movie that they just watched, or even the news?

> > are you the type of parents that limits the selections of movies they

> > watch. or: are you the type of parent that lets them watch any 'PG

> > or PG 13' so that they aren't too naive to anything going on. and

> > explain to them that that's TV, you can't do this at all. How

> > would your child know about " life skills " to whats going on in the

> > world if its not explained to them? I found out the younger kids

> > were asking older kids - Why would someone want to kid nap a child.

> > the older kid said for sex. I found this out when my kids asked -

> > " whats sex " ?

> > How much do you let your kids know and what age? I thought if they

> > were old enough to ask, they should be told by the parents or they

> > will ask an older child.

> > what about the music they listen too?

> > and last questions, even if you isolate them from everything at home,

> > and the choice of music. they hear it from other children at

> > school. they have headphones that you can share, so more than one

> > kid can hear them. Where? on the school bus, & recess.

> > then there are those video games. what's your limit?

> >

>

March 28, 2007

Honestly I think that is a parental choice. However I think sometimes a certain

behavior goes with that slang. So I would not want my kid behaving in a way that

isn't really him. I think that goes for any child. No one wants a disrespectful

child. I tell ya what we have always taught Austin manners his first words were

Thank You and when Adults here that coming out of a little child's mouth they

are just astounded because they have it in their head that children today are so

disrespectful and don't care about others. Some people think it's religion based

but were not religious we are just trying to instill in our child that you

should think of others use your manners. I let Austin watch TV simply because he

loves it. He learns so much from educational videos especially since he has a

problem with speech. I don't want my home to become school also. I want home to

be fun and full of open communication. Relaxing even. That helps him to get

organized for when he goes back to

school. Each parent has to figure out what works best for them and their child.

Ada Tickle

luvmy2arabians <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote:

>>>>>>>I'm just curious as too: Is it best " not to, or to " educate our