Re: Exciting Announcement...

[Guest guest]

Thanks for explaining. It just seems like it takes so long. *smile*

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: From our

experience,,,,,,most of the time, babies are not up for adoption, because

neglect/abuse, etc, hasn't taken place yet. The only reason we got our infant

(as a foster child) is because the other 6 were taken all at once when momma was

preggo. They were taken b/c of neglect. Law states if you do it to them,,,,then

you'll do it to the baby - so they took the infant right away.

As far as wondering where do the kids wait while waiting to be

adopted...........they are in foster care. When parents have their rights

terminated or voluntarily give up their rights, the foster family is asked if

they want the child. If so,,,,,,,it moves forward. If not.....and beilieve me,

many just want a child for a temporary basis, anyway,,,,,,if they don't want to

adopt, they find an " adoptive family " who are waiting for a child to " come up

for adoption " . Once a family is found, they meet and have a visit/visits. The

adoption moves forward from there if all are in agreement.

If you are a licenced foster care home,,,,,you get kids that fall in the " specs "

that you give social services when you first fill out paperwork. That child

eventually goes back to their birth home or will come up for adoption.

Hope this helps.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Meira,

if there are that many children in the united states freed for adoption. Why is

it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you and many others that are

waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a loving home/family don't understand

that either. You are a licensed foster care parent. they should allow you to

have the child live with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until

the adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting for you to

adopt them)?

Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to be adopted,

why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the number was that high.

They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are they in a

foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it just be in the same home

with the person that is waiting to adopt them? Sorry, I just can't believe the

number was that high...*smile*

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Rose, Thank you!!!! 12 days ago, she said in just a few days.... I " m

going crazy!!!! My baby probably won't be an infant, but you never

know. We've said we want a 0-3yo, with or without special needs,

with or without older sibs. Yes, we will get to meet the child

before we accept them. And we will get to learn about them from

their social worker too. Not just any child would be a good match...

We don't feel capable of taking on children with daily nursing needs,

like trachs and g-tubes, or children who will never do more than lie

in their cribs, or children who are going to probably die very young,

or children who are aggressively acting out what they've been

through. I know these children need love and stability and parents,

probably more than any of the others, but I just don't think at this

time we have the resources or capabilities to raise those children

well.

There are a quarter million (I believe) children freed for adoption

in the US alone, waiting in foster care for parents to call their own.

Here is a listing of just a few of them:

www.adoptuskids.org

It is heartbreaking. There are so many of them that I would love to

bring home right now!!!!

Hopefully soon I will be able to do so...

I will definitely post as soon as I know something more!

Meira

> >

> > Meira,

> > reading this, I'm so excited for you!!! I can't wait either!!!!

> Prayers are sent your way that everything goes well and your new

baby

> with you as soon as possible...

> > My God, you are so close!!! I can imagine the stress and

> happiness all at the same time.

> > Best wishes!!!! Rose

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Small Business.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Rose,

I wish it was that simple. parents CAN have babies straight

from the hospital, from day 1, but most birthparenets have the right

to try to get their acts together before losing parental rights- and

in most cases they SHOULD have a chance. Which means that baby could

end up going to their birthparents permanently at some point. And I'm

simply not in a place right now where I can give back a baby that I

fall in love with.

Another thing to remember is that it is not hundreds of thousands of

BABIES that are waiting for adoptive families. It is hundreds of

thousands of CHILDREN, ages 0-18 years old. And again, I don't feel

like I'm in a place right now where I could parent a teenager. Even

a pre-teenager is pushing it with what I'm going through and

her hormones. And I really really really want a toddler or baby. A

sibling group would be great! As long as there's a toddler or baby in

the mix.

That being said, the toddlers and babies that are available for

adoption, those whose parental rights have been terminated, usually

go to their foster parents, if they want them. And those who don't,

are usually severely disabled. We can handle a LOT of different

disabilities. A huge proportion of the babies who are waiting though

have trachs or g-tubes and we don't feel ready to do that right now.

Okay, so knowing all of this, and knowing that there ARE several

dozen kids on the photolistings that I'm ready to take home right

now, and knowing that for every child on the photolistings there are

about 100 or so who are not yet on the listings, and are just waiting

for their social worker to find MY listing and match them for me...

there's one more huge step. Approval.

We started the approval process over a year ago. We went through the

paperwork, the interviews, the home inspections, everything. And just

as we were about to be approved, our agency told us they would not be

placing a baby or toddler with us, or even a sib group with a baby or

toddler, only a single older child. Needless to say, I was livid,

hysterical, you name it. But I take nothing sitting down. So I

investigated. It turns out there are financial incentives being

given to state agencies for placing older children- single older

children- because they are the most backlogged. It doesn't matter

that there are thousands of special needs toddlers and babies, or sib

groups, waiting for families, languishing in foster care, group

homes, hospitals. It was all for the money. But by time we'd

figured that out that this was all going on, it had been 9 months.

We fired them, filed grievances against them, and started over

again. Our new agency has been amazing, has gotten us through the

whole process in- well it's been four months now. They accepted a

lot of our old paperwork, but a lot of it had to be filled in anew,

new interviews, inspections, etc.

Okay, so even if we hadn't been through ths madness with the old

agency, we still couldn't have our child right away, and for good

reason.

Because foster care adoption is free, and even subsidized, some

people see it as a way to get free child labor, free punching bags,

free sex toys, or even a good income. Potential adoptive parents

must be investigated thoroughly.

Most foster-adoption parents- most parents- are not cruel horrible

people. But care has to be taken espeically with the welfare of

these small people who have already been through so much.

I know I'm a good mom. I know I could never hurt a child. I don't

want to have to wait! But I will, if it means children will be safe

from the monsters who are out there.

God-willing, my worker is just very busy, and will get through my

approval soon, and then get us matched soon, and then get us meeting

our new child soon, and then visiting, and then bringing them home

soon!!!!!

And in the meantime, perhaps a monster will have been kept from

getting the child who is meant to be mine. Or any other child too.

Huge hugs to you Rose, for caring so much!!!!

Meira

>

> Meira,

> if there are that many children in the united states freed for

adoption. Why is it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet

you and many others that are waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a

loving home/family don't understand that either. You are a licensed

foster care parent. they should allow you to have the child live

with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until the

adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are

waiting in your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group

home, waiting for you to adopt them)?

> Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to

be adopted, why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the

number was that high.

> They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

> Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted,

are they in a foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't

it just be in the same home with the person that is waiting to adopt

them? Sorry, I just can't believe the number was that high...*smile*

>

[Guest guest]

It DOES seem to take a long time.

We got her from the hospital and at 8 months old, her parents wrote a letter

to our social worker saying they wanted her to be with us and would do whatever

was legal to make it so.

It took 1 1/2 years from that point for us to LEGALLY be hers. Amazing.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Thanks for explaining. It just seems like it takes so long. *smile*

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: From our experience,,,,,,most

of the time, babies are not up for adoption, because neglect/abuse, etc, hasn't

taken place yet. The only reason we got our infant (as a foster child) is

because the other 6 were taken all at once when momma was preggo. They were

taken b/c of neglect. Law states if you do it to them,,,,then you'll do it to

the baby - so they took the infant right away.

As far as wondering where do the kids wait while waiting to be

adopted...........they are in foster care. When parents have their rights

terminated or voluntarily give up their rights, the foster family is asked if

they want the child. If so,,,,,,,it moves forward. If not.....and beilieve me,

many just want a child for a temporary basis, anyway,,,,,,if they don't want to

adopt, they find an " adoptive family " who are waiting for a child to " come up

for adoption " . Once a family is found, they meet and have a visit/visits. The

adoption moves forward from there if all are in agreement.

If you are a licenced foster care home,,,,,you get kids that fall in the " specs "

that you give social services when you first fill out paperwork. That child

eventually goes back to their birth home or will come up for adoption.

Hope this helps.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Meira,

if there are that many children in the united states freed for adoption. Why is

it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you and many others that are

waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a loving home/family don't understand

that either. You are a licensed foster care parent. they should allow you to

have the child live with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until

the adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting for you to

adopt them)?

Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to be adopted,

why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the number was that high.

They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are they in a

foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it just be in the same home

with the person that is waiting to adopt them? Sorry, I just can't believe the

number was that high...*smile*

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Rose, Thank you!!!! 12 days ago, she said in just a few days.... I " m

going crazy!!!! My baby probably won't be an infant, but you never

know. We've said we want a 0-3yo, with or without special needs,

with or without older sibs. Yes, we will get to meet the child

before we accept them. And we will get to learn about them from

their social worker too. Not just any child would be a good match...

We don't feel capable of taking on children with daily nursing needs,

like trachs and g-tubes, or children who will never do more than lie

in their cribs, or children who are going to probably die very young,

or children who are aggressively acting out what they've been

through. I know these children need love and stability and parents,

probably more than any of the others, but I just don't think at this

time we have the resources or capabilities to raise those children

well.

There are a quarter million (I believe) children freed for adoption

in the US alone, waiting in foster care for parents to call their own.

Here is a listing of just a few of them:

www.adoptuskids.org

It is heartbreaking. There are so many of them that I would love to

bring home right now!!!!

Hopefully soon I will be able to do so...

I will definitely post as soon as I know something more!

Meira

> >

> > Meira,

> > reading this, I'm so excited for you!!! I can't wait either!!!!

> Prayers are sent your way that everything goes well and your new

baby

> with you as soon as possible...

> > My God, you are so close!!! I can imagine the stress and

> happiness all at the same time.

> > Best wishes!!!! Rose

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Small Business.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Robin,

We're looking at situations like you describe, sib groups where the

baby was taken after there was already a problem with the others. Or

babies or toddlers who had already been abused or neglected, which

usually means serious abuse or neglect and serious complications with

the child. We both had very very difficult childhoods, and we both

very much want to be there for a child who needs us as much as we

want them.

Meira

> Meira,

> if there are that many children in the united states freed for

adoption. Why is it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you

and many others that are waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a

loving home/family don't understand that either. You are a licensed

foster care parent. they should allow you to have the child live with

you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until the adoption

is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting

for you to adopt them)?

> Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to

be adopted, why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the

number was that high.

> They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

> Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are

they in a foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it

just be in the same home with the person that is waiting to adopt

them? Sorry, I just can't believe the number was that high...*smile*

[Guest guest]

Good for you....and who better to understand the problems/issues that may go

along with those children than people who have lived it, right? What a bonding

point for all of you.

Good luck to you.

Robin

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Robin,

We're looking at situations like you describe, sib groups where the

baby was taken after there was already a problem with the others. Or

babies or toddlers who had already been abused or neglected, which

usually means serious abuse or neglect and serious complications with

the child. We both had very very difficult childhoods, and we both

very much want to be there for a child who needs us as much as we

want them.

Meira

> Meira,

> if there are that many children in the united states freed for

adoption. Why is it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you

and many others that are waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a

loving home/family don't understand that either. You are a licensed

foster care parent. they should allow you to have the child live with

you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until the adoption

is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting

for you to adopt them)?

> Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to

be adopted, why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the

number was that high.

> They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

> Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are

they in a foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it

just be in the same home with the person that is waiting to adopt

them? Sorry, I just can't believe the number was that high...*smile*

---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Meira,

Thank you for explaining all that. Now I do completely understand why this

takes so long. It also, almost seems like they want to see how hard you will

fight for a child, just to see how bad you really want to adopt a child. keep

the strength!!!. I'm so proud of you that you investigated this and found out

all the information that you did. Good for you!!! to fire that agency(knowing

how bad you want to adopt) and start all over. I can feel your stress you are

being put through, but your toughing it out. I can tell how much love you have

for another baby and fighting so hard for this child will make you that perfect

parent!!!

Sounds like you are doing everything humanly possible for this adoption to go

well. I know its easy for me to say, be patient, it will happen. and * your

happy day will come*. your not just sitting back doing nothing, instead, your

working really hard to make this happen.

I would make another phone call to the social worker before the 12th. Just to

touch base and ask if all the paper work is updated, if there is anything else

that is needed, to start the conversation and they ask all your question

(again). they got to know how anxious/excited you are. Again, prayers that

everything continue to go well and you have your baby in your arms/home soon.

Rose

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Rose,

I wish it was that simple. parents CAN have babies straight

from the hospital, from day 1, but most birthparenets have the right

to try to get their acts together before losing parental rights- and

in most cases they SHOULD have a chance. Which means that baby could

end up going to their birthparents permanently at some point. And I'm

simply not in a place right now where I can give back a baby that I

fall in love with.

Another thing to remember is that it is not hundreds of thousands of

BABIES that are waiting for adoptive families. It is hundreds of

thousands of CHILDREN, ages 0-18 years old. And again, I don't feel

like I'm in a place right now where I could parent a teenager. Even

a pre-teenager is pushing it with what I'm going through and

her hormones. And I really really really want a toddler or baby. A

sibling group would be great! As long as there's a toddler or baby in

the mix.

That being said, the toddlers and babies that are available for

adoption, those whose parental rights have been terminated, usually

go to their foster parents, if they want them. And those who don't,

are usually severely disabled. We can handle a LOT of different

disabilities. A huge proportion of the babies who are waiting though

have trachs or g-tubes and we don't feel ready to do that right now.

Okay, so knowing all of this, and knowing that there ARE several

dozen kids on the photolistings that I'm ready to take home right

now, and knowing that for every child on the photolistings there are

about 100 or so who are not yet on the listings, and are just waiting

for their social worker to find MY listing and match them for me...

there's one more huge step. Approval.

We started the approval process over a year ago. We went through the

paperwork, the interviews, the home inspections, everything. And just

as we were about to be approved, our agency told us they would not be

placing a baby or toddler with us, or even a sib group with a baby or

toddler, only a single older child. Needless to say, I was livid,

hysterical, you name it. But I take nothing sitting down. So I

investigated. It turns out there are financial incentives being

given to state agencies for placing older children- single older

children- because they are the most backlogged. It doesn't matter

that there are thousands of special needs toddlers and babies, or sib

groups, waiting for families, languishing in foster care, group

homes, hospitals. It was all for the money. But by time we'd

figured that out that this was all going on, it had been 9 months.

We fired them, filed grievances against them, and started over

again. Our new agency has been amazing, has gotten us through the

whole process in- well it's been four months now. They accepted a

lot of our old paperwork, but a lot of it had to be filled in anew,

new interviews, inspections, etc.

Okay, so even if we hadn't been through ths madness with the old

agency, we still couldn't have our child right away, and for good

reason.

Because foster care adoption is free, and even subsidized, some

people see it as a way to get free child labor, free punching bags,

free sex toys, or even a good income. Potential adoptive parents

must be investigated thoroughly.

Most foster-adoption parents- most parents- are not cruel horrible

people. But care has to be taken espeically with the welfare of

these small people who have already been through so much.

I know I'm a good mom. I know I could never hurt a child. I don't

want to have to wait! But I will, if it means children will be safe

from the monsters who are out there.

God-willing, my worker is just very busy, and will get through my

approval soon, and then get us matched soon, and then get us meeting

our new child soon, and then visiting, and then bringing them home

soon!!!!!

And in the meantime, perhaps a monster will have been kept from

getting the child who is meant to be mine. Or any other child too.

Huge hugs to you Rose, for caring so much!!!!

Meira

>

> Meira,

> if there are that many children in the united states freed for

adoption. Why is it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet

you and many others that are waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a

loving home/family don't understand that either. You are a licensed

foster care parent. they should allow you to have the child live

with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until the

adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are

waiting in your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group

home, waiting for you to adopt them)?

> Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to

be adopted, why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the

number was that high.

> They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

> Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted,

are they in a foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't

it just be in the same home with the person that is waiting to adopt

them? Sorry, I just can't believe the number was that high...*smile*

>

---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Robin,

did you have the baby with you from 8 months old? until the adoption was made

legal? If not, that's the part that I dont understand. Why cant the baby be

taken out from the foster home and put into the home with the parents that want

to adopt?

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote:

It DOES seem to take a long time.

We got her from the hospital and at 8 months old, her parents wrote a letter to

our social worker saying they wanted her to be with us and would do whatever was

legal to make it so.

It took 1 1/2 years from that point for us to LEGALLY be hers. Amazing.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Thanks for explaining. It just seems like it takes so long. *smile*

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: From our experience,,,,,,most

of the time, babies are not up for adoption, because neglect/abuse, etc, hasn't

taken place yet. The only reason we got our infant (as a foster child) is

because the other 6 were taken all at once when momma was preggo. They were

taken b/c of neglect. Law states if you do it to them,,,,then you'll do it to

the baby - so they took the infant right away.

As far as wondering where do the kids wait while waiting to be

adopted...........they are in foster care. When parents have their rights

terminated or voluntarily give up their rights, the foster family is asked if

they want the child. If so,,,,,,,it moves forward. If not.....and beilieve me,

many just want a child for a temporary basis, anyway,,,,,,if they don't want to

adopt, they find an " adoptive family " who are waiting for a child to " come up

for adoption " . Once a family is found, they meet and have a visit/visits. The

adoption moves forward from there if all are in agreement.

If you are a licenced foster care home,,,,,you get kids that fall in the " specs "

that you give social services when you first fill out paperwork. That child

eventually goes back to their birth home or will come up for adoption.

Hope this helps.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Meira,

if there are that many children in the united states freed for adoption. Why is

it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you and many others that are

waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a loving home/family don't understand

that either. You are a licensed foster care parent. they should allow you to

have the child live with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until

the adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting for you to

adopt them)?

Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to be adopted,

why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the number was that high.

They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are they in a

foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it just be in the same home

with the person that is waiting to adopt them? Sorry, I just can't believe the

number was that high...*smile*

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Rose, Thank you!!!! 12 days ago, she said in just a few days.... I " m

going crazy!!!! My baby probably won't be an infant, but you never

know. We've said we want a 0-3yo, with or without special needs,

with or without older sibs. Yes, we will get to meet the child

before we accept them. And we will get to learn about them from

their social worker too. Not just any child would be a good match...

We don't feel capable of taking on children with daily nursing needs,

like trachs and g-tubes, or children who will never do more than lie

in their cribs, or children who are going to probably die very young,

or children who are aggressively acting out what they've been

through. I know these children need love and stability and parents,

probably more than any of the others, but I just don't think at this

time we have the resources or capabilities to raise those children

well.

There are a quarter million (I believe) children freed for adoption

in the US alone, waiting in foster care for parents to call their own.

Here is a listing of just a few of them:

www.adoptuskids.org

It is heartbreaking. There are so many of them that I would love to

bring home right now!!!!

Hopefully soon I will be able to do so...

I will definitely post as soon as I know something more!

Meira

> >

> > Meira,

> > reading this, I'm so excited for you!!! I can't wait either!!!!

> Prayers are sent your way that everything goes well and your new

baby

> with you as soon as possible...

> > My God, you are so close!!! I can imagine the stress and

> happiness all at the same time.

> > Best wishes!!!! Rose

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Small Business.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi.

We got, her as a foster child, at 3 days old from the hospital as mom was

being discharged. The reason they took her from mom is that she had the other 6

taken a few months prior to Sam's birth for neglect. Because she neglected

them,,,,,,,,,chances are she would neglect Sam (that's how the laws go here,

anyway).

So, we had her right away.

If Sam's mom hadn't had other kids and just given birth to Sam, there would

have been no reason (yet) to remove her.

Sam's folks both showed up to every court-appointed weekly visit and because

of their financial difficulties, I'd pick them up for the visits a lot. Even

took them to get 1 week, 1 month, 2 month, etc pic's taken of Sam thinking she

would eventually be going back with them when they got their act together.

At 8 months, her folks sent a letter to our social worker stating they wanted

us to have her and they were moving to a new city for work and to start over -

this is what their entire lives had consisted of (and where the neglect came

from).

So,,,,,,at 8 months is when social services called and told us what had

happened and asked if we wanted her for good. If we hadn't,,,,,they would have

gone to their list of adoptive homes,,,,,and called them.

I think that's basically how the system works. For younger and older kids.

Sad thing is,,,,,,,,,,most don't want an older one for fear of the " baggage " .

Many kids don't have as much " baggage " as most think, though. Neglect is a big

reason for kids in foster care.

The reason we had said " under 5 " is because all of our other kids were under 5

at the time. If we do it again,,,,we'd ask for older kids,,,,,simply because

that would be the ages of the others, ya know?

Hope this helped.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Robin,

did you have the baby with you from 8 months old? until the adoption was made

legal? If not, that's the part that I dont understand. Why cant the baby be

taken out from the foster home and put into the home with the parents that want

to adopt?

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote:

It DOES seem to take a long time.

We got her from the hospital and at 8 months old, her parents wrote a letter to

our social worker saying they wanted her to be with us and would do whatever was

legal to make it so.

It took 1 1/2 years from that point for us to LEGALLY be hers. Amazing.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Thanks for explaining. It just seems like it takes so long. *smile*

and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: From our experience,,,,,,most

of the time, babies are not up for adoption, because neglect/abuse, etc, hasn't

taken place yet. The only reason we got our infant (as a foster child) is

because the other 6 were taken all at once when momma was preggo. They were

taken b/c of neglect. Law states if you do it to them,,,,then you'll do it to

the baby - so they took the infant right away.

As far as wondering where do the kids wait while waiting to be

adopted...........they are in foster care. When parents have their rights

terminated or voluntarily give up their rights, the foster family is asked if

they want the child. If so,,,,,,,it moves forward. If not.....and beilieve me,

many just want a child for a temporary basis, anyway,,,,,,if they don't want to

adopt, they find an " adoptive family " who are waiting for a child to " come up

for adoption " . Once a family is found, they meet and have a visit/visits. The

adoption moves forward from there if all are in agreement.

If you are a licenced foster care home,,,,,you get kids that fall in the " specs "

that you give social services when you first fill out paperwork. That child

eventually goes back to their birth home or will come up for adoption.

Hope this helps.

Robin

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Meira,

if there are that many children in the united states freed for adoption. Why is

it taking you so long to adopt your baby? I bet you and many others that are

waiting to adopt, to give a baby/child a loving home/family don't understand

that either. You are a licensed foster care parent. they should allow you to

have the child live with you, right from day 1, straight from the hospital until

the adoption is finalized. (what's the difference if the children are waiting in

your home for you to adopt them, or, waiting at a group home, waiting for you to

adopt them)?

Sorry, I just can't understand with that many children waiting to be adopted,

why they aren't waiting in your home? I had no idea the number was that high.

They need to pass another law to make this move more quickly.

Where are the children waiting?, while waiting to be adopted, are they in a

foster care home? a group home? someplace? Why can't it just be in the same home

with the person that is waiting to adopt them? Sorry, I just can't believe the

number was that high...*smile*

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote:

Rose, Thank you!!!! 12 days ago, she said in just a few days.... I " m

going crazy!!!! My baby probably won't be an infant, but you never

know. We've said we want a 0-3yo, with or without special needs,

with or without older sibs. Yes, we will get to meet the child

before we accept them. And we will get to learn about them from

their social worker too. Not just any child would be a good match...

We don't feel capable of taking on children with daily nursing needs,

like trachs and g-tubes, or children who will never do more than lie

in their cribs, or children who are going to probably die very young,

or children who are aggressively acting out what they've been

through. I know these children need love and stability and parents,

probably more than any of the others, but I just don't think at this

time we have the resources or capabilities to raise those children

well.

There are a quarter million (I believe) children freed for adoption

in the US alone, waiting in foster care for parents to call their own.

Here is a listing of just a few of them:

www.adoptuskids.org

It is heartbreaking. There are so many of them that I would love to

bring home right now!!!!

Hopefully soon I will be able to do so...

I will definitely post as soon as I know something more!

Meira

> >

> > Meira,

> > reading this, I'm so excited for you!!! I can't wait either!!!!

> Prayers are sent your way that everything goes well and your new

baby

> with you as soon as possible...

> > My God, you are so close!!! I can imagine the stress and

> happiness all at the same time.

> > Best wishes!!!! Rose

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Get your own web address.

> Have a HUGE year through Small Business.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Robin,

This is what wants- a child- preferably a sister- around her

age. And it's one of the reasons we're keeping open to a sibling

group. To make all of us happy.

Meira

> The reason we had said " under 5 " is because all of our other kids

were under 5 at the time. If we do it again,,,,we'd ask for older

kids,,,,,simply because that would be the ages of the others, ya know?

> Hope this helped.

> Robin

[Guest guest]

Rose, I would definitely recommend doing this, however you have to be

sure you're really prepared. You have to be ready to give and give

and give and often get nothing back in return. You have to be ready

to love with all your heart and soul children who may never love you

back, and someday may get taken back, and you'll never see them

again. You have to be prepared for so very much... heartache. But

at the same time, you are giving a gift that is so desparately needed

to the most vulnerable people in our world. You have to be aware

that so many of these children have been horribly abused, and it will

take an incredible amount of emoional strength to be there for them.

And if you can do it, it's SO worth it.

Meira

>

> Meira,

> I'm interested in doing foster care, but I've never did that

before. Would you recommend this? anything I should know?

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Meira. I tried to contact catholic charities about their foster care

program and not heard back from them yet. I'll keep trying.

meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote: Rose, I would

definitely recommend doing this, however you have to be

sure you're really prepared. You have to be ready to give and give

and give and often get nothing back in return. You have to be ready

to love with all your heart and soul children who may never love you

back, and someday may get taken back, and you'll never see them

again. You have to be prepared for so very much... heartache. But

at the same time, you are giving a gift that is so desparately needed

to the most vulnerable people in our world. You have to be aware

that so many of these children have been horribly abused, and it will

take an incredible amount of emoional strength to be there for them.

And if you can do it, it's SO worth it.

Meira

>

> Meira,

> I'm interested in doing foster care, but I've never did that

before. Would you recommend this? anything I should know?

>

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[Guest guest]

That's awesome Rose. They're very overworked, the foster care

workers, so be persistent!

Meira

> >

> > Meira,

> > I'm interested in doing foster care, but I've never did that

> before. Would you recommend this? anything I should know?

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

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>

>

[Guest guest]

My husband and I are foster parents for our county. We take infants ages 0

to 2 years old, mostly straight from the hospital. We are in the process of

adopting our 4th child, which should be finalized sometime in July. Our

babies have all been drug exposed infants and thus have the potential for

who knows what. We had one little girl who we were asked to adopt and said

yes but then at the very last minute the grandmother came forward and took

her, it was major heart breaking but we survived and learned to never say we

would adopt until parental rights have been terminated. We have had 12 kids

come through our home and have kept the 4 that became adoptable including

our AS son.(plus he's a twin)

Even though there are tears when the kids leave it is still so rewarding and

lets face all kids leave home sooner or later although even my 24 year old

is still home.

Suzanne

-- ( ) Re: Exciting Announcement...

Rose, I would definitely recommend doing this, however you have to be

sure you're really prepared. You have to be ready to give and give

and give and often get nothing back in return. You have to be ready

to love with all your heart and soul children who may never love you

back, and someday may get taken back, and you'll never see them

again. You have to be prepared for so very much... heartache. But

at the same time, you are giving a gift that is so desparately needed

to the most vulnerable people in our world. You have to be aware

that so many of these children have been horribly abused, and it will

take an incredible amount of emoional strength to be there for them.

And if you can do it, it's SO worth it.

Meira

>

> Meira,

> I'm interested in doing foster care, but I've never did that

before. Would you recommend this? anything I should know?

>

[Guest guest]

Sorry I didn't respond to this sooner. Things have been pretty wild

at our house lately. Yes, please do add a link to your blog.

That would be wonderful. Where can I see your blog?

Joyfully,

>

> >>>Jen...Thanks so much for following my blog and for your

encouragement!

> People say that to me a lot that they stumble onto my blog and I'm

totally

> curious how that happens. <<<

>

> You're welcome! =) I wish I could remember how I found it. I do so

much

> searching and researching that it's hard to tell lol Most likely

it was

> through another blog or possibly by finding it by rooting through

Autism

> links. If I figure it out though, I'll let you know lol

>

> Is it ok with you if I add a link to your blog on mine?

>

> -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

>

> Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

> Anxiety/Depression)

> and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh that's ok, no sorries needed. I'm still so excited for you! lol

Thank you for letting me add your link, mine is at http://botr.bravehost

com/

Thanks again! =)

-Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

Anxiety/Depression)

and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

-- Re: ( ) Exciting Announcement...

Sorry I didn't respond to this sooner. Things have been pretty wild

at our house lately. Yes, please do add a link to your blog.

That would be wonderful. Where can I see your blog?

Joyfully,

>

> >>>Jen...Thanks so much for following my blog and for your

encouragement!

> People say that to me a lot that they stumble onto my blog and I'm

totally

> curious how that happens. <<<

>

> You're welcome! =) I wish I could remember how I found it. I do so

much

> searching and researching that it's hard to tell lol Most likely

it was

> through another blog or possibly by finding it by rooting through

Autism

> links. If I figure it out though, I'll let you know lol

>

> Is it ok with you if I add a link to your blog on mine?

>

> -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

>

> Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

> Anxiety/Depression)

> and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

>

>

[Guest guest]

I want to do newborn foster care after I get a couple more keepers in

my family. I LOVE babies!!!!!!!!! I'm just not ready to give any of

them back.

Meira

>

> My husband and I are foster parents for our county. We take infants

ages 0

> to 2 years old, mostly straight from the hospital. We are in the

process of

> adopting our 4th child, which should be finalized sometime in July.

Our

> babies have all been drug exposed infants and thus have the

potential for

> who knows what. We had one little girl who we were asked to adopt

and said

> yes but then at the very last minute the grandmother came forward

and took

> her, it was major heart breaking but we survived and learned to

never say we

> would adopt until parental rights have been terminated. We have had

12 kids

> come through our home and have kept the 4 that became adoptable

including

> our AS son.(plus he's a twin)

> Even though there are tears when the kids leave it is still so

rewarding and

> lets face all kids leave home sooner or later although even my 24

year old

> is still home.

> Suzanne

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much for sharing with us in our joy!!!! I'm off to check out your

blog and look forward to getting to know you.

Joyfully,

[Guest guest]

You're very welcome and thank you! =)

-Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

Anxiety/Depression)

and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

-- ( ) Re: Exciting Announcement...

Thanks so much for sharing with us in our joy!!!! I'm off to check out your

blog and look forward to getting to know you.

Joyfully,

[Guest guest]

Hi , I don't remember if I answered this. We're adopting from

the US foster care system. We're hoping to get a toddler or baby

with special needs and/or with older sibs. We're starting with our

state, and then we'll work our way out to other states. We found out

this morning that our homestudy report was written, completely, as of

last night!!!! That means we're approved for matching within our

state! Once the supervisor gives her approval, the report can be

sent out of state as well.

I LOVE following your journey on your blog!!!! I'm so happy for you

that you get to meet your new children this week!!!!!

Meira

-- In , " " <angnjim@...> wrote:

>

> Meira, Where are you adopting from and where are you in the

> process? I love to hear of children getting a family!! My blogs

> are www.makefunofyourday.blogspot.com and

> www.haitiadoptionhelp.blogspot.com

[Guest guest]

Congratulations!!! That is just fantastic. When our home study was

complete we went out to dinner to celebrate. You must be so

thrilled. Thanks for sharing in our joy also. I look forward to

hearing what happens in your family!!!

Just today I got an email about a boy with autism (sounds like it's

mild) that really needs a family to adopt him. I'll post in on this

site for everyone to see.

Joyfully,

> >

> > Meira, Where are you adopting from and where are you in the

> > process? I love to hear of children getting a family!! My

blogs

> > are www.makefunofyourday.blogspot.com and

> > www.haitiadoptionhelp.blogspot.com

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much, ! =)

-Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

Anxiety/Depression)

and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

-- Re: ( ) Exciting Announcement...

Jenn,

Love your blog!

Your kiddos are so cute :-)

- C.

Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

Re: ( ) Exciting Announcement...

Sorry I didn't respond to this sooner. Things have been pretty wild

at our house lately. Yes, please do add a link to your blog.

That would be wonderful. Where can I see your blog?

Joyfully,

>

> >>>Jen...Thanks so much for following my blog and for your

encouragement!

> People say that to me a lot that they stumble onto my blog and I'm

totally

> curious how that happens. <<<

>

> You're welcome! =) I wish I could remember how I found it. I do so

much

> searching and researching that it's hard to tell lol Most likely

it was

> through another blog or possibly by finding it by rooting through

Autism

> links. If I figure it out though, I'll let you know lol

>

> Is it ok with you if I add a link to your blog on mine?

>

> -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

>

> Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

> Anxiety/Depression)

> and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jenn,

Love your blog!

Your kiddos are so cute :-)

- C.

Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

Re: ( ) Exciting Announcement...

Sorry I didn't respond to this sooner. Things have been pretty wild

at our house lately. Yes, please do add a link to your blog.

That would be wonderful. Where can I see your blog?

Joyfully,

>

> >>>Jen...Thanks so much for following my blog and for your

encouragement!

> People say that to me a lot that they stumble onto my blog and I'm

totally

> curious how that happens. <<<

>

> You're welcome! =) I wish I could remember how I found it. I do so

much

> searching and researching that it's hard to tell lol Most likely

it was

> through another blog or possibly by finding it by rooting through

Autism

> links. If I figure it out though, I'll let you know lol

>

> Is it ok with you if I add a link to your blog on mine?

>

> -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression)

>

> Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs

> Anxiety/Depression)

> and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's)

>

>