Re: father-son baseball practice causing tears

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If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he won't try and

he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up miserable every baseball

season. Your dh has to surely realize that and knock it off. Tell him to go

join an adult team and have fun. I couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY

team. I was a tomboy growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play

sports. Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

Roxanna

( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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It's a church league and they have their 1st game Saturday. They go out back &

throw the ball about every other day. Today I thought I'd give it a try and

took him out back to throw the ball. It was frustrating, he was so silly! So I

just quit throwing with him after about five minutes- or less- but he didn't

care. He just wanted to play anyway. I think we might be pushing him to do

something he's not crazy about. It's just that sports around here are so

important and we want him to have some sports type activity he can participate

in. You know?

I didn't realize you had twins, one AS and one NT. That must be interesting.

Are they identical?

Liz S,

Houston

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Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

could I ask for, really! : )

>

> If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he

won't try and he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up

miserable every baseball season. Your dh has to surely realize that

and knock it off. Tell him to go join an adult team and have fun. I

couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY team. I was a tomboy

growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play sports.

Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) father-son baseball practice causing

tears

>

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His

Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't

always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells

at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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And your grandchildren may adore them even if you're sons don't.

Meira

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> Yeah, isn't life funny that way: I adored Barbie dolls - saved all

> the stuff - and here I have 4 sons. But, they are well so what more

> could I ask for, really! : )

>