Re: father-son baseball practice causing tears

[Guest guest]

OH Geese.. My heart goes out to you and your son.. And yup even hubby.. Its

a slap to the face.. When autism sometimes just rears its ugly head. Some

of our kids are not so co-ordinated.. And others just can't handle the

stress of even the personal competition.

Your husband has done one thing though.. Made baseball a miserable

experience... For your son. I hope he can recoup that.. And maybe they

could go to a pool?? Indoor pool or something and throw a ball back and

forth?? It doesn't go too far when it falls.. And can be an easier way to

show them how to catch A ball?? Or throw it..

What about T ball..?? How old is your boy?

Your husband thinks you are babying your son.. At least that's the way I am

sure he will read any thing that comes out of your mouth...

So.. Maybe he has a brother.. Or someone else you could whisper to...?? And

they can talk to him?

-- ( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

[Guest guest]

OMGOSH LOL sorry I just realized he's 7.. Sorry I missed that when I asked

his age. I Honestly read what you wrote. Just missed the age..

-- ( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

[Guest guest]

My husband does the same thing and our kid is 3. He wants Austin to do what he

likes to do and they are both stubborn. We deal with the same thing. I don't

what to do either. I tell my husband to let austin be who he is and help out

only when austin asks for the help. I told him we are all made differently in

this world and so our are interests. Let it be. Just let it be.

Ada Tickle

" lizs.1234 " <lizs.1234@...> wrote:

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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[Guest guest]

Hi Liz,

We had this problem when my dh worked with on calculus his

last year in high school. I tried to get his dad alone before he

started work with him and tell him, " I find it helpful to talk with

using " I statements " and lots of quiet repetition. " That

seemed to help. On days where I didn't manage to snag him, it was

awful. I think these episodes do have the potential to affect a

child's relationship to his parent. I hope your dh can reconsider.

Good luck.

Liz

On Mar 27, 2007, at 8:35 PM, lizs.1234 wrote:

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

[Guest guest]

I feel so bad for you and your son. Not being " too great " at baseball obviously

doesn't have everything to do with aspergers.......but seeing that lots of kids

with aspergers feel they need to be " good " at what they do (and most of the time

they could care a

less about sports) ,,,,,,,sounds like your hubby needs to read up a bit or

maybe talk to someone? Does he understand aspergers? Do you think he

understands but is realizing he is going to have to give up his dream of dad and

son playing ball WELL.???

Let us know what happens.

" lizs.1234 " <lizs.1234@...> wrote:

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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[Guest guest]

After reading what I wrote,,,,,I feel like I sounded harsh. Sorry.

I think guys, for the most part, see a problem and want to work on it and/or

fix it. I'm not saying the way he's behaving with your son should be

excused,,,,,,,,but he sounds like a man who wants the best for his son and wants

to spend time with him.......but has to deal with a sucky disorder. He's got a

lot of " coming to terms " to deal with. One of the responses to you that I just

read said something about talking to him before hand. Is this possible - to

remind him to " take it easy " ? My husband is like this with homework, too.

Still can't understand that our son just can't always " sit down and just do it " .

I'm always the " whisperer " in the backround saying, " quieter " ........or, " please

stop being so loud " ...or whatever.

I wish the best for all of you.

Robin

" lizs.1234 " <lizs.1234@...> wrote:

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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[Guest guest]

We don't have any other family at all, and we've decided not to tell anyone

(except his school) about his AS. So there's on one who could step in & tell my

husband to lighten up. I like you're pool idea. I'll pass that along. I'm

going to try and catch my husband when he's in a calm state of mind & have a

discussion.

Thanks,

Liz

Houston

<cmcintosh5@...> wrote:

OH Geese.. My heart goes out to you and your son.. And yup even

hubby.. Its

a slap to the face.. When autism sometimes just rears its ugly head. Some

of our kids are not so co-ordinated.. And others just can't handle the

stress of even the personal competition.

Your husband has done one thing though.. Made baseball a miserable

experience... For your son. I hope he can recoup that.. And maybe they

could go to a pool?? Indoor pool or something and throw a ball back and

forth?? It doesn't go too far when it falls.. And can be an easier way to

show them how to catch A ball?? Or throw it..

What about T ball..?? How old is your boy?

Your husband thinks you are babying your son.. At least that's the way I am

sure he will read any thing that comes out of your mouth...

So.. Maybe he has a brother.. Or someone else you could whisper to...?? And

they can talk to him?

-- ( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

[Guest guest]

Liz

It's so true that this can really hurt their relationship. I'm not willing to

let that happen! I am going to (hopefully) get this resolved & make sure hubby

backs off & makes it fun to practice baseball. Gee.......he's not tryong out

for the NBA or anything!

How did do in calculus? I almost failed it in college....it's a tough

one!

Liz

Houston

Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote:

Hi Liz,

We had this problem when my dh worked with on calculus his

last year in high school. I tried to get his dad alone before he

started work with him and tell him, " I find it helpful to talk with

using " I statements " and lots of quiet repetition. " That

seemed to help. On days where I didn't manage to snag him, it was

awful. I think these episodes do have the potential to affect a

child's relationship to his parent. I hope your dh can reconsider.

Good luck.

Liz

On Mar 27, 2007, at 8:35 PM, lizs.1234 wrote:

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

[Guest guest]

Robin,

You weren't harsh. I think my husband believes my son has the ability to

choose how he will behave, like he can put his Asperger's in a broom closet for

baseball practice. I think my husband may have read a few things about AS on

line but definitely no books or serious AS research. He thinks I do enough AS

studying for both of us. It makes me mad....and he knows it. But what can I

do? I wish I could make him learn about AS and then we'd discuss what

approaches would work best for our son. And I just work up from my dream!

Hehe!

I'll keep you updated on how baseball season goes!

Thanks,

Liz

Houston

Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote:

After reading what I wrote,,,,,I feel like I sounded harsh. Sorry.

I think guys, for the most part, see a problem and want to work on it and/or fix

it. I'm not saying the way he's behaving with your son should be

excused,,,,,,,,but he sounds like a man who wants the best for his son and wants

to spend time with him.......but has to deal with a sucky disorder. He's got a

lot of " coming to terms " to deal with. One of the responses to you that I just

read said something about talking to him before hand. Is this possible - to

remind him to " take it easy " ? My husband is like this with homework, too. Still

can't understand that our son just can't always " sit down and just do it " . I'm

always the " whisperer " in the backround saying, " quieter " ........or, " please

stop being so loud " ...or whatever.

I wish the best for all of you.

Robin

" lizs.1234 " <lizs.1234@...> wrote:

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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[Guest guest]

Liz,

To make a long story short, we finally hired a tutor from a local

university. He was great. He was a real geek, and loved him.

He's going into an MD/PhD program next year. Dad and still

worked together sometimes. did pretty well with calculus. It

was the first math class that was a real stretch for him.

Liz

On Mar 27, 2007, at 10:25 PM, Liz S wrote:

> Liz

> It's so true that this can really hurt their relationship. I'm not

> willing to let that happen! I am going to (hopefully) get this

> resolved & make sure hubby backs off & makes it fun to practice

> baseball. Gee.......he's not tryong out for the NBA or anything!

> How did do in calculus? I almost failed it in

> college....it's a tough one!

> Liz

> Houston

[Guest guest]

I got my daughter into a Challenger T-Ball League, and her dad loves

going there with her. It's similar to Special Olympics, but it's for

kids with any disability, not specifically MR.

Meira

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of

baseball. His Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at

him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I got my daughter into a Challenger T-Ball League, and her dad loves

going there with her. It's similar to Special Olympics, but it's for

kids with any disability, not specifically MR.

Meira

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of

baseball. His Dad has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

back

> yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

> listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at

him

> or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his

Dad.

> He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries

with

> hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My

husband

> will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy.

Everyone

> is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

> Anyone else go through this?

> Liz

> Houston

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

A tutor is a GREAT idea. I've been teaching on and off for twenty

years (mostly off for the last few years), and teaching my own child-

well this one anyway- is just too much, too emotionally charged.

Meira

>

> > Liz

> > It's so true that this can really hurt their relationship. I'm

not

> > willing to let that happen! I am going to (hopefully) get this

> > resolved & make sure hubby backs off & makes it fun to practice

> > baseball. Gee.......he's not tryong out for the NBA or anything!

> > How did do in calculus? I almost failed it in

> > college....it's a tough one!

> > Liz

> > Houston

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

Hi Liz, (((hugs))).

Going to be on some local YMCA team or something? How is he doing

there so far?

How long do the practice for? Maybe if they start out by saying

every day at 6pm they'll have a 15 min practice your son might stay

more focused. And you can talk with him and tell him dad LOVES

baseball and to make practice enjoyable for dad.

However, if your son isn't doing great at catching or batting and dad

is getting upset, ask dad if he's giving any approval at all during

practice. No one wants to hear constant critcism, why try then? I

had to learn to say " that's better! " even if it wasn't and to

offer " suggestions " after giving a couple positive feedbacks. If

catching is a problem, maybe start a game of some kind. Stand close

and toss back & forth. After success, each take a step back and

toss, etc.

I have 3 sons, am a single mom. Dad wasn't involved. My Aspie and

his twin played baseball from the early age on up until it got to the

point that the kids were pitching...what's that, around age 10 or

so?? Anyway, I do think that the " multi-tasking " involved in

baseball was a bit hard for my son. But he loved " playing. " He's

not the athletic type though (other 2 are).

SIGH, things to do. Keep us updated on the situation.

Will say also, quickly, I've seen dads do that over the years at the

practices & games - get upset and even punish, have them sit down,

etc. (dads coaching their kids teams sometimes) Was not pretty to

watch. I really think it affected relationships.

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad

has

> been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a

boy.

> My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the

[Guest guest]

If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he won't try and

he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up miserable every baseball

season. Your dh has to surely realize that and knock it off. Tell him to go

join an adult team and have fun. I couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY

team. I was a tomboy growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play

sports. Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

Roxanna

( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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[Guest guest]

If he doesn't have fun playing ball, he won't be good at it and he won't try and

he will quit as soon as he can. He will also grow up miserable every baseball

season. Your dh has to surely realize that and knock it off. Tell him to go

join an adult team and have fun. I couldn't wait for one of my kids to join ANY

team. I was a tomboy growing up and figured I would enjoy watching my kids play

sports. Not one has yet. I am disappointed but that's just how it is working

out.

Roxanna

( ) father-son baseball practice causing tears

My seven year old just started his 1st season of baseball. His Dad has

been waiting for this since my ultrasound showed we were having a boy.

My DH lives for baseball! Well, they've begun practicing in the back

yard & things are getting hairy. My son gets silly, doesn't always

listen, or have his heart in it. My husband gets PO'd and yells at him

or says he won't practice with him because he won't listen to his Dad.

He ends the practice bysending our son to his room! Our son cries with

hurt feelings & doesn't get why his Dad is so frustrated. My husband

will NOT listen to me when I ask him to go easier on the boy. Everyone

is upset & I'm worried about how this will effect our son.

Anyone else go through this?

Liz

Houston

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