RE: My intro and a question

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Suzanne,

My heart is truly bleeding for you! Got rope?(j/k) I'll be soooo glad when

they get this respite facility set up in our county! There are alot of places

that have respite services for kids like ours so we can have a break once in

awhile, you usually have to go through your county mental health services to get

the info, and alot of times they will even fund the respite for you, worth

looking in to anyway. If you live near me, I would take him a day =) I live in

MN, twin cities area.

Theresa

Suzanne <suzannex6@...> wrote:

Theresa ,

Sounds like your Jake and my Reggie are a lot alike. We tried to let him

have a place to go to escape from his siblings but he has a tendency of

breaking things just because they are there. Like this morning, the 3 boys

were up about 8 and Reggie went to the basement destroyed the puzzle his

sister was working on and broke his brother's hover craft, for no apparent

reason. He is so destructive when he is alone we really can't let him be by

himself. The main bathroom is off limits to him without supervision because

of the disappearing shampoo, body wash, shaving cream and tooth paste. He

would empty out the bottles and fill them with water so he could shoot out

the light bulbs. He paints the window and mirrors with stuff, likes the way

the toilet water changes color with the body washes. Decorated the wood work

one day with a pen that was the prize possession of the day, we should have

known he was up to something when he kept saying he was drying off and

getting dress for 20 minutes. We were so naive but I hate to always think

the worse. We use to let him go to the basement in the morning to watch TV

or play Nintendo so he could be alone, but he has removed all the buttons

from the remote and pushed all the buttons in on the TV. We would find food

packages opened and partly eaten and then placed back on the pantry shelf,

almost thought we had mice again. He even drank some barbecue sauce one day

and put it back on the shelf.

Sorry, wow I think I have a few years of pent up frustrations........ Did

his doctor really think just giving me more pills would actually help...

ARGH!!! Reggie is now on 5 different pills throughout the day and I hate

having him on so much but I don't think we would survive with out the meds.

I do realize that he does feel threatened by just about everything in his

environment but how do I get him past that so we can all survive. I am

going to have the 3 year old moved next week because he is a challenge for

all of us and it's not getting any better, he's been here 4 months and I

swear he has AS or something similar too. We had a major incident with him

yesterday so it is time for him to move on.

I know as our coping skills and intervention skills improve things will get

better but I wish I could learn everything I need to know right now. I don't

want too much do I?

Suzanne

-- Re: ( ) My intro and a question

Reggie is 9 years old. I really thought for the longest time it was

something we were doing that was causing him to get so upset. I wish I could

leave him with our 15 year old but I'm not sure he could be calm for her

either. When my oldest daughter is not working he stays with her and most

times he is okay but there are times he gets nasty with her. I just hope and

pray we learn the skills we need to deal with him before it's too late.

Suzanne