Re: help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

[Guest guest]

A book which might help is called " the explosive

Child " by Greene. This book helps explains the

origins of meltdowns and strategies to help avoid

them.

--- bswch44 <bswch44@...> wrote:

---------------------------------

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs

old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on

with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it

is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having

meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I

don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we

get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate

being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes

me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must

think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands

the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it

is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of

the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums

just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/21/2005 10:18:35 PM Eastern Standard Time,

bswch44@... writes:

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

In my experience yes. My older son used to have tantrums quite often when

frustrated. He is now 15 and still has an occasional angry outburst that can

be difficult to handle. I think for right now avoiding the situation that is

causing the tantrum and keeping your son safe is important. You may want to

get him evaluated by a therapist and get some help dealing with his anger.

This is a great book you may want to pick up:

_Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums,

Rage, and Meltdowns_

(http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0967251435/childdevelopme09)

[Guest guest]

Yes, mine is almost 13, still has outbursts/ it used to be more meltdowns

when he was younger (what we coined behaving like a cooked noodle, now it is

more outbursts. Geodon has helped quite a bit.

And explaining, explaining, explaining, explaining, explaining ...you get

the gist.

F

" Few people have the imagination for reality "

- Goethe

Re: ( ) help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

In a message dated 11/21/2005 10:18:35 PM Eastern Standard Time,

bswch44@... writes:

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

In my experience yes. My older son used to have tantrums quite often when

frustrated. He is now 15 and still has an occasional angry outburst that

can

be difficult to handle. I think for right now avoiding the situation that

is

causing the tantrum and keeping your son safe is important. You may want

to

get him evaluated by a therapist and get some help dealing with his anger.

This is a great book you may want to pick up:

_Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums,

Rage, and Meltdowns_

(HYPERLINK

" http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0967251435/childdevelopme09) " http://

www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0967251435/childdevelopme09)

[Guest guest]

Hi!! All the tantrums new?? And the reasons for them could be due

to Aspergers, certainly. One reason I'm wondering if they are new or

not (that can also be the age/stage they are going through).

Once you learn more about Aspergers/autism and can relate it to your

son, things will get better!! You'll find better ways to respond to

him, how to prevent some of the blow-ups from happening, etc. It'll

take a bit of time for some things, but it'll improve!

(who has also yelled at my kids!

single mom, 3 sons - oldest is 20; twins age 16, one with OCD,

dysgraphia and Aspergers)

>

> Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we

have

> just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We,

as

> in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is

Asperger's.

> They are still assessing him, etc.

>

> Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

> tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

> take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up

in

> almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind

of

> mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel

worse

> is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

>

> I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

> acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting.

My

> mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

>

> Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole

thing? I

> don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

> thing that goes along with this syndrome??

>

[Guest guest]

Hi-

These wonderful trying kids can try the patience of a saint. Is he constanting

questioning and/or arguing with you?

I was totally in your shoes. Don't yell - believe me I've done more than you

but it is not worth it. It does not work for them as most of these kids are

sensitive to noise so yelling actually hurts them.

Hugs,

Noreen

>

> Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we have

> just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We, as

> in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is Asperger's.

> They are still assessing him, etc.

>

> Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

> tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

> take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up in

> almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind of

> mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel worse

> is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

>

> I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

> acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting. My

> mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

>

> Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

> don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

> thing that goes along with this syndrome??

>

[Guest guest]

A book which might help is called " the explosive

Child " by Greene. This book helps explains the

origins of meltdowns and strategies to help avoid

them.

--- bswch44 <bswch44@...> wrote:

---------------------------------

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs

old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on

with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it

is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having

meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I

don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we

get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate

being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes

me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must

think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands

the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it

is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of

the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums

just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

[Guest guest]

My son is 7 1/2 and tantums do come with the diagnosis. I believe that they

are caused from the child trying so hard to " keep it all together. " It is

very hard for a child with As to understand the social graces that make up

so much of our lives. The entire world is social. Work,School,

family,friends, etc... My Dr tells me with my son to avoid the knock down

drag out fights. I am quote " wasting my breath. " I understand totally how

you feel but there may be some help available. Have you joined a local

support group? If not that's a good start. It is important that you know you

aren't alone. Ya know, even parents that have children with no disabilities

have a hard time " keeping all together all the time. " Don't be to hard on

yourself. It is hard and We all understand cause we are there too. Did your

son get formally diagnosed through a doctor? If so what kind of doctor? My

son was diagnosed through a Nuero Devel. Specialist. Your first concern

needs to be is the diagnosis correct. If you are comfortable it is your

doctor should be telling you if your son has other issues that need to be

addressed through therapy. Know we are here for you and hear you.

Ann

( ) help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

[Guest guest]

Did I write this post? Everything that you wrote in your letter is everything I

am going through right now. I think my neighbors have to think I'm a horrible

mom, even though they know what Jake has been dx with. I'm a single mom also

and am at my wits end. It seems like there are days the only thing I get done

doing is yelling and screaming, then crying myself to sleep because I feel so

guilty for doing it. I know Jake can't help acting out but after a few hours of

the crying, screaming, kicking and hitting I lose it. I'm so glad Im not alone.

I just wish I could hurry the social security office so Jake can start getting

wrap around services JUlie

( ) help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

[Guest guest]

He hasn't been formally diagnosed yet.

We just started...so far he has seen a psych. and she agrees w/ me about the

Asperger's. Or it could be PDD or Childhood Disintigration Disorder. She wants

I.Q. testing to help better determine.

Easter Seals <easterseals@...> wrote:

My son is 7 1/2 and tantums do come with the diagnosis. I believe that they

are caused from the child trying so hard to " keep it all together. " It is

very hard for a child with As to understand the social graces that make up

so much of our lives. The entire world is social. Work,School,

family,friends, etc... My Dr tells me with my son to avoid the knock down

drag out fights. I am quote " wasting my breath. " I understand totally how

you feel but there may be some help available. Have you joined a local

support group? If not that's a good start. It is important that you know you

aren't alone. Ya know, even parents that have children with no disabilities

have a hard time " keeping all together all the time. " Don't be to hard on

yourself. It is hard and We all understand cause we are there too. Did your

son get formally diagnosed through a doctor? If so what kind of doctor? My

son was diagnosed through a Nuero Devel. Specialist. Your first concern

needs to be is the diagnosis correct. If you are comfortable it is your

doctor should be telling you if your son has other issues that need to be

addressed through therapy. Know we are here for you and hear you.

Ann

( ) help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??

[Guest guest]

Hi, It's really hard for me to keep it together sometimes I just want to throw

in the towel, but my son is so sweet. (when he is not having one of his tantrum)

I just wish there was a solution to this. The behavorial specialist we are

seeing just keep giving medication to try and control some of the things that he

does, but with little or no effect. I personally want to quit the med's but it's

the only choice that I appear to have. My son is also (as well as myself) is

dealing with the lost of his mother to breast cancer, so we have double the

trouble. I'm sure it will all be good in the end but for now it's tough.

Schetrompf <bswch44@...> wrote:

He hasn't been formally diagnosed yet.

We just started...so far he has seen a psych. and she agrees w/ me about the

Asperger's. Or it could be PDD or Childhood Disintigration Disorder. She wants

I.Q. testing to help better determine.

Easter Seals <easterseals@...> wrote:

My son is 7 1/2 and tantums do come with the diagnosis. I believe that they

are caused from the child trying so hard to " keep it all together. " It is

very hard for a child with As to understand the social graces that make up

so much of our lives. The entire world is social. Work,School,

family,friends, etc... My Dr tells me with my son to avoid the knock down

drag out fights. I am quote " wasting my breath. " I understand totally how

you feel but there may be some help available. Have you joined a local

support group? If not that's a good start. It is important that you know you

aren't alone. Ya know, even parents that have children with no disabilities

have a hard time " keeping all together all the time. " Don't be to hard on

yourself. It is hard and We all understand cause we are there too. Did your

son get formally diagnosed through a doctor? If so what kind of doctor? My

son was diagnosed through a Nuero Devel. Specialist. Your first concern

needs to be is the diagnosis correct. If you are comfortable it is your

doctor should be telling you if your son has other issues that need to be

addressed through therapy. Know we are here for you and hear you.

Ann

( ) help...I am dealing with meltdowns too

Hi everyone! I also need some advice. My son is 8 yrs old and we have

just recently become aware of what may be going on with him. We, as

in myself, family, friends and counselors, are sure it is Asperger's.

They are still assessing him, etc.

Anyway....I need help!!! My son is also having meltdowns,

tantrums...whatever you want to call them...and I don't think I can

take it anymore. I also end up yelling at him and we get caught up in

almost screaming matches with each other. I hate being this kind of

mother, and don't know what to do anymore. What makes me feel worse

is that goodness knows what my neighbors above me must think.

I am a single mom...with nobody that fully understands the way he

acts. Nobody believes me when I tell them how bad it is getting. My

mother says it is my fault for yelling at him.

Does ANYONE relate??? Is this just another part of the whole thing? I

don't know enough about Asperger's yet...are tantrums just another

thing that goes along with this syndrome??