Re: soon to be 13 yr. old son with Aspergers.

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ladyofshalottrd <ladyofshalottrd@...> wrote:

Hi

As the mom of an 18 yr old with AS I understand

what you are feeling.I think a combination

of adolesence testosterone and AS are a perplexing

combination.Like you I elected not to have my son

put on stronger drugs.It hasn't been easy .Espcially in

his younger teen years he exploded constantly.

The behavior has lessened over the last few years.

He graduates from HS this month.

Hang in there you are not alone.

Michele-mom of Heath 18

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We are in this now -well, for a while now - Our ds was to the point for hitting

me. I mean full fist black eyes. I too would have said - not my kid. Well

the psych put our son on Risperdal. It is a mood leveling drug. He figures he

will need it for about 1 1/2 years. They say that the kids have a hard time

normally processing stuff - then the hormones rage and it sends them over the

edge so to speak. It is not perfect her, but it is a lot better than it was.

( ) soon to be 13 yr. old son with Aspergers.

I am wondering if anyone has a son with Aspergers on the high end,

who

is going thru puberty , or has gone thru pubert.He will be 13 next

month. My Son is becoming very aggitated, and impatient. He was

diagnosed with Aspergers when he was in second grade. Up to now, it

hasn't been bad. He is very intellegent, We basically have been

working

on social issues. Now he is suddenly becoming very impatient and just

not himself at all. He actually swore at me a few times, when his

anger

got out of hand, he has done some things that as his Mother, I would

have been one of those who says, no way! Not my Son! Not anymore. Has

an answer for everything. My problem is they want to change his meds.

They want to put him on Abilify. It is used for Bipolar, and

Phcysophrenia. (spelled wrong ) sorry) I have a real problem with

them putting him on such a

strong drug. Believe me, I haven't had a lot of luck in my family

with

phyciatrist and medication. Can someone talk to me, or let me know

how

they handled thier situation? Or just let me know what to look for. I

am afraid of this drug and its potential side effects. I decided to

not

put him on it.

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My son is 14 and has always had a level of anger issues. It definitely

worsened during puberty. He still has episodes of anger. He is currently

involved in therapy and we are awaiting a psychiatric evaluation (with one of

the

agency psychiatrists). We have a private psychiatrist but I'm trying to keep

services all inclusive for now. My son seems to get " manicky " when he is in

these episodes. I am thinking they will prescribe some kind of mood

stabilizer. I'm not going to refuse it because my son had admitted that he

cannot

control his anger. He was suspended last week for physically attacking another

student (this is the second time he attacked this kid. He apparently busts

my son's chops). My son's view on this is that he hates this kid and has the

right to " attack " him physically. This type of thinking really worries me.

Pam

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yup that's what I'm fearing. He has had these behaviors for a while now,

but my private psychiatrist just never really thought it was BP. I really

respect his opinions, but I think getting another evaluation at this point can

not hurt.

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Oh, Pam.

Sounds like you might have one with BP. I'm so sorry. My son is only seven,

and he has to be medicated for this reason.

Best wishes with the evaluation.

T.

mom of Sasha, 7, AS, BP, CP -- heavily medicated, anger issues ... but the

diet is helping, as is ABA

At 09:17 AM 5/14/2005 -0400, you wrote:

>My son is 14 and has always had a level of anger issues. It definitely

>worsened during puberty. He still has episodes of anger. He is currently

>involved in therapy and we are awaiting a psychiatric evaluation (with

>one of the

>agency psychiatrists). We have a private psychiatrist but I'm trying to

>keep

>services all inclusive for now. My son seems to get " manicky " when he is in

>these episodes. I am thinking they will prescribe some kind of mood

>stabilizer. I'm not going to refuse it because my son had admitted that

>he cannot

>control his anger. He was suspended last week for physically attacking

>another

>student (this is the second time he attacked this kid. He apparently busts

>my son's chops). My son's view on this is that he hates this kid and has

>the

>right to " attack " him physically. This type of thinking really worries me.

>Pam

>

>

>

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In a message dated 5/14/2005 9:18:06 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

ppanda65@... writes:

second time he attacked this kid. He apparently busts

my son's chops). My son's view on this is that he hates this kid and has

the

right to " attack " him physically. This type of thinking really worries me.

Pam

oh boy Pam

I hope this can be worked out!

its hard watching them put up with the

bullying etc....

and I know how frustrating it can be

to sometime keep cool.

I hope you find a happy medium

JoANNE

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Pam,

I have a 18y/o adopted korean son, dx'ed with AS/AXIENTY/OCD at 9 or 10yrs. of

age. We dealt with pys. rages in school and home. He started with heavy meds.

(with trials of many meds.), with weekly pschy. theraphy. We had a wonderful

school who worked with us keeping him main streamed. He learned social cues very

well thru the yrs. along with learning to deal with our world. There have been

many ups and downs, but now he's getting ready to gruad. with high honors from

school and will be entering college this fall. The college is 9hrs. away, so I

don't know how well it will work. He is majoring in engineering. alot of math

with he does well, but we will find out if it's too much stress. He may have to

come back home and attend one of the many colleges around us, and comute from

home. I have to say right now he is stressed knowing the big changes coming on

top of the usual teen attitudes. Our whole purpose is to get him to a point he

can work and provide a good living for himself and a

potential wife in the future. Which I feel this will happen at some time. His

meds. have changed and decreased over the yrs. he manages his own meds. He knows

when he can use less or may need more at times.

Connie T.

Tombrello <suso903tomb@...> wrote:

Oh, Pam.

Sounds like you might have one with BP. I'm so sorry. My son is only seven,

and he has to be medicated for this reason.

Best wishes with the evaluation.

T.

mom of Sasha, 7, AS, BP, CP -- heavily medicated, anger issues ... but the

diet is helping, as is ABA

At 09:17 AM 5/14/2005 -0400, you wrote:

>My son is 14 and has always had a level of anger issues. It definitely

>worsened during puberty. He still has episodes of anger. He is currently

>involved in therapy and we are awaiting a psychiatric evaluation (with

>one of the

>agency psychiatrists). We have a private psychiatrist but I'm trying to

>keep

>services all inclusive for now. My son seems to get " manicky " when he is in

>these episodes. I am thinking they will prescribe some kind of mood

>stabilizer. I'm not going to refuse it because my son had admitted that

>he cannot

>control his anger. He was suspended last week for physically attacking

>another

>student (this is the second time he attacked this kid. He apparently busts

>my son's chops). My son's view on this is that he hates this kid and has

>the

>right to " attack " him physically. This type of thinking really worries me.

>Pam

>

>

>

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Michele <psychonurse66@...> wrote:

ladyofshalottrd <ladyofshalottrd@...> wrote:

Hi

As the mom of an 18 yr old with AS I understand

what you are feeling.I think a combination

of adolesence testosterone and AS are a perplexing

combination.Like you I elected not to have my son

put on stronger drugs.It hasn't been easy .Espcially in

his younger teen years he exploded constantly.

The behavior has lessened over the last few years.

He graduates from HS this month.

Hang in there you are not alone.

Michele-mom of Heath 18

I am behind in reading posts (again...) but want to suggest looking into books

that teach kids about anger, anxiety, etc. I know Tony Attwood has a few out

now doing this and using a cognitive therapy approach.

My ds is 16 yo now and HFA. I used to joke (feebly): This is your teen; this

is your teen on autism. lol. It just seemed to sum up my circumstance. But we

are still here and still surviving life. I do know that the cognitive behavior

approach works with my ds, with his age and his view on life.

hang in there!

Roxanna

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ppanda65@... wrote:My son is 14 and has always had a level of anger issues.

It definitely

worsened during puberty. He still has episodes of anger. He is currently

involved in therapy and we are awaiting a psychiatric evaluation (with one of

the

agency psychiatrists). We have a private psychiatrist but I'm trying to keep

services all inclusive for now. My son seems to get " manicky " when he is in

these episodes. I am thinking they will prescribe some kind of mood

stabilizer. I'm not going to refuse it because my son had admitted that he

cannot

control his anger. He was suspended last week for physically attacking another

student (this is the second time he attacked this kid. He apparently busts

my son's chops). My son's view on this is that he hates this kid and has the

right to " attack " him physically. This type of thinking really worries me.

Pam

Oh, sounds like you are not having a good time lately, Pam! One time Royce got

into a fight in middle school. But it was only once and it led to the aide and

that ended that. But I deal with the inflexible thinking part a lot - that the

blame never lies with my child and he is always justified for doing what he did.

Both of the boys are like that. What a perspective!

Roxanna

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In a message dated 5/31/2005 8:48:02 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

roxanna_neely@... writes:

Oh, sounds like you are not having a good time lately, Pam! One time Royce

got into a fight in middle school. But it was only once and it led to the

aide and that ended that. But I deal with the inflexible thinking part a lot

- that the blame never lies with my child and he is always justified for

doing what he did. Both of the boys are like that. What a perspective!

Roxanna, I'm having a ball! It has always been this way with (rigid

thinking and explosive episodes) only escalating a bit more lately. We are

involved with an agency for therapy and they are full-service (just like our

group, LOL). Someone sees , someone sees Conor and someone does a

family piece. will be having a psychiatric evaluation done by one of

their psychiatrists at the end of the month. We do have a private psych that

we pay out of pocket for, but over the last years haven't felt we made alot of

progress with him. We are trying our best to deal with this very difficult

problem, but to say it hasn't deeply effected our family unit would be a lie.

Pam