Re: I need some help!

[Guest guest]

Patti,

My heart goes out to you. I really don't know what to say. I know I am

moody but I don't think I am that moody----I think if I were you I would call

my husbands doctor and explain what you are going through. There has to be

some answers for him and for you, it would be a shame to ruin your health and

your marriage because the doctor is taking so long in making a diagnosis. I

know for me, living wondering what is wrong is worse than not knowing. Good

luck to you, I am sure that some in the group will be able to offer you more

help. Joan in PA

[Guest guest]

Dear Patti:

It must be really hard dealing with someone who is experiencing severe mood

swings. It's hard not to take it personally when you are being verbally

attacked, even when you know it's frustration and medication talking and

probably not his true feelings.

Maybe it would help to call the doctor and level with him. Tell him that you

need the results sooner than 1 month. Tell him what you're dealing with and

that for the sake of peace of mind you need the information. Usually if you

call a doctor and leave a message that you need to speak to him, they will

return your call. If the nurse asks, 'what is it regarding?' just say, 'my

husbands treatment.'

Maybe taking a break would help. Have a family member or friend stay with

the kids and your husband while you take some 'you' time to try to get things

into perspective. Even if it's just a Saturday afternoon.

There's a waterfall not too far from where I live. Sometimes I'll take some

time and just drive up there and stand on the 'scenic overlook' and not

think. Then I'll drive into town, stop and treat myself to a latte and then

come home. It might sound silly, but it helps to make me feel peaceful.

Good luck. We're here for you.

Take care,

Kathy (AIH)

Seattle area

[Guest guest]

Hi Patti,

I know that I was terrible to live with for awhile. sometimes there can be

anger and with no where to direct it, the spouse gets the brunt of it. I

would definitely call your husband's doctor. Also, if your husband is

generally a reasonable man, ask him to make a list of what he would like you

to do to help him. I know that sounds a little weird, but maybe he needs to

sit down and really think for himself. It sort of puts the ball back in his

court, but in a healthy way. Express your willingness to do whatever it

takes (as I am sure you have) and then ask for the list. Even now, my

husband and I will communicate by notes sometimes. You could even try

writing him a note instead of trying to talk to him. Is your husband on meds

now at all? You can be supportive without catering to a monster....that

probably sounds bad too....I speak from being the monster. The best thing

that my husband does for me is back me up, give me hugs without question and

he also has an acceptance of my illness and doesn't get spooked. I know it

is different for you since you are the wife and your husband is the sick one.

Maybe some of the men on this list will speak up about this. They might

have more insight.

[Guest guest]

Patti,

It sounds to me like bipolar disease(manic depressive). There is nothing

you can do for him except get him to an appropriate doc for dx and rx.

You do not sound selfish to me. Sounds like you have been very unselfish

and deserve a medal!

J

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>From: Patti McCormick <pmic@...>

>

>I need you all to help me understand.....my hubby had a endoscopy on

>Thurs., the Dr. sent him on his way and said 'don't worry, I'll see you

>in a month' who knows what that means? Anyway, what I'm dealing with

>are severe mood swings here and being blamed for everything, he says I'm

>not doing enough (that in fact I'm doing nothing) to help him. If I do

>anymore I won't be healthy myself. I am constantly researching, doing

>without sleep so he can get his, trying to keep a five yr. old quiet,

>keep two teenage girls quiet and work 12 hour shifts. One day he's on

>top of the world the next I never know. I'm trying to hang on but I

>feel like packing up and leaving, the mental exhaustion is getting too

>much...I sound selfish I know, compared to what you all deal with my

>problems are nothing, but we have been SIX months now waiting for an

>ERCP or an MRCP to get a diagnosis so he can start treatment or

>something. Sorry for babbling, I just need to know how to understand

>what he is feeling because he won't talk to me, he just gets angry and

>aims it all in my direction. Thank you so much.

>

>Patti

>

>---------------------------

[Guest guest]

Patti;

I think he should have some antidepressants. I know that it helps me.

Ofcouse when a person is sick they always take it out on the person the love

the most.

Some days I just cry because I get so crabby at everyone and I think my

family finally figured out when I am crabby or not.

This decease is bad but it can be controlled and we all know that but

somedays it is just hard to except.

Ask you husband what he would like you to do. My husband does alot of house

work and I really try but most of the time I pretty tired.

Hope this helps.

Sue AIH

Wisconsin

PS Venting your feelings is good for you!!!!

[Guest guest]

That would be awful not to know what the diagnosis is, the waiting would make

most people cranky! But remember you have to do what is the best for you too.

Call the Dr. and find out what is going on and don't take no for an answer. It

may be bad after you find out too, for a while at least. Everyone takes it

differently. I have never been a person to take it out on others so I couldn't

say. My husband is quite moody with all of his problems (health) and gets tired

easily. But I do not have to take care of young children and he doesen't expect

me to do everything. Please do what you feel is best for you and the children,

it is your life too. Lynn

BJMaes@... wrote:

> From: BJMaes@...

>

> Patti,

> My heart goes out to you. I really don't know what to say. I know I am

> moody but I don't think I am that moody----I think if I were you I would call

> my husbands doctor and explain what you are going through. There has to be

> some answers for him and for you, it would be a shame to ruin your health and

> your marriage because the doctor is taking so long in making a diagnosis. I

> know for me, living wondering what is wrong is worse than not knowing. Good

> luck to you, I am sure that some in the group will be able to offer you more

> help. Joan in PA

>

> ---------------------------

[Guest guest]

Geri:

It was 9:30 when and I got home last night from work. Ron had been

working in the yard. He was surprised when he came home on Thursday from

Madison and found that we did all the washing for him. In fact I am washing

again. I couldn't sleep. I had another attacked like Thursday but not as

bad. The first time I had the attacked I had smaller ones too. I guess I

better get someone to look into this pain. I have learned to tolerate pain

more that I ever have since getting AIH.

Well, have a nice Sunday

Sue AIH

Wisconsin

[Guest guest]

Geri:

It was 9:30 when and I got home last night from work. Ron had been

working in the yard. He was surprised when he came home on Thursday from

Madison and found that we did all the washing for him. In fact I am washing

again. I couldn't sleep. I had another attacked like Thursday but not as

bad. The first time I had the attacked I had smaller ones too. I guess I

better get someone to look into this pain. I have learned to tolerate pain

more that I ever have since getting AIH.

Well, have a nice Sunday

Sue AIH

Wisconsin

[Guest guest]

Sue,

You have a great husband! Mine tries to help but I (jokingly) tell him

he's become a slacker since he's home all the time on disability. Poor guy

has terrible back pain most of the time and it's painful for him to walk,

but he still vacuums the house and takes care of the houseplants and the

yard. He's willing to help me with anything I ask him to do. Tonight he

fixed dinner and right now he's loading the dishwasher. I do the actual

cleanup becauses he takes too many shortcuts and I'm a clean kitchen fanatic.

Take care,

Geri

[Guest guest]

Patti,

It sounds like your husband is taking out his fear and anxiety on the only

person he can trust - you. That seems to happen all too often. My Mom

turned on me, too, during the final months of her life though I was her

strongest advocate and protector. It was irrational, but she was afraid.

Even understanding didn't make it stop hurting.

Your husband's doctor needs to tell you what, if anything, he found with

the endoscopy. Can you get a copy of the report without waiting to see the

doctor? I always get copies of reports from the hospital or imaging

facility where it's done. You still need to have it interpreted properly

by the doctor, but at least you'll have a hint of what's going on. I would

also call the doctor, definitely, and tell him that you have to know the

results before the appointment, so you'd like to be informed as soon as the

final report is completed. I'd make it clear that this is what you expect,

not what you want.

What is it your husband wants you to do? You can't be sick for him, but

what will he do if you get sick from the pressure and stress? He's not

being reasonable but you know that. Is this attitude unusual for him?

Some meds cause irritability, so it might even be something that simple or

it could be that he is no longer able to handle not knowing what is going

to happen next.

My husband was a pain in the fanny when he first was disabled and couldn't

work anymore. He's not usually an unpleasant type person but he was having

his moments with increasing frequency. I got quickly fed up and reminded

him that he wasn't the first and only person in the world who had ever had

to live with chronic and severe pain. I told him he was settling in to

wither up and die. In fact, he had convinced himself that the back

problems on top of a heart attack and lung surgery all added up to his life

coming to an end. At first he didn't like it when I wouldn't allow him to

nap half of his life away and do nothing when he was awake. Now I joke

with him that he's becoming a lazy butt and he laughs with me. He managed

to get over his preoccupation with himself, thank God!

If it's taken that long for your husband's doctors just to do the

appropriate tests, maybe he needs to see someone else? If his current

doctor can't reach a conclusion, tell him that you want to get a second

opinion. In his case, it sounds like you want an opinion of some kind -

which is not what you're getting now. No wonder you are feeling a lot of

pressure.

But do lay it on the line with your husband's doctor. Tell him that both

you and your husband are going to pieces from the lack of information and

you have to know what is going on. Also, other people's advice that you

ask for outside help regarding your husband's attitude towards you is a

good idea. I don't see how you can manage to cope with that alone. Right

now you need some STRONG allies.

Take care,

Geri

[Guest guest]

Do you or your husband have a pastor, priest or rabbi to talk to?

J

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>

>HI,

>I am sorry your having such a rough time. He is

>experiencing what all of us do at one point or

>another and thats FEAR..

>Fear of the unknown

>Fear of dying

>fear of suffering the rest of our lives..

>the fears going on and on.

>I think the doctor needs to be more proactive with

>your hubby. Call him and tell him whats going on and

>have him call your hubby or make more frequent

>appointments or perhaps try an antidepressant. I dont

>know if your hubby would agree with counseling

>either..But thats an idea. There are counselors who

>specialize in people with chronic diseases. also,

>there are support groups for spouses or significant

>others who deal with chronic illnesses with their

>partners..Alzhiemer's for example.

>HUGS

>jody

>You have our support.

>

>

>

>===

>ISO B-family

>DOB 5-23-61

>b-name: Compton

>*VOTE TO RE-ESTABLISH ADOPTEES RIGHTS TO KNOW THEIR

>FAMILIES**

>

>

>

>

>

>

>---Patti McCormick <pmic@...> wrote:

> >

> > From: Patti McCormick <pmic@...>

> >

> > I need you all to help me understand.....my hubby

>had a endoscopy on

> > Thurs., the Dr. sent him on his way and said 'don't

>worry, I'll see you

> > in a month' who knows what that means? Anyway,

>what I'm dealing with

> > are severe mood swings here and being blamed for

>everything, he says I'm

> > not doing enough (that in fact I'm doing nothing)

>to help him. If I do

> > anymore I won't be healthy myself. I am constantly

>researching, doing

> > without sleep so he can get his, trying to keep a

>five yr. old quiet,

> > keep two teenage girls quiet and work 12 hour

>shifts. One day he's on

> > top of the world the next I never know. I'm trying

>to hang on but I

> > feel like packing up and leaving, the mental

>exhaustion is getting too

> > much...I sound selfish I know, compared to what you

>all deal with my

> > problems are nothing, but we have been SIX months

>now waiting for an

> > ERCP or an MRCP to get a diagnosis so he can start

>treatment or

> > something. Sorry for babbling, I just need to know

>how to understand

> > what he is feeling because he won't talk to me, he

>just gets angry and

> > aims it all in my direction. Thank you so much.

> >

> > Patti

> >

> > ---------------------------

[Guest guest]

HI,

I am sorry your having such a rough time. He is

experiencing what all of us do at one point or

another and thats FEAR..

Fear of the unknown

Fear of dying

fear of suffering the rest of our lives..

the fears going on and on.

I think the doctor needs to be more proactive with

your hubby. Call him and tell him whats going on and

have him call your hubby or make more frequent

appointments or perhaps try an antidepressant. I dont

know if your hubby would agree with counseling

either..But thats an idea. There are counselors who

specialize in people with chronic diseases. also,

there are support groups for spouses or significant

others who deal with chronic illnesses with their

partners..Alzhiemer's for example.

HUGS

jody

You have our support.

===

ISO B-family

DOB 5-23-61

b-name: Compton

*VOTE TO RE-ESTABLISH ADOPTEES RIGHTS TO KNOW THEIR

FAMILIES**

---Patti McCormick <pmic@...> wrote:

>

> From: Patti McCormick <pmic@...>

>

> I need you all to help me understand.....my hubby

had a endoscopy on

> Thurs., the Dr. sent him on his way and said 'don't

worry, I'll see you

> in a month' who knows what that means? Anyway,

what I'm dealing with

> are severe mood swings here and being blamed for

everything, he says I'm

> not doing enough (that in fact I'm doing nothing)

to help him. If I do

> anymore I won't be healthy myself. I am constantly

researching, doing

> without sleep so he can get his, trying to keep a

five yr. old quiet,

> keep two teenage girls quiet and work 12 hour

shifts. One day he's on

> top of the world the next I never know. I'm trying

to hang on but I

> feel like packing up and leaving, the mental

exhaustion is getting too

> much...I sound selfish I know, compared to what you

all deal with my

> problems are nothing, but we have been SIX months

now waiting for an

> ERCP or an MRCP to get a diagnosis so he can start

treatment or

> something. Sorry for babbling, I just need to know

how to understand

> what he is feeling because he won't talk to me, he

just gets angry and

> aims it all in my direction. Thank you so much.

>

> Patti

>

> ---------------------------

[Guest guest]

susan johnson wrote:

>

> From: " susan johnson " <shireen42@...>

>

> Do you or your husband have a pastor, priest or rabbi to talk to?

> J

>

> >From: Jody Compton <intrigued1@...>

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> >From: Jody Compton <intrigued1@...>

> >

> >HI,

> >I am sorry your having such a rough time. He is

> >experiencing what all of us do at one point or

> >another and thats FEAR..

> >Fear of the unknown

> >Fear of dying

> >fear of suffering the rest of our lives..

> >the fears going on and on.

> >I think the doctor needs to be more proactive with

> >your hubby. Call him and tell him whats going on and

> >have him call your hubby or make more frequent

> >appointments or perhaps try an antidepressant. I dont

> >know if your hubby would agree with counseling

> >either..But thats an idea. There are counselors who

> >specialize in people with chronic diseases. also,

> >there are support groups for spouses or significant

> >others who deal with chronic illnesses with their

> >partners..Alzhiemer's for example.

> >HUGS

> >jody

> >You have our support.

> >

> >

> >

> >===

> >ISO B-family

> >DOB 5-23-61

> >b-name: Compton

> >*VOTE TO RE-ESTABLISH ADOPTEES RIGHTS TO KNOW THEIR

> >FAMILIES**

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >---Patti McCormick <pmic@...> wrote:

> > >

> > > From: Patti McCormick <pmic@...>

> > >

> > > I need you all to help me understand.....my hubby

> >had a endoscopy on

> > > Thurs., the Dr. sent him on his way and said 'don't

> >worry, I'll see you

> > > in a month' who knows what that means? Anyway,

> >what I'm dealing with

> > > are severe mood swings here and being blamed for

> >everything, he says I'm

> > > not doing enough (that in fact I'm doing nothing)

> >to help him. If I do

> > > anymore I won't be healthy myself. I am constantly

> >researching, doing

> > > without sleep so he can get his, trying to keep a

> >five yr. old quiet,

> > > keep two teenage girls quiet and work 12 hour

> >shifts. One day he's on

> > > top of the world the next I never know. I'm trying

> >to hang on but I

> > > feel like packing up and leaving, the mental

> >exhaustion is getting too

> > > much...I sound selfish I know, compared to what you

> >all deal with my

> > > problems are nothing, but we have been SIX months

> >now waiting for an

> > > ERCP or an MRCP to get a diagnosis so he can start

> >treatment or

> > > something. Sorry for babbling, I just need to know

> >how to understand

> > > what he is feeling because he won't talk to me, he

> >just gets angry and

> > > aims it all in my direction. Thank you so much.

> > >

> > > Patti

> > >

> > > ---------------------------

[Guest guest]

Pikaboo,

I was on Celexa for over a year for GAD (anxiety). It took 6 months to really

work for me. Switched to Lexapro in October. I had another period of adjustment

after that.

I found i had real bad short term memory loss for a while on Celelxa...but it

got better, I just find Lex has less sides, though i have had a lot of headaches

again lile on C.

A friend of mine has stayed on a low dose of C for anxiety and is doing really

well.

Everyone's differnt. Try giving C a good, long trial...

Faiv

> Hey guys,

> I need some help here. I have been back on Prozac for a month now.

> Went to 20 mg from 5 mg of Lex. I am brain dead, cloudy head and

> cannot remember anything, got that " push " feeling in my head all the

> time now. I sleep good, that's the only good thing.

> I was on Celexa for about 4 months prior to switching to Lex. I

> just could not afford the Lex anymore....NO coverage by the

> insurance which meant $70+ each month. Can't do it. Celexa,

> however, is $30 a month. Prozac $60. Anyway, I am asking for some

> ideas here.

> I hate to keep switching meds. What's your opinion on Celexa for

> PMS and anxiety??

>

> Pikaboo

[Guest guest]

PS- try using canadiandrugstore.com for your scrips... about 1/2 price!

i used them while uninsured, very reliable.

Faiv

> Hey guys,

> I need some help here. I have been back on Prozac for a month now.

> Went to 20 mg from 5 mg of Lex. I am brain dead, cloudy head and

> cannot remember anything, got that " push " feeling in my head all the

> time now. I sleep good, that's the only good thing.

> I was on Celexa for about 4 months prior to switching to Lex. I

> just could not afford the Lex anymore....NO coverage by the

> insurance which meant $70+ each month. Can't do it. Celexa,

> however, is $30 a month. Prozac $60. Anyway, I am asking for some

> ideas here.

> I hate to keep switching meds. What's your opinion on Celexa for

> PMS and anxiety??

>

> Pikaboo

[Guest guest]

I would recommend getting a neuropsychological evaluation doen by someone

who is very experienced in the Autism Spectrum. Pam

[Guest guest]

--- simplyandrea2 <hopesboutique@...> wrote:

> I have an 8yr old son that I believe has Asperger's.

> The old

> psychiatrist said that he saw " some " of the symptoms

> of Asperger's

> in him! Well, needless to say, we don't see him

> anymore because of

> some conflicts that we had with some of the people

> in the office. I

> just got back from an appointment with a neurologist

> and he stated

> that he didn't see any signs of Asperger's in

> him????? Let alone

> that he was pushing me to go back to him and saying

> that he is one

> of the best around. OK, not only do we see it, but

> my friends see

> it and his school sees it! I am just not sure as

> what to do with

> this anymore. I so much want to help my son and

> want to see him

> happy! I just can not seem to find anyone that CAN

> help him! If

> you guys have any advise please let me know. I am

> going to run

> through and list some of the things that I see in

> him.

> 1. Can't deal with change

> 2. Very literal....ask him if its raining cats and

> dogs and he tells

> you that is not possible!

> 3. No eye to eye contact

> 4. No social relationships....can't tell me names of

> children

> 5. would rather play by himself than with

> other's.........not to

> mention that when he is at the bus stop with the

> other children he

> is the one by himself, talking to himself and

> playing something, not

> sure what he is playing because it looks as though

> his arms are

> waving all around and so on

> 6. He looks like he is just starring into

> space.....these are just a

> few of the things that " WE " have seen in him at

> home.

> Thanks for your time and help in advance!

>

>

>

>

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I highly recomend taking him in to have a psychological evaluation. My son

who too is eight recently had this done. It was a three hour ordeal with

breaks. It was the wises thing I have ever done for my son. We have gone

through three phycs before we finally got one with a brain and compastion.

We have been going through all of this since my son was 4. I completely

understand your frustation. Feel free to contact me anytime! Shana

>From: " simplyandrea2 " <hopesboutique@...>

>Reply-

>

>Subject: ( ) I need some help!

>Date: Mon, 05 Jun 2006 18:12:56 -0000

>

>I have an 8yr old son that I believe has Asperger's. The old

>psychiatrist said that he saw " some " of the symptoms of Asperger's

>in him! Well, needless to say, we don't see him anymore because of

>some conflicts that we had with some of the people in the office. I

>just got back from an appointment with a neurologist and he stated

>that he didn't see any signs of Asperger's in him????? Let alone

>that he was pushing me to go back to him and saying that he is one

>of the best around. OK, not only do we see it, but my friends see

>it and his school sees it! I am just not sure as what to do with

>this anymore. I so much want to help my son and want to see him

>happy! I just can not seem to find anyone that CAN help him! If

>you guys have any advise please let me know. I am going to run

>through and list some of the things that I see in him.

>1. Can't deal with change

>2. Very literal....ask him if its raining cats and dogs and he tells

>you that is not possible!

>3. No eye to eye contact

>4. No social relationships....can't tell me names of children

>5. would rather play by himself than with other's.........not to

>mention that when he is at the bus stop with the other children he

>is the one by himself, talking to himself and playing something, not

>sure what he is playing because it looks as though his arms are

>waving all around and so on

>6. He looks like he is just starring into space.....these are just a

>few of the things that " WE " have seen in him at home.

>Thanks for your time and help in advance!

>

>

>

>

>

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i had the same probs with my 4 year old they kept saying adhd and now changed it

to aspergers the criteria for aspergers is the triad not the behaviours

exhibited the differance between that and autism is mostly that speech isnt

delayed and eye contact isnt criteria for diagnosis as long as he as the triad

of impairments then he will be on the autistic spectrum

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Hi!

My son, Max, wasn't diagnosed until 5 for PDD/AS. He

was seen by professionals for 2-1/2 years up until

then, and no one pointed out echolailia or even gave

me a " maybe " for PDD. I'm not saying they didn't know

their stuff, but as someone else pointed out, they

weren't versed in the autism spectrum.

You might find it incredible, in this day and age, to

have a professional developmental specialist who is

fairly unaware of ASD's. But it happens a lot.

I agree that if you see a neuropsych (not a

neurologist), a psychiatrist, etc., they should be

versed in the autism spectrum. Many have benefitted

from a neuropsych. eval., so that'd be a logical

starting point.

From your email, it seems like you know, or at least

have a hunch that AS is likely. Whoever you see, you

(and your husband) know best. You see him the most. I

think the people I took him to didn't see AS because

they sat with him for only 15 mins. or so. I see him

24/7. When people were telling me " It's nothing " , I

knew better. I'm not a doctor or an expert in autism,

but I'm an expert in Max. I see him the most. I know

him (as his father does, too).

- Adrienne

--- simplyandrea2 <hopesboutique@...> wrote:

> I have an 8yr old son that I believe has Asperger's.

> The old

> psychiatrist said that he saw " some " of the symptoms

> of Asperger's

> in him! Well, needless to say, we don't see him

> anymore because of

> some conflicts that we had with some of the people

> in the office. I

> just got back from an appointment with a neurologist

> and he stated

> that he didn't see any signs of Asperger's in

> him????? Let alone

> that he was pushing me to go back to him and saying

> that he is one

> of the best around. OK, not only do we see it, but

> my friends see

> it and his school sees it! I am just not sure as

> what to do with

> this anymore. I so much want to help my son and

> want to see him

> happy! I just can not seem to find anyone that CAN

> help him! If

> you guys have any advise please let me know. I am

> going to run

> through and list some of the things that I see in

> him.

> 1. Can't deal with change

> 2. Very literal....ask him if its raining cats and

> dogs and he tells

> you that is not possible!

> 3. No eye to eye contact

> 4. No social relationships....can't tell me names of

> children

> 5. would rather play by himself than with

> other's.........not to

> mention that when he is at the bus stop with the

> other children he

> is the one by himself, talking to himself and

> playing something, not

> sure what he is playing because it looks as though

> his arms are

> waving all around and so on

> 6. He looks like he is just starring into

> space.....these are just a

> few of the things that " WE " have seen in him at

> home.

> Thanks for your time and help in advance!

>

>

>

>

>

>

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,

Yes it does sound like Asperger's. I am a 27 yrs old woman diagnosed with

Asperger's officially 6 months ago. Can you tell me where you live like

town/state not actual street address of course? I'll see if I can find some

professionals in your area or state who would be happy to make a

professional official diagnosis.

Nikki Lynn

( ) I need some help!

I have an 8yr old son that I believe has Asperger's. The old

psychiatrist said that he saw " some " of the symptoms of Asperger's

in him! Well, needless to say, we don't see him anymore because of

some conflicts that we had with some of the people in the office. I

just got back from an appointment with a neurologist and he stated

that he didn't see any signs of Asperger's in him????? Let alone

that he was pushing me to go back to him and saying that he is one

of the best around. OK, not only do we see it, but my friends see

it and his school sees it! I am just not sure as what to do with

this anymore. I so much want to help my son and want to see him

happy! I just can not seem to find anyone that CAN help him! If

you guys have any advise please let me know. I am going to run

through and list some of the things that I see in him.

1. Can't deal with change

2. Very literal....ask him if its raining cats and dogs and he tells

you that is not possible!

3. No eye to eye contact

4. No social relationships....can't tell me names of children

5. would rather play by himself than with other's.........not to

mention that when he is at the bus stop with the other children he

is the one by himself, talking to himself and playing something, not

sure what he is playing because it looks as though his arms are

waving all around and so on

6. He looks like he is just starring into space.....these are just a

few of the things that " WE " have seen in him at home.

Thanks for your time and help in advance!

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Ok this is my first round and I started on 8/29 with the injections and on 9/1 doing the 500 calorie portion. I have read that when you are menstrating you should still be doing the 500 calorie portion and stop injections. Please give me any advise you can on this part. I believe my best friend (or worst enemy, depending on how you look at it!) has just come to visit me. Is it true to only do the 500 calories and stop the injections? What if your friend stays longer than the average. Say like 7 days. Please, please help!

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So if I am still mentrating should I resume the injections?

>

> Don't go more than three days without the hCG. Continue the 500

calories during those three days without it. Don't worry, you won't

be hungry during those 3 days.

>

>  

> CC

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> I need some help!

>

>

> Ok this is my first round and I started on 8/29 with the injections

and

> on 9/1 doing the 500 calorie portion. I have read that when you are

> menstrating you should still be doing the 500 calorie portion and

stop

> injections. Please give me any advise you can on this part. I

believe

> my best friend (or worst enemy, depending on how you look at it!)

has

> just come to visit me. Is it true to only do the 500 calories and

stop

> the injections? What if your friend stays longer than the average.

Say

> like 7 days. Please, please help!

>