Guest guest Posted June 4, 2005 Report Share Posted June 4, 2005 Have anyone found a miracle treatment to help with compliance. I am really worn out by my 2.9 year-old. He began defying me at 7 months when he refused to be spoon fed by me and continues to fights me on many things. At the daycare this has never been a problem. Since he does not have functional language (even when he knows the specific names of objects he doesn't use them to communicate), for the longest time I maintained that his lack of compliance was because of his comprehension not being there. However, the care giver at the daycare says that she had no trouble what so ever with him. He is compliant with her and is one of the nicest and easiest children she has ever had. Sometime, when I am there he goes through all the NO s but she reports that as soon as I leave, he is back to his nice self. Has anyone else had an experience like that? I have always been puzzled when my 7 month-old baby began his defiance campaign (more so with me than his father) and wonder if there is anything to be done. Haleh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2005 Report Share Posted June 4, 2005 Hi Halniaz, I don't know if you've thought of this, but my friend had a similar issue and what she did was use exactly the same plates and cutlery that they used at nursery - her son was having trouble generalising - that was the problem. However.... Attended a course when first started having problems (Growing Minds) run by two behavioural scientists who used to work for Son Rise, but now use " the best of " behavioural science based on the individual child's needs. At that point I was TERRIFIED of leaving J because he was having trouble transitioning and throwing wobblies at absolutely everything from leaving the house to putting his coat on to going to nursery - you know the scene. Anyway whilst I was on the course, guess what? HE WAS AN ANGEL for his dad! When I shared this with the two therapists they pointed out that in the hundreds of kids they had worked with, attitude was everything and that our kids can smell out our weak spots better than your typical NT kid (whatever that is). Appreciate your problems though. Today was an awful day with J for me - he went backwards and started running wildly up and down stores - when I shared with my partner that this was getting to me, he said " that's because you let it " . And that's true. Found it awful hard to hear it though. Do Men understand anything (apologies to good guys such as Mikhail!!) Fight on Eileen and :X halniaz <halniaz@...> wrote: Have anyone found a miracle treatment to help with compliance. I am really worn out by my 2.9 year-old. He began defying me at 7 months when he refused to be spoon fed by me and continues to fights me on many things. At the daycare this has never been a problem. Since he does not have functional language (even when he knows the specific names of objects he doesn't use them to communicate), for the longest time I maintained that his lack of compliance was because of his comprehension not being there. However, the care giver at the daycare says that she had no trouble what so ever with him. He is compliant with her and is one of the nicest and easiest children she has ever had. Sometime, when I am there he goes through all the NO s but she reports that as soon as I leave, he is back to his nice self. Has anyone else had an experience like that? I have always been puzzled when my 7 month-old baby began his defiance campaign (more so with me than his father) and wonder if there is anything to be done. Haleh --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2005 Report Share Posted June 4, 2005 My daughter was exactly the same way. A few months ago she had an OAT through Great Plains lab and her yeast metabolites in some cases were 100% more than normal. When she started nystatin, houston chewable probiotics and we switched to the chewable enzymes, within a week she started behaving much differently with me. She is very compliant most of the time now, and nice, and doesn't hit me or her brother. Over Memorial Day weekend her grandparents bought her a huge cotton candy w/no enzymes and she went back to impossible for almost a week, but as her yeast gets more under control she is happier and easier each day. A lot of professionals thought it was behavioral or emotional (we are divorced and she has an autistic brother) but based on results, I think it was just the yeast. As for feeding her, I would leave her plate of food on a child-sized table and she would walk in and out of the kitchen and take one bite at a time with her hands. This wasn't ideal but she wouldn't eat if I fed her or made her sit down. She wouldn't even eat if I presented the food to her; I had to put it out on the table when she wasn't looking, and let her think she " found " it. (This was when she was 1 and 2, I couldn't believe it.) She is also very compliant with other caregivers. Good luck, Amy > Have anyone found a miracle treatment to help with compliance. > I am really worn out by my 2.9 year-old. He began defying me at 7 months > when he refused to be spoon fed by me and continues to fights me on many > things. At the daycare this has never been a problem. > Since he does not have functional language (even when he knows the > specific names of objects he doesn't use them to communicate), for the > longest time I maintained that his lack of compliance was because of his > comprehension not being there. However, the care giver at the daycare says > that she had no trouble what so ever with him. He is compliant with her and is > one of the nicest and easiest children she has ever had. Sometime, when I > am there he goes through all the NO s but she reports that as soon as I leave, > he is back to his nice self. > Has anyone else had an experience like that? > I have always been puzzled when my 7 month-old baby began his defiance > campaign (more so with me than his father) and wonder if there is anything to > be done. > Haleh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2005 Report Share Posted June 4, 2005 Thank you Amy. I just order the Huston chewable enzymes and probiotics yesterday and think will be here by mid next week. I hope I get the good result that you got. By the way my son used to refuse my demonstrations of toys and puzzles around 1 1/2 -2 but solve them on his own remarkably if I leave them in his room. I think that has to do with performance anxiety. Thanks again, Haleh --- noahsmom7898 <noahsmom7898@...> wrote: > My daughter was exactly the same way. A few months ago she had an > OAT through Great Plains lab and her yeast metabolites in some cases > were 100% more than normal. When she started nystatin, houston > chewable probiotics and we switched to the chewable enzymes, within > a week she started behaving much differently with me. She is very > compliant most of the time now, and nice, and doesn't hit me or her > brother. > > Over Memorial Day weekend her grandparents bought her a huge cotton > candy w/no enzymes and she went back to impossible for almost a > week, but as her yeast gets more under control she is happier and > easier each day. A lot of professionals thought it was behavioral > or emotional (we are divorced and she has an autistic brother) but > based on results, I think it was just the yeast. > > As for feeding her, I would leave her plate of food on a child-sized > table and she would walk in and out of the kitchen and take one bite > at a time with her hands. This wasn't ideal but she wouldn't eat if > I fed her or made her sit down. She wouldn't even eat if I > presented the food to her; I had to put it out on the table when she > wasn't looking, and let her think she " found " it. (This was when > she was 1 and 2, I couldn't believe it.) She is also very compliant > with other caregivers. > > Good luck, > Amy > > > > Have anyone found a miracle treatment to help with compliance. > > I am really worn out by my 2.9 year-old. He began defying me at 7 > months > > when he refused to be spoon fed by me and continues to fights me > on many > > things. At the daycare this has never been a problem. > > Since he does not have functional language (even when he knows the > > specific names of objects he doesn't use them to communicate), for > the > > longest time I maintained that his lack of compliance was because > of his > > comprehension not being there. However, the care giver at the > daycare says > > that she had no trouble what so ever with him. He is compliant > with her and is > > one of the nicest and easiest children she has ever had. Sometime, > when I > > am there he goes through all the NO s but she reports that as soon > as I leave, > > he is back to his nice self. > > Has anyone else had an experience like that? > > I have always been puzzled when my 7 month-old baby began his > defiance > > campaign (more so with me than his father) and wonder if there is > anything to > > be done. > > Haleh > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2005 Report Share Posted June 5, 2005 > Have anyone found a miracle treatment to help with compliance. For my son, compliance issues were caused by many factors. In the beginning it usually meant phenol intolerance or yeast overgrowth. Later on it meant vitamin deficiency. Now it means iron toxicity [when I reduce his IP6, his defiance issues go waaaaaaay up]. > I am really worn out by my 2.9 year-old. He began defying me at 7 months > when he refused to be spoon fed by me and continues to fights me on many > things. At the daycare this has never been a problem. Is this because they don't make demands on him? Or because he likes the structure and consistency? Or because he knows he can't get away with things? Or another reason? >>However, the care giver at the daycare says > that she had no trouble what so ever with him. He is compliant with her and is > one of the nicest and easiest children she has ever had. Sometime, when I > am there he goes through all the NO s but she reports that as soon as I leave, > he is back to his nice self. > Has anyone else had an experience like that? This sounds like he knows he can get away with it with you, but not with his daycare provider. Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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