Guest guest Posted July 25, 2008 Report Share Posted July 25, 2008 Let me know how it goes! He works with older kids. I heard him speak at a conference once and he was amazing. RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) Re: off topic question - > > > > > The best thing I've found so far is social stories and rehearsing what > to say in unexpected or difficult situations. She still can't do it > most of the time when she's anxious but it has helped reassure her to > go over the story and know she's understood and not alone, and it helps > sometimes if we've practiced what to say (but not often > > > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > Version: 8.0.138 / Virus Database: 270.5.5/1570 - Release Date: 7/24/2008 6:59 AM>No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.138 / Virus Database: 270.5.5/1570 - Release Date: 7/24/2008 6:59 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2008 Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hi Rose, I think it's similar to a stroke victim when they lose functions and have to learn to do the same thing that everyone else does, a different way. It's like they have to find a different pathway from the idea, to the words, to the expression. My daughter's way is to study social situations intensely and memorize and rehearse the inflections and phrases so she's prepared. It's a little heartbreaking but it's like she works 24/7 on her job of being a normal kid. She spends almost all her free time either watching socially-themed Disney channel shows or downstairs in her play area practicing scripts of various types of interactions with friends. She plays the roles of all the characters. I will hear her trying out a new phrase over and over and over with all different types of pitch and rise/fall of her voice until she gets it the way she wants it to sound. What's so frustrating and painful for me is the issue of her dad and the school attacking me and continuing to allege that I'm crazy or just want attention for myself trying to get her help that she doesn't really need, because how could someone so socially charming and sophisticated possibly have autism? They are stereotyping autism but they also can't appreciate the huge effort and hours of work that go into making her appear fairly NT. My daughter was explaining to me the other day how it was confusing her to no end that other parents were asking her " what's the magic word? " when she asked for something. She said she'd finally figured out the trick to know when it meant what: when the person asking has a hat and cane in their hand and is wearing a robe (may or may not have a rabbit), say " abracadabra. " When it's another person's mom or a teacher, say " please. " Amy > > Amy, how do you feel about that last post when discussing about kids learning scripts from TV ?. My son does that and applies it to life situations. most times it fits right into the conversation. (sometime not) Is this something that they are self teaching themselves? at a later time when I asked my son if he learns scripts from TV - he'll say no. but when I give an example of something that has happened. He'll say, I don't know why I did that. that leads me to think he's not aware of doing it. Also, when he talks to himself. he is roll playing it to himself first to hear how it sounds before talking to others. Its actually like he's in a play and learning his part on what to say. He is still getting speech but to help with his writing skills. ( I was told this is all connected, speech, writing, reading & spelling) but like you said, the school doesn't see it because he has a strong vocabulary. Also, same with us, if I roll play it with him first. He does > awesome !.. but I'm not always prepared to roll play everything. Some things, I don't know what is going to happen until it does. but for the next time, we can roll play it, and he'll know just what to say... But what do you think of him mimicking parts from TV ? > Rose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2009 Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 If I couldn't drive her home I would have the girl call home right before she left and let her mom or dad know she is leaving to walk home. At least that way the girl is learning some responsiblity and the parents can use their own judgement at that point. I have a babysitter that lives right behind us (their back yard and our back yard meet). When she first started babysitting around age 12 I would always call the parents when I sent her home even though she was only walking between back yards and not on the street. Vickie > > Hi, > this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home? > Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? > What would you do? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2009 Report Share Posted July 4, 2009 Sounds like you are doing a good job of it. I would have her leave before dark too. Roxanna "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke ( ) Off topic question - Hi, this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home? Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? What would you do? A Good Credit Score is 700 or Above. See yours in just 2 easy steps! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2009 Report Share Posted July 5, 2009 I agree that your doing a good job, but I would ask to call the girls mom and see whats going on(if she needs help with anything) and if she could come pick her up or walk to meet her if it is dark out. Maybe the mom has some stuff going on right now, you never know. BTW, the parent is ultimately responsible for the child in between the primary residence and wherever the kid goes. While she is in your house, she is your responsiblity, but the parent of the child is responsible for safety while traveling or while en route to wherever the child is going. The parent could be charged with neglect if something happened to her while traveling to and fro...but unfortunately, sounds like you would carry much of the guilt as a concerned neighbor. Thanks for looking out for other kids! > > > Sounds like you are doing a good job of it.? I would have her leave before dark too.? > > > > > > ?Roxanna > > " The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. " E. Burke > > > > > > > ( ) Off topic question - > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi, > > this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home? > > Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? > > What would you do? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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