I need to vent

September 13, 2007

Thanks Robin! I hated to cut off relationships with my brother

because he was family but have had to do that. He is too toxic. My

mom even has to vent about it and when she does she always says it is

his fault which makes me feel better because I don't care to cause a

problem. Thanks, Donna

> > >>

> > >> I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in

> school

> > >> for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker

> and

> > >> another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say

> to him

> > >> so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and

> choking

> > >> him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw

> the

> > >> whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was

> > >> because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what

> > >> happened.

> > >>

> > >> Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that

same

> child

> > >> punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked

> my

> > >> son what he did when the kid did that....he

said " nothing...just

> > >> cried it hurt so bad " . He said he then went and told the

> teacher.

> > >> Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the

> > >> Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would

> talk to

> > >> the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today

> and he

> > >> said " no " . It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns

when

> they

> > >> do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and not

hit

> back

> > >> but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was

> the

> > >> one hitting someone he would have been suspended.

> > >>

> > >> I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.

> > >> -Tx

> > >>

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September 13, 2007

Thanks so much. Not having a marriage partner I have trouble running

thought by someone so I appreciate your help. I usually talk to my

mom about things. Thanks, Donna

> > > >>

> > > >> I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been

in

> > school

> > > >> for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his

locker

> > and

> > > >> another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what

to say

> > to him

> > > >> so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and

> > choking

> > > >> him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A

teacher saw

> > the

> > > >> whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I

knew was

> > > >> because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked

him what

> > > >> happened.

> > > >>

> > > >> Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and

that same

> > child

> > > >> punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I

asked

> > my

> > > >> son what he did when the kid did that....he

said " nothing...just

> > > >> cried it hurt so bad " . He said he then went and told the

> > teacher.

> > > >> Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and

the

> > > >> Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he

would

> > talk to

> > > >> the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him

today

> > and he

> > > >> said " no " . It's no wonder that our children have

meltdowns when

> > they

> > > >> do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and

not hit

> > back

> > > >> but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my

son was

> > the

> > > >> one hitting someone he would have been suspended.

> > > >>

> > > >> I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.

> > > >> -Tx

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September 14, 2007

Sounds like you need to take a trip to school to meet in person and find out why your child is being beaten up and why nobody seems to care that he is being beaten up. You take good care of your son when he is at home, you send him to school expecting them to take the same amount of care of your son. Nothing less is acceptable. They need to figure out how to resolve this problem or provide an aide for your son so there is adult around to stop him from being beaten.

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Re: ( ) I need to vent

I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in school for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker and another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say to him so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and choking him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw the whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what happened.

Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that same child punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked my son what he did when the kid did that....he said "nothing...just cried it hurt so bad". He said he then went and told the teacher. Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would talk to the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today and he said "no". It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns when they do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and not hit back but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was the one hitting someone he would have been suspended.

I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.

-Tx

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September 14, 2007

-Tx, This is horrible. I agree that you should go into the school ASAP and don't leave until you SEE the complaint form filled out. Also, whenever our kids are hurt by another student.....you do not have to wait for the school to do something. You can file a police report yourself against the child. Kinda forces the issue.

Good luck. I'm waaaaay behind on my emails but I look forward to hearing how tomorrow goes at the school.

- GA

Theweaverfive@... wrote:

I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in school for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker and another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say to him so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and choking him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw the whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what happened. Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that same child punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked my son what he did when the kid did that....he said "nothing...just cried it hurt so bad". He said he then went and told the teacher. Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would talk to the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today and he said "no". It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns when they do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and not hit back but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was the one hitting someone he would have been suspended. I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.-TxSee what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage.Check out the hottest 2008 models today at Autos.

September 14, 2007

Robin.. this is a subject that you and I and several others on this

board could go round and round with for days and still NOT be done!!!!

Jackie

On Sep 12, 2007, at 9:41 PM, and/or Robin Lemke wrote:

> Yep. That happened with Ian.

> Little shits were baiting him. He took the bait.

> They were all hauled into the office and the shits sat and lied.

> There sat Ian. Saying, " Yes,,,I hit him. "

> They didnt' take into account that the boys were laughing at him,

> telling him they'd pay him $5 if Ian would fight.

> Idiots.

> Anyway,,,,,I gotta say that Ian has been doing the virtual school so

> far since the 4th. It has been incredible. It's a lot of

> work......more for me...haa haa.

> BUt,,,,,,,,,he talks. He's learning. We go to the Y....just him and

> I. He helps me around the house.

> He still wants out of schoolwork...he he.

> But,,,,,,,,he's not scrunching up his face and getting tense every

> morning in anticipation of going to school. He's not NEEDING to sit

> on teh computer for 1 hour AT LEAST after school just so he can get

> " OK " in his head that school is done for the day.

> There is no homework. If he can learn it and pass the

> " assessment " ,,,,we move on. If not,,,,we work on it longer........or

> the next day.

> HEAVEN........HEAVEN................HEAVEN.............................

> .........

> For those out there who are dealing with these little

> bullies.......don't put up with it.

> The school may try to turn it around.

> YOU have theh IEP.

> If you have to,,,,,,get some advice from a local Autism society. OR a

> lawyer.

> Heck,,,,,,,,from the sounds of some older posts,,,,,,just mention

> " lawyer " and things may change.

> Good luck.

> Robin

>

> <hunebear3@...> wrote:

>> THIS is just ONE of the reasons I'm pulling out of school!

>> That stupid " NO BULLYING " Policy is only good when the teachers and

>> Principals see fit to use it.. and it seems like it is working AGAINST

>> my son!!!

>>

>> MAKE SURE they don't bring your son in with the bully.. that's what

>> they did at my school and it only has made it worse for my son!!! Now

>> he's getting fists shaked at him BEHIND the teachers back and my son

>> is

>> told to quit being a tattle tale!!!!

>>

>> Jackie

>> On Sep 11, 2007, at 4:36 PM, and/or Robin Lemke wrote:

>>

>> > Go INTO school tomorrow and make sure they talk to the boy.

>> > Make sure they don't pull your son and the boy in the same room at

>> the

>> > same time. This makes it obvious that your son told....and lying

>> > little shits always seem to be able to " out lie " good kids.

>> > Inform them of the " NO BULLYING POLICY " that is, I believe, in most

>> > schools and maybe check out your student handbook before you go so

>> > that you can SHOW them their own policy!!!!

>> > Don't put up with it.

>> > Let us know how it goes.

>> > And remember,,,,,,,,even if the bully says something about your son

>> > being annoying or bothering him or poked him or

>> whatever,,,,,,,,gives

>> > him no right to hit or attack back. Your sons' IEP states his

>> > issues. They are asperger issues. They are a bit annoying and may

>> > not always be the right " responses " ,,,,,,,but they aren't mean and

>> > hurtful. That other boy WAS.

>> > YOU GO GIRL.

>> > Robin

>> >

>> > Theweaverfive@... wrote:

>> >>

>> >> I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in school

>> >> for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker and

>> >> another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say to

>> him

>> >> so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and choking

>> >> him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw

>> the

>> >> whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was

>> >> because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what

>> >> happened.

>> >>

>> >> Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that same

>> child

>> >> punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked my

>> >> son what he did when the kid did that....he said " nothing...just

>> >> cried it hurt so bad " . He said he then went and told the teacher.

>> >> Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the

>> >> Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would talk

>> to

>> >> the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today and

>> he

>> >> said " no " . It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns when

>> they

>> >> do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and not hit

>> back

>> >> but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was the

>> >> one hitting someone he would have been suspended.

>> >>

>> >> I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.

>> >> -Tx

>> >>

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September 14, 2007

Well said!

-------------- Original message from and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...>: --------------

Donna.

Your "vent" is right on.

It took us years, also,,,,,,but we simply don't hang with those who won't accept with us, anymore. We used to try to "fit" ourselves into the "norm-mold". We never fit. ha ha.

You know what, though? Sometimes I think that AS has made us become more REAL.

All of us go through our days. We interact, we have good times and we have bad times.

I think the "difference" that our son/family (or any family that has differences) has, has made us deal with what we want or don't want in our lives.

We don't accept anything other than "good vibes" into our "circle or friends"........this isn't to say that we don't have to deal wtih others. We do. That's life.

But,,,,,,,we have a choice as to who we allow to influence our emotional well-being.

Our "circle" would have probably been much bigger had we not been introduced to AS, ADHD, Anxiety, OCD, whatever,,,,,,,,,,but what we "got" now, is REAL.

Keep venting, Donna.

Have a super day.Robindonnaemmons999 <betty.onesbcglobal (DOT) net> wrote:

I know not everyone is able to or think it is the best route for their child but I think homeschooling is great. I did it working full time and am so glad I did. The special education teacher was locking him in closets and would laugh when he wanted out and also calling the police on him without the principal knowing. Our kids go through to much to have to put up with this also. I am also tired of family not understanding. I have disassociated myself from my brother because he has judged my son and me too many times. I am tired of my son and me feeling bad about things he says and does. He doesn't understand because he doesn't face these problems and my mom says if he did he wouldn't know what to do. On the other hand, I am glad that my other son who will probably have to help him when I am no longer here one of these days sees this and says I see what Uncle does and I sure don't want to be like him. I told my mom if for no o

ther reason this was something good that came out of it. I am a single parent and sometimes it is hard. The other people I don't understand are church people who think you can name it and claim it, chase "demons" out of your house and think you are just complaining. Sorry I had to vent. Donna > >>> >> I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in school > >> for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker and > >> another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say to him > >> so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and choking > >> him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw the > >> whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was > >> because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what > >> happened. > >> > >> Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that same child > >> punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked my > >> son what

he did when the kid did that....he said "nothing...just > >> cried it hurt so bad". He said he then went and told the teacher. > >> Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the > >> Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would talk to > >> the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today and he > >> said "no". It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns when they > >> do what they are supposed to do like tell a teacher and not hit back > >> but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was the > >> one hitting someone he would have been suspended.> >> > >> I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.> >> -Tx> >>> >>> >>> >>> >> See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage.

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September 14, 2007

Wow, that is terrible. Some people are so thoughtless- " he was

smaller than him " ...was that supposed to mean your son should have

beat up the other kid?? I don't get what people are implying when

stupid things fall out of their mouths..

As for the social skills training, I would tell them to get an autism

expert to come and set up some teaching modules and do some training

so the clueless teacher has no more excuses. If the district has no

autism expert, then they'll have to pay someone independent.

Honestly, if it is in the IEP, they have to provide a real trained

person to do it- books are not sufficient. I am so sorry- that is so

frustrating.

good luck,

Dorothy

>

> Thank you so much Robin. I tell you, I was up all night last

night crying

> thinking about him in the bathroom crying. He has had to deal

with bullying

> his whole life and it still continues even at ten years old.

>

> Another thing I am annoyed about is that he is supposed to be

getting Social

> Skills training at school per his IEP and when I have asked him

what he does

> during that time he says he plays LEGOS. I asked the teacher who

is

> supposed to be working with him and she said " , I don't know

anything about

> Aspergers. I took a class in college that touched on Austism but I

don't know

> anything about Aspergers and I don't know what to do with him. " .

What????????

> Isn't the school district supposed to find someone qualified to

administer

> social skills training? I told the diagnostician today that I

don't want just

> anyone doing it with him because if she doesn't know what she is

doing she

> could do more damage than good. She said she would give that

teacher some

> books. UGH.

>

> So not only am I dealing with the bullying issue already, I am also

dealing

> with this. These poor kids just can't get a break. The lady I

talked to at

> the school told me that child who punched my son in the testicles

was smaller

> than my son. So what????? Like punching him in the (excuse my

language)

> balls is going to hurt any less? If he was so hurt he sat in the

bathroom and

> cried, it was serious.

>

> I hate the school system.

>

> -Tx

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September 14, 2007

Ain't that the truth? Hee hee. Robin <hunebear3@...> wrote: Robin.. this is a subject that you and I and several others on this board could go round and round with for days and still NOT be done!!!!JackieOn Sep 12, 2007, at 9:41 PM, and/or Robin Lemke wrote:> Yep. That happened with Ian. > Little shits were baiting him. He took the bait.> They were all hauled into the office and the shits sat and lied. > There sat Ian. Saying, "Yes,,,I hit him."> They didnt' take into account that the boys were laughing at him, > telling him they'd pay him $5 if Ian would fight.> Idiots.> Anyway,,,,,I gotta say that Ian has been doing the virtual school so > far since the 4th. It has

been incredible. It's a lot of > work......more for me...haa haa.> BUt,,,,,,,,,he talks. He's learning. We go to the Y....just him and > I. He helps me around the house.> He still wants out of schoolwork...he he.> But,,,,,,,,he's not scrunching up his face and getting tense every > morning in anticipation of going to school. He's not NEEDING to sit > on teh computer for 1 hour AT LEAST after school just so he can get > "OK" in his head that school is done for the day.> There is no homework. If he can learn it and pass the > "assessment",,,,we move on. If not,,,,we work on it longer........or > the next day.> HEAVEN........HEAVEN................HEAVEN............................. > .........> For those out there who are dealing with these little > bullies.......don't put up with it.> The school may try to turn it

around. > YOU have theh IEP.> If you have to,,,,,,get some advice from a local Autism society. OR a > lawyer.> Heck,,,,,,,,from the sounds of some older posts,,,,,,just mention > "lawyer" and things may change.> Good luck.> Robin>> wrote:>> THIS is just ONE of the reasons I'm pulling out of school!>> That stupid "NO BULLYING" Policy is only good when the teachers and>> Principals see fit to use it.. and it seems like it is working AGAINST>> my son!!!>>>> MAKE SURE they don't bring your son in with the bully.. that's what>> they did at my school and it only has made it worse for my son!!! Now>> he's getting fists shaked at him BEHIND the teachers back and my son >> is>> told to quit being a tattle tale!!!!>>>> Jackie>> On Sep

11, 2007, at 4:36 PM, and/or Robin Lemke wrote:>>>> > Go INTO school tomorrow and make sure they talk to the boy. >> > Make sure they don't pull your son and the boy in the same room at >> the>> > same time. This makes it obvious that your son told....and lying>> > little shits always seem to be able to "out lie" good kids.>> > Inform them of the "NO BULLYING POLICY" that is, I believe, in most>> > schools and maybe check out your student handbook before you go so>> > that you can SHOW them their own policy!!!!>> > Don't put up with it.>> > Let us know how it goes.>> > And remember,,,,,,,,even if the bully says something about your son>> > being annoying or bothering him or poked him or >> whatever,,,,,,,,gives>> > him no right to hit or attack back. Your sons' IEP

states his>> > issues. They are asperger issues. They are a bit annoying and may>> > not always be the right "responses",,,,,,,but they aren't mean and>> > hurtful. That other boy WAS.>> > YOU GO GIRL.>> > Robin>> >>> > Theweaverfive@... wrote:>> >>>> >> I can certainly understand how you feel. My son has been in school>> >> for two weeks and last week he was trying to get to his locker and>> >> another child was blocking it. My son didn't know what to say to >> him>> >> so he poked the boy. The boy then started hitting him and choking>> >> him. My son was able to push the kid off of him. A teacher saw >> the>> >> whole thing and never informed me. The only reason I knew was>> >>

because my son had a red mark on his neck and I asked him what>> >> happened. >> >> >> >> Then Monday my son went to the bathroom at school and that same >> child>> >> punched him in the testicles for absolutely no reason. I asked my>> >> son what he did when the kid did that....he said "nothing...just>> >> cried it hurt so bad". He said he then went and told the teacher. >> >> Again, I was not notified. I called the school today and the>> >> Principal had not heard of either incident. He said he would talk >> to>> >> the boys. I asked my son if the Principal talked to him today and >> he>> >> said "no". It's no wonder that our children have meltdowns when >> they>> >> do what they are supposed to do like tell

a teacher and not hit >> back>> >> but then nothing is done to the bully. I'm sure if my son was the>> >> one hitting someone he would have been suspended.>> >> >> >> I am so frustrated. I don't know exactly what to do.>> >> -Tx>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >> See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage.>> >>> > Check out the hottest 2008 models today at Autos.> Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Travel. >

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<< I am very surprised your district has social skills written in an IEP. Mine won't add anything social because "their job is education, not social skills". >>

Being able to work with other people, cooperate, understand, team work, etc. is vital to one's ability to move on later in life to a real life job, earning a living on own's own, being independent. The purpose of the IDEA is in part as follows: <<Purposes.--The purposes of this title are-- ``(1)(A) to ensure that all children with disabilities have available to them a free appropriate public education that emphasizes special education and related services designed to meet their unique needs and prepare them for further education, employment, and independent living;>>

Since it is their obligation to provide services that will prepare these kids for further education, employment and independent living, they would be hard pressed to say that they don't have to do social skills.

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I have learned the hard way that bus behavior is treated differently than school behavior. The school does not take responsibility for bus bullying at all. It's a he said-he said thing they won't address. If we had taken out school insurance, it may have been covered but I didn't take it out because we have good medical coverage. However since we don't have any dental coverage, we had to pay out of pocket for Adam's teeth. As for hiring a lawyer, the family is low income. Winning a case doesn't always end in getting paid. I was far more angry with the school for knowing this kind of thing happens yet no implementation of bus monitors has been made. I am very surprised your district has social skills written in an IEP. Mine won't add anything social because "their job is education, not social skills". I am sadly not surprised your child's teacher knows nothing about Asperger's. As parents it seems a no brainer that a teacher should know the diagnosis' of all children with IEP's but the sad fact is, they don't. Last year Noah was sent to the principal for being "defiant" by not writing a paragraph. When I called his teacher and told her he doesn't know how to, she told me he does because his journal is full of stories. It wasn't until I read them that I was able to tell her he wrote the entire script of his favorite tv show--one she hadn't heard about. She was floored! I gave her two books on Asperger's and told her about a conference. Thankfully the district paid for her to go to it. She now understands Noah but has limited knowledge on how to teach him.I'm sure all you parents with younger children are horrified to hear these stories. However, you are quite blessed to learn this while your children are young so you can do something about it throughout their education.As for in school bullying, document everything and send a copy to the principal as well as the school board president. This way you don't have to involve the other child. As I see it, the school is responsible for implementing the no bullying policy. If we only address the bully brats, the overall problem will continue but with a different bully. Along with your documentation, let them know you will be contacting a lawyer specializing in the rights of disabled children. I believe the lawyer fees are free of charge if you go through.....I forget the name of the organization but know it's the one who supports the rights of the disabled. Perhaps someone here knows what I'm referring to.Kelley

September 15, 2007

Roxanna,

I agree with you. I also want to point out that if a child does not have those social skills and he has a meltdown or reacts inappropriately and spends the entire day in the office or is suspended, I would have to say that does affect ones learning. The schools have tried to tell me that he was too smart for special ed. and that was one of my arguments as well as his fine and gross motor skills. They all ultimately affect a child learning to his full potential. That argument is a cop out to not have to pay for special ed.

Thanks,

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I am so glad you guys got that stay. Just keep trying everything you can think of to come up with ways to get the money legally. No robbing the banks. "kidding" Take it easy a bit. You do not want to make your health worse by being so stressed out. Also being that stressed makes it hard on you as a caregiver for your child too. So try and be calm and collected. Somehow things are going to work out. Just keep your eyes and ears open for anything you can do at all. You are in my heart and prayers. Love Cinder

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From: JESS <riverajessica10@...>Subject: [ ] Re: I NEED TO VENT Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:55 PM

YEA I JUST APPLYED FOR HUD.AND I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE OK.2 DAYS AGO MY HUSBAND WALKS IN WITH A WARRENT OF REMOVEL.SO I QUICLY WENT TO MY LAWYER AND THEY GRANTED US A STAY. I LIVE I NJ. AND THE TOWN HAS LIMITED RESOURSES. I HAD CATHOLIC CHARITIES HELP ME WITH THE BACK RENT. ITS SO HARD BECAUSE EVERYTHING FALLS ON MY HUSBAND. HE WORKS VERY HARD.AND I STAY WITH MY 4 YEAR OLD AT HOME.I JUST GOT MY INSURANCE PAPER IN AND I KNOW I NEED TREATMENT.BUT I HAVE NO FAMILY SUPPORT.SO I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY DAUGHTER SICK.SOME DAY I WAKE UP SO STRONG..AND OTHERS I FIGHT TO GET THREW THE DAY. I WENT THREW ALOT AS A LITTLE KID.I WAS MOLESTED TILL I WAS 16.AND I RAN AWAY.I MET UP WITH THE WRONG PPL AND STARTED USING. AFTRER BEING W/MY EX FOR 5 YEARS I WAS GETTING BEATENS ALL THE TIME..FINALLY I GOT HELP.BUT I RAN TO WHO IS MY HUBBY NOW..AND HE HAS BEEN TAKING CARE OF ME AND MY DAUGHTER SINCE....> > > From: JESS <riverajessica10@...>> Subject: [ ] I NEED TO VENT> > Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:31 PM> > > Ã‚ > > > > I HAVE BEEN GOING THREW AN EVICTION WITH MY LANDLORD FOR THREE MONTHS NOW.ONLY TO FIND OUT I LOST. I HAVE HEP-C AND

STILL TRY TO BE A GOOD MOM.MY HUSBAND IS THE ONLY ONE THAT WORKS.I AM ALWAYS WEEK,OR SICK.I AM 28. WE HAVE BEEN PAYING EVERY DIME TO THE LANDLORD AND NOW I HAVE NO $.TODAY I THUOGHT I WAS GOING TO GET HELP FROM SOMEONE WHO OFFERED TO HELP ME. THEY NEVER CAME BACK. I STAYED WITH MY DAUGHTER FROM 8AM TILL 4 WITH NOTHING TO FEED HER. I CALLED ALL RESOURSES.NOTHING.I ONLY GET 143..IN FOODSTAMPS MONTHLY...I AM FALLING SO HARD.....>

May 22, 2010

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. I HAVE BEEN FEELING SO SICK WITH EVERYTHING HAPPENING.MY HUSBAND WORKS AND NOW HE IS IN JEPARDY OF LOOSING HIS JOB BECAUSE HE KEEPS TAKING DAYS OFF.WE NEVER KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN NEXT. I DID GO TO THE BAORD OF SOCIAL SERVICES HERE.THATS HOW THEY HELPED WITH THE BACK RENT AND CATHOLIC CHARITIES PUT IN 500.WE WHERE 3 MONTHS BEHIND.AND WE PAY WEEKLY RENT 250. BETWEEN ME GETTING SICK AND HIM LOOSING HIS OTHER JOB WE GOT BACKED UP.WE DONT HAVE A CAR SO IT MAKES IT HARDER TO GET JOBS. THERE IS NOTHING HERE IN THIS TOWN.I LIVE BETWEEN 2 HIGHWAYS,SO I AM ALWAYS STUCK IN DOORS WITH MY DAUGHTER. ITS A TRAILOR PARK.AND NOT VERY SAFE PPL LIVE HERE.WE HAVE BEEN HERE FOR 2 YEARS. MY AND HIS FIRST HOME. BEFORE I WAS IN A SHELTER. AND WHEN I GOT TESTED FOR HEP-C I TOLD MY CASEWORKER,,,EVERYTHING WENT DOWN HILL,ITS LIKE THEY DID EVERYTHING

TO KICK ME OUT.LIKE I WAS A RISK TO OTHERS.VERY IGNORANT PPL.I JUST GOT NOTICE THAT I HAVE TO PACK MY BAGS THIS SUNDAY BECAUSE A CONSTIBLE WILL COME TO LOCK ME OUT.I DONT EVEN HAVE THE ENERGY TO PACK. AND OF COARSE I CALLED THE BOARD TO SEE IF THEY WOULD SHELTER US TILL MY HUSBAND GOT HIS PAY CHECK FRIDAY,THEY SAID NO.SO NOW I AM LOST..

From: JESS <riverajessica10>Subject: [ ] Re: I NEED TO VENT Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:55 PM

YEA I JUST APPLYED FOR HUD.AND I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE OK.2 DAYS AGO MY HUSBAND WALKS IN WITH A WARRENT OF REMOVEL.SO I QUICLY WENT TO MY LAWYER AND THEY GRANTED US A STAY. I LIVE I NJ. AND THE TOWN HAS LIMITED RESOURSES. I HAD CATHOLIC CHARITIES HELP ME WITH THE BACK RENT. ITS SO HARD BECAUSE EVERYTHING FALLS ON MY HUSBAND. HE WORKS VERY HARD.AND I STAY WITH MY 4 YEAR OLD AT HOME.I JUST GOT MY INSURANCE PAPER IN AND I KNOW I NEED TREATMENT.BUT I HAVE NO FAMILY SUPPORT.SO I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY DAUGHTER SICK.SOME DAY I WAKE UP SO STRONG..AND OTHERS I FIGHT TO GET THREW THE DAY. I WENT THREW ALOT AS A LITTLE KID.I WAS MOLESTED TILL I WAS 16.AND I RAN AWAY.I MET UP WITH THE WRONG PPL AND STARTED USING. AFTRER BEING W/MY EX FOR 5 YEARS I WAS GETTING BEATENS ALL THE TIME..FINALLY I GOT HELP.BUT I RAN TO WHO IS MY HUBBY NOW..AND HE HAS BEEN TAKING CARE OF ME AND MY DAUGHTER SINCE....> > > From: JESS <riverajessica10@ ...>> Subject: [ ] I NEED TO VENT> > Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:31 PM> > > Ã‚ > > > > I HAVE BEEN GOING THREW AN EVICTION WITH MY LANDLORD FOR THREE MONTHS NOW.ONLY TO FIND OUT I LOST. I HAVE HEP-C AND

STILL TRY TO BE A GOOD MOM.MY HUSBAND IS THE ONLY ONE THAT WORKS.I AM ALWAYS WEEK,OR SICK.I AM 28. WE HAVE BEEN PAYING EVERY DIME TO THE LANDLORD AND NOW I HAVE NO $.TODAY I THUOGHT I WAS GOING TO GET HELP FROM SOMEONE WHO OFFERED TO HELP ME. THEY NEVER CAME BACK. I STAYED WITH MY DAUGHTER FROM 8AM TILL 4 WITH NOTHING TO FEED HER. I CALLED ALL RESOURSES.NOTHING. I ONLY GET 143..IN FOODSTAMPS MONTHLY...I AM FALLING SO HARD.....>

May 22, 2010

Now, I would like to hear the end of this story!!! How can they throw you out or not help, when you have a child and you are sick???Why don't you go off to the local newspaper with the story already written?? I'm sure that your SS will suddenly find a way to help if they think the papers are going to make a big deal out of it.Gloria

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. I HAVE BEEN FEELING SO SICK WITH EVERYTHING HAPPENING.MY HUSBAND WORKS AND NOW HE IS IN JEPARDY OF LOOSING HIS JOB BECAUSE HE KEEPS TAKING DAYS OFF.WE NEVER KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN NEXT. I DID GO TO THE BAORD OF SOCIAL SERVICES HERE.THATS HOW THEY HELPED WITH THE BACK RENT AND CATHOLIC CHARITIES PUT IN 500.WE WHERE 3 MONTHS BEHIND.AND WE PAY WEEKLY RENT 250. BETWEEN ME GETTING SICK AND HIM LOOSING HIS OTHER JOB WE GOT BACKED UP.WE DONT HAVE A CAR SO IT MAKES IT HARDER TO GET JOBS. THERE IS NOTHING HERE IN THIS TOWN.I LIVE BETWEEN 2 HIGHWAYS,SO I AM ALWAYS STUCK IN DOORS WITH MY DAUGHTER. ITS A TRAILOR PARK.AND NOT VERY SAFE PPL LIVE HERE.WE HAVE BEEN

HERE FOR 2 YEARS. MY AND HIS FIRST HOME. BEFORE I WAS IN A SHELTER. AND WHEN I GOT TESTED FOR HEP-C I TOLD MY CASEWORKER,, ,EVERYTHING WENT DOWN HILL,ITS LIKE THEY DID EVERYTHING

TO KICK ME OUT.LIKE I WAS A RISK TO OTHERS.VERY IGNORANT PPL.I JUST GOT NOTICE THAT I HAVE TO PACK MY BAGS THIS SUNDAY BECAUSE A CONSTIBLE WILL COME TO LOCK ME OUT.I DONT EVEN HAVE THE ENERGY TO PACK. AND OF COARSE I CALLED THE BOARD TO SEE IF THEY WOULD SHELTER US TILL MY HUSBAND GOT HIS PAY CHECK FRIDAY,THEY SAID NO.SO NOW I AM LOST..

From: JESS <riverajessica10>Subject: [ ] Re: I NEED TO VENT Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:55 PM

YEA I JUST APPLYED FOR HUD.AND I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE OK.2 DAYS AGO MY HUSBAND WALKS IN WITH A WARRENT OF REMOVEL.SO I QUICLY WENT TO MY LAWYER AND THEY GRANTED US A STAY. I LIVE I NJ. AND THE TOWN HAS LIMITED RESOURSES. I HAD CATHOLIC CHARITIES HELP ME WITH THE BACK RENT. ITS SO HARD BECAUSE EVERYTHING FALLS ON MY HUSBAND. HE WORKS VERY HARD.AND I STAY WITH MY 4 YEAR OLD AT HOME.I JUST GOT MY INSURANCE PAPER IN AND I KNOW I NEED TREATMENT.BUT I HAVE NO FAMILY SUPPORT.SO I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY DAUGHTER SICK.SOME DAY I WAKE UP SO STRONG..AND OTHERS I FIGHT TO GET THREW THE DAY. I WENT THREW ALOT AS A LITTLE KID.I WAS MOLESTED TILL I WAS 16.AND I RAN AWAY.I MET UP WITH THE WRONG PPL AND STARTED USING. AFTRER BEING W/MY EX FOR 5 YEARS I WAS GETTING BEATENS ALL THE TIME..FINALLY I GOT HELP.BUT I RAN TO WHO IS MY HUBBY NOW..AND HE HAS BEEN TAKING CARE OF ME AND MY DAUGHTER SINCE....>

> > From: JESS <riverajessica10@ ...>> Subject: [ ] I NEED TO VENT> > Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:31 PM> > > Ã‚ > > > > I HAVE BEEN GOING THREW AN EVICTION WITH MY LANDLORD FOR THREE MONTHS NOW.ONLY TO FIND OUT I LOST. I HAVE HEP-C AND

STILL TRY TO BE A GOOD MOM.MY HUSBAND IS THE ONLY ONE THAT WORKS.I AM ALWAYS WEEK,OR SICK.I AM 28. WE HAVE BEEN PAYING EVERY DIME TO THE LANDLORD AND NOW I HAVE NO $.TODAY I THUOGHT I WAS GOING TO GET HELP FROM SOMEONE WHO OFFERED TO HELP ME. THEY NEVER CAME BACK. I STAYED WITH MY DAUGHTER FROM 8AM TILL 4 WITH NOTHING TO FEED HER. I CALLED ALL RESOURSES.NOTHING. I ONLY GET 143..IN FOODSTAMPS MONTHLY...I AM FALLING SO HARD.....>

May 23, 2010

Omg I am sorry I did not get this till today Sunday. I hope you found somewhere to stay dear. Let me know if you found help. Wish I could help you. I am having a few of my own financial troubles too myself now. No fun. Scary actually. That is so wrong. They tell you you have something horrible take care of it but you cannot afford the tx and without enough insurance you may not be able to afford it all the way through and when I quit work if I get too sick that will mean we have to let go of our house probably. We can't live like we do now. My husband is talking about getting a second job. He pays child support if his exwife hears about that she will up his child support then it won't have helped to get the second job. This is crap. How people are suppose to live I don't know. Anyway I guess we all somehow muttle through I hope.

Anyway let me know if you and your daughter are okay. Worried about you. Cinder

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From: JESS <riverajessica10>Subject: [ ] Re: I NEED TO VENT Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:55 PM

YEA I JUST APPLYED FOR HUD.AND I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE OK.2 DAYS AGO MY HUSBAND WALKS IN WITH A WARRENT OF REMOVEL.SO I QUICLY WENT TO MY LAWYER AND THEY GRANTED US A STAY. I LIVE I NJ. AND THE TOWN HAS LIMITED RESOURSES. I HAD CATHOLIC CHARITIES HELP ME WITH THE BACK RENT. ITS SO HARD BECAUSE EVERYTHING FALLS ON MY HUSBAND. HE WORKS VERY HARD.AND I STAY WITH MY 4 YEAR OLD AT HOME.I JUST GOT MY INSURANCE PAPER IN AND I KNOW I NEED TREATMENT.BUT I HAVE NO FAMILY SUPPORT.SO I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MY DAUGHTER SICK.SOME DAY I WAKE UP SO STRONG..AND OTHERS I FIGHT TO GET THREW THE DAY. I WENT THREW ALOT AS A LITTLE KID.I WAS MOLESTED TILL I WAS 16.AND I RAN AWAY.I MET UP WITH THE WRONG PPL AND STARTED USING. AFTRER BEING W/MY EX FOR 5 YEARS I WAS GETTING BEATENS ALL THE TIME..FINALLY I GOT HELP.BUT I RAN TO WHO IS MY HUBBY NOW..AND HE HAS BEEN TAKING CARE OF ME AND MY DAUGHTER SINCE....> > > From: JESS <riverajessica10@ ...>> Subject: [ ] I NEED TO VENT> > Date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010, 5:31 PM> > > Ã‚ > > > > I HAVE BEEN GOING THREW AN EVICTION WITH MY LANDLORD FOR THREE MONTHS NOW.ONLY TO FIND OUT I LOST. I HAVE HEP-C AND STILL TRY TO BE A GOOD MOM.MY HUSBAND IS THE ONLY ONE

THAT WORKS.I AM ALWAYS WEEK,OR SICK.I AM 28. WE HAVE BEEN PAYING EVERY DIME TO THE LANDLORD AND NOW I HAVE NO $.TODAY I THUOGHT I WAS GOING TO GET HELP FROM SOMEONE WHO OFFERED TO HELP ME. THEY NEVER CAME BACK. I STAYED WITH MY DAUGHTER FROM 8AM TILL 4 WITH NOTHING TO FEED HER. I CALLED ALL RESOURSES.NOTHING. I ONLY GET 143..IN FOODSTAMPS MONTHLY...I AM FALLING SO HARD.....>

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