Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 Proveit, Do you have any additional information on the " hormonal things " ? What kind of " specialist " was he going to see? This is really critical to help us know what's going on. You can call and get his lab results from his previous doctor. They are required to give it to you by law. Ask for COPIES of the lab reports. Don't let them tell you over the phone because they'll just tell you something is " high " or " low " and we need the actual values. We're looking for things like Total Testosterone, Free Testosterone, FSH, LH, Prolactin, etc. As for size, a lot of us struggle with that. Has he tried Viagra for his ED? Does he get erections during his sleep? If so, Viagra could help. Is he a diabetic or does he have other serious illnesses? These can affect erections as well. Hang in there! You are doing the right thing. Remember that depression and denial are common among those that are hypogonadal. Perhaps you could get your husband to get online here and see that there are others with his same problem. It might motivate him to get some help, because there IS help and hope! Regards, K4 > I am so glad i found you people! > > Now this is my situation. I am married to a man who has what appears > to be hypogonadism. We married only last October, he was 53 and I > was 39 and both of us were virgins. To date we have not managed to > have sexual intercourse at all. He is convinced the problem is > size. I think it is plain simple ED. I would be most grateful to > have any advice from anyone. > > Before we married he did actually go to the doctor and had blood > tests which showed all sorts of strange hormonal things. Marriage > meant a move 250 miles away though, and since coming to our present > address he refuses to visit a doctor at all. They had an appointment > with the specialist lined up for him and he never kept that because > it was the week after the wedding. We did not go on honeymoon and I > wanted him to keep the appointment but he cancelled it. > > I am getting very frustrated and trying very hard not to show it for > fear of piling on the pressure and making things worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 Proveitfromscripture, It seems that the issue might be that he could be in denial about his ED. This is very common with us men...we don't like to admit that we can't get our dick up and keep it up. Getting him to see a specialist would be high on my priority list. Many men don't like to see doctors either. IMO, if you join and post to this group.... supportEDpartners/ You will most likely get responses from women that have been in your situation and can empathize more readily with you. The group is composed of wives/ girl friends and boy friends of men with ED. I always encourage men with ED to join so that they can get the perspective of their significant other. A very fine group and most helpful. I've been a member since it started. Good luck....keep in touch and let us know goes it how.... OR eon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 > Now this is my situation. I am married to a man who has what appears > to be hypogonadism. I suggest you get the book " The Testosterone Syndrome " by Dr. Eugene Shippen and Fryer. It's in paperback and discusses hypogonadism. You are going to need to learn alot about hormones and ED if you're going to stay involved with this man. He needs a complete physical to rule out other problems besides hormones as well. Dr. Shippen outlines the various tests that need to be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 There is no question of my doing anything else but stay with him! Even if I did not believe that marriage is for life, the plain fact is that I did know about this before I agreed to marry him. Therefore I feel somewhat guilty for feeling any sort of regrets now. And in every other respect, he is the most considerate (and skilful) lover, well at least, as far as I can tell ) Thank you for the book suggestion, we will most certainly look into that one. > > > Now this is my situation. I am married to a man who has what > appears > > to be hypogonadism. > > I suggest you get the book " The Testosterone Syndrome " by Dr. Eugene > Shippen and Fryer. It's in paperback and discusses > hypogonadism. You are going to need to learn alot about hormones and > ED if you're going to stay involved with this man. He needs a complete > physical to rule out other problems besides hormones as well. Dr. > Shippen outlines the various tests that need to be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 Not much information at all I'm afraid. he was going to see an endocrinologist. we could try asking for the results. No use me doing that, he is the patient. No we have not tried viagra. He is able to get an erection with direct stimulation. It does not seem to be firm enough. Add to that the fact that both of us have a serious weight problem and therefore a serious amount of flab in the way, and the simple problem of trying to actually work the geography out when he can't see what he is doing and i cannot give him a helping hand before the erection subsides, and, well, so far i think we have made four serious attempts at penetration and have yet to succeed. I think it is possible that on the second occasion we did just about get it in (it felt like it to me, except that I don't really know what it should feel like) but it came straight out again. My husband is reading the messages so do throw out any advice to him!! > > I am so glad i found you people! > > > > Now this is my situation. I am married to a man who has what > appears > > to be hypogonadism. We married only last October, he was 53 and I > > was 39 and both of us were virgins. To date we have not managed to > > have sexual intercourse at all. He is convinced the problem is > > size. I think it is plain simple ED. I would be most grateful to > > have any advice from anyone. > > > > Before we married he did actually go to the doctor and had blood > > tests which showed all sorts of strange hormonal things. Marriage > > meant a move 250 miles away though, and since coming to our present > > address he refuses to visit a doctor at all. They had an > appointment > > with the specialist lined up for him and he never kept that because > > it was the week after the wedding. We did not go on honeymoon and > I > > wanted him to keep the appointment but he cancelled it. > > > > I am getting very frustrated and trying very hard not to show it > for > > fear of piling on the pressure and making things worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 Thanks. I have been on that group for some time. There are a lot of women out there with no intimacy at all so i am a lot better off than most on that list! > Proveitfromscripture, > > It seems that the issue might be that he could be in denial about his ED. > This is very common with us men...we don't like to admit that we can't get > our dick up and keep it up. > > Getting him to see a specialist would be high on my priority list. Many men > don't like to see doctors either. > > IMO, if you join and post to this group.... > supportEDpartners/ > You will most likely get responses from women that have been in your > situation and can empathize more readily with you. The group is composed > of wives/ girl friends and boy friends of men with ED. I always encourage > men with ED to join so that they can get the perspective of their > significant other. A very fine group and most helpful. > I've been a member since it started. > > Good luck....keep in touch and let us know goes it how.... > > OR eon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2002 Report Share Posted August 30, 2002 Proveit, I would definitely get the test results. I would also try the viarga. This alone might give him the staying power he needs. Regards, K4 > > > I am so glad i found you people! > > > > > > Now this is my situation. I am married to a man who has what > > appears > > > to be hypogonadism. We married only last October, he was 53 and > I > > > was 39 and both of us were virgins. To date we have not managed > to > > > have sexual intercourse at all. He is convinced the problem is > > > size. I think it is plain simple ED. I would be most grateful > to > > > have any advice from anyone. > > > > > > Before we married he did actually go to the doctor and had blood > > > tests which showed all sorts of strange hormonal things. > Marriage > > > meant a move 250 miles away though, and since coming to our > present > > > address he refuses to visit a doctor at all. They had an > > appointment > > > with the specialist lined up for him and he never kept that > because > > > it was the week after the wedding. We did not go on honeymoon > and > > I > > > wanted him to keep the appointment but he cancelled it. > > > > > > I am getting very frustrated and trying very hard not to show it > > for > > > fear of piling on the pressure and making things worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2004 Report Share Posted October 5, 2004 What vitamins does he take now? helen <ricardo1073@...> wrote: Hi my son is pdd-nos, he is five now, and he is in a regular kindergarden. He has improved a lot, he has still some issues with the language, he usually do not iniciate a conversation, but he can answer most of the question that we ask him. I dont know if he is allergic or have reactions to gluten or casein,, because he eats pizza all the time and i dont see any reactions. His focus attenttion some times is good and sometimes is really bad, so i was wondering if enzymes can help him and which can because he eats a lot of carbs, but protein too. Thanks, Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2004 Report Share Posted October 5, 2004 He does not take any vitamin. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2004 Report Share Posted October 5, 2004 What things do you notice about your child that most children do not do? Does he throw temper tantrums, cry a lot, have sensory problems, repeat phrases, stimming, etc. I would recommend that you put him on a good digestive enzymes, and then a good multivitamin, maybe add some calcium, B-6, Magnesium, Evening Primrose, and Fish Oil pill to his diet. > > Hi my son is pdd-nos, he is five now, and he is in a regular > kindergarden. He has improved a lot, he has still some issues with > the language, he usually do not iniciate a conversation, but he can > answer most of the question that we ask him. > I dont know if he is allergic or have reactions to gluten or casein,, > because he eats pizza all the time and i dont see any reactions. > His focus attenttion some times is good and sometimes is really bad, > so i was wondering if enzymes can help him and which can because he > eats a lot of carbs, but protein too. > Thanks, > Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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