Guest guest Posted October 1, 2000 Report Share Posted October 1, 2000 In a message dated 10/1/2000 11:10:35 AM Eastern Daylight Time, egroups writes: << I try not to disturb the children in class but I say 4 out of 5 days I am at the school over the lunch hour, I take turns sitting down beside them in the cafeteria and also play with them at lunch time. I know the school does not want me there but they are saying things like " I hope your taking time for yourself, and Now's the time for you to do the things you want to do " >> ~~~~~~ Sherry, I can understand that and I don't think you mean it just in the way of fear of something happening. I think you probably are at a loss as to what to do with that free time and that is understandable. I mean when you have little ones at home you think it is so much quicker and easier to go run errands without them along so now you have the chance and you don't want to not take advantage of it but it seems pointless doesn't it? Give yourself a break, school just started!! A couple of suggestions: if you don't have a cell phone, get one. They are usually free and ask for the cheapest rate which is usually not many min. but less than $20. a month. This is better than a pager, with a pager you still have to find a phone. With a cell phone you can go anywhere. The other suggestion is that your kids need to learn they are safe at school without your being there and that they are capable of handling themselves. They can't do that if you are always there, so instead why not volunteer in some capacity at school where you are not directly with them but yet you know what is going on. The kids will be thrilled you are there. My other suggestion is what works best in my mind......pray for your childrens safety and peace for yourself! Rejoice! Amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 2000 Report Share Posted October 2, 2000 I agree with Aime, Sherry. There is such a desperate need for help in schools. Either sign on as a volunteer, or get hired as a substitute teachers aide. Gets you familiar with things for the benefit of your DS child at the same time......you'll be fine! Jackie, Mom to 12ds, 10, and Bradley 6......my nest is now empty too as of this school year : ( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2004 Report Share Posted September 22, 2004 I'm looking for any advice or direction anyone might have for a child that suffers severely from separation anxiety. This is for a good friend of mine's 8 yr old daughter. My friend is highly educated in the whole world of psychology and I feel because of this educational institutions out there it somehow blinds their brains from making this biomedical connection. Really as if it is an opposite approach to things-behavioral or biomedical. Same challenges we often face with doctors. Her daughter is not autistic, but is extremely bright/gifted and suffers greatly from separation anxiety, changes, needing to be the best at everything. Her mother (my friend) suffers from candida, yet will not embrace the notion (yet Therefore I know minimally this must be playing some factor in her daughter's behavior. Going to school is just like one of our horrid meltdown attacks often discussed here. Panic, wildness, etc. And lately what has been very damaging is she is now using language that one might expect to hear out of a teenager nightmare. Vicious that it is tearing my friend apart, and then horrid remorse later from the daughter. I keep telling her, that nastiness is from a torture within! Although she is struggling desperately to stand by her traditional belief system that foundationally she believes we are all spiritually created the way we are for a reason, the fact she actually approached me on this subject is encouraging. Perhaps if she had an autistic child it might be a different story, but because both of our girls are seemingly NT, she has viewed my efforts along the way of trying to change my daughter's personality and worst yet perhaps what God had intended. Ironically I feel this journey has been inspired by God for me to do the opposite, find answers to ways to help my daughter be what God had intended her to be less all the man-made crap that was dumped into her. If anyone has ever heard of any ways to calm/lesson a bad case of separation anxiety please let me know. Thanks, Kari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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