Cyber-bullying defies traditional school bully stereotype

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Cyber-bullying defies traditional school bully stereotype

By Gregg Mac

Fairfax County Times

Thursday, September 2, 2010; VA18

The advent of social networking sites and text messaging has allowed young girls

the opportunity to take on a role traditionally reserved for boys, experts say.

The girls have become bullies -- or, more specifically, cyber-bullies.

The Virginia Department of Education defines cyber-bullying as " using

information and communication technologies such as e-mail, cellphones, text

messaging, instant messaging and Web sites to support deliberate, hostile

behavior intended to harm others. "

Cyber-bullying in Fairfax County public schools seems to occur primarily in

middle schools, said Sgt. H. Fulton of Fairfax County police, school

resource officer supervisor.

" There are lots of threats and innuendos made through social networking sites,

such as Facebook, " he said. " A boy may break up with a girl, and sides may begin

to form against one of the two parties. Before you know it, exchanges are made

online and can potentially lead to trouble back at school. "

Social networking sites allow teenagers to post events in their lives in real

time, said Ilana Reyes, a counselor at ndale High School.

" It is so easy to say negative things through texting and online because you are

not face-to-face with the person you're talking about, " Reyes said. " Bullies say

things and feel all big and bad because they are at home behind a computer, or

on a phone, and aren't there to see the ramifications or the impact that it has

on the other person. "

Research suggests that girls are more likely than boys to engage in

cyber-bullying but that both can be perpetrators and victims. " Without question,

the nature of adolescent peer aggression has evolved due to the proliferation of

information and communications technology, " said Sameer Hinduja of the

Cyber-bullying Research Center at Florida Atlantic University. " There have been

several high-profile cases involving teens taking their own lives in part

because of being harassed and mistreated over the Internet. "

The center's research has shown that adolescent girls are significantly more

likely than boys to partake in and experience cyber-bullying. Girls also are

more likely to report cyber-bullying to a parent or teacher. The center's

research also suggests that the type of cyber-bullying tends to differ by

gender; girls are more likely to spread rumors, while boys are more likely to

post hurtful pictures or videos.

A survey by the center found that cyber-bullying victims were almost twice as

likely to have attempted suicide compared to youth who had experienced no

cyber-bullying.

According to Virginia Department of Education guidelines, cyber-bullying can

include sending " mean, vulgar or threatening " messages or images; posting

sensitive or private information about another person; or intentionally

excluding someone from an online group.

In Virginia, making a written threat, including those via texting, e-mail,

instant messaging and the Internet, is a Class 6 felony.

Lucinda Crabtree of Falls Church knows the effects of cyber-bullying. When a

friend's teen daughter committed suicide last year, potentially as a result of

cyber-bullying, Crabtree decided she needed to act. She began researching ways

to make parents more aware of their teen's online language and behavior.

" I felt there was a cyber-communications gap between parents and their teens, "

she said. " We've all had a sort of secret language growing up, and kids today

are no different. They have their own online and texting lingo. I felt that a

better understanding of this cyber communication by my friend may have helped

her recognize the warning signs in her daughter's behavior. "

Crabtree formed a volunteer panel of teens, parents, teachers, health care

workers and law enforcement professionals. The group researched the meanings of

popular texting codes, Internet terminology and emoticons -- smiley faces in

messages that impart meanings.

" It was a serious education, " Crabtree said. " For example, I had no idea that a

percent sign can mean being high or drunk " or that a " four-pounder " is code for

a .45-caliber Colt pistol.

Crabtree unveiled a software application, LRNtheLingo, last month that parents

can use in the same way they might an online dictionary of cyber and slang

terms. She wants to make the application available to public safety and school

professionals.

" Teachers and school resource officers need to learn to identify this secret

online language as well as parents, " she said. " If this helps just one

cyber-bullying victim, it will be very rewarding. "

" Parents do need to get more involved and monitor what their kids are writing

online, " Reyes said. " Cellphone use in Fairfax County schools is prohibited. So

most cyber-bullying occurs off school grounds, outside the reach of teachers or

school resource officers. "