Re: Betty -Dawn-Jill

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Thanks to all. Especially for the smiles you have brought to me.

BETTY

Someday I would love to move away but...

1 - were in a great school district that I can afford to live in to boot

2- my mother doesn;t drive and both my sisters are in NY and one does not drive.

I an also financially indebted to her for helping us financially with this

divorce

3- My kids would hate me to make them move again

4 - I have 3 years of college...

JILL

As for dating....it is hard to find time to find someone. I tried the internet

stuff for a short time and found it full of liars ( or exerrated egos). All the

men in their 40's wanted older women with no young kids. The woman had to

looked like they never had a child and may still need to be carded at a bar. A

great career where they would not be financially dependant on them and be able

to go Dutch on all outings. If they had kids that she would help him with his

kids and make him out to be Dad of the year.

This is too much for me to deal with. If I was financially responsible I'd be

taking vacations with my kids. This body has gone thru hell and every scar is

proof of it. I try to exercise but don;t want to date someone who thinks

exercise is more important than children. You should see those ads. AND they

all think the twenty year olds want them because they workout and love the

beach.

As for Parent without partners. Guess what...they meet on Thursday nights. No

time, no money for a sitter, my mom is 30 miles away and doesn;t drive and my

sisters are in NY so forget the freebees. Then I have to be up at 6:15am to get

ready for school and still get the 2 kids ready too.

Enough of my.... it is just easier to take care of two kids and their special

needs.

DAWN... Thanks again for your wry sense of humor. Even with a very full plate

you can find humor around you and thankfully share it.

BTW Dawn you were the one who suggested this group to me and it has been as

helpful as you said.

Re: ( ) Betty -

Hi ,

hang in there. i have been single for over 10 years. jakes dad left me for

another woman. anyway i know how hard it is when you have to take care of

everything including our special children. it can be lonely and it can be

ruff.

**********My dh still lives here and I still have to do everything

including

taking care of the kids. hahaha

when my husband left me i was 39 and starting menapause. i thought i

wouldn

t make it but look at me now. i am old and my haromones are about dead so

the lonely part is about gone.

*********LOL!!!!! Betty - you are comical. I am sorry you had to go

through

all that but I am glad you seem to be handling things fine now. take care

Dawn

yea!!! so things will get better. you will see. in the meantime do

something special for yourself. you need it. just something that you might

have wanted for a long time or just a little time away from the kids.

maybe

a nap. woman have the load of the world on their shoulders because they

take

most of the care of the future. take a break.

love,

Betty