Re: What do you think about this?

[Guest guest]

Is she saying he doesn't have AS, or just that his AS does not present in a way

that causes him to need services?

She has no qualifications to override a diagnosis from a developmental

pediatrician, unless she went to med school before she became a teacher, and

conducted a thorough exam on your son.

Jackie

<<Two weeks ago we had the appointment with the developmental

pediatrician who assured us that Noah is an Aspie. He taped our

conversation with us so that we could listen to it again later.

Noah's sped teacher asked if she could listen to it. (Note: she

doesn't think he's an Aspie, and is in agreement with the team that

wants to remove him from sped services this month). Should we allow

her to hear the tape? What do you all think? >>

[Guest guest]

We couldn't get my son into special needs preschool because he was extremely

bright. What finally got him into the program was the developmental ped saying

appears to have Asperger's in his written evaluation. I wouldn't play

the tape because it may contain information you don't want to share. Just have

the doctor forward his report to the child study team stating that he believes

that he has Asperger's.

[Guest guest]

I would not allow it. it is a private conversation between you and your

child's doctor.

the school needs to accept whatever written Dx a licensed doctor decided

upon.

the teacher may well have a good " sense " or " huntch " , or she may have a

hidden agenda, or wahtever - teh fact is that legally it is a doctor who

makes the DX and the school has to then give the child all he needs

according tho that Dx.

I would consider such a request as infringement on our privacy.

F

-- ( ) What do you think about this?

Two weeks ago we had the appointment with the developmental

pediatrician who assured us that Noah is an Aspie. He taped our

conversation with us so that we could listen to it again later.

Noah's sped teacher asked if she could listen to it. (Note: she

doesn't think he's an Aspie, and is in agreement with the team that

wants to remove him from sped services this month). Should we allow

her to hear the tape? What do you all think?

TIA,

Meredith

Mom to Noah (4, AS)and Emilie (1, NT so far)

[Guest guest]

I totally agree. That is an invasion of privacy by letting her listen to the

conversation.

MISSY

SAHM to some special kids!!!

Excuse Me While I Go

Raise Tomorrow's Future.

( ) What do you think about this?

Two weeks ago we had the appointment with the developmental

pediatrician who assured us that Noah is an Aspie. He taped our

conversation with us so that we could listen to it again later.

Noah's sped teacher asked if she could listen to it. (Note: she

doesn't think he's an Aspie, and is in agreement with the team that

wants to remove him from sped services this month). Should we allow

her to hear the tape? What do you all think?

TIA,

Meredith

Mom to Noah (4, AS)and Emilie (1, NT so far)

[Guest guest]

Along those same lines, the school of course wants to see the written

report from the doctor. Do I share that with them (when I get it!)?

It's pretty complicated. We actually like the sped teacher. She

seems to be pretty much on the ball, and she's told my husband that

it's ok with her if Noah stays in her class for the rest of the

school year, but there's no point in having an IEP for him if he

doesn't qualify under any of the categories. The rest of the IEP

team wants to graduate him from the program. It's kind of funny,

actually. Their evaluation is what suggested AS to us in the first

place, and now the teacher is telling us she doesn't think he has

it. I disagree. I see too many traits to ignore.

The taped conversation doesn't say anything incriminating...it's just

the doctor telling us how to handle Noah, and giving us some books to

read and people to call for social skills help. Oh, and in the

meeting he affirmed my contention that Noah should be in the

mainstream class (which he is) with an aide (which he doesn't have.)

That might actually help us!

Anyway, I'm grateful for the input!

Meredith

Mom to Noah (4, AS) and Emilie (1, NT so far)

[Guest guest]

The DR can and should write a report specifically for the school. His dx

and what was said to you about handling your child could be part of that

report. You should also get a copy of this from your Dr. You might want to

say to the Dr that you want to review what he/she will be sending to the

school before it is sent in case you have any other questions. Part of

gathering information for IEP eligibility is getting reports from Dr.s,

councilors and therapists. Good Luck.

Re: ( ) What do you think about this?

> We couldn't get my son into special needs preschool because he was

extremely

> bright. What finally got him into the program was the developmental ped

saying

> appears to have Asperger's in his written evaluation. I wouldn't play

> the tape because it may contain information you don't want to share. Just

have

> the doctor forward his report to the child study team stating that he

believes

> that he has Asperger's.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I totally agree with Fania!!!!!! I have worked as a special ed sub

and been buddy buddy with an ex leader. The one thing she always

told me is " Watch my back " AND they will make you feel like they

have the final say but really your doc has the final say and if they

aren't doing what you and your doc feels best then all your doc has

to do is write them a firm letter. They will still act like they

don't have to listen but THEY DO!!!! If it is in writing (at

least here in Texas), from the Doc himself then thats the writtem

law! I WOULD NOT let them hear it..... I think they all have hidden

agendas!!!!

Steph

> I would not allow it. it is a private conversation between you and

your

> child's doctor.

> the school needs to accept whatever written Dx a licensed doctor

decided

> upon.

> the teacher may well have a good " sense " or " huntch " , or she may

have a

> hidden agenda, or wahtever - teh fact is that legally it is a

doctor who

> makes the DX and the school has to then give the child all he needs

> according tho that Dx.

> I would consider such a request as infringement on our privacy.

> F

>

> -- ( ) What do you think about this?

>

> Two weeks ago we had the appointment with the developmental

> pediatrician who assured us that Noah is an Aspie. He taped our

> conversation with us so that we could listen to it again later.

> Noah's sped teacher asked if she could listen to it. (Note: she

> doesn't think he's an Aspie, and is in agreement with the team that

> wants to remove him from sped services this month). Should we

allow

> her to hear the tape? What do you all think?

>

> TIA,

> Meredith

> Mom to Noah (4, AS)and Emilie (1, NT so far)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would get the developmental pediatrician to write a letter. Letting them

listen to the tape seems awfully invasive to me. It probably contains lots

of inapplicable information. Just my .02

Liz

Meredith Weingarden wrote:

> Two weeks ago we had the appointment with the developmental

> pediatrician who assured us that Noah is an Aspie. He taped our

> conversation with us so that we could listen to it again later.

> Noah's sped teacher asked if she could listen to it. (Note: she

> doesn't think he's an Aspie, and is in agreement with the team that

> wants to remove him from sped services this month). Should we allow

> her to hear the tape? What do you all think?

>

> TIA,

> Meredith

> Mom to Noah (4, AS)and Emilie (1, NT so far)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

--- He is in the 11th grade.. She tried to start a literary club

by invitation only and invite him and some other kids and the

headmistress wouldn't allow it because everyone was not invited in.

Is everyone invited to be a cheerleader or on the basketball team?

Can you feel my anger ... Toni

In , ston

<jjtripletmom@...> wrote:

>

> Toni,

>

> What grade is your son in? Could the teacher make up her own

award to give him? Any recognition may work in some means of being

reinforcing to him and helping his self-esteem.

>

>

>

> tsbthatsme <kbtoni@...> wrote: My sons English teacher is

very understanding when it comes to n

> and his missing school because of depression. This teacher

doesn't fit

> into the clique of other teachers from this small town. She was

> talking about how the headmistress has come to her and another

male

> teacher that 'don't fit in' and asked them not to give any 69's

to the

> jocks because they would fail and not be able to participate in

> sports. She wanted to nominate n for English honors

because he

> has one of the three highest grades and she thinks he writes

> beautifully and likes the fact that he thinks outside the box.

The

> head of the senior high said to her. Absolutely NOT, he doesn't

even

> come to school half the time and probably wouldn't go to honors

night.

> I am LIVID! One thing he needs is more self esteem and self

confidence

> since depression has sapped this. I don't know if or what I

should do.

> I don't want to get this teacher in trouble by betraying her

> confidence but I feel this is SO unfair. SO WHAT if he doesn't

show up

> for the honors night, he would still receive the honor....Should

I

> just suffer in silence or what? I also know his homeroom teacher

that

> is NOT understanding is telling his classmates that he is

probably

> going to fail because he has missed so many days. Toni

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I FEEL IT HON!!! GGGRRRRRRR

-- Re: ( ) What do you think about this?

--- He is in the 11th grade.. She tried to start a literary club

by invitation only and invite him and some other kids and the

headmistress wouldn't allow it because everyone was not invited in.

Is everyone invited to be a cheerleader or on the basketball team?

Can you feel my anger ... Toni

In , ston

<jjtripletmom@...> wrote:

>

> Toni,

>

> What grade is your son in? Could the teacher make up her own

award to give him? Any recognition may work in some means of being

reinforcing to him and helping his self-esteem.

>

>

>

> tsbthatsme <kbtoni@...> wrote: My sons English teacher is

very understanding when it comes to n

> and his missing school because of depression. This teacher

doesn't fit

> into the clique of other teachers from this small town. She was

> talking about how the headmistress has come to her and another

male

> teacher that 'don't fit in' and asked them not to give any 69's

to the

> jocks because they would fail and not be able to participate in

> sports. She wanted to nominate n for English honors

because he

> has one of the three highest grades and she thinks he writes

> beautifully and likes the fact that he thinks outside the box.

The

> head of the senior high said to her. Absolutely NOT, he doesn't

even

> come to school half the time and probably wouldn't go to honors

night.

> I am LIVID! One thing he needs is more self esteem and self

confidence

> since depression has sapped this. I don't know if or what I

should do.

> I don't want to get this teacher in trouble by betraying her

> confidence but I feel this is SO unfair. SO WHAT if he doesn't

show up

> for the honors night, he would still receive the honor....Should

I

> just suffer in silence or what? I also know his homeroom teacher

that

> is NOT understanding is telling his classmates that he is

probably

> going to fail because he has missed so many days. Toni

>

>

>

>

>

>

>