Re: Discipline and consequences-

December 15, 2003

<<<<<<<Hall Melinda <mlndhall@...> wrote:

I don't think I'd ever get him to willingly give up

the gameboy. That is his " baby " /life. >>

you could be surprised. that is what I thought too, and yet when I say " the

gameboy please " he yells and screams and whines and cries WHILE going to

the room getting the gameboy and handing it to me......

Actually , I haven't have to do this in quite a while.

<<<***Why not have it be a family gift and it not be just his at all? ***

I agree with Roxanna here, we only have one computer at home, and it is teh

family's computer, and teh kids get " computer time " . each kid is responsibel

for his computer time. if he loses it for bad behaviour, it does not affect

the other kid......

December 20, 2003

In a message dated 12/20/03 3:43:28 PM Eastern Standard Time,

uplift@... writes:

I agree here with Roxanna, Gameboy is a destresser for my son too, and i

surely will prefer that he plays with it than rip anything. however, in the

past, I have taken the gameboy away, because he loves it so much and it

seemed liek a good " cpnsequence " -sort iof it ' i see the gameboy as a

destresser has not work, so we need to find another destresser that does

work, AND since it is not a destresser it remains just a fun thing, which

you may lose the right to if you misbehave..'it works on him. however I

immediately gave him something else to destress with (the trampoline for ex

came back home. it helps him destress but he does not like it like the

gameboy).

I agree. Gameboy is a destresser for . THe CD player is one for .

BUT-- I'll be doggoned if they are going to use that as an EXCUSE to

misbehave. And believe you me, many times they know EXACTLY what they are doing.

ASD kids are just as capable of manipulating us as our NT kids are.

Connie

December 20, 2003

<<<<<< I have often thought of making an Asperger's Syndrome

shirt that says " What Would Spock Do? " with a picture of Spock (an

AS idol) on it.>>>>

ROTFLOL!!!!!!

I will buy it !!

F

December 20, 2003

<<<<

But this is not at all the point I was making. I was discussing how to

de-escalate a situation and often times, people with autism have trouble

doing that. They will hand flap, spin things, rip paper or in my own son's

case, play gameboy. Actually he did the spinning and the ripping and the

school and I did prefer the gameboy. We made it the acceptable plug in over

the other two things he would do. .>>>>