Guest guest Posted August 27, 2003 Report Share Posted August 27, 2003 Hi and welcome back! I was just searching through my old emails that I have stored and came across info on your biz etc., and wondered how the move was and if you were still in the group. Glad to see you survived the move though the school sounds like they aren't as good as what you left. Do they have any advocates in your area??? We just found out we are moving as well....from Northern Calif to Southern Calif....not as far, but a move is a move. Any advice you have for Joe my almost 5 yr old? He doesn't know yet that we are moving and I want to keep it that way til we get closer. I know he will start obsessing over it and will mention it to his current teacher and then I feel she may not put as much energy into his IEP if she knows we are leaving. We just vacationed in San Diego so I know he will be excited to live there and see the Wild Animal Park again (as he talks about it all the time). I have heard from various people in that area that I should be prepared to hire an advocate right away. I do hear they have great services....its just getting them:) I like the positive slant you put on " friends we haven't met yet " ....that is true. I have been brainstorming on how to connect with other mom's down there. Its a much bigger area and I have lived in my neighborhood for 7 yrs and only know a couple of people....but no one I socialize on a regular basis. If you or anyone else have any ideas, let me know. I am isolated to some degree where I live as I don't fit into the socio-economic lifestyle. Still I do try to break out of that all the time. Did regress some with the move? I know that Joe has regressed over the summer and now that we have had one day of school......all kinds of behaviors have resurfaced. I'm sure this is just temporary, but I am glad that things will settle down here before we move. Johanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2003 Report Share Posted August 27, 2003 Hi Joanne, Thanks for the Welcome back. Yes I am still working from home with the same group and I am so thankful that I have been able to make this big move without the worry of finding employment or childcare etc. There have been plenty of other things to worry about so having " work " be a joy is nice. I am going to give Roxanne's " do it with a smile " approach a really good try before I ask for some help from an advocate but have looked online and seen that there is a Parent's Advocacy group not too far from me so may enlist their help if need be. I actually think I am going to contact the Sped. Director in our old district and see if she can give me some pointers on a personal/professional level that may help me get through to our current school. I am glad that you guys found a place to move to,I know you had told me before about how you really needed to do that. Did your husband get a new job down there? You're right a move is a move and I am sure that Joe will have some adjusting challenges but your a good Mom and he will do fine. Some of the things that really helped us actually came from suggestions on this list. One of them was using pictures for , we took a ton of pictures when we went on our house hunting trip and then in then during the packing and moving process continued to refer to them so he didn't feel like he was just leaving but actually going somewhere he could see. We took pictures of our new house including every room and closet, the yard, the garage, everything. Then when he began to melt down over not wanting to leave his room or whatever we would sit down and say " remember this is your new room and your bed will be right here... " I understand your not wanting to tell Joe too early but for us we decided to tell right away and that actually gave him time to prepare and work through all of his concerns. For us the key to making more situations more bearable is to prepare, prepare, prepare. We also had some concerns about how the school would be when they found out but they were actually very helpful. We actually had 2 IEP meeting after we told them we were moving just to be sure that everything was as complete as possible before we moved to a new district. You of course know more about how your particular school will react. Of course with preparing him comes his obsessing over it but it worked out. While on our house hunting trip a friend of ours lost her battle with cancer and we really hadn't prepared ourselves for it no less . This began an obsession over death and the fear of anything " never again " as puts it. Of course this made for many more challenges during the whole moving process so I wish we would have had the insight to prepare more for that. Leaving his therapists was also a really difficult thing, we continued therapy for him right up until the day before we left and then helped him through the sadness of goodbyes etc. we now keep in email contact with them and that too helps. Same with our friends we had lots of tough goodbyes but keep in touch as best we can. I am sure that Joe will be really excited about all of the new things he can do in your new area and that will surely help him too. As for regression we have seen some. Mainly I think due to the decrease in therapy, but on the other hand he has also had some really great accomplishments so I am not too worried. His Stimming activities have definitely increased but he is also getting better at resisting in public etc. I think once school starts here and he gets into a good schedule we'll be able to better judge what needs the most work. As for meeting new people I haven't gotten much of a chance to do that here yet but my business helps some because it gives me the excuse to talk to people and people contact me for information etc. Of course not everyone who I talk to about business even qualifies to work from home but they may become friends at least acquaintances anyway. Also I am going to try to find a parenting group, maybe even an autism one so that I have more opportunity to meet people. Also I am hoping that other parents of children in my son's class will become friends. I tend to like to stay at home in my own little comfort zone and know that to make friends I have to get out of that so I am going to try. I had better go my 19 month old is demanding my attention. Kellogg Email: tkellogg@... Website: http://tkellogg.themomteam.com Sign in for more information or contact me today! Re: ( ) Re-Introduction/ Hi and welcome back! I was just searching through my old emails that I have stored and came across info on your biz etc., and wondered how the move was and if you were still in the group. Glad to see you survived the move though the school sounds like they aren't as good as what you left. Do they have any advocates in your area??? We just found out we are moving as well....from Northern Calif to Southern Calif....not as far, but a move is a move. Any advice you have for Joe my almost 5 yr old? He doesn't know yet that we are moving and I want to keep it that way til we get closer. I know he will start obsessing over it and will mention it to his current teacher and then I feel she may not put as much energy into his IEP if she knows we are leaving. We just vacationed in San Diego so I know he will be excited to live there and see the Wild Animal Park again (as he talks about it all the time). I have heard from various people in that area that I should be prepared to hire an advocate right away. I do hear they have great services....its just getting them:) I like the positive slant you put on " friends we haven't met yet " ....that is true. I have been brainstorming on how to connect with other mom's down there. Its a much bigger area and I have lived in my neighborhood for 7 yrs and only know a couple of people....but no one I socialize on a regular basis. If you or anyone else have any ideas, let me know. I am isolated to some degree where I live as I don't fit into the socio-economic lifestyle. Still I do try to break out of that all the time. Did regress some with the move? I know that Joe has regressed over the summer and now that we have had one day of school......all kinds of behaviors have resurfaced. I'm sure this is just temporary, but I am glad that things will settle down here before we move. Johanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2003 Report Share Posted August 27, 2003 In a message dated 8/27/2003 9:48:30 AM Pacific Daylight Time, tkellogg@... writes: > I am glad that you guys found a place to move to,I know you had told me > before about how you really needed to do that. Did your husband get a new job > down there? You're right a move is a move and I am sure that Joe will have > some adjusting challenges but your a good Mom and he will do fine. Actually it was a promotion/transfer/new job but same company. Thanks for the compliment too! We just got some news however that will " stir the pot " a little.....our move date was changed and it appears we have 4-5 weeks. Now, I'm thinking Joe will just be starting to settle down in his current classroom, my 17 yr old will be getting the hang of getting up at the crack of dawn and then we move.....oh, boy. I think I liked the other plan better! Joe had his first day of school and I thought he did great til this morning when every little thing upset him to the point of melting....it just went on and on....this afternoon, he was more withdrawn, probably tired too. I just wish it didn't have to be so hard for him. Thanks for the suggestion of pictures to help him...I remember that now:) Johanna trying to stay afloat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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