I want off this merry-go-round!!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Wow, that guy really takes the cake. Maybe his book tells you how to choose

medication...LOL. Definitely consider another pysch..... My nurse friends

used to say never never go to the head of a dept for anything....maybe wise

words. Not that this guy was head of a dept but its the idea of just because

they

have high credentials doesn't mean they are good. Good luck and I'd try

another one. Bummer you had to waste an hour and money on that guy who really

should retire. We saw one doctor last year that made me feel the same way.

Johanna

[Guest guest]

Hello .....thought I would update on our latest appointment. If you

remember my daughter was dx'd with DCD,NLD and possible AS this past

spring. We then went to a local psych for some guidance who decided

to do her own evalutation and felt that although our daughter shows

autistic traits that a dx of AS was not applicable ( we have been

over this one before ), BUT she felt Lane was at risk for depression

and anxiety disorder. She sent a follow up to our GP who contacted us

to say we MUST take our daughter to a psychiatrist so she could be

prescribed meds as he was unwilling to do so.

So we had the appointment on the 7th with this man, once again a

psych with high credentials ( retired head of psych for a major

university ).....this man turns out to be in my guesstamation close

to 70 years old. We had an hour long appointment in which he talked

to my husband and I seperate and together...had us fill out

questionaires and spent about 10 minutes with Lane. He then scolded

us for having so mych INFORMATION, said that we had info RAINING down

upon us,etc. In any event he decided to do his own dx even though

that was ont what we asked for. He stated that he did not see any

anxiety in our daughter and what we call anxiety is actualy ADHD. He

would not presribe anything that day and insisted we buy a book from

his office, read it and come back in 8 weeks. If we agree with him he

will prescribe meds. When I quesitoned him as to what med he said, "

What ever you tell me to " ??????? I don't get this..how am I supposed

to choose medication? I don't think I am qualified to do this and I

know nothing about these meds except for some success and horror

stories I read on list serves.

Thinking about jumping off this merry-go-round and just living the

way we have been all these years. All we want to do is help our

daughter and all they do is take our money and confuse us even

more...understand they are not saying these things are in addition to

other's dx but instead of. ( with exception of the DCD )

I am going crazy!!!!

[Guest guest]

Looks like someone's ready for retirement. My therapist is 73 and would never

try this stunt. I have learned from all therapist none will go out on a limb.

But not choose a medication and by his book.

As for the the merry go round...you need to find better support before you get

off.

Hang in there,

( ) I want off this merry-go-round!!!!

Hello .....thought I would update on our latest appointment. If you

remember my daughter was dx'd with DCD,NLD and possible AS this past

spring. We then went to a local psych for some guidance who decided

to do her own evalutation and felt that although our daughter shows

autistic traits that a dx of AS was not applicable ( we have been

over this one before ), BUT she felt Lane was at risk for depression

and anxiety disorder. She sent a follow up to our GP who contacted us

to say we MUST take our daughter to a psychiatrist so she could be

prescribed meds as he was unwilling to do so.

So we had the appointment on the 7th with this man, once again a

psych with high credentials ( retired head of psych for a major

university ).....this man turns out to be in my guesstamation close

to 70 years old. We had an hour long appointment in which he talked

to my husband and I seperate and together...had us fill out

questionaires and spent about 10 minutes with Lane. He then scolded

us for having so mych INFORMATION, said that we had info RAINING down

upon us,etc. In any event he decided to do his own dx even though

that was ont what we asked for. He stated that he did not see any

anxiety in our daughter and what we call anxiety is actualy ADHD. He

would not presribe anything that day and insisted we buy a book from

his office, read it and come back in 8 weeks. If we agree with him he

will prescribe meds. When I quesitoned him as to what med he said, "

What ever you tell me to " ??????? I don't get this..how am I supposed

to choose medication? I don't think I am qualified to do this and I

know nothing about these meds except for some success and horror

stories I read on list serves.

Thinking about jumping off this merry-go-round and just living the

way we have been all these years. All we want to do is help our

daughter and all they do is take our money and confuse us even

more...understand they are not saying these things are in addition to

other's dx but instead of. ( with exception of the DCD )

I am going crazy!!!!

[Guest guest]

,

I can't believe that old doctor! And buy a book? Never heard of

that!

I say, stick with your own research and instincts. Where do you

live, perhaps someone here could recommend someone.

I'm slow tonite, what is DCD?

> Hello .....thought I would update on our latest appointment. If you

> remember my daughter was dx'd with DCD,NLD and possible AS this

past

> spring. We then went to a local psych for some guidance who decided

> to do her own evalutation and felt that although our daughter shows

> autistic traits that a dx of AS was not applicable ( we have been

> over this one before ), BUT she felt Lane was at risk for

depression

> and anxiety disorder. She sent a follow up to our GP who contacted

us

[Guest guest]

,

There are good shrinks out there. You just happened upon a loser. This guy

is totally irresponsible. He is supposed to be making recommendations to

you, not vice versa. When you find a good one, though, it's well worth it.

After searching high and low (on our fourth doctor), we hit pay dirt. He

doesn't take our insurance, but only sees him every couple of

months. It's worth searching for somebody good.

Liz

wrote: He

> would not presribe anything that day and insisted we buy a book from

> his office, read it and come back in 8 weeks. If we agree with him he

> will prescribe meds. When I quesitoned him as to what med he said, "

> What ever you tell me to " ??????? I don't get this..how am I supposed

> to choose medication? I don't think I am qualified to do this and I

> know nothing about these meds except for some success and horror

> stories I read on list serves.

>

> Thinking about jumping off this merry-go-round and just living the

> way we have been all these years. All we want to do is help our

> daughter and all they do is take our money and confuse us even

> more...understand they are not saying these things are in addition to

> other's dx but instead of. ( with exception of the DCD )

>

> I am going crazy!!!!

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> ,

> I can't believe that old doctor! And buy a book? Never heard of

> that!

>

> I say, stick with your own research and instincts. Where do you

> live, perhaps someone here could recommend someone.

>

> I'm slow tonite, what is DCD?

************ Developmental Coordination disorder....in these groups

very few people seem to have heard of it but it is the only common dx

we keep hearing over and over from professionals...maybe a fancy word

for dyspraxia? And yes, buy a particular book titled Daredevils and

Daydreamers. In fact the girl at the desk told me that I could buy it

from them or the bookstore, that he refers parents to it so often

that he has the office staff buy it from the book store and keep

copies at the desk. I live in southeastern Ohio, trust me there is no

one on this list that I have seen that lives in the vicinity. He was

NOT the doctor that the psychologist recomended but that doctor is

not accepting any new patients..she is overwhelmed ( only child

psychiatrist in our town ). **********

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/12/2003 9:20:11 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jnvicbrown@... writes:

He then scolded

us for having so mych INFORMATION, said that we had info RAINING down

upon us,etc. In any event he decided to do his own dx even though

that was ont what we asked for. He stated that he did not see any

anxiety in our daughter and what we call anxiety is actualy ADHD. He

would not presribe anything that day and insisted we buy a book from

his office, read it and come back in 8 weeks. If we agree with him he

will prescribe meds. When I quesitoned him as to what med he said, "

What ever you tell me to " ??????? I don't get this..how am I supposed

to choose medication? I don't think I am qualified to do this and I

know nothing about these meds except for some success and horror

stories I read on list serves.

Yikes!! This guy sounds like a quack! How do you find them all? Aren't you

in Ohio? If so, I can suggest some people if you'd like. Are you closer to

Cleveland or Columbus?

Roxanna ö¿ö

Autism happens...

[Guest guest]

,

I am so sorry you are going through all this. It is a nightmare!

((((((HUGS)))))). I can't say I know what you are going through because we

haven't been

down hat road. We have had similar problems with 's health problems though

so I do know the anger and frustration of nobody having a straight clear cut

answer.

I don't know what is best for Lane right now but it does sound like you guys

need a doctor break. If you chose to go to another psych I would ask other

parents who they recommend rather than asking another doctor. Parents have a

good

feel for these things.

, Mom to , reflux, hiatal hernia, compacted bowels, asthma, global

hypotonia, motor dyspraxia, SID, Asperger's

[Guest guest]

I couldn't eblieve when I read this !!!

Quick!!! find another doc!!!

F

[Guest guest]

Sorry the ticket is one way w/ no stops. The trick is to

make the ride as pleasurable as possible. If you do not like this

pysch then do not return. I don't believe in too much info! And I am

done w/ the I care and I will help if you spend lot's of money and

agree w/ everything I say. I don't think I can live like that. From

everything I have read many of the so called professionals do NOT

know either. There are no magical tests. The BEST thing you can do is

learn everything you can. Process the information. Decide what you

believe. And go from there. We have to get over the hurdle of

diagnoses. In many cases they are closely related w/ much overlap.

Try focussing on her exact issues. Then see if you can find the right

therapy or medication to fit the problem. I would assume before you

picked the medication he would give you info on pros and cons. Also

I'd assume your choices would be limited. Apparently he wants to

treat the ADHD. Now in all fairness I did not think Hunter was ADHD

until I researched it. I was surprised by his dx to say the least. I

see it now. I had the wrong impression of ADHD. I'm not saying to buy

his book. Just research it. I've gotten to where I go straight to the

Diagnostic book. It is what they go by so I think it only makes sense

to know it well myself.

a

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. My family has had the

same problem. This is a one way ticket though and you can't quit for

your daughters sake. I did and it got us nothing but stress and

hell. There are sooooooo many goons out there. My AS daughter will

focus on something for weeks and not get off it. Once when there was

a tornato that is all she could talk or think about. Unfortuantely a

week after this tornato happened(in another part of the world) we saw

a new renouned psych. She spent 20 minutes with me while lauren was

drawing. Then she called lauren in for 5 minutes by herself.

Evidentally she asked what her picuture was ... said "

Its a tornado and it scares me!( her fixation on the current event!)

The pshych called me in there a basically said that my family must be

totally dysfuncional and that there must be some major turmoil(sp?)

in our home and that my husband and I must learn to get along better

in front of her! HELLO!!! How the heck she figured that out from 5

minutes of conversation from a 5 year old kid who is fixated on a

current issue that had just happened. We never went back and I told

the psych she needed to go back school and learn more about kids with

AS because if she knew anything at all she would have known this was

a simple case of fixation that alot of AS kids exhibit! As for your

daughter..... You are just going to have to keep looking! It is

extremely hard to find a psych that is trustworthy and respectable!

Keep trying for your daughters sake! Its a tough ride and I am sure

we have all been there but you CAN do it!!! Good luck!

> Hello .....thought I would update on our latest appointment. If you

> remember my daughter was dx'd with DCD,NLD and possible AS this

past

> spring. We then went to a local psych for some guidance who decided

> to do her own evalutation and felt that although our daughter shows

> autistic traits that a dx of AS was not applicable ( we have been

> over this one before ), BUT she felt Lane was at risk for

depression

> and anxiety disorder. She sent a follow up to our GP who contacted

us

> to say we MUST take our daughter to a psychiatrist so she could be

> prescribed meds as he was unwilling to do so.

>

> So we had the appointment on the 7th with this man, once again a

> psych with high credentials ( retired head of psych for a major

> university ).....this man turns out to be in my guesstamation close

> to 70 years old. We had an hour long appointment in which he talked

> to my husband and I seperate and together...had us fill out

> questionaires and spent about 10 minutes with Lane. He then scolded

> us for having so mych INFORMATION, said that we had info RAINING

down

> upon us,etc. In any event he decided to do his own dx even though

> that was ont what we asked for. He stated that he did not see any

> anxiety in our daughter and what we call anxiety is actualy ADHD.

He

> would not presribe anything that day and insisted we buy a book

from

> his office, read it and come back in 8 weeks. If we agree with him

he

> will prescribe meds. When I quesitoned him as to what med he

said, "

> What ever you tell me to " ??????? I don't get this..how am I

supposed

> to choose medication? I don't think I am qualified to do this and I

> know nothing about these meds except for some success and horror

> stories I read on list serves.

>

> Thinking about jumping off this merry-go-round and just living the

> way we have been all these years. All we want to do is help our

> daughter and all they do is take our money and confuse us even

> more...understand they are not saying these things are in addition

to

> other's dx but instead of. ( with exception of the DCD )

>

> I am going crazy!!!!

>

>

[Guest guest]

> Yikes!! This guy sounds like a quack! How do you find them all?

Aren't you

> in Ohio? If so, I can suggest some people if you'd like. Are you

closer to

> Cleveland or Columbus?

Hi Roxanna.....sorry I am delayed in responses to my

initial post,it was a long day at work with a radio remote to boot

and I had no time to get on line. I live closer to Columbus than

Cleveland and we make trips there every so often especialy now that

Corey is attending college there. I don't know why we seem to have

more than our share of bad experiences..it seems to be a bad year for

us altogether. I am really hoping that takes a turn for the better

before long. I DID buy the book because I felt like I had to, it

won't hurt to read it and she may actualy have ADHD but I am fed up

with this attitude that the other doctors did not know what they were

talking about and their opinion is superior. And we do have a lot of

information..in my opinion enough information that we should be

farther ahead than we currently are on treating symptoms. If you can

refer someone I would consider traveling.

Now you are going to think I am a nutcase and I know it

was just a bunch of hooey but I can't keep out of my mind what a

fortune teller told me early last month. Yes, I said fortune

teller,lol!!!!! We were at the county fair and about to leave when we

spotted this little booth with an older woman..she was doing palm

reading. Since Lane had not gone on too many rides we asked her if

she would like to do this. The woman seemed a little aprehensive

about reading for a child since in her words the lines in her hands

were not very pronounced yet but she did it anyway and Lane thought

it was fun. I think she felt bad because it cost $5.00 and she had

little to say so she offered to read mine for free and aksed if I had

any concerns. I replied the only concerns we had were for our

daughter and she questioned me if there was something wrong with her.

I did not go into detail but pretty much told her there was,

especialy with motor concerns. She was quite serious and told me that

Lane would get better and that we would meet a doctor soon who would

help her greatly. She kept repeating this. I walked away kind of

laughing about it but part of me keeps dreaming that maybe she was

some sort of gypsy spell caster,etc,etc and maybe it will come true.

Rediculous I know. Now I feel really silly.

Anyway, thanks for the offer.