Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 In a message dated 7/31/03 1:55:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time, m.sondey@... writes: > So, I end up " modeling over " a lot of his > comments. " Gee, , you feel frustrated because your LEGO car fell > apart " (instead of what he just said, " I could kill myself. " ) This is > sslloowwllyy starting to work, as he sometimes follows up his initial > statement with one similar to the one I had modeled previously. But, like > most issues we discuss here, there is no quick fix. > > Meg > Hi Meg, this is a great idea. I need to really do this with my 6 yo because he tends to repeat phrases when he's angry too and I know it's because he doesn't have any other words to use. Roxanna ôô What doesn't kill us Makes us really mean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 In a message dated 7/31/03 11:20:26 AM Pacific Daylight Time, rwinters@... writes: << the only thing I could suggest is to try to find an Aspie support group in your area and talk to the parents there. >> Kathy, Thanks for the help. I will definitely look into this. Debbie in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 Ah, yes... the " I want to die, " " I hate this, " " this is the worst day of my life, " " I wish I could kill my sister, " all come out of my dear 's mouth (almost 11 now) all too often. He either loves or hates things. There is no medium. Part of the problem, I think, goes back to the expressive/receptive language problems... when you don't have a great many words at your disposal, you fall back to the ones you have... and not always the most appropriate ones! So, I end up " modeling over " a lot of his comments. " Gee, , you feel frustrated because your LEGO car fell apart " (instead of what he just said, " I could kill myself. " ) This is sslloowwllyy starting to work, as he sometimes follows up his initial statement with one similar to the one I had modeled previously. But, like most issues we discuss here, there is no quick fix. Meg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 << Hence, the psychologist! >> Kathy, How do you find a psychologist who understands the autism spectrum and how do you know you found one? My children have seen a few different psychologists. I have not once felt it helped. My older two are seeing a psychologist right now, and because they are 16 and 17, I don't get to know what they talk about or do(even though we pay the bill.) The doctor said it was up to them to share with me. They tell me they do nothing. That he just sits there and works on other patients' paperwork. Occasionally, they said he asked what things they are interested in. My oldest boy, 16, has seen two other psychologists at different times(and he needs some help). After about 4-5 visits we quit. One doctor told me my son's problem was a bonding issue with me. That's funny. I'm the one he talks to. The other doctor told me his problem was that I did too much for him(when he was 7). Nope. In fact, I'm the one who tries to get him to do things for himself. None of the psychologists have addressed my son's ADHD, destructiveness, anger, etc. Not once has anyone sent us or him home with something practical we could do to help. As you can imagine, I am very cautious. I have trouble imagining sending my 8yr. old AS to any of them. Any suggestions? Debbie in NC Oh boy, Debbie. I completely understand your frustration with psychologists. We'd been to 3 with who were a complete waste of time, and one with both and Braden who was not real effective, but I liked him and the kids had a great rappore with him. I honestly didn't see anything being accomplished, but at least it made us look like we were trying to the schools who wanted to know if they were getting counseling. LOL! I basically found this guy by chance. He does consulting on Asperger Syndrome for the Intermediate Unit and occasionally gives seminars. I happened that, right after was diagnosed with AS, he got a new guidance counselor in the middle school. He had attended one of his seminars and gave me his handout for it. I read it and it was very indepth and detailed. I thought, " Wow, this guy actually has a PLAN! " So I called him, spoke with him, and got on his waiting list (waited over 4 months to see him). Meanwhile, I talked to others. I found out that someone else was taking their son to this psych and loved him. I talked to a friend who is a guidance counselor in a local school district middle school and she told me that lots of the kids in her school see him and he's wonderful. Talked to my son's learning support teacher and she had worked with him about 20 years ago when he was a school psychologist and she said he was wonderful. Talked to another mother of an aspie who has attended his seminar who said she would love to take her son to him but can't afford him. I figured, all that praise was worth looking into. As for what you can do, wellllll, the only thing I could suggest is to try to find an Aspie support group in your area and talk to the parents there. Could be there is a fantastic therapist in your area that they are taking their kids to. I don't know how else to find them. Certainly the hit and miss approach is costly, time consuming and frustrating. Good luck!! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 <<<<<<<<< " this is the worst day of my life, " >>>> this one I hear so often I already laugh ! <<< He either loves or hates things..>>> I think most kids with AS do. F Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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