Re: ()Dawn

July 21, 2003

In a message dated 7/21/2003 11:50:27 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

dayton@... writes:

>

> a

> the thing is - in my house - it is closer to Spaz-burgers than

> Aspergers!! hahahaha

> Dawn

>

Dawn,

I read your post to my aspie dh....well, one of us was laughing!!!!

Spaz-burgers! I hope you are writing these things Bradley does down (Too cute!)

and glad your dh changed his tune to help out the situation.

Take care,

Johanna

July 30, 2003

<<<<<<<ROFLOL!!!!!!!!

You really are funny!!!

Dawn )

>>>

and would you believe my dh is absolutely sure I ahve no sense of

humor.........('cause I don't laugh at his jokes)

F

August 17, 2003

Roxanna

I took that test when you mentioned it about 5-6 mos ago and I

didn't get any results.

Can you post the link again please?

Also - how do we get the results?

Dawn

My

father has a really good evaluation you can take online if anyone is

interested and hasn't done it yet. It does not say you are autistic

or not but it does tell you a lot about yourself. His goal is to

identify AD/hd in people. He is still gathering the data in order to

make his eval statistically relevant. But even though he's my dad, I

found his eval more relevant to the " real' me than this brain test.

Roxanna

August 19, 2003

Dawn,

I have had run-in's with this woman since was in pre-k. I honestly

thought she would be easier to deal after finding out she had a grandson

diagnosed with HFA when was in first grade. She's gotten no more of a

heart.

The things has gotten has always been through fights and a few threats

(of lawyers along the way). Eventually we get what we need, but never

without a fight.

We moved last year in the middle of the school year. At our old place,

had door-to-door transportation by school bus. She tells me that he will

no

longer have that service once we move because we were moving to a dead-end

road in a cul-de-sac. She says " We don't like taking busses down there. If the

other parents see a bus going down there then we will have a problem because

they will want their children picked up down there as well " . (The other

children near me were walking an average of 3 blocks to a bus stop). I told her

the

other children are not my problem at this time, but is. His IEP

states door-to-door pick up and drop off " . She then continued to tell me that

would probably do well with the added responsibility of being able to

walk

to the bus stop. So I told her " This is the same child when asked to go get

his shoes out of his closet and put them on.....15 minutes later the shoes are

still not on because he became side-tracked on the was from the living room

to his bedroom closet by a toy. When he shows being able to accomplish simple

requests such as that, then MAYBE he will be able to be given bigger

responsibilities " . At one point in the conversation she said " Well, I just want

to

know who's issue this really is. Is it yours or 's? " I replied to her by

saying " Actually this is your issue because YOU are supposed to be providing

this service to which is written out in his IEP and you are not " . She

said she would call me back. Instead the director of the bus garage called me

the next day saying he had been given direction to start picking up

door to door.

So, as I mentioned above. He gets what he needs but never without these

types of arguments/fights. And I didn't even type out the whole conversation

due

to length on here.

August 19, 2003

Dawn,

You know,I hate coming across as a " bad guy " , but when it comes to

the welfare of my children I will not take back seat (if you know

what I mean).

I agree with the statement you made about getting it together while

our kids are still young so we may really have it together as the

kids get into older grades. I started with the school system with

as soon as he turned 3 years old. When I think back to then,

the fighting now is much easier (I hateto refer to it as " fighting " ,

but in a sense, that is what we are doing " fighting for our children " .

My turning-3-years-old (next tuesday) son; well, the schools already

have an IEP outlined for him. He will start pre-k the day after Labor

day. He has been diagnosed with PDD-NOS, and SID. is

extremely smart, but has a lot of behavior issues, whereas

doesn't have the behavior issues, per say. So this will be

interesting.

I also have a little girl that's a spitfire and as cute as a button.

Her name is Jazmine, and she just turned 6 in July. I have been

reading what others have wrote about raising girls. Jazmine is a

handfull in her own way, very strong-willed for one, but I could

never deny ho much I enjoy parenting her.

I love my boys, but I have to admit I never knew what it was like to

go to a parent-teacher conference for a NT child and hear how

wonderful she is doing. It made me feel guilty, but I need to let

her know how proud I am of her as well. Sometimes and

's needs take such demand and she actually feels left out. For

the last two years has been in therapy twice a week (speech

and OT), has been going 6 times a week (2 group sessions to

work on appropriate social skills, OT with sensory integration twce a

week, speech with sensory integration, and DT). Jazmine was actually

feeling left out. I realized that when she asked " Will you please

let me sign up for therapy too? It's not fair that and

get to go " .

>

> i wrote some things to you where you see a

*******************************

> We moved last year in the middle of the school year. At our old

place,

> had door-to-door transportation by school bus. She tells me

that he

> will no

> longer have that service once we move because we were moving to a

dead-end

> road in a cul-de-sac. She says " We don't like taking busses down

there. If

> the

> other parents see a bus going down there then we will have a

problem because

>

> they will want their children picked up down there as well " . (The

other

> children near me were walking an average of 3 blocks to a bus

stop). I told

> her the

> other children are not my problem at this time, but is.

>

> *********************************I love it!!!!!!****************

> you're a fiesty one - aren't you?? ha ha ha ha

> besides, why can't your front sidewalk be the bus pick up - for the

whole

> street?

> Then the other parents won't have anything to complain about.

>

> ***************************************************************

> His IEP

> states door-to-door pick up and drop off " . She then continued to

tell me

> that

> would probably do well with the added responsibility of

being able to

> walk

> to the bus stop. So I told her " This is the same child when asked

to go get

>

> his shoes out of his closet and put them on.....15 minutes later

the shoes

> are

> still not on because he became side-tracked on the was from the

living room

> to his bedroom closet by a toy. When he shows being able to

accomplish

> simple

> requests such as that, then MAYBE he will be able to be given

bigger

> responsibilities " .

>

> ******************Good

answer*******************************************

>

> At one point in the conversation she said " Well, I just want to

> know who's issue this really is. Is it yours or 's? " I

replied to her

> by

> saying " Actually this is your issue because YOU are supposed to be

providing

>

> this service to which is written out in his IEP and you are

not " .

>

> ********************GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!********************

> Also, a very good comeback, if i do say so myself. LOL!!!!

>

> *******************************************************************

>

> She

> said she would call me back. Instead the director of the bus garage

called

> me

> the next day saying he had been given direction to start picking

up

> door to door.

> So, as I mentioned above. He gets what he needs but never without

these

> types of arguments/fights. And I didn't even type out the whole

conversation

> due

> to length on here.

> ******************************************

> sounds like you have everything under control.

> we are lucky that we are getting good in the younger grades - by

the time we

>

> get to the older grades - we will be professionals. ha ha ha ha

> I have a 6 yr old boy with AS/ADHD/OCD tendencies - Bradley

> and a 5 yr old girl with a spitfire attitude and cute as a button -

Allyson.

> Take care

> Dawn

>

August 19, 2003

yes, you can definitely count balancing the needs of ALL our kids to the list of

'jobs' we handle, and please do not forget parental needs......

F

Re: ( )Dawn