Guest guest Posted March 18, 2003 Report Share Posted March 18, 2003 In a message dated 3/15/03 11:28:22 PM Eastern Standard Time, joelijah@... writes: > Does anyone have any suggestions for me about explaining to other children > why my son doesn't always behave, but why they still need too. My son is 4 > yo and I babysit another 4 yo girl. When my son acts up she often does too > which makes matters worse. I feel bad for getting on her all the time > about such things because she doesn't seem to understand why my son doesn't > get lectured at as much. I try to explain that he doesn't always > understand what I tell him to do, but she does and needs to listen and obey > and show my son by example. Any suggestions here? Thank you. > That is really hard. I think it depends on the situation as to what you would say. I would still tell my ds to behave and why he should behave even if he isn't following through completely. The attempt should probably be enough to satisfy the little girl. And then I would just tell her that he still has to learn a lot of this stuff that she knows already. Roxanna ôô What doesn't kill us Makes us really mean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2003 Report Share Posted March 27, 2003 Thinking of you all Fania and wonderful news on M Take Care Sue ( ) > Please understand that I have not been posting too much lately and not referring to many many of your posts, despite reading them , I am simply stressed out. > > F > " You can only go halfway into the darkest forest. > Then you are coming out the other way. " > Chinese Proverb > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 why is it that I type whole sentences in full lines, but it appears in the post as " broken lines " ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2003 Report Share Posted June 30, 2003 <<<I also agree with " why do we send our kids there? " . That's why we've decided to homeschool. > I consider it every year, and every year, in the end, we decide that it is important for them to be in 'children's society'. then we once again realize what s going on in the school, and we think : this is not the " society " we want for them...... tehn teh cycle goes again...... <<<<I'm glad that the " open " school is open-minded. Willingness is always nice. However, as a parent whose HFA child has been in 4 different classroom setting in under 12 months, I must say that a willing, established school would obviously be better. One reason that some of the various environments didn't work out for my daughter over the last year was that the programs were just getting started and were somewhat disorganized.. yes, i expect that might happne, which is why i did not enroll them right on the spot......... however, if they are willing to learn about AS, i would take the initiative to help them devise teh kind of program kids with AS need....in no way would I be less involved, on the contrary. <<<< Also, of course, it is best if you can go and observe the existing classroom to get the best possible idea of whether it is right for M.>>>>>> therei s no existing classroom,. they are opening the school in Sept. <<< I know that the sensory environment is very important> the physical place is ok, I have seen it. <<<You have hard choices and I'm hoping for the best for you.> thank you so much for your important input, . I will certainly take it into consideration before making the decision I have about 2 months to decided. teh problem is that teh new open school is planning activities fo rthe kids to meet during the summer, and I wouldn;t want teh cnildren to go and then not go to that school or vice versa.... F Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 Fania, When it comes to the kids, you can borrow my tongue anytime! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 i wrote some things to you where you see a ******************************* We moved last year in the middle of the school year. At our old place, had door-to-door transportation by school bus. She tells me that he will no longer have that service once we move because we were moving to a dead-end road in a cul-de-sac. She says " We don't like taking busses down there. If the other parents see a bus going down there then we will have a problem because they will want their children picked up down there as well " . (The other children near me were walking an average of 3 blocks to a bus stop). I told her the other children are not my problem at this time, but is. *********************************I love it!!!!!!**************** you're a fiesty one - aren't you?? ha ha ha ha besides, why can't your front sidewalk be the bus pick up - for the whole street? Then the other parents won't have anything to complain about. *************************************************************** His IEP states door-to-door pick up and drop off " . She then continued to tell me that would probably do well with the added responsibility of being able to walk to the bus stop. So I told her " This is the same child when asked to go get his shoes out of his closet and put them on.....15 minutes later the shoes are still not on because he became side-tracked on the was from the living room to his bedroom closet by a toy. When he shows being able to accomplish simple requests such as that, then MAYBE he will be able to be given bigger responsibilities " . ******************Good answer******************************************* At one point in the conversation she said " Well, I just want to know who's issue this really is. Is it yours or 's? " I replied to her by saying " Actually this is your issue because YOU are supposed to be providing this service to which is written out in his IEP and you are not " . ********************GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!******************** Also, a very good comeback, if i do say so myself. LOL!!!! ******************************************************************* She said she would call me back. Instead the director of the bus garage called me the next day saying he had been given direction to start picking up door to door. So, as I mentioned above. He gets what he needs but never without these types of arguments/fights. And I didn't even type out the whole conversation due to length on here. ****************************************** sounds like you have everything under control. we are lucky that we are getting good in the younger grades - by the time we get to the older grades - we will be professionals. ha ha ha ha I have a 6 yr old boy with AS/ADHD/OCD tendencies - Bradley and a 5 yr old girl with a spitfire attitude and cute as a button - Allyson. Take care Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 <<<<<<At one point in the conversation she said " Well, I just want to know who's issue this really is. Is it yours or 's? " I replied to her by saying " Actually this is your issue because YOU are supposed to be providing this service to which is written out in his IEP and you are not " . WOW! i am impressed! can I borrow your tongue for my next meeting with the school ?? Fania Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2003 Report Share Posted August 20, 2003 THANKS! and do not worry, I will not keep it afterwards.... lol! F Re: ( ) Fania, When it comes to the kids, you can borrow my tongue anytime! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 <<<<<<< wow!! Your ds had such motivation and is turning into quite the advocate . Great news!> yes, well, teh good news is he did fulfil his par to fthe agreement about dancing class and helping first grade, but besides that he was awfull today at school...... ;-( <<<<<<Herman??? hahaha cute name - who picked that out??>> the only one who could: dh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2003 Report Share Posted October 6, 2003 <<<<<<<When was about 8 he got ready for school one day. He was wearing his sister's hot pink socks (he's colour blind).>>>>> , at least he has a good excuse. My sun simply LOVES pink. although last year (age 10) he realized he was being laughed at becasue of that, and he stopped. he will still wear things with pink if the pink is " disguised " as he calls it (part of a design). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2007 Report Share Posted July 28, 2007 HI Kathleen I suspect that even with Aspergers there are no two kids totally alike. My son was not diagnosed until his 2 & 1/2 yr son was diagnosed two weeks ago. ADam is now 33 and all we were told when he was little was that he was hyperactive. There was next to no resources for us 33 yrs old....some speech and some occupational therapy and a parenting class with the Red Book......we fought to get him into special ed for the smaller classes when he was 8 and then fought to get him back into regular classes when we felt he was ready for grade 7. He was a great teenager, he has a good marriage , is a reliable hard worker and supports the family well enough to own a nice home and he is a great dad. I am not worried about my grandson because with all the resources available now he will be fine. I think my point is, perhaps some kids need disability but I am sure many many go on to live full rewarding self supporting lives.....take heart and have faith in your daughter and be her advocate. Best of luck hugs brenda From: luckym3@...Date: Sat, 28 Jul 2007 08:44:34 -0400Subject: ( ) My 11 year old daughter was just diagnosed a few months ago with AS. Two Post message: Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe List owner: -owner Change settings via the Web ( ID required) Change settings via email: Switch delivery to Daily Digest | Switch format to Traditional Visit Your Group | Terms of Use | Unsubscribe Recent Activity 13 New Members 1 New FilesVisit Your Group Get cancer support Connect w/ others find help & share FruitaBü Parents on teaching families how to eat healthy. TV Staying in tonight? Check listings to see what is on. .. Get news, entertainment and everything you care about at Live.com. Check it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2007 Report Share Posted July 28, 2007 hi hun i am shell mum of six two with autism.one with traits one with lbd my children have had so many dx over the years you could go through the alphabet .. my son with asperegrs was first dxed adhd then hfs then as after a fight. if i can help in any way please let me know love shell kind regards shell http://groups.msn.com/autismaspergersinthefamily ___________________________________________________________ is the world's favourite email. Don't settle for less, sign up for your free account today http://uk.rd./evt=44106/*http://uk.docs./mail/winter07.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2007 Report Share Posted August 1, 2007 If she needs OT and PT, I would suggest you have her evaluated at school and see if you can get those services provided at the school as well. Sure, why not! RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) My 11 year old daughter was just diagnosed a few months ago with AS. Two years ago it was ADHD and a non verbal learning disability. She just started OT and PT last month because she also has Sensory Integration issues. The pieces of the puzzle are now fitting together for me. I was never totally comfortable with just the ADHD. There was always other things she did that made it seem more than that. (i.e, always turned the radio off, flapped her hands when excited, trouble playing with kids her own age, couldn't tie her shoes or ride a bike till she was 10 yrs old, etc) The psychiatrist just put her on Zoloft for her anxieties and fears......this was a last resort because she is not enjoying life because she worries too much. She also will be getting a speech/language evaluation to check her pragmatic speech. She takes everything you say literal and sometimes doesn't understand what you are saying to her. My question is for anybody who has gone thru this........My sister suggests I apply for medical assistance for the OT/PT visits that will occur after the max has been met on our insurance. A co-worker has a son who has AS and he is on disability and she says I should apply for disability for her because she will also need that. I'm a bit confused because I don't really see my daughter as being disabled.....she just does things differently and some things take her longer than the average child. Can anyone tell me if this is the route they took or is it something I should be considering now? She has an IEP in school and I'm also wondering if she should be receiving OT/PT in school once it starts back in September. Thanks for any help anyone can give me on this subject. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2008 Report Share Posted July 21, 2008 Yes...so sad....and so ignorant....I just have been having a difficult time getting myself motivated to do anything. I will write a piece to him ....he should walk in our shoes or our children's shoes....maybe we should invite him over to be a shadow in one of our homes...to spend a day watching our children....let's see what he has to say then!!! And, then he can go to school with them and then try and teach them one day.....he may think a little differently..... Jan Janice Rushen Mom, Mentor, Wife, Teacher, Advocate, Accountant, Maid, Taxi, Shopper, Bulletin Board Artist Nanny, Crafter, Therapist, Friend, Sister, Aunt, Daughter, Grand-daughter, Personal Care Aide, Student, Believer, and Giver. From: Debra Balke <dlbalke@...>Subject: ( ) Date: Monday, July 21, 2008, 5:42 PM No one is up in arms yet over Savage's comments? See Google news..... I figured I would see about 100 angry posts by now. May he walk in our shoes..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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