Re: so upset with DH (long, sorry)- to Leila

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Leila,

Your story (in regards to DH) sounds so similar to mine. He has

remained " out of it " and uninformed to this date, and thinks I'm

too " in to it " I guess... but he does see the deep desire i have to

do what's best for our children. He loves them and he loves me... i

just think it's hard for him to admit when things are wrong with

them... maybe a pride thing, i don't know... but anyway, i wanted to

thank you for your kind words of advice. Stay strong in your

position with your daughter, and I'll keep you both in my thoughts

and prayers.

Thanks again,

Shenelle

> >

> > I know I've read several posts on here in regards to one's DH

> > not agreeing with the necessity for treatment, etc... Mine also

> did

> > not agree with the need for banding until i brought him a

> conclusive

> > diagnoses and measurements that confirmed what I'd been talking

to

> > him about... now I am excited to start sessions with a DO

> > (osteopathy) and DH just told me that he doesn't agree... i told

> him

> > that he could join the other side along with the peds that gave

us

> > the " it'll round out " line... and he said, how do you know that

> > wouldn't have been the case?...uggh! i told him he was very

> > uninformed on the topic... he's made comments before about " why

do

> i

> > fill my head with all of this nonsense " ... basically why do i

even

> > worry about it anymore...

> > also, recently the boys were evaluated by EI for speech and

> > tested at a 9 mo level for expressive comm. and a 12 mo level for

> > cognitive comm...they are 18 mos old...yet he still added that

> they

> > also don't need the help with their speech... i am aware that

they

> > may soon have a language explosion, but having a EI rep come out

> > twice a month to give us pointers on how we can help them along

is

> > not going overboard... i feel like he thinks i am one of " those "

> > moms... i told him i was going forward with or without his

> support,

> > but the truth is i want his support... as my husband and their

> > father... it's really hard coming from him... so i just needed to

> > vent before i broke into tears at work... any advice is

> > appreciated. .. and sorry for the long post

> >

> > Shenelle

> > Katy, TX

> >

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