Re: Not STTN - is it worth trying to train her to STTN while she has STAR Band?

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This is a tough one... my son got his DOC when he was much younger -

4.5 months old - and he had been STTN for a little over a month at

that point. I've been putting him down " drowsy but awake " since he

was only 4 weeks old (I used a lot of the techniques that I used with

my first son that seemed to work well - just started a lot earlier

with #2!). He never gave us any problems after he got his band, and

I completely expected him to - the only issue we had was about a week

after he was in the band full time, he was having a hard time falling

asleep and I'd repeatedly go in and give him a pacifier until he fell

asleep. It would take four or five times of going in, soothing him

and giving him the paci until he'd finally go to sleep. I really

didn't want to have to let him CIO b/c I didn't want him to get all

worked up and more upset b/c he was hot and uncomfortable in the

DOC. Finally on the fifth or sixth night I decided I finally just

had to cave and let him CIO. He cried for about 8 minutes and fell

asleep for the rest of the night and he's been good ever since.

Personally, I think that sooner you're able to " teach " your child to

fall asleep by themself and soothe themself back to sleep if they

wake up, the better. When my toddler was about four months old we

let him CIO, and the same with Luke, my 5 month old in the DOC band.

I used " graduated extinction " - the Ferber Method - where you go in

after 5 minutes, then after 8 minutes, then 10, etc, etc... If

you're not comfortable letting your baby cry, then I'm certainly not

suggesting that you do - there are a ton of other " methods " out there

like Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution or the Baby

Whisperer... I just think that the longer you wait and the older

your baby gets, the harder it becomes. I've had friends who have

waited till their LO's were older and they got so worked up that they

threw up in the bed, and eventually they realized that if they just

threw up, mommy or daddy would come in to clean up the mess and

comfort them, so they just stopped crying altogether and threw up

instead!

I know it's a lot harder with a preemie, too - my first was six weeks

early and the second was four weeks early... nothing compared to

three months! But still, not easy having a preemie!

I was downright obsessed with getting my boys to STTN and I think

I've read just about every book out there - feel free to e-mail me if

I can help you out any more... but just remember that I used CIO and

I fully advocate and support it.

Good luck to you either way!!!

Jess

Mom to Luke - 5 months old - DOC Band 4 weeks

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> Correction, I should have said she didn't start wearing the band at

night until the END of the first week....

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> From: sharidlancaster <sharidlancaster@...>

> Plagiocephaly

> Sent: Sunday, November 2, 2008 12:09:57 PM

> Subject: Not STTN - is it worth trying to train her to

STTN while she has STAR Band?

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> My daughter is 10 months, but she was 3 months early, so her

adjusted

> age is 7 months. She has had her STAR Band for about a month. She

> wasn't STTN before her band, but shortly before that, she was only

> getting up one time per night, on average. Now, she is getting up

> about 3 times per night. She doesn't eat all of those times, she

just

> wakes up & needs some comfort going back to sleep. I have tracked

> back (I keep a spreadsheet of her eating & sleeping schedule each

day)

> & this actually started occurring the week we got the band...but,

she

> didn't start wearing at at night until the beginning of that first

> week. So, I don't know if this getting up is tied to the band or if

> it's maybe a combination of things.

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> Anyway...my question is, do you guys think it's worth trying to

train

> her to STTN while she is in the band or should I wait until she is

out

> of it? Did anyone try the transition to STTN while their child had

> the band?

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> Any advice is welcome....

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[Guest guest]

CIO is always controversial, no matter where you go or what message

board you're on, which is exactly why I suggested Pantley... CIO

certainly isn't for everyone. But in defense of CIO, I have two very

happy, well adjusted and extremely well rested little boys who are

incredibly easy to put down for naps and for bed. I'm a SAHM, but

anyone who's ever watched them for me has said the same thing - they're

amazed at what great sleepers they are and are blown away that they

don't need to be rocked, patted, or shushed to sleep. Both of my boys

sleep soundly from 7pm - 7am every night (my 5 month old still gets

a " dream-feed " at 10pm before I go to bed since babies aren't

metabolically able to sleep 12 hours straight until they're about six

months old). Again, CIO is NOT for everyone and I understand that -

but I think it's important to realize that it CAN be successful and it

was in no way damaging or detrimental to my children.

One belief that's pretty consistent amongst all of the so-

called " experts " is that young babies NEED a bedtime between 6pm and

8pm... if you're not putting your LO down early enough, it could

possibly be contributing to night wakenings... Just a thought!

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> One more thing........maybe instead of trying to sleep train her, you

could just send Daddy in to comfort her. My son definitely prefers me

at night but settles much more quickly for DH. I guess once he realizes

he isn't going to get Mommy, he just goes back to sleep.

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[Guest guest]

I've heard twin size, too...

And from what you posted earlier - it sounds like you're doing

everything " right! " Maybe it's a tooth bothering your LO? Something

unrelated to the helmet??? Babies are so hard to read!!! Seriously -

they should be born with the ability to speak!

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> From what I have read on here, people just buy the twin size and cut

it to fit. I am seriously considering doing this when we get our 2nd

band on Wednesday. My son is now 13 1/2 months.

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