Re: Any negativity towards the helmet?

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Hi Alix my 9 mo old is about to get his helmet next week and thats the kind of

stuff i DONT want to deal with. i too am fairly young 27 (not as young as u but

hey im still in my 20s lol) all i can say is that your so called friends are

stil VERRY immature n only say mean things 2 make themselves feel better. your

a great mom n by putting your sons needs 1st u & #39;ve proved that! keep your

head up n if u ever need 2 talk just email me.

Alix wrote:

> Hey everyone,

> I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with

> are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one

> of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes

> them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone

> else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I

> would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a ridiculous

> arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree

> with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or

> support would be nice!

> -Alix

> Mom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon)

>

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Alix,I would say it was a very mature decision you made to band your child. I think the next mature decision is to get him as far away from those "friends" as possible - before he's old enough to understand what they are saying (or are teaching their kids to say). Even at 20, I know there are plenty of good people out there who would never dream of saying something so hurtful. Being a mother is tough enough with good friends - so I know it's a nightmare without them.What city are you in? Perhaps someone on this board is closeby to you.Good luck! You are being an amazing mom by taking such good care of your

baby! Kindly,Sandy Any negativity towards the helmet?Hey everyone,

I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with

are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one

of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes

them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone

else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I

would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a ridiculous

arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree

with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or

support would be nice!

-Alix

Mom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon)

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Alix,So sorry to hear about the social grief you have been catching just because you are a proactive parent. One the markers of arguing with someone immature is they will take a stab at anything that makes you vulnerable, or call you names. I would take this is an opportunity to cut off toxic friends because if they sink that low, they probably have no qualms about disrespecting you behind your back too. I had some less than favorable reactions with my son in the band, most people (my husbands family) most thought that I was trying to be a perfectionist by having him in it, instead of trusting that he would grow out of it or assumed that I had him in the swing his entire infancy. I looked them directly in the eye and slowly explained the cause of his condition to them and in a very assertive tone and left it at that, once I approached that way I

felt like I was more in control of the situation.From: Alix <acf1188@...>Subject: Any negativity towards the helmet?Plagiocephaly Date: Sunday, August 17, 2008, 6:22 AM

Hey everyone,

I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with

are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one

of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes

them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone

else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I

would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a ridiculous

arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree

with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or

support would be nice!

-Alix

Mom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon)

[Guest guest]

Thank you, it is incredibly immature of them and unforgivable! I will definately keep him away from people like that. Its just shocking that people close to you will sink that low. This might sound wrong but are you going to be open with your children about it? I would hate to have kids be mean to him when he's older for something that helped him so much. I've never had to make a decision like this and neither has my family so I'm not really sure how to handle it. We're currently in Tulsa, Ok and going to OK City to see the only ortho in Ok that does plagio work. We'll be moving back to Rochester, Ny soon though so I'm trying to find a dr there. I go see my ortho tomorrow and I'm going to ask him, I will probably post something soon asking about Rochester drs.

From: Sandy Ruff <sandysruff@...>Subject: Re: Any negativity towards the helmet?Plagiocephaly Date: Sunday, August 17, 2008, 6:49 PM

Alix,I would say it was a very mature decision you made to band your child. I think the next mature decision is to get him as far away from those "friends" as possible - before he's old enough to understand what they are saying (or are teaching their kids to say). Even at 20, I know there are plenty of good people out there who would never dream of saying something so hurtful. Being a mother is tough enough with good friends - so I know it's a nightmare without them.What city are you in? Perhaps someone on this board is closeby to you.Good luck! You are being an amazing mom by taking such good care of your

baby! Kindly,Sandy

Any negativity towards the helmet?

Hey everyone, I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a ridiculous arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or support would be nice!-AlixMom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon)

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Thank you! I'm trying to stay positive and I know they're are just taking cheap shots at me. But there's no reason to ever involve someone's child! They're clearly not friends at all but I wish I hadn't have learned that this way. Overall my experiences with my son's plagio and torticollis have been a great learning experience! He loves physical therapy and so far our ortho has been very understanding and answered questions I've had. It's annoying sometimes to have to explain to every person you see what the helmet is for and how that happens. But I always feel like its important to take time and not just be like "oh his head is flat" and I really try to explain without boring them. Hopefully by doing that, one of them might have a friend who is in the same situation and can recognize what is going on. As far as dealing with the judgement, its hard when

your family and people close to you haven't been through anything like this but as long as you have some sort of support, even this group, that can relate it helps a lot! It's definately worth it too! Good luck > Hey everyone, > I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with > are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one > of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes > them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone > else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I > would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a

ridiculous > arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree > with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or > support would be nice! > -Alix > Mom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon) >

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Hi Alix,I do not think there is anything to be embarrassed about. We are taking lots of pictures of our son in his helmet and I will not have a problem telling him about it when he's older. I bet our boys would rather look back at 4-6 months of dorky helmet wearing then having a head that looks Darth Varder's.(that's what we thought our son's head looked like). =)Our family has been pretty great about it. The strange people we meet in the supermarket are the best. My son gets so much attention, he just eats it up. Of course, most of them think he is Autistic or mentally challenged but it doesn't bother me. I think it's the helmet plus the drool that throws people off. I just have fun it it. I like to tell people he just

really likes to skateboard all the time.Good luck with all your "friends' and your son's helmet. RE: Any negativity towards the helmet?Thank you! I'm trying to stay positive and I know they're are just taking cheap shots at me. But there's no reason to ever involve someone's child! They're clearly not friends at all but I wish I hadn't have learned that this way. Overall my experiences with my son's plagio and torticollis have been a great learning experience! He loves physical therapy and so far our ortho has been very understanding and answered questions I've had. It's annoying sometimes to have to explain to every person you see what the helmet is for and how that happens. But I always feel like its important to take time and not just be like "oh his head is flat" and I really try to explain without boring them. Hopefully by doing that, one of them might have a friend who is in the same situation and can recognize what is

going on. As far as dealing with the judgement, its hard when

your family and people close to you haven't been through anything like this but as long as you have some sort of support, even this group, that can relate it helps a lot! It's definately worth it too! Good luck > Hey everyone, > I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with > are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one > of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes > them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone > else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I > would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a

ridiculous > arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree > with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or > support would be nice! > -Alix > Mom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon) >

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Hi! Toxic friends is exactly what they are and cutting them off is what I am going to do. Its really suprising how many of them there are though. True colors I guess. It's funny that you say your husband's family gave you a hard time about it. I also have dealt with that on top of everything! For such smart, successful people they really are a bunch of dummies! More specifically, they said things like "well she must leave him in his chairs all the time!" They live in NY and we don't currently so they didn't get to see his torticollis or they would have felt really stupid! Especially since I am so young I feel like its seen as my fault and that's as ridiculous as him sitting in swings or bouncers all the time! But what can you do...at least friends I can lose. I just hope I've been assertive enough with my son's other side.

From: Alix <acf1188 (DOT) com>Subject: Any negativity towards the helmet?PlagiocephalyDate: Sunday, August 17, 2008, 6:22 AM

Hey everyone, I'm a pretty young mother (20) and most of the people I am friends with are around my age. It seems like every time I am on the outs with one of them they say things about my son and his helmet. I know that makes them horrible people and worse friends! I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with negative comments or reactions like this and how? I would never talk about anyone's child, especially not in a ridiculous arguement, and I can't seem to understand why every person I disagree with sinks so low! Any suggustions on how to not feel so offended or support would be nice!-AlixMom of Nicolas S 8 mon, plagio/tort. (starband 4 mon)