Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Jane, I love when lurkers come out. They are the smartest fols who never realize how much we can learn from them. What follows is something I sent to a friend. If you have more questions about our story email me offlist. My sincere hope is that my son gives me grief via fully articulated words on how much he dislikes the fact that I aired his dirty laundry so publicly:) He was a puzzle from the beginning, even in utero. The pregnancy was strange but since my first one was really strange I figured the one with him was normal. Little did I know. I have typically off the charts low cholesterol yet during the pregnancy with it was 244. I was eating like someone with an eating disorder. Had head and ear pain constantly and was starving every single minute. I ate like a horse yet lost 5 pounds during the third month of pregnancy. I passed out during the glucose tolerance test yet did not have diabetes. I also had bloody stool. The day was born everything was almost too easy. He slept A LOT. Too much. I always had enough milk but he did not drink much. He was floppy. He was jaundiced but so was and I was as a baby too. He was cute and fat and appeared healthy but something inside me was screaming " What is wrong? " Still I was calm as they told me his heart numbers were bad and he had stridors and a murmur. Many in my family had this and it all turned out fine. That was the story of . All of these things had been seen in the family but not in one person. Still, no lights were required for the jaundice, the heart numbers improved and the stridors were deemed OK. Still, all was not right. He consistently missed every single milestone from the very beginning by at least two weeks. He slept too much. When awake his blue lips quivered (siezure?). He was always crying and none of the usual...diaper change, bottle, cuddle, satisfied him. He had what has since been described to me as autistic poop...yellow tan soft serve. That was his formula poop or breast milk poop no matter what I ate, cut out, etc. Later it became, and I swear I thought this long before I read about metal, metallic. Tummy time was near impossible due to screaming with what I now believe to be belly pain. When we tried to comfort him he arched his back and screamed the encyphylitic cry. His ears were very sensitive. Fluid but no infection. I think that was the atypical GERD thing. At 5 months I took him to the dr. I simply said, he is miserable, maybe it is his ears. Honestly he screams all the time but this is worse. " She sent me to the hospital fearing meningitis because of the way he tilted his head. He did that all the time. I knew it was not meningitis but went anyway. I refused the spinal tab and they found a UTI. He got IV antibiotics and was downright charming. Prior to that he hated strangers and was not always fond of us. It was more like we were the least objectionable choice. That hospital stay was the fondest memory I have of him under 1. He smiled at everybody. He cooperated. I really thought maybe we caught something that had been going on for a while. He smiled back at me as I read to him and was tickled pink. That was the first time in his life he was off the fluoridated nursery water. I brought him home and within a day it was back to screaming. Despite more drs visits, one to a neuro about language as I could tell he did not babble enough, never made the m or g sound, etc. absolutely nothing changed. At 18 months we went for a beach vacation. He walked and said his first words on the same day. He was also very happy. That was the second time in his life that I was unable to give him that fluoridated nursery water. At home he did scream more but way less than before. We suspected he had a belly thing that movement was helping. Looking back there were swallowing problems and he drank way too much milk to compensate for the needed calories. He choked on a lot of stuff, including liquids. As big as he was he was fragile. Older relatives often said we babied him and then when they picked him up you saw their faces drop...Low Tone. There never was a language explosion and he was there and not there depending on the day. He was timid and shy in that scarey way that you know is not right. There were few people he would " let in. " EI came at 21 months and he barely qualified but everyone agreed something just was not right. The speech was his biggest delay but he only got an OT and a DI. Therapy helped but consistency was an issue and there was no improvement in language at all. At age 2 I called EI and requested a speech therapist and hired a private therapist and had an ENT check his ears (this was done at age 1 and he was cleared). Ears were fine, unifected fluid but because he had a speech delay the ENT suggested tubes. I waited 3 months to get them so I could see where therapy took him. He was charming and coming around with the individual therapists from a sensory standpoint. You could tell he loved the extra attention. The thing was his hand issues, tone issues, and speech issues remined mostly unchanged. He would go two steps forward and one step back with receptive language. Now granted, we did not ask a lot of him which was part of it but you could tell there was motor planning stuff going on. He did say stuff though here and there...around the time I put my foot down and cut back the milk so he'd eat more. He regressed when I started waivering and was either sick or gassy for a good two months. Looking back he was always gassy but more on milk. He was not typically sick though. When he was sick he seemed actually happer which I found strange. At 2 years 3 months he got the tubes. He gained 12 words in one day...so he doubled his vocabulary. The next day he lost most and had a very bad delayed reaction to the anesthesia. He freaked out and screamed in an angry way I'd not heard before...it was odd. And he stunk, his whole room actually, of bad Old Spice. He clamed down as soon as I removed hm from his fleece pjs. This was on top of the difficulty they had waking him. When he lost words after a surgery that was supposed to help him I went into high gear. I had been reading all along, thought apraxia earlier but set it aside. I reread the late talker and found my boy on those pages. I then started on the board and wrote up a big history to find my answers. In talking with my cousin and reviewing it I thought he had GERD stuff, especially since his hhistory was starting to match what was happening to me and I was in the proces of getting scoped. She mentioned celiac. I looked it up, reviewed it and really thought that was the deal. I reviewed the board and saw people had celiac-like stuff going on and decided to try a GI. No aapointments until Oct. Then I talked to a celiac expert's nurse. No appointments there until 1/08. She gave me a list of labs to get. My pediatrician ordered them. It then dawned on me that daughter, who was ahead in milestones and was an easy baby, had celiac symptoms too. I went to the pediatrician for labs for daughter. She refused. I fired her. My cousin got the labs and though they were technically negative something was up. Daughter was severely D deficient. Nurse decided we needed in and she said she would call with first opening. In the meantime I decided we were going GFCF. I had no plan so it was apples, carrots, eggs and fritos for a few days. A few days after that we got into the GI. Her fifteen minute assessment was celiac for daughter and EE and/or celiac for . She wanted to scope and told me to feed them some gluten and milk daily until the scope. I did it for two days and all the bad behavior I lost on that diet returned. I just knew they would get sicker so I went GFCF and eventually SF. The scheduler called and I blew it off. I wanted to see what the diet could do and at that point had already seen a ridiculous amount of improvement in bowels, pee, learning and behavior. I did not feel like harming their bowels justso she could see something we already knew we had. Still, said we needed to know because of complications. She did tell me though that based on those labs we had a 3% chance of scoping positive. So, I asked the nurse to put off the scope and requested genetic testing. I got it for DQ2 and 8 but not DQ!. The tests are $32,000 and our income is less than double that. I am in the midst of figuring that part out. It looks like daughter and sons will be covered and done via Labcorp. If that is the case I just might do all 4, complete with DQ1 at Direct labs for a total of $2,000 since they also use Labcorp. A little more investigation needed. Here is what I saw in : 1) Loss of milk: Eyebrow lift, newer happier kid, better poop. 2) Loss of gluten: poop got more normal. 3) Loss of nursery water: Eyebrows moved higher up the head...it was crazy and he was thrilled. We stayed with this for over 2 months and it led to writing, bike riding, words and more of them. First the words came. There were a lot but many catchalls and random speech. He also had articulation issues one day and none the next...that was strange. He had more focus but still wanted to flip around in books. Honestly, the focus change is something oly I would notice. He was focused before during all therapy sessions...while they did all the work. Now he was in on the action. One of his delays was that he pointed late. He also seemed not to see things we pointed out. Now he pointed with purpose and was more engaged. Almost all tone issues gone. We have photo poof of that. 4) Fish Oil: Honestly, no big wow moment as I gave RDA or less but when off you could see the difference. Fish oil gave us complete focus, way more social behavior than ever with everyone and he sat for a book and let us read page to page. He also threw way less tantrums and communicated better with the words he knew and added a sign if he did not. His recptive skyrocketed during all of this. 5) Calcium: GFCFSF is an extreme diet. I tried to cover the vitamins by diet and sometimes a multi but worried about calcium. Plus I read that calcium pulls out fluoride which I suspected was part of this. So, I bought a mild calcium/magnesium supplement liquid from Kirkman said to be safe, had the least lead in it, and was best absorbed. That pulled buckets of brown pee out of him, 5 lbs of grey sludge and brown stuff poured out of his teeth as his shiners moved down on his face. It was terrifying. The thing was he smiled the whole time like he was relieved. I kept filling him up with food to be sure he was not dehydrated and he never got so much as a fever. I gave him 2 tsp that day which is RDA. It truly scared me silly but by days end I had normal brown formed stool from him. I gave him 1 tsp the next day and the sludge was brown but the typical type I had on fish oil (I believe based on that fish oil helps move some of the gunk out of the gut while healing it). I then waited 3 weeks to do any more. I have done it since without harm but the truth is he gets enough calcium in diet, even if fluoride is an issue it must come out slow and steady so his bones do not crumble and his gut and kidneys do not explode. He has not had berown pee again. So, you see, I think a few things happened to bring my boy to this place. 1) The fluoridated water I drank with him in utero was strike one. 2) It in him and its ability to trap metal put him at a disadvantage gutwise and that was made worse by aluminum formula and vaccines. 3) The vaccines effect was worse because fluoride is particularly good at trapping aluminum. He got almost exclusively aluminum laced vaccines. Then I gave him tylenol afte r the vaccines...another metal trapper. 4) On top of this my sweet boy had a milk allergy, inherited from me. Celiac or celiac-like condition was also there. Testing will answer that one. What the future holds. 1) My boy will beat what is left of his dyspraxia. 2) We will stay on this diet until he leaves my home and I can't control it regardless of the testing. If the testing is negative for celiac I will allow mild cheating outside the home when I sense rebellion but otherwise, we will eat this way as it prevents MS, and other autoimmune stuff and on top of this alopecia is in my family. 3) Aside fom the diet I will not be the mother hen. The goal was always for my son to find his place in the world. He canot do that with me smothering him. My daughters story and mine would keep you up all night so for now I will leave it at . Take care! Liz >> We finally had our appointment with our 7 year old daughter today and got our official diagnosis today of dyspraxia, (obviously apraxia of speech as well which we have known since age 3) but one thing that came up that must have passed me by in all the early testing was that she has an IQ of 70. Even thought I must have read it back in 2006 when they tested her, it apparently never sunk in to me. I am dumbfounded. I am certain her intelligence is not below average. She has amazing problem solving skills and although she has to work a heck of a lot harder at some things she has never shown to be lacking in intelligence. Is this just a skewed test for our kids?> > Barbara > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Who's friends with who and co-starred in what? > http://www.searchgamesbox.com/celebrityseparation.shtml > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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