RE: [SPAM]RE: OT Questions

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I would try this..... say something like, " You know, I felt that there were

certain times during the last session where my son was becoming stressed out by

the therapy and that (important word here) WE, were a tad rough on him. It

really makes me feel uncomfortable to see him getting upset because it doesn't

facilitate his learning.

Is there a reason for this approach that I don't know about because I would like

to change the way WE are doing this.

Let her speak here..... she may have some 'reasoning' and listen to her and

validate her BUT be gentle but extremely FIRM when you indicate that this is NOT

in line with your PARENTING STYLE. You take the Dr. Phil approach..... no

physical pushing, pulling, yelling or intimidating. This is your parenting

style and it is also the way that YOUR CHILD (he is your son..... not hers!)

responds best. When he is happy and engaged, he learns better.

Try that and see if she is responsive. You need to make the wording careful so

that she does not feel acused or 'gets' her back up. Just indicate that the

last few sessions have been too rough and that you need to tone it down a bit.

If she takes the stance that 'She's been doing it this way for 30 years and

basicly SHE'S the boss', forget dealing with her. Talk to the EI coordinator

and lay a complaint. She will do your child more harm than good.

If she has a reason behind her approach, do listen for you never know..... there

may be some underlying philosophy that we all are unaware of..... but I don't

think so! I have never seen one of our kids respond positively to stress. They

shut down and their brains shut off.

Good luck. I have dealt with many surely and hostile teachers over the

years.... not just OT's! You'll get used to them! You always need to remember

this is YOUR child but they have your child for the next number of months....

like a bad marriage but you need to get a long for the sake of the child!

My sister has learned this the hard way. She has gotten into hot water with her

son's grade 3 teacher and now the poor kid is getting detention after detention,

punishment after punishment. She thinks we don't notice? I finally talked my

sis into writing a letter for the child is simply getting abused and he is a

really sweet kid.

Janice

Mother of Mark, 13

[sPAM]RE: [ ] OT QuestionsAfter writing this post

last night, I laid in bed for hours thinking about how " crazy " I am.....I'm

crazy for not recognizing and admitting this earlier!!!!! I've been so grateful

to get the service that I didn't want to entertain the thoughts that this OT is

not good AT ALL for my son. I feel like each time I call my coordinator from EI,

there's more and more excuses why we shouldn't get certain services, etc, and

the atmosphere is thick with " Oh no, here she comes again " .....so I didn't want

to have to address a complaint issue. You're right, and I can't take him back

there. She's horrible with him. Having a child with special needs is making me

fight for what's right for him, and I've never been that great with conflict --

but I'm learning and getting better. Thanks so much for your input, Dylan.

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Thanks Janice,

You're right. I don't respond well to stress either.....I shut down also. I

found MYSELF afraid to make a at the session, too.

@...: jscott@...: Thu, 24

Jan 2008 19:19:08 -0800Subject: Re: [sPAM]RE: [ ] OT Questions

I would try this..... say something like, " You know, I felt that there were

certain times during the last session where my son was becoming stressed out by

the therapy and that (important word here) WE, were a tad rough on him. It

really makes me feel uncomfortable to see him getting upset because it doesn't

facilitate his learning.Is there a reason for this approach that I don't know

about because I would like to change the way WE are doing this. Let her speak

here..... she may have some 'reasoning' and listen to her and validate her BUT

be gentle but extremely FIRM when you indicate that this is NOT in line with

your PARENTING STYLE. You take the Dr. Phil approach..... no physical pushing,

pulling, yelling or intimidating. This is your parenting style and it is also

the way that YOUR CHILD (he is your son..... not hers!) responds best. When he

is happy and engaged, he learns better.Try that and see if she is responsive.

You need to make the wording careful so that she does not feel acused or 'gets'

her back up. Just indicate that the last few sessions have been too rough and

that you need to tone it down a bit.If she takes the stance that 'She's been

doing it this way for 30 years and basicly SHE'S the boss', forget dealing with

her. Talk to the EI coordinator and lay a complaint. She will do your child more

harm than good.If she has a reason behind her approach, do listen for you never

know..... there may be some underlying philosophy that we all are unaware

of..... but I don't think so! I have never seen one of our kids respond

positively to stress. They shut down and their brains shut off.Good luck. I have

dealt with many surely and hostile teachers over the years.... not just OT's!

You'll get used to them! You always need to remember this is YOUR child but they

have your child for the next number of months.... like a bad marriage but you

need to get a long for the sake of the child!My sister has learned this the hard

way. She has gotten into hot water with her son's grade 3 teacher and now the

poor kid is getting detention after detention, punishment after punishment. She

thinks we don't notice? I finally talked my sis into writing a letter for the

child is simply getting abused and he is a really sweet kid.JaniceMother of

Mark, 13