Re: Re: milk free

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Liz. Yes. (Notice that I changed the topic listing....)

Mark had chronic diarrhea prior to milk elimination and then we had chronic

constipation.... Once we got rid of the 'artificials' and the MSG; his bowels

completely normalized. Yet, you know it was not that simple; he needed some help

in healing the tummy which happened with digestive enzymes, probiotics & coconut

keifer water. Mark will often feel lousy after a restaurant because of the MSG

they put in food. I notice that his attention and speech suffers if he has it

as well. While it is not the end of the world if he gets MSG, his performance

is optimized when he stays away from it completely. Speech, attention, general

health are all brighter and perkier. After a few days of restaurant food (as

per traveling), he begins to get sick and the constipation returns. It happens

very gradual so that by the 3rd day of travel, the child is pretty ill.

It really has been a weird and tricky road. I cannot imagine what my childs

current fate would be had I not tried the milk free diet.

So.... I am learning to eat as clean as possible. We now need to learn to

travel as 'clean' as possible. Fortunately we don't seem to have these MSG

issues at the all-inclusive Mexican resorts that we go to. Is MSG more of an

American/Canadian thing? I do notice that most of the food seems to be made

daily from scratch at these resorts.

Janice

Mother of Mark, 13

[sPAM][ ] Re: Hijacked list - (was Tanner)

Are you saying he had chronic diarrhea on milk and only constipation

after milk loss?

> > >

> > > I don't think people are necessary " offended " by the biomed

talk.

> > > Obviously fish oils and vit E are biomedical interventions.

From my

> > > point of view I am not offended by or " put off " by the TALK of

> > biomed

> > > interventions. My only concern about the direction of this

group is

> > > that it has become so one-sided that I think most newcomers

may get

> > > the impression that major lifestyle changes and huge financial

> > > commitments are the ONLY way to see progress in their

> > child/children.

> > >

> > > I would strongly suggest that we, as a group, keep in mind

that many

> > > parents simply do not have the means to pursue the HUGE list

of

> > other

> > > options that are often listed as a first course of action in

this

> > > group. I know many people have cited cost as a reason for why

they

> > > have not pursued DAN and long lists of other pricey options.

When

> > > people cite those reasons the response is almost always

something

> > > along the lines of " my child is worth it " or " we don't have

the

> > money

> > > either, but we find a way for our child " , etc. Unfortunately,

that

> > > may leave the parent who doesn't sacrifice everything feeling

like a

> > > failure as a parent. I spent many sleepless nights laying in

bed

> > > feeling like a terrible mother trying to figure out how I was

going

> > to

> > > talk my husband into us spending all of our savings on the

> > biomedical

> > > interventions being discussed on here (and my son was not

even 2.5

> > > then). In the end, my dh and I agreed that if we did not see

> > > significant improvement by age 4 or 4.5 we'd pull out of our

savings

> > > and pursue those other options. I really am glad we did not

put

> > > further stress into our marriage and whole family by spending

> > > thousands of dollars. Seeing his wonderful progress now makes

me

> > > laugh a little at the thought of me taking all the money out

of his

> > > college fund just to pay for stuff that he doesn't seem to

even

> > need.

> > >

> > > I do have a point to all this....I think it's great that every

> > > alternative is at least discussed and brought to light.

Bouncing

> > > ideas off one another may be the single most important way we

help

> > our

> > > children and future children that struggle to learn to speak.

But,

> > I

> > > hope everyone would agree that the easiest and least expensive

> > options

> > > should be explored first and then it can progress from there.

I

> > know

> > > that as parents of late-talkers we get tired of hearing it,

but it

> > > really is true that some kids just need extra time and extra

help

> > from

> > > a good SLP. I think it would be a shame that parents of a

> > > late-talking barely 2 yr old might join this group and then

suddenly

> > > feel panicked into diving head-first into thousands of

dollars of

> > > biomed interventions when in reality all the child needed was

time

> > and

> > > therapy. I just feel that, with all things in life, there

needs to

> > be

> > > a balance. Maybe the lack of balance is just as much my fault

and

> > > others that have feelings similar to mine. But, in my

defense, the

> > > reason I don't really express my opposing point of view is

because

> > of

> > > huge feelings of guilt. I have beat myself up so many times

about

> > how

> > > I must not be as good a mom as so many on here because I've

been

> > > hesitant to make the same sacrifices. Does that mean I don't

care

> > > about my son? Does that mean I'm too selfish to help my son?

No

> > one

> > > on here has made me feel that way because only I have control

over

> > my

> > > feelings. But, I will say that the tone of many posts has not

> > helped

> > > at all. I have read more than once things like " yes,

eliminating

> > > dairy and gluten is hard work but I do it for my son " . You

can see

> > > how one could read between the lines and hear " if you really

wanted

> > to

> > > help your son you would do the hard work necessary to

eliminate

> > gluten

> > > and casein, too " .

> > >

> > > I sure hope this comes across the way I intend it to. I'm NOT

> > trying

> > > to offend anyone. I have read alot of the biomed info with

great

> > > interest and have it all filed away in my head for a day I

may see

> > the

> > > need to use it. But, I would be thrilled to also hear more

> > > discussions about what kind of speech therapy is working.

And, I

> > > guess to just be able to talk about all the cool little

things that

> > > make our kids unique and special and wonderful. Wouldn't it

be nice

> > > to just celebrate our kids sometimes instead of spending every

> > moment

> > > trying to " fix " them? Maybe I'm also just being a little

> > sentimental

> > > since today is my son's 3rd birthday. They really do grow up

so

> > fast!!

> > >

> > > Bridget

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