Re: Need support and looking for opionions.

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry your son is going through this..and you too. Seeing your kids

suffer just breaks your heart. Can you request a conference with his teacher

and explain what apraxia is and how she can help him. Maybe give her a copy of

that letter that was posted here. It sounds like she had no idea what your son

is going through. Did your son's friends mothers start homeschooling because of

problems with the school? Maybe this guidance counselor will be able to help

your son with issues in school. I would also talk to the teacher about the

other kids excluding him. Maybe if she keeps her eye out for it, she can create

a situation where he is included and can help him make some new friends. I hope

this gets easier for your son.

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " srmccann2003 " <smccann@...>

Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

the playground. *Sigh*

I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

Any thoughts? What would you do?

Thanks in advance,

McCann

Stressed out Mom to Nick

[Guest guest]

You know it's a bad day when you spell opinions - opionions!

Uggggh!

[Guest guest]

Hang in there. Based on regression I'd check medical stuff

(malabsorption, vitamin levels, any supplements used, etc.). As for

school, I would talk to them, offer to be a room mom and be sure the

teacher knows his deal and do what you have to to be sure he is

understood. That would make me sob too, and has! He deserves better.

klbushey@... wrote:

> I am so sorry your son is going through this..and you too. Seeing your

> kids suffer just breaks your heart. Can you request a conference with

> his teacher and explain what apraxia is and how she can help him.

> Maybe give her a copy of that letter that was posted here. It sounds

> like she had no idea what your son is going through. Did your son's

> friends mothers start homeschooling because of problems with the

> school? Maybe this guidance counselor will be able to help your son

> with issues in school. I would also talk to the teacher about the

> other kids excluding him. Maybe if she keeps her eye out for it, she

> can create a situation where he is included and can help him make some

> new friends. I hope this gets easier for your son.

>

>

>

> -------------- Original message --------------

> From: " srmccann2003 " <smccann@...

> <mailto:smccann%40securespeed.net>>

> Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

> this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

> he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

> wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

> friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

> having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

> when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

> and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

> was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

> knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

> and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

> butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

> telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

> child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

> thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

> can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

> that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

> the playground. *Sigh*

>

> I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

> counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

> She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

> know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

> drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

> is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

> it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

> go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

> regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

>

> Any thoughts? What would you do?

> Thanks in advance,

> McCann

> Stressed out Mom to Nick

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I know you said you work. Is there any way you could homeschool this poor

boy? School is supposed to be a means to an end, not an end in and of itself.

If school is not providing an education for your son (which it won't under the

circumstances), why on earth would you send him there? And if school is not

providing an education but is destroying your special little guy, why on EARTH

would you send him there?!

I personally would do/have done/continue to do whatever it takes to save my

son. I would NEVER send him into a situation which was torturous for him. Why

would I? My objective as a mother is not to destroy my child by the precious

age of 5! We have made huge financial sacrifices so I can stay home with my

kiddos, but they are more than worth it.

Even if there is no way you can stay home, have you considered holding your

son back a year? Really, I can't see anything positive that would come from

forcing your son to spend so much of his time at a place that obviously

terrifies him. Furthermore, if you continue to force him into such a situation,

he may begin to feel like he doesn't have anybody on his side or anybody who

listens to him and protects him. That's probably not the kind of relationship

you want to foster with him. Poor kid!

Kim with 4 cuties

srmccann2003 <smccann@...> wrote:

Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

the playground. *Sigh*

I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

Any thoughts? What would you do?

Thanks in advance,

McCann

Stressed out Mom to Nick

[Guest guest]

We sent our daughter to school from age 3-6 (four years), with no progress and

her telling us that she did not like the teacher or the school. If I had to do

it overagain, I would have put her in a mother's morning out/preschool and let

her enjoy her life. It ws pointless.. no progress and total frustration on

everyone's part.

Another option could be to transfer to another school in the county.Have you

ovserved other schools?

Hang in there. I know what you are feeling.

Sharon

Kim <kimonines@...> wrote:

,

I know you said you work. Is there any way you could homeschool this poor boy?

School is supposed to be a means to an end, not an end in and of itself. If

school is not providing an education for your son (which it won't under the

circumstances), why on earth would you send him there? And if school is not

providing an education but is destroying your special little guy, why on EARTH

would you send him there?!

I personally would do/have done/continue to do whatever it takes to save my son.

I would NEVER send him into a situation which was torturous for him. Why would

I? My objective as a mother is not to destroy my child by the precious age of 5!

We have made huge financial sacrifices so I can stay home with my kiddos, but

they are more than worth it.

Even if there is no way you can stay home, have you considered holding your son

back a year? Really, I can't see anything positive that would come from forcing

your son to spend so much of his time at a place that obviously terrifies him.

Furthermore, if you continue to force him into such a situation, he may begin to

feel like he doesn't have anybody on his side or anybody who listens to him and

protects him. That's probably not the kind of relationship you want to foster

with him. Poor kid!

Kim with 4 cuties

srmccann2003 <smccann@...> wrote:

Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

the playground. *Sigh*

I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

Any thoughts? What would you do?

Thanks in advance,

McCann

Stressed out Mom to Nick

[Guest guest]

At what point do you make them do something because it's part of growing up?

Cole is not thrilled about going to school either. He is 3 and in the special

ed preschool. They are wonderful people but he has such sensory issues that he

gets upset easily. He doesn't scream and cry (just whines) but when we say

" you're going to see Miss " he smiles. We think it is the structure that

he doesn't like and if that is it, we think he needs to get used to it. I am

the grandma by the way. I stayed home and didn't send my 3rd and 4th to

preschool until 4 and only then to make sure they were ready for K. The first

two went at 3...no problems. I would not hesitate to homeschool but I don't

know when that decision should be made. Are we hurting Cole by sending him to

school knowing he would choose to stay home if given the choice. I believe he

misses us and is unhappy because he has difficulty with fine motor skills which

they are working on. I mean he is there so they can work on the things he is

having difficulty with but maybe there is a better way for him. This is not

saying anything against his teacher/therapists at school. They are REALLY

TRYING to make him successful and happy. They have just implemented a sensory

diet which seemed to go really well yesterday. Aggie

Re: [ ] Need support and looking for opionions.

,

I know you said you work. Is there any way you could homeschool this poor boy?

School is supposed to be a means to an end, not an end in and of itself. If

school is not providing an education for your son (which it won't under the

circumstances), why on earth would you send him there? And if school is not

providing an education but is destroying your special little guy, why on EARTH

would you send him there?!

I personally would do/have done/continue to do whatever it takes to save my

son. I would NEVER send him into a situation which was torturous for him. Why

would I? My objective as a mother is not to destroy my child by the precious age

of 5! We have made huge financial sacrifices so I can stay home with my kiddos,

but they are more than worth it.

Even if there is no way you can stay home, have you considered holding your

son back a year? Really, I can't see anything positive that would come from

forcing your son to spend so much of his time at a place that obviously

terrifies him. Furthermore, if you continue to force him into such a situation,

he may begin to feel like he doesn't have anybody on his side or anybody who

listens to him and protects him. That's probably not the kind of relationship

you want to foster with him. Poor kid!

Kim with 4 cuties

srmccann2003 <smccann@...> wrote:

Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

the playground. *Sigh*

I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

Any thoughts? What would you do?

Thanks in advance,

McCann

Stressed out Mom to Nick

[Guest guest]

I think the homeschool decision is made when you realize what works and

what doesn't. You have a tougher call because you said there are few

kids to play with. That and the language would push me toward school for

now. I have decided to homeschool both kids. I decided that before this

but now confirmed that decision for the same reasons as before and some

new ones. They will both do preschool to meet friends but then after

that it is home. Is Cole's preschool every day? I know that can be hard

on any kid but especially those who have sensory issues. Many therapists

would go for rigidity. What can I say...I like the other way.

Gene and Aggie Birocco wrote:

> At what point do you make them do something because it's part of

> growing up? Cole is not thrilled about going to school either. He is 3

> and in the special ed preschool. They are wonderful people but he has

> such sensory issues that he gets upset easily. He doesn't scream and

> cry (just whines) but when we say " you're going to see Miss " he

> smiles. We think it is the structure that he doesn't like and if that

> is it, we think he needs to get used to it. I am the grandma by the

> way. I stayed home and didn't send my 3rd and 4th to preschool until 4

> and only then to make sure they were ready for K. The first two went

> at 3...no problems. I would not hesitate to homeschool but I don't

> know when that decision should be made. Are we hurting Cole by sending

> him to school knowing he would choose to stay home if given the

> choice. I believe he misses us and is unhappy because he has

> difficulty with fine motor skills which they are working on. I mean he

> is there so they can work on the things he is having difficulty with

> but maybe there is a better way for him. This is not saying anything

> against his teacher/therapists at school. They are REALLY TRYING to

> make him successful and happy. They have just implemented a sensory

> diet which seemed to go really well yesterday. Aggie

> Re: [ ] Need support and looking for opionions.

>

> ,

>

> I know you said you work. Is there any way you could homeschool this

> poor boy? School is supposed to be a means to an end, not an end in

> and of itself. If school is not providing an education for your son

> (which it won't under the circumstances), why on earth would you send

> him there? And if school is not providing an education but is

> destroying your special little guy, why on EARTH would you send him

> there?!

>

> I personally would do/have done/continue to do whatever it takes to

> save my son. I would NEVER send him into a situation which was

> torturous for him. Why would I? My objective as a mother is not to

> destroy my child by the precious age of 5! We have made huge financial

> sacrifices so I can stay home with my kiddos, but they are more than

> worth it.

>

> Even if there is no way you can stay home, have you considered holding

> your son back a year? Really, I can't see anything positive that would

> come from forcing your son to spend so much of his time at a place

> that obviously terrifies him. Furthermore, if you continue to force

> him into such a situation, he may begin to feel like he doesn't have

> anybody on his side or anybody who listens to him and protects him.

> That's probably not the kind of relationship you want to foster with

> him. Poor kid!

>

> Kim with 4 cuties

>

> srmccann2003 <smccann@...

> <mailto:smccann%40securespeed.net>> wrote:

> Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell apart

> this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day and

> he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

> wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

> friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

> having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

> when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at school

> and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky butt)

> was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

> knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a joke

> and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

> butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

> telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

> child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how he

> thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that he

> can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told me

> that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out on

> the playground. *Sigh*

>

> I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

> counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

> She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

> know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

> drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that he

> is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

> it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him to

> go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

> regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

>

> Any thoughts? What would you do?

> Thanks in advance,

> McCann

> Stressed out Mom to Nick

>

>

[Guest guest]

I hear ya - why force a child who is miserable in a situation to

continue unless you have absolutely no choice? In some cases, we as

parents are forced to endure a situation until we can fix it. But

when it can be changed, do it immediately!

Children have pretty good radar as to who likes them and who

doesn't. I've learned the difference between whining " I want to

stay home " vs. fear/misery " NOOOOOO! I don't like Ms. , she's

mean " .

Before my daughter was verbal, she had one therapist she didn't

like. She would fuss and cry before seeing this person and would

just zone completely out and put her head down on the table.

Nothing was accomplished with this person. I fired that girl after

a week. At the time, we were doing a home ABA program.

Good luck to you during this stressful time.

Stehanee

------------------------------------>

>

>

> We sent our daughter to school from age 3-6 (four years), with

no progress and her telling us that she did not like the teacher or

the school. If I had to do it overagain, I would have put her in a

mother's morning out/preschool and let her enjoy her life. It ws

pointless.. no progress and total frustration on everyone's part.

>

> Another option could be to transfer to another school in the

county.Have you ovserved other schools?

>

>

> Hang in there. I know what you are feeling.

>

>

> Sharon

>

> Kim <kimonines@...> wrote:

> ,

>

> I know you said you work. Is there any way you could homeschool

this poor boy? School is supposed to be a means to an end, not an

end in and of itself. If school is not providing an education for

your son (which it won't under the circumstances), why on earth

would you send him there? And if school is not providing an

education but is destroying your special little guy, why on EARTH

would you send him there?!

>

> I personally would do/have done/continue to do whatever it takes

to save my son. I would NEVER send him into a situation which was

torturous for him. Why would I? My objective as a mother is not to

destroy my child by the precious age of 5! We have made huge

financial sacrifices so I can stay home with my kiddos, but they are

more than worth it.

>

> Even if there is no way you can stay home, have you considered

holding your son back a year? Really, I can't see anything positive

that would come from forcing your son to spend so much of his time

at a place that obviously terrifies him. Furthermore, if you

continue to force him into such a situation, he may begin to feel

like he doesn't have anybody on his side or anybody who listens to

him and protects him. That's probably not the kind of relationship

you want to foster with him. Poor kid!

>

> Kim with 4 cuties

>

> srmccann2003 <smccann@...> wrote:

> Today has been awful. My 6 year old apraxic son basically fell

apart

> this morning not wanting to go to school. It's only his 6th day

and

> he was SOBBING. He woke me up at 6:30a.m. begging me, crying not

> wanting to go. I know it's been hard for him because his two best

> friends from last year are being home schooled this year so he's

> having to start over on the friends part. He also started crying

> when I picked him up last Friday because he got in trouble at

school

> and couldn't explain to the teacher that what he said (stinky

butt)

> was because he was answering what he thought the punch line in a

> knock knock joke was going to be. He told the teacher it was a

joke

> and of course she thought that he had called another child stinky

> butt as a joke because that's all she heard. He cried and cried

> telling me that, " NO BODY UNDERSTANDS ME! " . He wasn't CALLING the

> child a stinky butt, he was finishing a punch line to a joke how

he

> thought the child was going to tell it. He's also telling me that

he

> can't spell words, that the work is TOO hard. In the mix he told

me

> that some of the kids are telling him he can't play with them out

on

> the playground. *Sigh*

>

> I kept him home today (no TV or vid games) and called the guidance

> counselor. She's new this year so she doesn't know him at all.

> She's offered to eat lunch with him tomorrow. I told her I didn't

> know if I'd be able to get him through the door since I refuse to

> drag him in sobbing. I just think there's something going on that

he

> is having such a strong reaction to this. I'm very afraid that if

> it's such a negative unpleasant experience for him and I force him

to

> go that he wont learn much anyway. I've already seen his speech

> regress terribly over the summer and his frustration is growing.

>

> Any thoughts? What would you do?

> Thanks in advance,

> McCann

> Stressed out Mom to Nick

>

>