IEP meeting

[Guest guest]

Hi,

We had an IEP yesterday, too. I feel " out of body " today. Very bad.

Hard to respond to anything but my daughter's most basic needs.

I like the Israeli idea of always having another parent attend with

the parent. I've often thought that every family should automatically

get an advocate, kind of like legal aid in the criminal court system.

[Guest guest]

<<<<<We had an IEP yesterday, too. I feel " out of body " today. Very bad.>>

you need some grounding! so you have 20 minutes to be alone ? put on some nice

quiet music, sit comfortably ona chiar on lye in bed, close your eyes, and fo

rteh length of the music image yourself being a tree and " make " trunk be strong,

your top eb fruitful and shady, and tehn concentrate on " making " your roots go

wider and deeper into the ground.

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Hard to respond to anything but my daughter's most basic needs.

I like the Israeli idea of always having another parent attend with

the parent. I've often thought that every family should automatically

get an advocate, kind of like legal aid in the criminal court system.

[Guest guest]

Hi Fania,

Thanks for the idea. Once they shut down all the noisy equipment for

the construction across the street, I'll give it a try.

[Guest guest]

<<<<<<<<Thanks for the idea. Once they shut down all the noisy equipment for

the construction across the street, I'll give it a try.>>>>

oh, my !!!!

that kind of noise certainly does not help relaxation, he ?

F

[Guest guest]

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>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a

great

> time of year for them. What do you think of that.

>

> My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie

> during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because

of

> sensory processing deficits (he got overstimulated by all the kids

> and the movie and started vocalizing) and she said he was punished

> for noncompliance, not his sensory system! HA HA

>

> Now I feel I need exactly what type of senory interventions are to

be

> used, how often and by whom in Specially Designed Instruction of

the

> IEP. I also sent in articles and info from the ALERT program to

> educate his teacher and aid so they can better understand and work

> with my son. My son is only in 1st grade and came home very sad

that

> day. I don't want it to happen again.

>

> Anyone know the law when it comes to requesting an IEP meeting?

>

> Thanks,

>

> Debbie

>

you have to know what you want but they cant tell you no

know what you want when you go in if they keep telling you no call

your state board of ed

[Guest guest]

So far as I know, they have to have the meeting; probably within

some " reasonable time " limit though. I would insist too so that you

can have the IEP set up so it'll be in place next year with whatever

you would like to add now.

We have a parents booklet at our state school website (parent's

rights). If I had time now (late!) I'd look thru it for you, but

here's the site if you want to see what you can find. I would think

it the same from state to state regarding requesting an IEP meeting.

http://www.ncpublicschools.org/ec/policy/resources/

Call your school system's special ed director for a " clearer " answer

as to your request!!

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a

great

> time of year for them. What do you think of that.

>

> My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie

> during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because of

[Guest guest]

" I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a

great time of year... " they law says they have to hold one within 30 days of your request. I suggets ptting the requets in wiriting, to an administator above the teacher, such as the director of special ed. Write the letter as if you are just documenting the fact thta on X date you called for an IEP meeting to teacher Y and therefore you expect it to be scheduled soon so that it can be held by date X, as the law provides.

christine

[Guest guest]

Hi! Follow the advice already given. And ALWAYS put ALL requests in writing, cc copies to appropriate people. Even when things are going well, writing follow up letters to conversations is a good habit and assures that everyone is on the same page.

So write that follow up. Note you requested one, you were told it wasn't a good time, however you want one because it is important to your child's educational program and look forward to hearing from them very soon on a possible date and time to have that IEP meeting.Now for the big question, did she tell you when would be a good time for an IEP meeting? LOL. I usually think to ask those things and then there is no answer! <GG>

RoxannaAutism Happens

( ) IEP meeting

Hi everyone,I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a great time of year for them. What do you think of that.My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because of sensory processing deficits (he got overstimulated by all the kids and the movie and started vocalizing) and she said he was punished for noncompliance, not his sensory system! HA HANow I feel I need exactly what type of senory interventions are to be used, how often and by whom in Specially Designed Instruction of the IEP. I also sent in articles and info from the ALERT program to educate his teacher and aid so they can better understand and work with my son. My son is only in 1st grade and came home very sad that day. I don't want it to happen again.Anyone know the law when it comes to requesting an IEP meeting?Thanks,Debbie

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have to

send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's

communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?

Debbie

[Guest guest]

>

> Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have to

> send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's

> communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?

>

> Debbie

>

not a good ideal unless it is certified with signature unless you trust

them to follow thru

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi! Follow the advice already given. And ALWAYS put ALL requests

in writing, cc copies to appropriate people. Even when things are

going well, writing follow up letters to conversations is a good

habit and assures that everyone is on the same page.

>

> So write that follow up. Note you requested one, you were told it

wasn't a good time, however you want one because it is important to

your child's educational program and look forward to hearing from

them very soon on a possible date and time to have that IEP meeting.

>

> Now for the big question, did she tell you when would be a good

time for an IEP meeting? LOL. I usually think to ask those things

and then there is no answer! <GG>

>

> Roxanna

> Autism Happens

> ( ) IEP meeting

>

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a

great

> time of year for them. What do you think of that.

>

> My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie

> during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because

of

> sensory processing deficits (he got overstimulated by all the

kids

> and the movie and started vocalizing) and she said he was

punished

> for noncompliance, not his sensory system! HA HA

>

> Now I feel I need exactly what type of senory interventions are

to be

> used, how often and by whom in Specially Designed Instruction of

the

> IEP. I also sent in articles and info from the ALERT program to

> educate his teacher and aid so they can better understand and

work

> with my son. My son is only in 1st grade and came home very sad

that

> day. I don't want it to happen again.

>

> Anyone know the law when it comes to requesting an IEP meeting?

>

> Thanks,

>

> Debbie

>

I love it when they have no answers since they think they know it all

if it wasnt so sas it would be funny shan

[Guest guest]

I had a similar issue earlier this year. First I wrote a letter to the teacher, the special education department, and the principal. I stated that by law they had to evaluate my son (iq is borderline superior overall, they said he was too smart lol) Also a great book to help with the written letters (templates and samples etc) is s Law from Emotions to Advocacy. Wonderful book and it walks you through the process.

( ) Re: IEP meeting

Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have to send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?Debbie

[Guest guest]

Put it in writing anyway and say you want this added to his IEP.debramelamed <melamedj@...> wrote: Hi everyone,I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a great time of year for them. What do you think of that.My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because of sensory processing deficits (he got overstimulated by all the kids and the movie and started vocalizing) and she said he was

punished for noncompliance, not his sensory system! HA HANow I feel I need exactly what type of senory interventions are to be used, how often and by whom in Specially Designed Instruction of the IEP. I also sent in articles and info from the ALERT program to educate his teacher and aid so they can better understand and work with my son. My son is only in 1st grade and came home very sad that day. I don't want it to happen again.Anyone know the law when it comes to requesting an IEP meeting?Thanks,Debbie

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[Guest guest]

From: Rose <beachbodytan2002@...>

Date: 2007/04/17 Tue PM 07:35:03 CDT

Subject: Re: ( ) IEP meeting

Oh man, I wish all my kid did was get antsy at a movie! What is wrong with those

people??

Put it in writing anyway and say you want this added to his IEP.

debramelamed <melamedj@...> wrote: Hi everyone,

I asked for an IEP meeting and the teacher told me it wasn't a great

time of year for them. What do you think of that.

My son got punished for not being able to sit quietly at a movie

during indoor recess. I told her that was tough for him because of

sensory processing deficits (he got overstimulated by all the kids

and the movie and started vocalizing) and she said he was punished

for noncompliance, not his sensory system! HA HA

Now I feel I need exactly what type of senory interventions are to be

used, how often and by whom in Specially Designed Instruction of the

IEP. I also sent in articles and info from the ALERT program to

educate his teacher and aid so they can better understand and work

with my son. My son is only in 1st grade and came home very sad that

day. I don't want it to happen again.

Anyone know the law when it comes to requesting an IEP meeting?

Thanks,

Debbie

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Wore some shoes that weren't my style

Fell into the rank and file

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A fool in search of your sweet smile

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~Patty ~

[Guest guest]

> >

> > Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have

to

> > send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's

> > communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?

> >

> > Debbie

> >

> not a good ideal unless it is certified with signature unless you

trust

> them to follow thru

>

But sorry to say i dont trust any school system any more it is war

in a nice way as far as i am concerned

Has any one done the sensory integration lighting???????

[Guest guest]

I had to laugh when I read that! We don't have a lot of behavior

issues because my son is passive and not that rigid. We do have

problems with regulating arousal levels. He is either too high (which

by the way sends a child into a fight or flight mode) of too low.

Their are techniques that help a lot and will be in my son's IEP very

soon.

Thanks,

Debbie

[Guest guest]

What is sensory integration lighting?

RoxannaAutism Happens

( ) Re: IEP meeting

> >> > Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have to > > send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's > > communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?> > > > Debbie> >> not a good ideal unless it is certified with signature unless you trust > them to follow thru>But sorry to say i dont trust any school system any more it is war in a nice way as far as i am concernedHas any one done the sensory integration lighting???????

[Guest guest]

An email is fine for minor conversations. Since she is giving you trouble over the meeting, I would write a more formal follow up letter sent to director of sped services requesting an IEP meeting, then CC copies to principal and teacher. You can hand deliver the letters also if that is easier for you.

RoxannaAutism Happens

( ) Re: IEP meeting

Thanks for your reply, is a follow up as an email OK or do I have to send a letter? My last request was in writing but in my son's communication notebook. Is that not a great idea to do that?Debbie

[Guest guest]

I am going through this right now, and am about to blow up and scream, our school system is so totally unresponsive! First they denied him even an evaluation, because he's so smart, that he didn't qualify for services. When I did my homework, LOL, I realized he is entitled to at least an evaluation because he may be smart, but his grades stink, and his behavior is seriously impacting everything. He just turned 12 and is in 7th grade, and failing his courses, despite excellent test score.

I wrote my letter, followed up with phone calls which were never returned, nothing was done, until I finally wrote to the superintendent of schools. Even that did nothing, finally, when he got suspended yet again, I appealed the suspension, which at least got me a meeting with the school principal.

They promised me the moon, I did get my initial meeting with the child study team, gave them documentation about the AS dx and guess what, still nothing! I have been e-mailing the principal and I'm told to be patient, things take time. A month after this meeting, still nothing has been done and I'm so stressed and frazzled that I can barely cope.

The only good news in all of this was that at my lowest point, after one of the suspensions, I realized I had to do something. I took a ride to my lawyer's office, and vented...he then asked me, "Do you know who I am?" Like an idiot, I said yah, you're the guy who did my home closing, he said no, much more than that, years ago he used to be the lawyer for our school district, that from what he was hearing they were in clear violation of our rights, and he'd be glad to represent me.

I casually dropped his name at the child study meeting, we'll see what happens.

My next round of letter writing starts today...I am not happy.

Thanks for listening,

Barbara in NJ

[Guest guest]

Holy cow! lol. You walk right in to the right place! See if he will write the school a letter requesting the eval. You can also call your state education department and complain as well.

RoxannaAutism Happens

Re: ( ) Re: IEP meeting

I am going through this right now, and am about to blow up and scream, our school system is so totally unresponsive! First they denied him even an evaluation, because he's so smart, that he didn't qualify for services. When I did my homework, LOL, I realized he is entitled to at least an evaluation because he may be smart, but his grades stink, and his behavior is seriously impacting everything. He just turned 12 and is in 7th grade, and failing his courses, despite excellent test score.I wrote my letter, followed up with phone calls which were never returned, nothing was done, until I finally wrote to the superintendent of schools. Even that did nothing, finally, when he got suspended yet again, I appealed the suspension, which at least got me a meeting with the school principal.They promised me the moon, I did get my initial meeting with the child study team, gave them documentation about the AS dx and guess what, still nothing! I have been e-mailing the principal and I'm told to be patient, things take time. A month after this meeting, still nothing has been done and I'm so stressed and frazzled that I can barely cope.The only good news in all of this was that at my lowest point, after one of the suspensions, I realized I had to do something. I took a ride to my lawyer's office, and vented...he then asked me, "Do you know who I am?" Like an idiot, I said yah, you're the guy who did my home closing, he said no, much more than that, years ago he used to be the lawyer for our school district, that from what he was hearing they were in clear violation of our rights, and he'd be glad to represent me.I casually dropped his name at the child study meeting, we'll see what happens.My next round of letter writing starts today...I am not happy.Thanks for listening,Barbara in NJ

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My 3 yr old, Draven will be having an IEP meeting soon. This will be my 2nd

meeting. The first one they told me they would evaulate him until school and

was out to see if he was eligible for the special needs preschool. This next

meeting will cover that. Im new at this with him. What things do I need to

discuss with them at this time? What servces can be done thru the school? If

he gets occupational therapy thru the school, do I need to services provided

from an outside source while he's not in school? Would I be able to get someone

to help me teach him sign language? Let me know, thank you for your support

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Some thoughts I have are as follows:

1) You need to get an idea of what other disabilities are in the

classroom, what will be available for his specific needs, whether speech

therapy is group or individual (demand individual).

2) They may throw confidentiality at you if you ask about the other

disabilities. That is bogus ssince you are not asking who has what. You

just want to get a feel for what his day will be like and avoid

warehousing. Example, our integrated preschool had a severely disabled

child who truly required one - one -one teaching. Instead they

warehoused him with other kids and the teacher spent the whole day

trying to get him out from under the desk so nobody got what they needed.

3) I do not know what your son's deal is (simply apraxia, PDD NOS, etc)

but if it is simply a speech disorder then you really need to make sure

there are enough staff members and that they speak with him often and

don't ignore him because he is quiet.

I do not know about the off-time. I am not sure they are obligated but

cannot say for sure.

Best wishes!

Liz

wrote:

>My 3 yr old, Draven will be having an IEP meeting soon. This will be my 2nd

meeting. The first one they told me they would evaulate him until school and

was out to see if he was eligible for the special needs preschool. This next

meeting will cover that. Im new at this with him. What things do I need to

discuss with them at this time? What servces can be done thru the school? If

he gets occupational therapy thru the school, do I need to services provided

from an outside source while he's not in school? Would I be able to get someone

to help me teach him sign language? Let me know, thank you for your support

>

> www.ourchurch.com/member/b/amyangel/

>

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attended his last IEP meeting. I had to become 'the parent from

hell " during the past several months - but the benefits are really starting

to show. Having present helped set the tone of the meeting.

is in a much smaller classroom where his behaviors have minimized.

He no longer takes medication for ADHD (as much as the school nurse harassed

me last year, I wonder if she was giving it to him or taking it herself!).

I believe in all my heart that was emotionally harmed and at least

one time physically abused last year. He had bruises on his arms. I share

this with anyone in the school system who will listen. I'm not sure who the

person was who left the bruises and couldn't tell me. If

accidently gets hit by a waffle ball, they are going to tell me now The

best part is that is getting academics again! He regressed so much

in an MR classroom where they " dumbed down " the kids. Most of the kids

could be in an inclusive setting and learning so much more- it was so sad to

see. has spelling words again!!! And he loves to spell.

His teacher this year has her heart in the right place and she is excited to

teach his class. He has two other boys and sometimes two other students

come in - and they mingle with the other autism classroom. The only thing

that I wish could have is a female peer. He continues to talk about

old girl friends, but he has no current ones now.

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He would love Karrie!! I'll have to show him her picture and talk with him.

He can be quite the flirt.

is doing so much better, too. I can't believe how bad things were a

few years ago and how well things are today. He still prefers being more

isolated. We do take him out to dinner alot (cause I have no time to cook!)

and tonight when we met up, he brought me his communication book and home

work folder. We talked about his day at school, even what he had for lunch,

then he asked me about my day at work. He did tell Tim to quit talking to

me (a bit jealous) - which really cracks me up b/c Tim says I talk too much.

--

cindysue@...

Re: IEP Meeting

>

> Ummmm, hello.....he has no girlfriend now?????? Karrie would be

> heart-broken to hear that!!!! LOL! Actually, last time I showed her

> 's picture online and asked if she wanted to be his girlfriend, she

> said, " Sure, after Hannah Montana is over " Gotta love a girl with

> priorities!!

> Karrie is in a newer concept here in our district...Academic Lifeskills

> class. She is in a self-contained classroom with 6 boys and one other

> girl. She is THRIVING!!!! She's learning to count change, spells her

> spelling words, is learning about other countries, learning to subtract

> two digit numbers...the list goes on and on. She is demonstrating very few

> of the aggressive behaviors of several years ago. I firmly believe this

> behavior was partly because of the way she was treated. We are in a really

> good place educationally now.

> If only the backtalking hadn't started......

>

> Sue mom to Kate 19 and Karrie 12 w/ds and mild autism

>

> ---- CSBC <cindysue@...> wrote:

>> attended his last IEP meeting. I had to become 'the parent from

>> hell " during the past several months - but the benefits are really

>> starting

>> to show. Having present helped set the tone of the meeting.

>>

>> is in a much smaller classroom where his behaviors have

>> minimized.

>> He no longer takes medication for ADHD (as much as the school nurse

>> harassed

>> me last year, I wonder if she was giving it to him or taking it

>> herself!).

>> I believe in all my heart that was emotionally harmed and at

>> least

>> one time physically abused last year. He had bruises on his arms. I

>> share

>> this with anyone in the school system who will listen. I'm not sure who

>> the

>> person was who left the bruises and couldn't tell me. If

>>

>> accidently gets hit by a waffle ball, they are going to tell me now

>> The

>> best part is that is getting academics again! He regressed so

>> much

>> in an MR classroom where they " dumbed down " the kids. Most of the kids

>> could be in an inclusive setting and learning so much more- it was so sad

>> to

>> see. has spelling words again!!! And he loves to spell.

>>

>> His teacher this year has her heart in the right place and she is excited

>> to

>> teach his class. He has two other boys and sometimes two other students

>> come in - and they mingle with the other autism classroom. The only

>> thing

>> that I wish could have is a female peer. He continues to talk

>> about

>> old girl friends, but he has no current ones now.

>>

>> --

>>

>> cindysue@...

>>

>>

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that was a great meeting... hopefully Vickie will want to attend as she gets

older

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From: " K M " <b4alltoday@...>

Hi

Another successful year developing Sara's IEP !!! I also need to say also how

proud I am of Sara. She's been attending her IEP meetings since our move to this

county, usually she's pretty quiet and not an active member unless you count her

totally distracting her father (she likes to make fun of him ... even in public)

This year before the meeting she kept telling me she wanted to take Chorus as a

class in her 11th grade year (to late for this year) I told her bring it up at

the meeting .......... well she did !!! she soooo thinks she's going to be a

pop-star here in Nashville and practices singing and dancing daily. Well this is

going to be done and we are looking at another creative art class too like drama

....which she said she'll be good at ........ not sure if she totally grasps we

mean Drama as in acting and not Drama as in teenage behavior lol

Again this year she is included in all but Reading and Math, there we are

continuing her decoding skills and sight-reading. The school suggested a few

life skills but she already knows the stuff they mentioned and everything else

I'll teach her. I suggested learning good food choices (the pyramid) and

monitoring a healthy lifestyle using her math goals, calculation, charting,

researching, reading labels etc... this is a new area we will move into Sara can

already identify most junk foods lol but now she can monitor herself with this

plan and practice good choices.

Maybe we can make this a family activity lol

Kathy mom to Sara 16 ......... I'm home sick with a bug ...... Tater too