Re: Loosing my Job

[Guest guest]

Hi Sheila,

do you need the job for the money or the insurance? Or was it more for your

self-esteem and the socializing?

My wife is a stay-at-home-mom and I am very proud of her that she never

questions that status. I think it's a very important job and she is great at

it! She is helping out in Fiona's kindergarten very often (when you can't

say " No " this can easily become a full-time job, LOL) and carries Fiona from

one activity to the other in the afternoons. Add the household and the

garden then Silke is far away from being jobless. So if you don't need the

money, enjoy your life with and leave the office job to someone

else. Just my two cent.

Peace

Torsten, dad of Fiona 5wcf

e-mail: torstenkrafft@...

Loosing my Job

> Hi all

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> I'm sorry I only seem to post when I need help.

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> And really on the big scale of things it's trivial.

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> I was told yesterday that what I do at work is no longer required (my post

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> being deleted) I am being made redundant. If this had happened a year ago

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> would of welcomed it with opened arms - it takes me over an hour to get

there

> in the mornings and I only work 4.5hrs a day.

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> On the other hand it does mean I can drop to school in the

mornings

> and pick him up at home time & my salary isn't too bad because I travel in

> towards the City. Also more importantly (to me) it's what I have been

doing

> for the last 6 years and I feel safe there.

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> The poblem is I can't look too far into the future and I can't seem to

> seperate my " job " from what the future may hold for . Every time

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> try to plan what to do next I end up crying.

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> Has anyone got any advice.

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> Lots of Love to you and yours

> Sheilax

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[Guest guest]

It's emotionally hard to be surplussed. I am sure that it will work

out for the best though. Hang in there.

Gale

> Hi all

>

> I'm sorry I only seem to post when I need help.

>

> And really on the big scale of things it's trivial.

>

> I was told yesterday that what I do at work is no longer required

(my post is

> being deleted) I am being made redundant. If this had happened a

year ago I

> would of welcomed it with opened arms - it takes me over an hour to

get there

> in the mornings and I only work 4.5hrs a day.

>

> On the other hand it does mean I can drop to school in the

mornings

> and pick him up at home time & my salary isn't too bad because I

travel in

> towards the City. Also more importantly (to me) it's what I have

been doing

> for the last 6 years and I feel safe there.

>

> The poblem is I can't look too far into the future and I can't seem

to

> seperate my " job " from what the future may hold for .

Every time I

> try to plan what to do next I end up crying.

>

> Has anyone got any advice.

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>

>

> Lots of Love to you and yours

> Sheilax

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for reply.

My husband and I just bought a new house in April so we have a pretty big

mortgage but at least we do not have to worry about insurance.

It's a little bit of both really, I can't really afford to give up work yet -

our little one Jake starts school next September and perhaps then I can think

about having a very small job just to make up the shortfall.

As for self esteem and socializing. It does help being in a situation where

things are just as they were before 's diagnosis, talking to others

helps you realise that we are not the only ones with problems and worries

(some worse than ours).

I think from know on in all situations I will take one day at a time and try

to live that day as best I can for me and for those around me.

Torsten it sounds as if Silke is wonder woman - perhaps you could help her

out more and do the gardening (only joking) - I hope Silke, Fiona and your

" soon to be are doing fine " .

Take care

Sheila

xxxxx