RE: STill coming

[Guest guest]

Hi Keri,

I am so glad your husband is going to be able to come with you and

that you are getting to go. The questions that you ask about sex and

intimacy are not inappropiate at all. I have seen my daughter going

thru the same thing in her marriage and I really think the reason

they are together is because he is so ill also. They have to lean on

each other thru all of those bad times. He has a deteriorting spine

and one day will confined to a wheel chair.

As for taking things out on the people you care for, I am learning

this the hard way thru , (my daughter). I feel like I have been

completely cut off from her but I also know that she is in great pain

for the most part and am having to accept the fact that she is in a

deep depression and in great pain and feels that her life is over.

So as her actions towards me and other family members, I really try

to remember this. She will not see anyone or talk to anyone at this

point in time.

I have tried so hard to get her to attend this symposium with me, but

as of yet, I dont know if she will or not. Her husband says she

talks about it but as of yet, I have not been told anything. And as

far as her husband going, that is impossible, he can barely walk and

cannot be up for any extended period of time. I think perhaps you

can get a glimpse of what life if like for them and the 2 young

children. In fact the kids have no life. I sit here and think of

them and cry, and just wish it was me instead of her. But I guess

that was not meant to be, therefore I try to do whatever I can to get

her out of her deep depression, knowing that there is really nothing

that I can do.

She has lived this way over 5 years now and I know how hard it is on

all of them. I wont give up tho, I am still trying my best to

persuade her to hear Dr. Sutherland and hope it will give her the

desire to find out if she is a candidate for the surgery. This is my

hope and prayer.

So if you and anyone else out there would like to write to ,

send it to me and I most certainly give it to her.

I know I do not have the pancratitis, but I do know what it has done

and can do to someone. I have lived thru it with her.

Keri, I am hoping everything turns out well for you and I think of

you often. Please keep in your thoughts and we shall all work

together to try to get her to go to this symposium..

Sorry that I have been so long winded here but sometimes I also need

to vent my frustrations at what this disease has done to her life and

her children.

You are in my thoughts,

Jean