Re: childcare-real deal please read

[Guest guest]

Crystal -

As I work for an insurance company I have always carried the health

insurance - including while I was married. I had to return to work when

was 6 weeks old. Divorced when she was 2. She has been

hospitalized 4 times since she was diagnosed (9.5 months) - asthma

flare-ups, pneumonia - nothing she could ~catch~ from anyone. She stayed

with a private baby-sitter for over 4 years and was one of the healthiest

children there. She has been in a new daycare for approximately 2.5 months

and absolutely loves it. She has had one cold this year that otc medicines

took care of - but...we live in Kentucky and if you don't like the weather

one day, stick around...it will change. She was wearing shorts on Monday

and today it is in the 30s.

I have heard from many that their pulms wanted them to keep the kids out of

daycare - I have also heard from many that it was not an issue. 's

CF doc knows that I have no choice in the matter - but it isn't an issue

that has ever been brought up. My employer is very understanding - at

this point - with the time I have taken off when she was hospitalized. I

schedule vacation days so she and I can hang out together after her CF

check-ups.

She is a very well rounded child - very friendly, very quick to share - and

very confident in herself. Some of this is handed down from me - some of

it is a result of her everyday surroundings.

She starts kindergarden this fall and I feel (maybe wrong, but maybe

right), that since she has been exposed to others ~illnesses~ from day one,

she will fare better in school had she not been.

Hope some of this helps you to make the best decision for .

Take Care!

, Momma to (Holmes) (almost 5 yow/cf)

[Guest guest]

Ask at your CF center for one thing. and what " medical professional " stated

that he should be put in daycare? was it someone with knowledge of CF and

's condition and his medical records? If not, I wouldn't follow their

advice. If 's father doesn't believe that it is best for him to be at

home with his mother, insist that he ask the doc at an appointment himself and

agree to adhere to the doc's answer. I know that my daughter's CF doc as well

as her ped both were happy that I wouldn't be putting at risk by putting

her in daycare. I know some people have no option but even with the hardship of

having less money for ourselves, I wouldn't go back to work if I could possibly

swing staying home. started pre-k this year and we were all nervous

about her catching something from the other kids. Lucky for us she hasn't.

The people at her school are aware of 's condition and none of them has

sent one of their children to school sick. But in a daycare setting you can't

be sure of the other children's health.

If it were me I would fight. Give him another year to grow his lungs and be

healthy before trying daycare. Point out to 's dad that his other

children were home for the first few years and that you only want to have

the same advantages that being at home can give as well as germ control.

Hope I've helped.

childcare-real deal please read

To those of you whom have put your child into childcare/daycare what

are you experiences as far as their health? Could you maintain a

serious job and keep up with all of the docs appointments and

emergency peditrician appointments. s father has his own

business and flexible schedule but will not take to his

doctors appointments. The suggesions I have so far are great ones.

I have had some in home nanny care for last summer and did not

work and ran errands to walmart etc. but his father will not pay for

this now even for me to work and says a " medical professional said

should be placed in childcare immediately. This is my

crossroads, I want the best for because he is soo healthy

right now and to be fair to , myself and his father. I have no

options for work in the town I live so I will have to relocate closer

to s docs and farther away from his father. I moved to the

same town so he would be close to his father gave up my womens only

althletic club to stay with and quite honestly his father now

wants to make my life miserable by sending to

childcare/daycare-his other children no cf stayed at home the first

years of until private school and he is unwilling to do the same for

cause of his anger towards me. I am willing to work and do

whatever it takes!! I suppose my question is DO I FIGHT TO STAY HOME

WITH NATHAN OR FOR PRIVATE CARE IN MY HOME? OR DO I ALLOW HIM TO GO

TO PUBLIC CHILDCARE WHEN WE HAVE MANY OTHER OPTIONS IF I FIGHT. Ps i

have fought for a while now and I am tired and angry, broke (myself)

and so sad..i want to be realistic, fair and do what is in s

best interests. I do get child support so do not feel sorry for

he is well taken care of. Thank you all again..much love to

you and hopefully this will all be over soon.