make a wish stuff

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Hello to everyone out there. I hope all is well for each and everyone of you.

Well, this make a wish thing is really killing me. The traveling thing is out,

not because of the " other " parent. Before I get started, I know this is

supposed to be a great thing. I know I am supposed to have that in my mind.

But, its not wuite working out that way for me.

found out he would probably have to fly, if he wanted to go meet someone.

So, that is out. He is terrified of flying. Which in itself was funny, if you

could have seen his reaction. Priceless. He asked exactly what he could wish

for. I told him, like an idiot I didn't word it right I guess, its a wish that

normally wouldn't happen. He sat around for awhile and then came to me and said

" I know what I want " . He says he wishes for his nanna to move back here. Nanna

is my mom, she moved to Texas when he was first born. He says " Mom, your family

used to be real tight, all here together, now everyone is gone " . Talk about a

heart jerker. I told him to call nanna and talk to her. While we were waiting

for her to get home, decides he wants to change his wish to her coming back

too. It was 10 p.m. before we got her. gets on the phone and says

" Nanna, we know what our wishes are - we want you to move back here with us " . I

guess mom explained that she was married and her hubby wouldn't move anywhere,

but promised to come visit more often. If she is ever in the position to be

alone again, she promised to come back.

Mom gets me on the phone and tells me that was hard. Better her than me.

Anyway, they both said " I guess I'll just wish for a go-cart then " . I think

they were really bummed. They are kind of settling for whatever.

I am really sad for them. I know, everyone can't revolve around them. But,

they are getting to the point that family is important to them. I have done

more crying for them in the last week. They ask about my dad, who they have

never met and probably never will. I don't know what to say. I have tried to

get dad to have contact with them. But, I guess since he wants no contact with

me it goes for them too. I'm afraid to push the issue with my dad, because I

would have to really kill him if he hurt them in any way. Maybe I should? I

don't know. That whole side of my family is so screwed up.

So, remind me, this is supposed to be a good experience? Man, I'm not so

sure. I have thought about calling and putting it off for awhile. I don't know

what to do.

Do you all know how hard it is to look at them and see disappointment? I have

spent more time locked in the bathroom, straightening myself out, than I have in

a long time.

Well, I am done babbling for awhile. I'm not expecting any replies, I just

needed to get it out.

thanks for reading,

Vondie

mom of & , both w/cf

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Hi Vondie,

How could we not reply? Our situation is the same yet different. At first my

ex acted like he couldn't care less about Josh's wish. Then they tell us he

will have to sign a paper to allow Josh to go with us and suddenly he is

interested. It is after all FREE isn't it? And wouldn't it be a perfect

opportunity to get a jab in at my current husband. The one that truly

parents the kids. Since Josh has chosen to take a cruise, there is no

possible way that we could afford to bring my current husband along. Even

though I was the one who had gotten the ball rolling on the whole wish

thing. So I told the ex fine, go. I refused to leave my husband behind. I

also told him that he and the kids would also need a new wardrobe because

his " biker attire " (going through his second childhood for last 4 years)

would not be appropriate cruise wear. Since my family was not going, I

didn't feel this was my responsibility. Suddenly the trip was not free after

all. Problem solved. Or so I thought. About a month ago my 16 year old

" problem child " took my sisters truck without permission, much less a

license. He crashed the truck head on into a tree at 50 mph with no seat

belt. His injuries were minor, thank god. But the truck was totaled. I got

to ride in the back of a police car for the first time in my life that day.

But even I can find humor in that situation. As we pulled out of our

driveway in the police car, my other teenage sons were pulling in. The look

on their faces....now THAT was priceless! So now we face court. He will be

charged with stealing the car, reckless driving, leaving the scene of an

accident driving without a license and god knows what else. And guess who

get's to pay the fines? Not to mention the fact that I get to pay half for a

8000 truck that I couldn't afford to buy in the first place. Now......anyone

up for a cruise? You would think, what the heck is she talking about? That

sounds prefect! Ever go on vacation with 6 kids and no cash? I know that in

a month or two I'll bounce back and be fine.....but now I'm thinking a

cruise next year sounds soooooo much better.

I know that didn't make you feel any better. But I wanted you to know that

we all experience the lows, just different ones. And I'm sure that I'm not

the only one that can relate. Hang in there.

On another note. I'm sure that if you don't want to fly that Make a Wish can

accomidate you in some other way. Maybe car rental or gas money. Talk to

them and see. Meanwhile, get on the internet with the kids. Check out places

they would like to go or thigs they would like to do and order tons of

brochures. I would do me best to lead them away from the go cart thing. I

think I heard somewhere that they wont do anything motorized. It's a

liability thing.

Hope I didn't depress you too much..!!

make a wish stuff

> Hello to everyone out there. I hope all is well for each and everyone of

you.

>

> Well, this make a wish thing is really killing me. The traveling thing is

out, not because of the " other " parent. Before I get started, I know this

is supposed to be a great thing. I know I am supposed to have that in my

mind. But, its not wuite working out that way for me.

>

> found out he would probably have to fly, if he wanted to go meet

someone. So, that is out. He is terrified of flying. Which in itself was

funny, if you could have seen his reaction. Priceless. He asked exactly

what he could wish for. I told him, like an idiot I didn't word it right I

guess, its a wish that normally wouldn't happen. He sat around for awhile

and then came to me and said " I know what I want " . He says he wishes for

his nanna to move back here. Nanna is my mom, she moved to Texas when he

was first born. He says " Mom, your family used to be real tight, all here

together, now everyone is gone " . Talk about a heart jerker. I told him to

call nanna and talk to her. While we were waiting for her to get home,

decides he wants to change his wish to her coming back too. It was 10 p.m.

before we got her. gets on the phone and says " Nanna, we know what our

wishes are - we want you to move back here with us " . I guess mom explained

that she was married and her hubby wouldn't move anywhere, but promised to

come visit more often. If she is ever in the position to be alone again,

she promised to come back.

> Mom gets me on the phone and tells me that was hard. Better her than me.

> Anyway, they both said " I guess I'll just wish for a go-cart then " . I

think they were really bummed. They are kind of settling for whatever.

> I am really sad for them. I know, everyone can't revolve around them.

But, they are getting to the point that family is important to them. I have

done more crying for them in the last week. They ask about my dad, who they

have never met and probably never will. I don't know what to say. I have

tried to get dad to have contact with them. But, I guess since he wants no

contact with me it goes for them too. I'm afraid to push the issue with my

dad, because I would have to really kill him if he hurt them in any way.

Maybe I should? I don't know. That whole side of my family is so screwed

up.

> So, remind me, this is supposed to be a good experience? Man, I'm not

so sure. I have thought about calling and putting it off for awhile. I

don't know what to do.

> Do you all know how hard it is to look at them and see disappointment?

I have spent more time locked in the bathroom, straightening myself out,

than I have in a long time.

> Well, I am done babbling for awhile. I'm not expecting any replies, I

just needed to get it out.

>

> thanks for reading,

> Vondie

> mom of & , both w/cf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think putting it off for awhile is probably the best idea. Maybe in a

year or two won't be afraid to fly.

Just a idea. Goodluck!

love,