Re: make a wish issues

[Guest guest]

Vondie- Hi I'm new here still but I really agree w/ . You should go

public, call your local news station they jump on stories like this, I know

its a busy time for the media right now w/ the war and Elizebeth Smart and

all but you need to still try. Thats something thats going to be very

important to your stepson even though it might be all about the fun right

now, its something that will be something BIG in his life later on in life as

he gets older. I dont think he should be excluded at all!!! You shouldnt feel

guilty either its only natural for you to feel the way you do- your a

protective mother as you should be. So get out there and tell your story!!!

Good luck- Kari

[Guest guest]

Wow!! And I thought my ex was bad. I'm so sorry to hear that your family is

having to deal with something so stupid when this is supposed to be a

magical experience for you. That's why it's called make a wish. It give's

our kid's the ability to live a little of their dreams for a short while

before we come crashing down to reality. Even us parents get to dream a

little. Josh was just offered his wish before Christmas. All of us are on

cloud nine. It will be a welcome break for us all (step kids included)

As for your question, as much as I hate to say it. It's wish. He

should be able to ask for his heart's desire without having to worry about

the reaction of an unreasonable witch. Maybe there is some way around it. I

know that it's expensive, but maybe there is some type of legal action that

you could take. It seem's that if she hasn't seen her child in 4 years, she

shouldn't have any parental rights. Then there's the issue of her having her

child excluded out of spite. Is that not some type of abuse in itself? Is

there anything your local dept of family and childrens services can do? I

would ask around. You might feel like you're beating your head against a

brick wall, but at least you tried.

Keep us informed please. And good luck!

make a wish issues

> Hi guys,

> I hope everyone is doing well.

>

> This has been a lovely week. We attended a funeral for a premature baby.

My niece had him early and he lived about 8 hrs. Precious little thing.

But, he had so much wrong that he couldn't be saved. So, that was pretty

emotional. For me anyway, because it was a baby. Such a sad thing.

>

> Today we got the call from make a wish. They asked questions about the

boys, likes and dislikes, etc....

> Everything was going ok until we got to the fact that my stepson is in the

house. They want to include the whole family, but since wish

includes traveling, we have to get permission from his mother. This is what

presents the problem. She is such a #!@#!!!!. If she can stick it to us in

any way, she does it.

> Example: We took a trip to Texas to see my mom. Only gone for 4-5

days. We could not tell her because we did not know where she was. Well,

we got told that if she had known that we went, she would have had us

arrested. Mind you, she doesn't see the boy, it's been about 4 years now.

But, technically she has joint custody.

> So, I am ready to scream.

> Here's the delimma. Take the trip without him, ( let him stay with

family - while we go) or make change his wish?

> For those of you who would ask, is she that heartless? When she found

out about the boys having cf, she said she didn't care about the little

bastards anyway. So, yes she is heartless.

> Not to mention she about got what little heart she has ripped out.

>

> Anyhow, any advice? What would you all do?

>

> HELP!

> Vondie

> mom of & , both w/cf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think any family court judge in their right mind would see the

mother as nuts and would not " punish " you in any way for taking the

stepson with you. As long as you prove that you tried to contact

her, I think you should have no problems at all. Sounds like it is

time to contest her custody. ugh.

[Guest guest]

This was my reaction as well. I wrote but haven't seen it come up .I hit

a tab & who knows where it went. BUT. This is a very good point. Perhaps

the lawyer who handles the divorce, could find a loop hole also. Check

with Legal aid too. they are free if you cant afford an attorney for

this. in the phone book for one nearest you...........

BEST wishes, love & hugs, GRDMBEV

Re: make a wish issues

Wow!! And I thought my ex was bad. I'm so sorry to hear that your family

is having to deal with something so stupid when this is supposed to be a

magical experience for you. That's why it's called make a wish. It

give's our kid's the ability to live a little of their dreams for a

short while before we come crashing down to reality. Even us parents get

to dream a little. Josh was just offered his wish before Christmas. All

of us are on cloud nine. It will be a welcome break for us all (step

kids included)

As for your question, as much as I hate to say it. It's wish. He

should be able to ask for his heart's desire without having to worry

about the reaction of an unreasonable witch. Maybe there is some way

around it. I know that it's expensive, but maybe there is some type of

legal action that you could take. It seem's that if she hasn't seen her

child in 4 years, she shouldn't have any parental rights. Then there's

the issue of her having her child excluded out of spite. Is that not

some type of abuse in itself? Is there anything your local dept of

family and childrens services can do? I would ask around. You might feel

like you're beating your head against a brick wall, but at least you

tried.

Keep us informed please. And good luck!

make a wish issues

> Hi guys,

> I hope everyone is doing well.

>

> This has been a lovely week. We attended a funeral for a premature

> baby.

My niece had him early and he lived about 8 hrs. Precious little thing.

But, he had so much wrong that he couldn't be saved. So, that was

pretty

emotional. For me anyway, because it was a baby. Such a sad thing.

>

> Today we got the call from make a wish. They asked questions about

> the

boys, likes and dislikes, etc....

> Everything was going ok until we got to the fact that my stepson is in

> the

house. They want to include the whole family, but since wish

includes traveling, we have to get permission from his mother. This is

what presents the problem. She is such a #!@#!!!!. If she can stick it

to us in any way, she does it.

> Example: We took a trip to Texas to see my mom. Only gone for 4-5

days. We could not tell her because we did not know where she was.

Well, we got told that if she had known that we went, she would have had

us

arrested. Mind you, she doesn't see the boy, it's been about 4 years

now.

But, technically she has joint custody.

> So, I am ready to scream.

> Here's the delimma. Take the trip without him, ( let him stay with

family - while we go) or make change his wish?

> For those of you who would ask, is she that heartless? When she

> found

out about the boys having cf, she said she didn't care about the little

bastards anyway. So, yes she is heartless.

> Not to mention she about got what little heart she has ripped out.

>

> Anyhow, any advice? What would you all do?

>

> HELP!

> Vondie

> mom of & , both w/cf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

& all who replied,

Thanks for the input. I will check it out.

It is just so depressing. I am so tired of dealing with this. I have been

with my hubby going on 15 years now. It has constantly been like this.

This lady has got to be the biggest thorn in my side. She has always popped

in about every 3 yrs or so. But, it never lasts long. Just to find things

out, I think anyway.

It seems that the last 15 yrs. have had to revolve around her and their

kids. I am just getting sick of it. I am kind of getting to the point that

I don't care anymore.

Not to sound like the mean stepmother. But, this is supposed to be about

the boys, not anyone else. I don't get how she should have any input in it

at all. In all actuality, my boys are nothing to her. I don't think they

should pay for it.

I think I am getting ready to tell my hubby that he can stay home with him

and I will take the boys. Not to be mean or anything, but thats about what

is left. It will be sad that he can't go, but I don't want to take away

from the boys just because the oldest can't go. I know, that makes me sound

completely hard hearted, but right now thats how I feel. Feelings subject

to change later, lol.

We'll see how things go, I guess.

Vondie

[Guest guest]

Vondie,

I would make her the good guy....and get what you want...work with me here. Make

it IMPOSSIBLE for her to appear anything other then a *( & %^^ if she doesnt let

him go. Get the media, the family EVERYONE involved....my son and his

wish..... " we just have to clear it with his mother " ....get make a wish to talk

to her..so she is so EMBARRASED if she doesnt let him go...see. That is what I

would do.

hope it helps

make a wish issues

Hi guys,

I hope everyone is doing well.

This has been a lovely week. We attended a funeral for a premature baby. My

niece had him early and he lived about 8 hrs. Precious little thing. But, he

had so much wrong that he couldn't be saved. So, that was pretty emotional.

For me anyway, because it was a baby. Such a sad thing.

Today we got the call from make a wish. They asked questions about the

boys, likes and dislikes, etc....

Everything was going ok until we got to the fact that my stepson is in the

house. They want to include the whole family, but since wish includes

traveling, we have to get permission from his mother. This is what presents the

problem. She is such a #!@#!!!!. If she can stick it to us in any way, she

does it.

Example: We took a trip to Texas to see my mom. Only gone for 4-5 days.

We could not tell her because we did not know where she was. Well, we got told

that if she had known that we went, she would have had us arrested. Mind you,

she doesn't see the boy, it's been about 4 years now. But, technically she has

joint custody.

So, I am ready to scream.

Here's the delimma. Take the trip without him, ( let him stay with family -

while we go) or make change his wish?

For those of you who would ask, is she that heartless? When she found out

about the boys having cf, she said she didn't care about the little bastards

anyway. So, yes she is heartless.

Not to mention she about got what little heart she has ripped out.

Anyhow, any advice? What would you all do?

HELP!

Vondie

mom of & , both w/cf

[Guest guest]

Gosh such an idiot that bitch will get hers . It all comes back full circle.

Sorry for such strong emotions but keeping your family from something so

important . The nerve !

[Guest guest]

now that is an awesome idea Embarrass her into it

make a wish issues

>

>

> Hi guys,

> I hope everyone is doing well.

>

> This has been a lovely week. We attended a funeral for a premature

baby. My niece had him early and he lived about 8 hrs. Precious little

thing. But, he had so much wrong that he couldn't be saved. So, that was

pretty emotional. For me anyway, because it was a baby. Such a sad thing.

>

> Today we got the call from make a wish. They asked questions about

the boys, likes and dislikes, etc....

> Everything was going ok until we got to the fact that my stepson is in

the house. They want to include the whole family, but since wish

includes traveling, we have to get permission from his mother. This is what

presents the problem. She is such a #!@#!!!!. If she can stick it to us in

any way, she does it.

> Example: We took a trip to Texas to see my mom. Only gone for 4-5

days. We could not tell her because we did not know where she was. Well,

we got told that if she had known that we went, she would have had us

arrested. Mind you, she doesn't see the boy, it's been about 4 years now.

But, technically she has joint custody.

> So, I am ready to scream.

> Here's the delimma. Take the trip without him, ( let him stay with

family - while we go) or make change his wish?

> For those of you who would ask, is she that heartless? When she found

out about the boys having cf, she said she didn't care about the little

bastards anyway. So, yes she is heartless.

> Not to mention she about got what little heart she has ripped out.

>

> Anyhow, any advice? What would you all do?

>

> HELP!

> Vondie

> mom of & , both w/cf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Vondie,

What a terrible week for you. First a funeral for an infant and now

this. Having to deal with this sounds like no fun. Many of the

other replies were talking about getting media coverage to make her

look bad if she doesn't let your stepson go with the rest of the

family. In theory this sounds good but I would be concerned that it

might embarass him if in the end she still doesn't let him go. Like

will the kids at school say that his mom is a @#%$% or tease him or

something?

It sounds like you and your hubby have been the ones raising him so

maybe a trip to court would be the logical thing. However this might

hold your son's wish up........If it was me I think I would try it

though to keep your family together. Make a wish is supposed to give

your family something special to hold on to when times get tough, not

to leave some family members out because of technicalities.

> Hi guys,

> I hope everyone is doing well.

>

> This has been a lovely week. We attended a funeral for a

premature baby. My niece had him early and he lived about 8 hrs.

Precious little thing. But, he had so much wrong that he couldn't

be saved. So, that was pretty emotional. For me anyway, because

it was a baby. Such a sad thing.

>

> Today we got the call from make a wish. They asked questions

about the boys, likes and dislikes, etc....

> Everything was going ok until we got to the fact that my stepson is

in the house. They want to include the whole family, but since

wish includes traveling, we have to get permission from his

mother. This is what presents the problem. She is such a #!@#!!!!.

If she can stick it to us in any way, she does it.

> Example: We took a trip to Texas to see my mom. Only gone for 4-

5 days. We could not tell her because we did not know where she

was. Well, we got told that if she had known that we went, she would

have had us arrested. Mind you, she doesn't see the boy, it's been

about 4 years now. But, technically she has joint custody.

> So, I am ready to scream.

> Here's the delimma. Take the trip without him, ( let him stay

with family - while we go) or make change his wish?

> For those of you who would ask, is she that heartless? When she

found out about the boys having cf, she said she didn't care about

the little bastards anyway. So, yes she is heartless.

> Not to mention she about got what little heart she has ripped

out.

>

> Anyhow, any advice? What would you all do?

>

> HELP!

> Vondie

> mom of & , both w/cf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> I wasn't going to get involved in this conversation because it is one close to

my heart (my oldest lives with his father and we only see him at certian times

during the year) Heres the thing. I know in our custody papers it states who has

actual physical custody of the child(that means, even with joint custody (i know

this because for a year we had joint) who has control over where the child can

and can not go). If your husband has actual physical custody of the boy then you

have every right to take him where you want without having to have permission

from the ex. This is something to look for in his custody agreement, it may

differ from state to state but I know that is how it is in TN.

>

> Date: 2003/03/19 Wed PM 09:25:38 EST

> To: cfparents

> Subject: Re: make a wish issues

>

>

Christal

mom of Tristan 6ncf, Zack 2wcf & asthma, Ki'a 4mthsncf