Guest guest Posted January 31, 2003 Report Share Posted January 31, 2003 Tuesday Night my darling husband (she said with distain) was cleaning out my son w/ significant sensory issues nose (who was screaming blue murder at the time) I looked in to see that things were " OK " and noticed something in my sons' nose that didn't look right. I told my husband to stop that I thought it was a polp...the next morning took him to ped., yep...its a polp...you can see it when you look up his nose!! The next day took him to ENT - who said to get a Cat scan to see who extensive it is. Monday is the day - Dylan has to be sedated - due to sensory issues. I dread it! He is my worst. He is 6 and can't stand a scratch on his skin. We can't kiss him - he hates things on his body. - is depressed - hates life and CF and my daughter - hates CF, has stomach virus and spent all of yesterday puking.... The good news --- yesterday last day of TOBI..........we go to Disneyland on 2/16....god willing........ me-- still searching for lawyer - Gosh, they are soo expensive. I have heard divorces cost from $20,000 to $80,000.00!!!! Rosemary from New York with 3 children with CF - they are 12.5, 10, 6...... I coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " ; we have a dog we named -are you ready for this - TOBI after their medication!!! At least it wasn't albuterol or Coly... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2003 Report Share Posted January 31, 2003 In a message dated 1/31/2003 9:54:42 PM Central Standard Time, ROSEMARY3FOR3wCF@... writes: > Tuesday Night my darling husband (she said with distain) was cleaning out my > > son w/ significant sensory issues nose (who was screaming blue murder at > the > time) I looked in to see that things were " OK " and noticed something in my > > sons' nose that didn't look right. I told my husband to stop that I > thought > it was a polp...the next morning took him to ped., yep...its a polp...you > can > see it when you look up his nose!! The next day took him to ENT - who said > > to get a Cat scan to see who extensive it is. Monday is the day - Dylan > has > to be sedated - due to sensory issues. I dread it! He is my worst. He is > 6 > and can't stand a scratch on his skin. We can't kiss him - he hates > things > on his body. > > - is depressed - hates life and CF and my daughter - hates CF, has > stomach virus and spent all of yesterday puking.... > > The good news --- yesterday last day of TOBI..........we go to Disneyland > on > 2/16....god willing........ > > me-- still searching for lawyer - Gosh, they are soo expensive. I have > heard > divorces cost from $20,000 to $80,000.00!!!! > > > > Rosemary from New York with 3 children with CF - > they are 12.5, 10, 6...... > I coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " ; we have a dog we named -are you ready > > for this - TOBI after their medication!!! At least it wasn't albuterol or > Coly... > Rosemary, I am so sorry to her that your son might be fighting the dreadful polyps that I hate so much. My daughter has had 3 sinus surgeries since we wer diagnosed 4 years ago and she still has psuedomonas in her nose! Let us know how monday goes! So the hubby is still there? Deb A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2003 Report Share Posted January 31, 2003 Maybe we can split the cost of a lawyer ask if they will do two for the price of one LOL! DebA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2003 Report Share Posted February 2, 2003 Rosemary if it is an uncontested divorce you keep everything he pays for everything you keep the kids he gets (limited visitation meaning he doesn't take care of there medical treatments or care called an unfit parent by judges) I lived in Tennessee and found if you can find a Law student they may work probono(unpaid )to write up the papers then just hire a lawyer for the actual filing of the papers and going to court the least around here are $100.00 per hour.My divorce uncontested cost $1100.00 in 1990.I think the most expensive thing for me was I lived in Tennessee and he lived in Ithaca NY the papers had to run an anouncement and serving him the papers. Good Luck (((((^*^))))) here is a hug with angel wings may you know others have been where you are now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2003 Report Share Posted February 2, 2003 Rosemary, If you and your husband are able to sit down and agree on all issues (i.e., division of assets, assignment of debt, child support, spousal support if necessary, visitation, who claims who as dependents when you each file tax returns etc.,) then consider using the same lawyer. Makes sense: you didn't have a lawyer present when you married, why should you hire and pay two when you divorce? Our attorney was surprised when we went to him requesting a divorce (especially since he'd just handled a land deal for us a few months earlier) but he said yes, legally he could represent both of us as long as both parties agreed to terms. He said if we ever started bickering and disagreeing, then he would only be able to represent one of us and the other would have to retain another lawyer. I guess we're cheap and easy-going because it worked for us. From my experience, here are some tips you might want to consider: 1) Get as much down on paper before you walk into a lawyer's office, this helps cut down on time spent in the office since they charge every second the clock ticks. 2) Make a list of all current assets and debts, along with account numbers and addresses of asset-holders and debt-holders (i.e., life and health insurance companies, bank accounts, retirement and pension accounts, mortgage company, credit card companies, etc.). 3) Figure out who will carry the kids on their health insurance policy. If you don't have your own health insurance, the kids can stay on his, but most insurance companies won't let divorced spouses stay on the plan. However, you're eligible for COBRA for 3 years on his policy. If you're not working and don't plan on working after the divorce, figure out how you'll pay for this COBRA insurance, or make it part of the divorce agreement that he'll pay all or part of your health insurance premium. 4) Since the kids are minors, make sure you are the policy holder AND beneficiary on any life insurance policies he has. This way, if something happens to him then you get the money to finish raising the kids. If something happens to him after they reach age 18, then the money can go to them. By listing YOU as policy holder (policy holder is different than beneficiary), if anything happens to him then proceeds go to you and are not a taxable part of his estate. If you have your own life insurance, consider making him the policy holder and beneficiary if you trust him to manage the money to finish raising your children. My kids are 23 and 20 and I've been divorced 5 years, but I'm still the policy holder and beneficiary on their dad's two policies. Our agreement was that I would be listed until they were out of college. Since I'm the policy holder, the quarterly reports come to me, which is a good way to verify that I'm still listed and he's paying the premiums. (He hates dealing with this type of paperwork anyway; that was always my job since I handled our personal and farm finances, so I can't see him ever changing insurance paperwork!) 5) Look long-range: include agreements for the cost of education after high school (college, tech/trade school, etc.). I figured after the divorce we'd have little contact. I really wasn't prepared for on-going monthly paperwork. Boy, was I naive! But I keep a running tally of monthly expenses (medical and educational) and then present him with a monthly bill and he writes the check. I moved out of state 18 months ago but I still use my bank " back home. " So now in addition to printing out a monthly expense form (I keep a running tally in a MS word doc), I fill out a deposit slip, address and stamp an envelope to my bank, and put the expense sheet, deposit slip, and addressed/stamped envelope inside an envelope addressed to my ex-husband and drop it into the mail. He writes a check, puts it in the envelope to my bank and mails it to the bank for deposit. I access my bank account online to verify the deposit. I hate that you're having to go through this... but I also hope the collective experience of some of us that have gone down this path before you can help ease the way. Kim > Tuesday Night my darling husband (she said with distain) was cleaning out my > son w/ significant sensory issues nose (who was screaming blue murder at the > time) I looked in to see that things were " OK " and noticed something in my > sons' nose that didn't look right. I told my husband to stop that I thought > it was a polp...the next morning took him to ped., yep...its a polp...you can > see it when you look up his nose!! The next day took him to ENT - who said > to get a Cat scan to see who extensive it is. Monday is the day - Dylan has > to be sedated - due to sensory issues. I dread it! He is my worst. He is 6 > and can't stand a scratch on his skin. We can't kiss him - he hates things > on his body. > > - is depressed - hates life and CF and my daughter - hates CF, has > stomach virus and spent all of yesterday puking.... > > The good news --- yesterday last day of TOBI..........we go to Disneyland on > 2/16....god willing........ > > me-- still searching for lawyer - Gosh, they are soo expensive. I have heard > divorces cost from $20,000 to $80,000.00!!!! > > > > Rosemary from New York with 3 children with CF - > they are 12.5, 10, 6...... > I coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT " ; we have a dog we named -are you ready > for this - TOBI after their medication!!! At least it wasn't albuterol or > Coly... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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