Siblings

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It is hard to treat healthy siblings equally, much less treat one's healthy

child in a manner as satisfying to them as they perceive the treatment

of their ill siblings to be to them (which in fact it may not be). I think

that meeting the needs of each child is ALWAYS difficult. Our youngest

has cf, as do I. The first kid (now an adult) is normal as apple pie; the

second kid (now an adult, I think) was in therapy as were we all for

years--might have been anyway--hard to say, but did seem to har

bor resentments against the third child, wcf--who just happens to be a

rather cheery sort anyway. I try not to belabor the past, nor put up with

much of it from any of them, but to focus on now and the future, as des

pite the middle one's dire brushes with: drugs, alcohol, sex, LSD, etc.,

the kid actually got tired of it all and gave it all up in favor of Obsessive

Compulsive Neatness, Correctness, Good Grammar and the perfect

partner--the other two grown cheerfully and put up with it.

I am just glad that they are all alive--for the moment. And that I am.

We all lost my husband and their father in 1983 when they were trauma

tized to pieces by his late diagnosis of a rare liver cancer and rapid de

cline and death. It has not been easy for any of them.

So, now they are stuck with Old Mom. They are all grown up, hideously

successful in every way and " put up with me. "

For which I shall always be eternally grateful.

Love and highest hopes for your non-cf child, you and the family,

n Rojas, wcf, and who feels that no one is ever adequately pre

pared for anything that life brings one. Sure beats not being here, though!

Or nut having them here, or that noncf one here!