Guest guest Posted December 10, 2003 Report Share Posted December 10, 2003 I haven't been a regular poster here so I apoligize to post a subject you all may have already dealt with, but here goes. How do you deal with the comments about size? My daughter Abby (age 5) is very small and adorable and I'm just sick to death of the " oh, she's so tiny " , " she's so small " , " she's just like a doll " comments. Do these people, ranging from adults to children, think she, or we, can't hear them? The worse thing is, Abby seems to be getting a very bad attitude, which may just be the result of her age. She's very directive and rude in telling people (me and her father included) what to do. We have been very intolerant of her behavior, but it has continued which makes me wonder whether other people are rewarding her behavior in some way. Any ideas or suggestions in what you have done to combat similar situations would be greatly appreciated! Sherri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Hi its Kim 25 RSS (uk) I must admit at times growing up I've been told I was, and at times still am, a bit too abrupt in replying to people who stare or comment but i think that I'm like that as I don't realise what people are staring at as I forget how small I am and get very annoyed with people and their comments. People think their comments are so original but I've heard it all before.My way of coing with RSS can be to directly confront people and sometimes I take out my frustrations on others, esspecially those closet to me.So maybe your child is the same or maybe just at that age. Take Care and feel free to email any time Warmest Regards Kim sherrid2003 sherrid2003@...> wrote: I haven't been a regular poster here so I apoligize to post a subject you all may have already dealt with, but here goes. How do you deal with the comments about size? My daughter Abby (age 5) is very small and adorable and I'm just sick to death of the " oh, she's so tiny " , " she's so small " , " she's just like a doll " comments. Do these people, ranging from adults to children, think she, or we, can't hear them? The worse thing is, Abby seems to be getting a very bad attitude, which may just be the result of her age. She's very directive and rude in telling people (me and her father included) what to do. We have been very intolerant of her behavior, but it has continued which makes me wonder whether other people are rewarding her behavior in some way. Any ideas or suggestions in what you have done to combat similar situations would be greatly appreciated! Sherri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 It sounds like you have one strong willed young lady on your hands. My 8-year old (non RSS) could be her twin in attitude, and while we have worked hard on the way she talks to people, I have to say she can still be a bossy little brat at times with a temper like fire. She is VERY strong willed, and just exactly like my sister was when we were growing up. I survive by looking at my sister, who is a very confident, loving, and independant now, and thinking if this is what I have to go through to get here there so be it... I can't wait till she's a teenager and this gets worse.... Good luck! ((HUGS)) Steph > I haven't been a regular poster here so I apoligize to post a subject > you all may have already dealt with, but here goes. > > How do you deal with the comments about size? My daughter Abby (age > 5) is very small and adorable and I'm just sick to death of the " oh, > she's so tiny " , " she's so small " , " she's just like a doll " comments. > Do these people, ranging from adults to children, think she, or we, > can't hear them? > > The worse thing is, Abby seems to be getting a very bad attitude, > which may just be the result of her age. She's very directive and > rude in telling people (me and her father included) what to do. We > have been very intolerant of her behavior, but it has continued which > makes me wonder whether other people are rewarding her behavior in > some way. > > Any ideas or suggestions in what you have done to combat similar > situations would be greatly appreciated! > > Sherri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2003 Report Share Posted December 11, 2003 Sherri, As an adult (well, most days, at least ) who has RSS, I've had to deal with tmy fair share of size comments. I think it's important that you never speak for your daughter in these situations when she can speak for herself. She is going to have to learn to be able to tell people that she's older than they think she is. People still tell me that I'm short and I always reply with something along the lines of " gee thanks, I hadn't noticed before " . The living doll comments bother me the most (although I only get those once in a rare, rare while). When I come across someone who makes one of these comments I calmly remind them that I'm not a doll, but a human being with feelings that are every bit as real as someone who happens to be taller than I am. I've found that most people make comments about my size because they are ignorant, not because they are malicious. Most of these people have never come across someone who is short statured and they're just curious. I'm not excusing the fact that they feel the need to project their curiosity onto a complete stranger, but it's a fact of life that anyone who does not fall into the physical norm is going to get a little more attention walking down the street than someone who does. I know it's hard to be civil to people who are insensitive, but it's not worth your time or energy to get upset about every ignorant person that has the nerve to make a comment. Politely correct them, smile and move on. I know that's A LOT easier said than done, but those are my two cents. Happy Holidays, Hillary 21, RSS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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