Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 AH! We just had this problem today. My husband took my son to preschool ( 3 days/wk, 4 hours a day) for the first time and I knew it wasn't going to go great because my son was already shaking his head no no no at me when I mentioned school. Luke (2 1/2) loved it last week but is not happy about going this week. He cried so hard on Monday that I thought he was sick so I took him home. Well I guess he cried the whole time he was there today and didn't calm down until the end when my husband put some earplugs in (in Luke, not his own ears!). I think this is due to his Sensory Integration issues though. He is overstimulated by noise and there's a lot of it in his preschool room. High celings and echo-y walls. I really can't see a point where I can actually leave him there and go home. I am going to keep taking him though so he learns that he can't get out of it. Also, he has been talking more than ever since we started last week. He started naming his colors (bwoo, reh, wehwo) and using his voice to ask for things (hel(p), dow(n)) so I am definitely going to make him keep at it for at least another month. I don't know if you can stay with your son but I'm going to stay as long as they need me to stay, and even longer than that! I do feel like I'm torturing him though. I do hear that a lot of boys aren't really ready until they're 4. That is totally my son so I do wonder if this is unnecesary torture or are the speech gains worth the pain? Feel free to email me for support! > > Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per > week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. > Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me > not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour > after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole > time. > > What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech > therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to > see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays > I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. > > He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the > third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. > > Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? > Janice > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 Hi Janice, My advice to you is hang in there! My daughter started the same sort of preschool in Septmeber and she cried everytime i dropped her off for 4 months! It was heart wrenching..but everytime i dropped her off and walked out, i reminded myself how important it is. it may take 2 weeks or 6 or 12..but he will adjust! Some kids, like my daughter for example take an extra long time to adjust to a new social situation and he also may know that the teachers may have trouble understanding him (which my daughter did). But do hang in there..i feel your pain! Amy [ ] Preschool adjustment Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole time. What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? Janice ________________________________________________________________________ Check out the new AOL. Most comprehensive set of free safety and security tools, free access to millions of high-quality videos from across the web, free AOL Mail and more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 He may not be ready for preschool. How locked in are you to the program? _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of my3siamese Sent: Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:49 AM Subject: [ ] Preschool adjustment Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole time. What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 hello is there there a bus or van that he can ride because my boy friend took my son to school one day and he cryed and wouldnt let my boy friend but if the van comes and picks him up he ok he gets on the van and looks out the window and waves by april / mark jr dianaextein <dianaextein@...> wrote: AH! We just had this problem today. My husband took my son to preschool ( 3 days/wk, 4 hours a day) for the first time and I knew it wasn't going to go great because my son was already shaking his head no no no at me when I mentioned school. Luke (2 1/2) loved it last week but is not happy about going this week. He cried so hard on Monday that I thought he was sick so I took him home. Well I guess he cried the whole time he was there today and didn't calm down until the end when my husband put some earplugs in (in Luke, not his own ears!). I think this is due to his Sensory Integration issues though. He is overstimulated by noise and there's a lot of it in his preschool room. High celings and echo-y walls. I really can't see a point where I can actually leave him there and go home. I am going to keep taking him though so he learns that he can't get out of it. Also, he has been talking more than ever since we started last week. He started naming his colors (bwoo, reh, wehwo) and using his voice to ask for things (hel(p), dow(n)) so I am definitely going to make him keep at it for at least another month. I don't know if you can stay with your son but I'm going to stay as long as they need me to stay, and even longer than that! I do feel like I'm torturing him though. I do hear that a lot of boys aren't really ready until they're 4. That is totally my son so I do wonder if this is unnecesary torture or are the speech gains worth the pain? Feel free to email me for support! > > Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per > week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. > Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me > not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour > after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole > time. > > What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech > therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to > see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays > I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. > > He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the > third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. > > Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? > Janice > img scr=*http://i2.photobucket.com --------------------------------- Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 Is your child receiving any type of sensory diet activities during his time at preschool? If yes, be very careful and find out EXACTLY what they are doing during the day. Ask them to provide you with what they are doing - that way you will hear it from them and not feed them with suggestions of " are you doing ____ " ? My child was being TERRIBLY overstimulated while at preschool. We had a well established sensory diet in place. When he began preschool, after the first week he became withdrawn and began exhibiting sensory and anti-social behaviors we had never seen before. The school and the private therapists kept saying " oh, he'll get used to it, it's just an adjustment period " . By the end of the 3rd week (he had attended a total of 9 days), he was nearly catatonic. We asked his teacher to spell out the sensory diet he was receiving. I was SHOCKED when I saw it - they were torturing this poor child with THREE TIMES the amount of sensory stimulation that he was accustomed to receiving on a daily basis. For example, he was accustomed to being swung on the therapy swing once daily. They asked me to swing him before school - which I did. That should have been his only swinging of the day. They were swinging him THREE MORE TIMES in a 3 hour period - and they were forcing him into the swing (they actually wrote this down). Same for brushing - too often. They were using a weighted vest - which we did not use at home or during his private OT. This is after his private OT and I told them at the IEP meeting what his daily sensory needs were. Needless to say, he never returned to the school. This was before we had our apraxia with SID diagnosis. He was classified as speech/language impaired, but they had him in a class with all autistic children and were treating him as such. It all goes to show that a correct diagnosis is worth it's weight in gold...but I digress... If you think your child is behaving in such a way that may be a little more than just an adjustment to a new routine - ask that they provide exactly what he is experiencing while there. His tears may be telling you more than you think. > > > > Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per > > week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. > > Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me > > not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour > > after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole > > time. > > > > What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech > > therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to > > see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays > > I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. > > > > He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the > > third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. > > > > Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? > > Janice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2007 Report Share Posted February 13, 2007 I actually did check into transportation today. There is a van that could pick him up. I'm just really leary about doing that right now because I think he'd be upset in someone coming and taking him. The teacher doesnt recommend it right now. They recommend letting the bus take him HOME first - but when I checked into that they told me he'd have to ride a regular school bus full of kids of all ages - middle school, high school, etc. I guess I should say he isnt crying when I pick him up. They tell me he does settle down. I've tried to get there a little early and peek in at him and he's either with the other kids working on something or in line getting his coat on to go. Then he is happy to see me and immediately starts pointing out to me the clock, plant, etc. They do send home a little " daily report " about what they did that day. I think its mainly just structured play. Like one day they played with play doh, one day it was shaving cream, one day they did a puzzle, and they always do some little drawing or craft to send home. Like Monday they made hearts for valentines. I do want to give it a fair shot. I think I'll at least try keeping with the current schedule until the end of the month and see if things improve much by then. Like I said this week will be the first week he goes two days in a row (wed and thurs) so I'll see if that makes things better or worse, LOL. Thanks so much for the comments, I've read them all and will think on all of them! Janice > > > > Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per > > week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. > > Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me > > not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour > > after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole > > time. > > > > What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech > > therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to > > see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays > > I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. > > > > He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the > > third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. > > > > Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? > > Janice > > > > > > > > > img scr=*http://i2.photobucket.com > > --------------------------------- > Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 good luck april / mark jr my3siamese <my3siamese@...> wrote: I actually did check into transportation today. There is a van that could pick him up. I'm just really leary about doing that right now because I think he'd be upset in someone coming and taking him. The teacher doesnt recommend it right now. They recommend letting the bus take him HOME first - but when I checked into that they told me he'd have to ride a regular school bus full of kids of all ages - middle school, high school, etc. I guess I should say he isnt crying when I pick him up. They tell me he does settle down. I've tried to get there a little early and peek in at him and he's either with the other kids working on something or in line getting his coat on to go. Then he is happy to see me and immediately starts pointing out to me the clock, plant, etc. They do send home a little " daily report " about what they did that day. I think its mainly just structured play. Like one day they played with play doh, one day it was shaving cream, one day they did a puzzle, and they always do some little drawing or craft to send home. Like Monday they made hearts for valentines. I do want to give it a fair shot. I think I'll at least try keeping with the current schedule until the end of the month and see if things improve much by then. Like I said this week will be the first week he goes two days in a row (wed and thurs) so I'll see if that makes things better or worse, LOL. Thanks so much for the comments, I've read them all and will think on all of them! Janice > > > > Our son (age 3) started preschool recently. He is going 2-3 days per > > week (2 hours 15 minutes per class). He's been to 7 classes so far. > > Everyone asssured me he'd love it, well he doesn't! He cries for me > > not to leave him. One day the teacher told me he cried for a half hour > > after I left. Yesterday she said he whined for me on and off the whole > > time. > > > > What do I do? give it more time? He LOVES going to see his speech > > therapist - the school won't do one to one therapy, so I take him to > > see his speech therapist after school two times a week, and on Fridays > > I just take him to speech therapy, and not school. > > > > He started looking forward to going to see his speech therapist by the > > third session so I was hoping preschool would be the same. > > > > Anyone else go through this? Any thoughts? > > Janice > > > > > > > > > img scr=*http://i2.photobucket.com > > --------------------------------- > Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 My preschool disabled program offered a bus, but I turned it down b/c no one was able to wait with him at the bus stop which was my home. His older siblings needed to be driven to their schools and it was a conflict, so the district allowed me to drop off and pick up. Our school also offered an open door policy. If you would like to spend some time in the classroom you were more than welcome to visit and experience his 1:1 speech and/or OT. Observe the classroom morning circle, snack time, etc. Being able to put a face with a name also was helpful. I took my disposable camera with me and the teacher and aides and therapists allowed me to take their pics so when my child forgot that persons name he would be able to look it up in his album of friends book. Some districts may have to bus with older children but in NJ transportation for Preschool Special Ed is only for preschool which could be ages 5-9 with an assistant on the bus that holds no more than 8 special ed passengers. All must come with carseats until they turn 8. NJ has a PRISE (Parental Rights In special Ed) booklet http://www.state.nj.us/njded/parights/ check to see if your state also may have these rights. Do a google search on special ed in your state, parental rights, preschool special ed transportation, etc. Good luck, Joanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2007 Report Share Posted February 14, 2007 Hi, One more thing I would add, if you're not already doing this, is to make sure your good-byes are short & sweet. If you linger then that just adds to their anxiety (they pick up on our anxiety, why are we lingering, there must be something wrong, Mommy doesn't want to leave me for some reason, etc.). Just bring them to the teacher, give them a happy hug/kiss & " I love you. You're going to play now and I'll pick you up later. " & quick leave. It sounds like your son is making progress already (went from crying for a half an hour to whining off & on- that's progress)! Hang In There! M. > I guess I should say he isnt crying when I pick him up. They tell me > he does settle down. I've tried to get there a little early and peek > in at him and he's either with the other kids working on something > or in line getting his coat on to go. Then he is happy to see me and > immediately starts pointing out to me the clock, plant, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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