Guest guest Posted February 8, 2003 Report Share Posted February 8, 2003 In a message dated 1/21/03 2:32:39 PM Pacific Standard Time, Graduate-OSSG writes: > my reference to disasociation was meant > only as a clarifying aside, not as a whole topic in itself- that would take > a > LOT MORE paragraphs, much more clarification.) This is waht I was trying to > convey....Compartmentalization is considered a psychic feature. It appears > to > be seated far more often in men than in women. Those who have it experience > it as a gift, talent, attribute. It is a sorting and ordering mechanism. > BUT > it does not normally suddenly arise as a result of fleeing from an > unbearable > circumstance. It appears to be inborn as a trait and develops over time. > > Compartmentalization *can* be a feature of disociation, But, compartmenting > is more often understood as innate skill that does not arise in repsonse to > overwhelming challenges. > > Ceep, I don't think I would have understood your message about this difference between men and women, had I not recently heard a radio broadcast by the authors of a book called " Men are like waffles, Women are like sphagetti. " They said men have the natural ability to compartamentalize their life into little sections, just like a waffle has little squares, whereas women usually mix everything together like spaghetti. They say that's often why spouses encounter conflict, cuz we just think differently, and if we accept and realize this about the sexes, we can help understand each other a little better, and know where the other person is coming from. I thought that was a funny but interesting concept. Liz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 8, 2003 Report Share Posted February 8, 2003 Liz, One of the best ways I ever heard " comparmentalization " described was by a author called Smalley. This is what he says: Men handle things like they are in a submarine. They spin the wheel and open the locked compression chamber and enter, then they turn around and lock themselves in...analyzing the one big problem in that compartment until it is solved. Then they spin the wheel of the door and leave that chamber and enter another chamber and work on the problem in that one area. WHEREAS...women are in the WAR-room. They have the diarama of the war on the table and the map with the stick pins on the wall. They are answering the red phone and the black phones and tracking where all the ships are. Women can handle a multitude of problem and issues at one time while a man has to concentrate on the one issue until it is solved. Women have peripheral vision. Both attributes come in handy at different points in our lives. Which is why we compliment each other (or at least that is how it should be Carol G. > In a message dated 1/21/03 2:32:39 PM Pacific Standard Time, > Graduate-OSSG writes: > > > > my reference to disasociation was meant > > only as a clarifying aside, not as a whole topic in itself- that would take > > a > > LOT MORE paragraphs, much more clarification.) This is waht I was trying to > > convey....Compartmentalization is considered a psychic feature. It appears > > to > > be seated far more often in men than in women. Those who have it experience > > it as a gift, talent, attribute. It is a sorting and ordering mechanism. > > BUT > > it does not normally suddenly arise as a result of fleeing from an > > unbearable > > circumstance. It appears to be inborn as a trait and develops over time. > > > > Compartmentalization *can* be a feature of disociation, But, compartmenting > > is more often understood as innate skill that does not arise in repsonse to > > overwhelming challenges. > > > > > > Ceep, > > I don't think I would have understood your message about this difference > between men and women, had I not recently heard a radio broadcast by the > authors of a book called " Men are like waffles, Women are like sphagetti. " > They said men have the natural ability to compartamentalize their life into > little sections, just like a waffle has little squares, whereas women usually > mix everything together like spaghetti. They say that's often why spouses > encounter conflict, cuz we just think differently, and if we accept and > realize this about the sexes, we can help understand each other a little > better, and know where the other person is coming from. I thought that was a > funny but interesting concept. > > Liz > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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