Learning to organize and prioritize

[Guest guest]

My massage therapist, and dear friend, came to me last Friday and graciously

offered to give 3 hours of her time at least one morning a week to help me

deep clean, organize and re prioritize my life.. She will help me to

accomplish all that needs to be accomplished .. she says... in a short 6

weeks.

I am thrilled to have help.. My house became very disordered during the

year and half that I was soo intensely ill.. and I have been very overwhelmed

by all that needs to be done to get things back neat and orderly..

I have been stressed over my house, finances, children, granddaughter,

daughter/s recent eye surgery.. went well.. and my new responsibilities at

work..

I know that my first priority is to take care of me.. or none of the other

priorities can be met.. I am working on getting back on track and taking

better care of myself.. Please continue to post and encourage me.. I need

that right now..

Hugs,

from GA

open RNY 12/12/00

Revision 04/18/01

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St wt.... 392

Cw.......187

Wt loss..-205

[Guest guest]

I have a million hugs for you. You have quite a load to carry, that is why

we try to do things one day at a time. You sound like you are filled with so

much anxiety, maybe a little meds can help you through. My 2 cents.

Fay Bayuk

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10/23/01

Dr

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

I'm so glad you posted this!!! I'm not weird??? I have to be organized on

the outside or I get all strange on the inside....

>>> My massage therapist, and dear friend, came to me last Friday and

graciously offered to give 3 hours of her time at least one morning a week

to help me deep clean, organize and re prioritize my life..<<<

*** What a gift!!! When someone gives us " time " -- it is such a valuable

gift (think she'd come help me with my library???) ~smile~

The one *simple sounding* but difficult to do thing I learned is to do

small sections at a time -- first " this pile " then " this pile " next " this

dresser top " then " this shelf " and it is SLOW going but progress toward the

ends we desire... I just can't stand clutter and learning to " throw away "

stuff has gotten all " mixed up " with the same concept of " throwing away "

food -- the last two years I've really learned to throw away -- put in the

trash those things that I don't want / need / have no clue why I saved...

and the same concepts moving to the " food " left on my plate (in the

trash) -- like it all goes together for me somehow or another...

>>>My house became very disordered during the year and half that I was soo

intensely ill.. and I have been very overwhelmed by all that needs to be

done to get things back neat and orderly.. I have been stressed over my

house, finances, children, granddaughter, daughter/s recent eye surgery..

went well.. and my new responsibilities at work..<<<

**** A whole life dump huh? *sigh* There are some things you can do about

it and some you can't... My dear friend tells me, " If you pray why worry and

if you worry why pray " so I have a Goddess Box and write things that I have

no control over or need a LOT of extra help with on a slip of paper and put

it in there... Once it is delivered into Her hands then it is up to me to

trust that it will be handled / dealt with / done the right thing with / and

I don't have to worry about it anymore.

So many people and things are put into our lives along the way that " help "

us to get through -- like your therapist coming to help you physically

organize your clutter -- what a gift huh? Then, if you truly share what your

needs are physically on the lists I know their are so many " Momma's " here

who will help kick our rears into high gear to take care of ourselves (true,

our first priority)

My thoughts and prayers go out to you... all the things like finances,

children, grandchildren and such are only worries that we can manage -- not

usually totally rid ourselves of but my dear friend tells me (she is a dear

woman) to " Give myself permission to fret over something for 5 minutes... "

yes, actually " time " myself, give me permission to " worry " over it and then

stop and move forward to the next thing... and so I do (try) to remember to

do that and it does help.

Staying in the NOW also helps. Can't change the past or predict the future

so what is the " next right thing? " and then do that " thing " -- baby steps --

sure, but at least they are going forward and not so much getting frozen in

time for fear of the HUGE stuff that needs done... just chipping away, one

small task at a time.

I think one of the huge tasks in front of me right now is to keep doing the

small stuff each day that puts me first... getting my protein in *check*

doing my vitamins *check* making good food choices *boring but check*

getting back to the gym ?????? I need a fork-lift to move me I think!!! Sad

because I love going for the de-stress if nothing else but can't seem to

" get me back " in that way since my whole ordeal in December *sigh* I know I

would feel better and do better but I take " my " time and " give it " some

where else that it may not even be needed that badly just to avoid and

justify to me my own not willing to go (it's so dang cold outside and I

don't have " warm " gym cloths... LOL... how is that for an excuse????)

Thank you for sharing -- I'm glad I'm not the only one who MUST be

organized on the outside to feel organized on the inside...

Hugz,

~denise