Re: Re: Re: Thinking too hard -- was: The Zone

[Guest guest]

>>I remember for a very long time after thinking that life and people were

disrespectful...

>>>I resented people going about their lives, as if the whole world had not

suddenly stopped! <<<

I really don't mind others going on about their business -- in fact, I

think I am glad that they are distracted with the " life goes on " world -- I

just want to be left alone in that whole scheme of things to move forward

at my own pace and it makes me angry, resentful or some types of emotions

like that when people want to " get me out " and " for my own good " and all

manner of reasons don't want to just leave me be and let me mourn in my own

way, my own time.

There was a time in history when people in mourning wore a black veil

and others respected that " time " and I often wish it were still that way.

I think grief just requires a distance at times that so many are just

unwilling to give... well meaning I'm sure but -- *sigh* oh well... I

suppose I'll take from the experience the lesson for myself to allow others

who are close to me to mourn in their own way without trying to make them

" right " or " wrong " about how they feel. There are a lot of lessons to be

learned along the way and I don't feel like I'm wasting time as long as I'm

learning... and can do better and be a better person for the experience.

Thank you so much for sharing your own journeys in grief and loss...

hugz,

~denise