Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 In a message dated 12/6/2003 6:48:49 PM Central Standard Time, wlslori@... writes: not me! my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, is watching what i eat. or what i'm NOT eating. for dinner i had a soyburger patty w/ cheese. you should've seen him! mr food patrol! what's that about? lori h. This is the kind of thing that really makes me ill!!!!!!!! If people would worry about themselves and their rudeness they would be busy all the dam* time! Wolfie Leeds, Alabama " Keep It Real & Off the Top " Lap Rny & Choly Dr. Lee Schmitt Medical Center East August 27,2003 336/271/200 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 I went to work the other day ( I work in a school cafeteria) and we has peas on the salad bar, so I went and get my 2 oz. and sat down to eat and this one lady stood up to see what I was eating in my bowl. And she was across the table. Mad me mad, I looked at the lady beside me and said what the heck is everyone looking at my food for. She about died laughing. I wondered what her problem was.. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 In a message dated 12/6/2003 7:47:57 PM Central Standard Time, Twinsmommy42@... writes: I went to work the other day ( I work in a school cafeteria) and we has peas on the salad bar, so I went and get my 2 oz. and sat down to eat and this one lady stood up to see what I was eating in my bowl. And she was across the table. Mad me mad, I looked at the lady beside me and said what the heck is everyone looking at my food for. She about died laughing. I wondered what her problem was.. Pam This is the time that you look at them and tell them their ignorance is showing. My gosh it never ceases to amaze me how low the intelligence level goes with these people. My gosh! Totally amazing absolutely totally amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would love to grab ahold of their neck and slam dunk them into the floor. Stupid morons! Ok. I feel better now. Now maybe I will say how I really feel, lol. Wolfie Leeds, Alabama " Keep It Real & Off the Top " Lap Rny & Choly Dr. Lee Schmitt Medical Center East August 27,2003 336/271/200 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 In a message dated 12/6/2003 7:57:06 PM Central Standard Time, toibox_success@... writes: my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, Hey Lori, One thing I did forget to mention when you said your father in law was visiting for a few weeks brings to mind what my mother always says...company is like fish...it all gets to stinking beyond three days, lol. I know me well enough a few weeks and I would definitely be hurting Mr. Food Patrol's feelings. Just keepin it real thats all I know,lol. Wolfie Leeds, Alabama " Keep It Real & Off the Top " Lap Rny & Choly Dr. Lee Schmitt Medical Center East August 27,2003 336/271/200 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 not me! my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, is watching what i eat. or what i'm NOT eating. for dinner i had a soyburger patty w/ cheese. you should've seen him! mr food patrol! what's that about? lori h. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2003 Report Share Posted December 6, 2003 Does he comment on what you eat or just make it obvious that he's watching? I have people asking all the time " can you eat that? " Well, I can eat anything I want to these days. Whether I do or not is another matter. Toi > not me! my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, > is watching what i eat. or what i'm NOT eating. for dinner i had a > soyburger patty w/ cheese. you should've seen him! mr food patrol! > what's that about? > lori h. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2003 Report Share Posted December 7, 2003 Along this same lines...sort of.... Last night my family and I went out to Mazzio's Pizza with our business partner (just for fun...no business involved) and I ordered grilled chicken fettuccini...I know what you're thinking and no, I did not eat any of the pasta, just the chicken...Anyway, (the partner) said my eating put him to shame. I was like , what? And he went on to explain that he felt bad that he was sitting here downing 4 or 5 slices of pizza while I was eating 6 pieces of grilled chicken strips --he felt like he needed to stop eating or something. Now is that weird or what? T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/305/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2003 Report Share Posted December 7, 2003 Geez, I thought it was just me. Every time I decided to " diet " I would get the constant questions, " can you eat that. " It had always felt like a judgment. I hate it. I wish I knew why others do this. Joan C, Calif. LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282/254/140 who needs the scrutiny? not me! my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, is watching what i eat. or what i'm NOT eating. for dinner i had a soyburger patty w/ cheese. you should've seen him! mr food patrol! what's that about? lori h. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2003 Report Share Posted December 7, 2003 It is a funny world...before my surgery when I ordered 2 enchiladas, and rice and beans and basically stuffed myself with chips and salsa before the meal ever got there, no one asked me if I could eat something...now when I attend a lunch function everyone at the table is obsessed with what I can eat...I took a chip(mind you, one chip that took me 5 bites to eat) and some freak had the nerve to ask me if I could eat it...my response was, " well I am. " Whatever...the only bad part about dipping a chip is the courtesy of only dipping once...but on Thankgiving my nephew wanted some chips and dip and I stole one and he told me double-dipping is the best! People are so rude!!! Hannah > not me! my lanky father-in-law, who's visiting us for a few weeks, > is watching what i eat. or what i'm NOT eating. for dinner i had a > soyburger patty w/ cheese. you should've seen him! mr food patrol! > what's that about? > lori h. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 It is going to be all down scales from now on. Don't let what others do hinder your success. You are doing this for all the right reasons and we are all here for you. A. B. LAP RNY 3/22/03 Dr. Steve Weinstein, MD. Mobile, Alabama BMI 65/47 386/281-105LBS. 59 years old Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 You know I think everyone should mind thier own business if they dont know whats going on or what you have been thru. I know this past weekend I had the same ordeal..I went out with my mom and her friend to do a lil Christmas shopping and they wanted to go eat Chinese..I told them I cant eat that..so they settled on going to a Mexican resturant..So I order refried beans w/cheese...and they looked ant me and asked " Is that all your going to eat? " I said yes and you know that I cant eat alot...My mom made the comment that I needed to started eating more...I just looked at her and made a face...She doesnt understand that I cant eat like I use too and that I have to follow Drs orders and what I use to eat may make me sick now...I am back on liquids till I see the Dr tuesday, and we will go from there,,, But I mean golly what do people expect...and It irritates me to death for someone to sit there and stare at you while you eat...and YES, I get, " Can you eat that " or " Is that all you are going to eat " ...ALL THE TIME!!! ugghhhh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 , Same thing happened to me over Thanksgiving at my mother's. She's one of those fru-fru kind of people who even though it's just a few family members, we have to use the good china and have the entire table set like it's a formal dinner. Anyway, before we all sat down I removed the dinner plate and put it back in the cabinet so that I would just have the salad plate in front of me and she got really pi**ed that I 'ruined' her nice table. I told her that I didn't need the big plate in front of me and that I wouldn't be eating that much but it didn't satisfy her. Then when I went to take food, I had two or three small slices of turkey, 1 tsp of mashed potatoes and 3 small pieces of sweet potatoes (I felt obligated because even after I told her I couldn't have them, she made them specially for me with Splenda). I only finished the turkey and 1 piece of sweet potato and she was like, " Is that all you're going to eat? You need to eat more than that. " and I just couldn't get it through her head that I couldn't eat more than that...She just does not understand. I have said all along that people who aren't in the same boat as you are just can't fathom what we go through on a daily basis. How do we get through this? T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/305/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/> http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 I believe I've made this confession to all of you before.... I was " HORRIBLE " .... really really awful regarding ... asking what my best friend ( who had the procedure before me ) ... could eat, couldn't eat .. how much did she lose today ... how much did she exercise today .. what did she drink today .. how often... blah blah blah Now mind you, I am a well behaved 46yr old Mother of three older children, who's Mother taught her that " we have an inside voice and an outside voice " ... " and we dont let other people hear the inside voice " ... " because its not polite " . So, of course .... I knew better. Still, I had to ask, ask, ask .. pester my beloved friend... because it was sooooooooo 'other world " .. so facinating....experiencing HER lose weight .. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FAST. Anyway ... I know its rude .. I know people should mind their own business regarding what we eat, what we dont eat ....... but because I myself was such a pest and know too what it felt like .... to be looking from the outside.... in ..... thinking that it was somewhat of an absolute miracle ......seeing my best friend .. suddenly, eat like a bird ... well ... I try to give others the benefit of the doubt... Skinny wishes from Mandy in CA 275/150/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2003 Report Share Posted December 8, 2003 Well, after reading a lot of these incidents, it made me angry. Just now I came up with a great comeback for me to say when it happens to me. " You worry about what you're eating, and I'll take care of myself. " I would have never said something like this to someone before, just keep quiet. But I don't want to be wishy-washy about it, and the people I would eat out with all know about the surgery and know what I need to eat. Sounds pretty easy in the frame of mind I'm in right now. I'll see if it works when the opportunity presents itself. Joan lap RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282/253/140 RE: Re: who needs the scrutiny? , Same thing happened to me over Thanksgiving at my mother's. She's one of those fru-fru kind of people who even though it's just a few family members, we have to use the good china and have the entire table set like it's a formal dinner. Anyway, before we all sat down I removed the dinner plate and put it back in the cabinet so that I would just have the salad plate in front of me and she got really pi**ed that I 'ruined' her nice table. I told her that I didn't need the big plate in front of me and that I wouldn't be eating that much but it didn't satisfy her. Then when I went to take food, I had two or three small slices of turkey, 1 tsp of mashed potatoes and 3 small pieces of sweet potatoes (I felt obligated because even after I told her I couldn't have them, she made them specially for me with Splenda). I only finished the turkey and 1 piece of sweet potato and she was like, " Is that all you're going to eat? You need to eat more than that. " and I just couldn't get it through her head that I couldn't eat more than that...She just does not understand. I have said all along that people who aren't in the same boat as you are just can't fathom what we go through on a daily basis. How do we get through this? T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/305/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/> http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2003 Report Share Posted December 9, 2003 I've been reading this thread with a great deal of interest because it's an issue that affects both those who have had the surgery and those with whom they come in contact. Let me offer a bit of perspective from the " other " side of the table. While I do agree that strangers and those who are just being nosy should mind their own business if they don't know what's going on, or what you have been through, I also think it's important that you should try to educate those you do care about regarding your surgery and new dietary guidelines. Sometimes when people coax you into eating more, it's their way of saying... " I want to know more about what you're going through, and this is the only way I know how to do it. " To you it may seem like they're being insensitive, but in reality, they simply aren't aware of what you're going through. And they're too afraid to come right out and ask. I know that when my friend decided to have the surgery, I did everything possible to educate myself on the before, during and after scenarios. But not everyone in your family or close circle of friends has that same inclination. In fact, most are fearful of knowing too much. But the more they know, the easier it will be for them to support you. Despite your best efforts there may still be those who tell you " you really should eat more, " (moms especially are conditioned to do this) but at least you'll have the peace of mind knowing it's their issue now, not yours. Warmest Regards, Barb Re: who needs the scrutiny? You know I think everyone should mind thier own business if they dont know whats going on or what you have been thru. I know this past weekend I had the same ordeal..I went out with my mom and her friend to do a lil Christmas shopping and they wanted to go eat Chinese..I told them I cant eat that..so they settled on going to a Mexican resturant..So I order refried beans w/cheese...and they looked ant me and asked " Is that all your going to eat? " I said yes and you know that I cant eat alot...My mom made the comment that I needed to started eating more...I just looked at her and made a face...She doesnt understand that I cant eat like I use too and that I have to follow Drs orders and what I use to eat may make me sick now...I am back on liquids till I see the Dr tuesday, and we will go from there,,, But I mean golly what do people expect...and It irritates me to death for someone to sit there and stare at you while you eat...and YES, I get, " Can you eat that " or " Is that all you are going to eat " ...ALL THE TIME!!! ugghhhh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2003 Report Share Posted December 9, 2003 oh no, i began this thread, after my bony dad-in-law was checking out my plate of food. now that i think about it, he's amazed & fascinated by the whole thing. he's witnessed my transformation. i love lanky quite a bit actually. lori h. > I've been reading this thread with a great deal of interest because it's an issue that affects both those who have had the surgery and those with whom they come in contact. > > Let me offer a bit of perspective from the " other " side of the table. > > While I do agree that strangers and those who are just being nosy should mind their own business if they don't know what's going on, or what you have been through, I also think it's important that you should try to educate those you do care about regarding your surgery and new dietary guidelines. > > Sometimes when people coax you into eating more, it's their way of saying... " I want to know more about what you're going through, and this is the only way I know how to do it. " To you it may seem like they're being insensitive, but in reality, they simply aren't aware of what you're going through. And they're too afraid to come right out and ask. > > I know that when my friend decided to have the surgery, I did everything possible to educate myself on the before, during and after scenarios. But not everyone in your family or close circle of friends has that same inclination. In fact, most are fearful of knowing too much. But the more they know, the easier it will be for them to support you. > > Despite your best efforts there may still be those who tell you " you really should eat more, " (moms especially are conditioned to do this) but at least you'll have the peace of mind knowing it's their issue now, not yours. > > Warmest Regards, > Barb > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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