Curiosity - Question for divorced or single OSSG Grads

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I don't know why but the question reminds me of one that mothers and fathers

often ask. When do you tell children about sex. The answer is when they ask.

How much do you tell them. Only enough to answer their question, and no more.

Till the child asks another question. Then answer just that question and no

more.

why do you eat so little

my tummy is small

why do't you drink alcohol

I get drunk too easily

why wont you eat cake

it makes my blood sugar go crazy

why are you always after water

have to rehydrate myself

why are you always taking pills

to be healthy

those protien drinks you drink, yuk

Gotta get in enough protien to keep musce mass

what is that scar

surgery

what kind

a life saving one

what kind of lifesaving one

I had a hereditary condition wheren most of what I ate turned to fat which

pressed on my heart and threatned my life.

what is that surgery called/what kind of surgery is that

It is called gastric bypass surgury

does that mean you were reallly fat once

yes

and you're not going to be again

not likley

did it hurt

yes

do you ever have to do it again

no, and by the way, let's talk about you for a minute, what's this scar here

on your little finger, and oh yes, that one on your calf....

like that, something like that

love,

ceep

>>>>>>>I don't have a clue how to handle it....LOL....

Randy

In a message dated 1/8/03 2:30:18 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes:

<< Curiosity - Question for divorced or single OSSG Grads >>

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Well, they seemed sorta OK.

At first.

LOL!

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RE: Re: Curiosity - Question for divorced or single

OSSG Grads

> I wish we could go too!!!! Love to party, and LOVE to meet " new " people

> from my on line lists. I have to say, I am GLAD the dating is OVER. I am

> also glad that I got " lucky " with my . Vitalady will vouch for me,

> I went through some scuzzies before I met .

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Personally, while I was in between and single I had a blast! Just had to say

that. I loved all the attention I got that I hadn't gotten from the ex in 12

yrs. As for sexual relationships, I'm still a little old fashioned. I had to

have some feeling for the guy, not that you don't. If I care about someone

enough to have sex...my scar shouldn't matter. Of course, I was a little

embarrassed. I'm not sure if it was because of the scar or the fact that I'd

only been with one man in so many years. Mind you, I'd also had 3 kids in

that time. It was a very new experience. Rest assured, it really doesn't

matter. I thought my scar was pretty ugly but it never was a problem. I

think I was more embarrassed about the stomac gurling...lol. Also, guys

don't care if you take a doggy bag home.

If anyone ever asked, I would just say that I had have some tummy work. That

was the end of it. I even began to wear bikinis. Maybe this comes with age.

I really just don't care what anyone thinks now. I mean...LOOK AT ME NOW

BABY! Look how far we've come.

Divorce can be hard at first. Have a blast and be yourself. Don't worry what

they think. Hey, this is your chance to see what you really enjoy in life.

Dawn

Curiosity - Question for divorced or single OSSG

Grads

> Hello Everyone and Thanks for the kind words of support.

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> I have absolutely what percentage of this OSSG Grad population is

> divorced and/or single, out there dating various people and not one

> person in specific.

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> As I stated in my introduction when I had the RNY I was married. I

> never thought I would be in the dating world (which I detest btw)

> again.

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> Dating or having sexual relations with people who do NOT know that I

> had my stomach stapled has been interesting.

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> I don't neccessarily feel I need to devuldge my surgery to anyone on

> a first or even a second date. I dated a man for a month and just

> always took home doggy bags. I didn't feel it was his business to

> know about my surgery.

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> Eventually we ended up having sex. I didn't even think about the 6

> inch scar down my middle. After a few rounds in the bedroom he

> finally asked me why I had the scar. I didn't know what to say to

> him, other than I would tell him about it someday (which I did, 2

> months later).

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> I've been with a few other men as well since my separation. One knew

> before I met him what I had done (and since I was just separated and

> very angry I didn't care). I won't go into the other story because

> I'm rather unhappy with my actions.

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> Anyway - I am wanting to have a LTR. I need to let the fears go

> away. However telling these men who wonder why I'm dragging doggy

> bags home all the time - or inquiring about the scar, is

> uncomfortable to say the least.

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> Can anyone out there share with me how they handle it...?

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> Becky

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I wish we could go too!!!! Love to party, and LOVE to meet " new " people

from my on line lists. I have to say, I am GLAD the dating is OVER. I am

also glad that I got " lucky " with my . Vitalady will vouch for me,

I went through some scuzzies before I met .

Debbie in Gig Harbor

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OK......I think I should be able to come too cause the 18th is my " new

birthday " and hubby and I will be married 18 years this year(that is IF he

shapes his act up Man, am I pathetic or what and have NO life if I have

to stretch it sooo far to be invited to a party??? P.

RE: Re: Curiosity - Question for divorced or single

OSSG Grads

> Oh, Deb! I wish you could come to our party on the 18th! It is our (mine

and

> Fred's) 3rd anniversary. The 20th anniversary for one couple, and the 34th

> for the third. I started the party planning, and the other two couples

just

> jumped in. We have a boatload of mutual friends, and decided that we just

> wanted a mutual celebration of love (that isn't kinky)! There will be a DJ

> and finger food, and lots of fun. Fred and I look forward to getting to

Bud

> and Jane's 34 years (I'll just be 77 then).

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You wouldn't be stretching it, and you are invited. Bells and whistles

included at no extra charge.

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Well, they seemed sorta OK.

At first.

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NOT! I still can't walk into the Radio Shack in Bremerton without having

a panic attack. My most humiliating dating experience STILL works there.

My parents and GEORGE LOVE to tease me about it.

Debbie in Gig Harbor

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