Dating w/ Scars & Doggy Bags..

[Guest guest]

Let me clarify something...

The men I've seen have NEVER turned away from me because of my

weight, scars or the fact that I don't outright divuldge my RNY.

I've ditched more men because of bald heads, soft hands or dirty

cloths on a first date (okay, that didn't leave a good impression).

Because of my weight problems I *always* thought I would never judge

someone due to physical quirks. I have found that I do. Yeah, I

dated a 'follically challenged' guy, however I went out with another

on a 'blind date' and was turned off (the fly kept landing on his

head!!). There are things that are turn us on and turn us off - but

NEVER has anyone belittled me for my weight. Not one time.

My issue with telling men is my issue alone. I'm not ashamed of what

I've done. I talk about it openly with co-workers, family, friends

and anyone else. They ask questions and I answer them. It's that

easy. However when you are meeting someone on a blind date (I'm 36

years old and the bar scenes got old many years ago) when exactly is

the right time to tell them without putting them off, having them

develope pictures of the much bigger me. Eventually I told my 5

month LTR and he wasn't put off by it at all.. however would we have

gone that long if I had told him earlier? I don't know. It's not an

easy task. Again, is has nothing to do with fear of them rejecting

me, it's my " comfort zones " that are being punctured.

With regards to other things... Today I did much better with my food

intake. I'm paying a lot more attention to what is going into my

face. Today: 1/2 tuna sandwich on sour dough w/ lettuce, tomato and

onion. I did have one of those .50 cent bag of Lays chips, but as

usual I pay for the packaging and air. The 10 chips inside are just

a teaser. For dinner: 3/4 chicken breast (on the Foreman) and

Butternut Squash. Anyone have ideas on the carbs in squash? I had

two little pretzles a while ago and now my day is done. I *thought*

about walking around the block a time or two - however thinking was a

far as it went. Shame on me. The weather is really nice in Phx

right now.

Someone posted a site with an article that she was *FLABBERGASTED*

at. I couldn't access the site for the article. Was anyone else

able too? I'm very curious what it said. I used to live in Europe

(the Netherlands) and boy do I have several opinions about the USA

and our growing obesity problem. Especially after living in Europe.

Do you know that while I lived there I watched a show (they have at

least 1 show a month on how FAT Americans are. Anyone the one show I

watched said that we had grown so much in recent years that all the

stadiums and theater seats had to be widened by *2* inches. Now I

know why everyone looks down their noses at us Americans. Between

shows like that, Springer and , how could Americans be

anything but Fat, Inbread, Crazy people?

Enough ranting for today... In one day - Three E-mail! All Long!

Sorry about that!

Becky

4 years out and attempting to get back on track!