Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 I am not ashamed of having the surgery. I have tired every diet and not afraid to tell people at all about it. I am proud of myself for making the decision to go ahead and have the gastric bypass.. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 Hi Jody, I've got the same dilemma, only my problem isn't so much what I feel I owe others by way of honesty, but what I owe myself. I'm a terrible liar, always have been. I never got away with anything when I was a child, 'cause I'd start stuttering and gulping the second I'd try to lie. I've controlled the outward signs of lying, but my inner feelings about it are still pretty strong. I only told those people I felt closest to at work, (my boss, a couple closer associates) about my surgery. Now that I am almost to goal, I have so many questions fired at me all day long about my success and I've stuck to the " Atkins lifestyle and exercise " story all along. Now, I'm not ashamed of having WLS, but it was a very personal decision for me and I wasn't prepared to live my WLS life in a fish bowl. I didn't want everyone watching for that first sign of failure, watching every morsel I put in my mouth, watching for anything negative to comment on. In my MO days, I felt like an object of disdain as it was, I didn't want to call more attention to my comings and goings as a post-op. So now my problem is feeling a strong need to " come out " about my surgery and I'm trying to think of a ways to just do it. After months of not being completely open (nobody has come right out and asked me if I had surgery... I would have said yes if they had, but I lied by omission) about my successful weight loss I'm needing to find a humbling way to let my associates know ALL about my success. Any ideas from my WLS family would be helpful. But Jody, I don't honestly feel that anyone is obligated to tell of their personal decisions regarding WLS. I think that it is up to the individual and how they feel about telling or not telling. If you feel ok about your decision not to say anything, I think that is respectful. Toi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2003 Report Share Posted November 15, 2003 It is perfectly honest to say that we have lost weight by using diet and exercise. In my opinion, it is wise to tell only people you trust about the surgery, for the reasons Toi mentioned. There are some people who, through ignorance, jealousy, or plain meaness, will be unkind to the previously MO person who has surgery and a successful result. Some accuse us of taking an easy way out (not!), or even try to sabotage us. It is such a personal decision to have surgery. If I had a hysterectomy, I would not expect it to be general office news. Same if I had a breast augmentation, unless I went for the Dolly Parton look (Ha). My body is not up for anyone's vote of approval. > >Reply-To: Gastric_Bypass_Family >To: Gastric_Bypass_Family >Subject: Jody- Obligations >Date: Sat, 15 Nov 2003 16:13:15 -0000 > >Hi Jody, >I've got the same dilemma, only my problem isn't so much what I feel >I owe others by way of honesty, but what I owe myself. I'm a >terrible liar, always have been. I never got away with anything when >I was a child, 'cause I'd start stuttering and gulping the second I'd >try to lie. I've controlled the outward signs of lying, but my inner >feelings about it are still pretty strong. > >I only told those people I felt closest to at work, (my boss, a >couple closer associates) about my surgery. Now that I am almost to >goal, I have so many questions fired at me all day long about my >success and I've stuck to the " Atkins lifestyle and exercise " story >all along. Now, I'm not ashamed of having WLS, but it was a very >personal decision for me and I wasn't prepared to live my WLS life in >a fish bowl. I didn't want everyone watching for that first sign of >failure, watching every morsel I put in my mouth, watching for >anything negative to comment on. In my MO days, I felt like an >object of disdain as it was, I didn't want to call more attention to >my comings and goings as a post-op. > >So now my problem is feeling a strong need to " come out " about my >surgery and I'm trying to think of a ways to just do it. After >months of not being completely open (nobody has come right out and >asked me if I had surgery... I would have said yes if they had, but I >lied by omission) about my successful weight loss I'm needing to find >a humbling way to let my associates know ALL about my success. Any >ideas from my WLS family would be helpful. > >But Jody, I don't honestly feel that anyone is obligated to tell of >their personal decisions regarding WLS. I think that it is up to the >individual and how they feel about telling or not telling. If you >feel ok about your decision not to say anything, I think that is >respectful. > >Toi > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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