Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Friends, I've just re-joined the list after a two-month absence. I had a really rough fall - my Mother died suddenly in September, after which my father went quickly downhill and died 10 weeks later. My parents were the most wonderful, loving people, and we were a very close family. The void I feel without them in my life leaves me breathless. I have been in shock for most of the past three months. I have also been comforting myself with nothing but carbohydrates, have actively avoided the gym or any kind of exercize, and predictably, have fallen into depression and have gained about 20 pounds. But it is a new year, and I really have missed you all, my on-line family, and hope that by getting back to my daily dose of OSSG I can get myself back on track, and get some kind of structure back into my life. I've been off from work for several weeks, and am looking forward to going in tomorrow, and starting the week of on a productive, healthy foot. While all this was going on, I somehow missed my 3-year anniversary! I never thought I could forget that date. Despite my recent weight gain, my life has changed so much, and in such wonderful ways these past three years. And now, I get comfort in knowing how proud my parents were of me, and of my weight loss. Helene RNY 12/22/99 350/183 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Helene, Glad that you are back, but sorry to hear about your parents. They sound like marvelous people. I hope I don't sound weird, but it is sort of romantic that they went so close together. I know it is hard on you, but they must have loved each other very much. It is good that you are going back to work.....I think. :-)) Do you have siblings? LOL Silly me......you have a WHOLE list full of siblings!!! Well, we are here.......post long......post often. (sorry moderators) Debbie in Gig Harbor ladybostons@... www.paws2print.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Oh Helene...my heart goes out to you. I know all too well the pain and numbness you are experiencing. My parents were diagnosed 5 months apart....both with esophagual cancer. Mom died 8 months later......and Dad 3 years. I pray that you will come to a place of " peace " with this.......that the memories with evoke a smile and not a heartache.........God bless you......... P. Happy New Year > Friends, > I've just re-joined the list after a two-month absence. I had a really > rough fall - my Mother died suddenly in September, after which my father > went quickly downhill and died 10 weeks later. My parents were the most > wonderful, loving people, and we were a very close family. The void I > feel without them in my life leaves me breathless. I have been in shock > for most of the past three months. I have also been comforting myself > with nothing but carbohydrates, have actively avoided the gym or any > kind of exercize, and predictably, have fallen into depression and have > gained about 20 pounds. But it is a new year, and I really have missed > you all, my on-line family, and hope that by getting back to my daily > dose of OSSG I can get myself back on track, and get some kind of > structure back into my life. I've been off from work for several weeks, > and am looking forward to going in tomorrow, and starting the week of on > a productive, healthy foot. > > While all this was going on, I somehow missed my 3-year anniversary! I > never thought I could forget that date. Despite my recent weight gain, > my life has changed so much, and in such wonderful ways these past three > years. And now, I get comfort in knowing how proud my parents were of > me, and of my weight loss. > > Helene > RNY 12/22/99 > 350/183 > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 Helene, I can only tell you how sorry I am for your loss. It sounds like your parents were really soul mates, and they needed to be together again. But, it's good to have you " home " with us again, too. We're here for you. Love, in NJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2003 Report Share Posted January 6, 2003 Helene, My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your parents. It's no wonder you've been in shock with both of them passing so close together, and no wonder that you'd fall back into some of the old ways of comforting yourself. But, as you say, it's a new year and hopefully a time for new beginnings. Just be loving to yourself and not too hard on yourself if you don't put in " perfect " days. Maybe a few visits to a grief counselor or " live " support group would be helpful as well? Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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